i have a 7yr old daughter trying to act 13 help!
Jacquelyn - posted on 02/17/2010
I just want to thank you all for your ideas. Still trying to get a hold on things, seems like a rollercoaser though! She will be great one day then the next a little terror, I just hope all of the craziness will not effect her grades! we will just keep on trying new things and old.
Mandy - posted on 01/29/2010
I honestly agree with Andrea!! I do the 1-2-3 method with my daughter and she also acts the same as well and the same age. Anyway whenever I start counting I know by the time I get off 1, she is doing what I tell her she needs to do. I didn't start my attitude problem until I was a little older, but I took my mother's advice. If you can't control her now she will walk all over you when she gets older. So far my mother's advice is working the only thing about it she only listens on the counting thing. So that is one thing I do need to work on with her. My daughter and I both have the same attitude which is not good, because I will admit my attitude can get out of control at times..lol..but I feel like I have her to where she will respect me when she gets older and not walk all over me and also feel like we will be close..Little girls are something but you have to love them. Hope everything works out for you!!
Brendalyn - posted on 01/29/2010
LOL! my six year old daughter acts like she is 13 as well! she comes home in a bad mood...tells me no...thinks she can dress sexy sometimes (i dont even dress that way) and thinks she can tell ME what to do! i dont know what to tell you because i am in the same situation as you are and it drives me nuts!!! i just tell her that i am the mother and she is the child and she has to do what i tell her or she is going to get punished. i have also taken things away from her as well and that doesnt seem to bother her either. so...what has worked is that i just tell her to go in her room and do not come out until she can adjust her attitude!
Jodi - posted on 01/29/2010
My parents used to take everything away except the bed! lol Trust me, after you lose the entertainment things, then your door and everything else, the attitude just isn't there anymore! I know it sounds harsh, but as long as you leave her with everything she needs, i.e. clothes and a bed, she'll learn. We grew up in the country so frequent punishments also included ranking wood, spreading manure, weeding our veggie garden or reshingling a shed roof. Are there any chores like that around your home, or grandparent's home that she can do? Lay down the law now or it'll only get worse!
Andrea - posted on 01/29/2010
You need to lay it down! Discipline discipline discipline! You are her mother, and she WILL respect you. Don't tollerate her attitude. Talk to her and find out why she treats you this way, but explain to her that it is not, and won't be allowed any longer. Warning, time outs, then spankings. 1-2-3 your out. Be patient and consistant in your discipline. Don't punish her one day for her attitude and then take it the next. Consistancy in your discipline, will catch on with her in time. She will realize she can't act and do things that you don't accept, but you have to be consistant. Prayers and blessings
Rachel - posted on 01/29/2010
uh oh!!! I know how little diva's can be lol ;) maybe taking her things isnt the answer, if its not working for you now, theirs got to be something else done along with it, or just something else entirely. first off what type of friends does she have? if their this way maybe you need to make sure your daughter isnt going to be hanging around them. dont just up and rip friends away, but let her know if shes going to be coming home acting like them, they have to go. maybe also push that your proud of her and are expecting something better from her attitude wise. also any outside activities other then school may help her attitude, such as music classes, dance, chess club, anything you can get her into. do you two do enough together? maybe go out for an ice cream more often? and also if shes acting like that, she probably wants to be treated like shes "older'. Maybe you can try to give her this way in a more classier way for a seven yr old, if that makes sense? maybe letting her know that shes very big for being a seven yr old, but this isnt how big girls act!
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