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Brittney - posted on 01/01/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Hey ladies how are you all doing on the wonderful but cold depending on where you live evening.....well I have a question soo I have three children twin boys that are 3 and a 15month old daughter...well my childrens father isnt around because of dumb choices he has made and cant see his children until jan of 2011 he actually doesnt even know his daughter...so I have a boyfriend and my daughther calls him dada do you think i should let it continue or tell her other wise?? The only reason i ask is because thier "sperm donor" says hes going to be moving to cali when he gets off of parole so Im a little bit confused myself.. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year and hes know her since she was 2 1/2 months old so please let me in on some insight thanks... love always Brittney

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Amber - posted on 01/04/2010

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I say that biology does not a father make. if your boyfriend is there for her, treats her like his little girl and helps you raise her, than he is more of a daddy than her biological father. Let her call him whatever she wants.

As far as the biological dad is concerned, you need to ask yourself very honestly if he wasn't her father would you let this man deal with your child? Seriously. I don't know what he did to end up on parole, but you know it wasn't helping old ladies across the street. He might not be the type of person your daughter should associate with, especially not if he is to become for her the model of manhood (which is exactly what a girl's daddy is).

If you decide after some thought that you don't want him in her life, then make it so. It won't be hard for you to get full custody and child support, especially if he is a felon. Good luck!

Cassi - posted on 01/04/2010

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Just make sure hes gonna stay. i dated this guy for almost 3 years and my daughter called him daddy to. even though she would see her real dad every week. when we broke up it was hard on her.

Helen - posted on 01/03/2010

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In my eyes anyone can father a child, but it takes someone special to be a dad! I would leave it as it is at the moment & let your child decide if they want to continue as they get older - they'll tell you if they feel uncomfortable about it :o)

Amber - posted on 01/03/2010

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Right now just leave her alone with the calling your boyfriend dada because that is what she is used to but when she is old enough to understand what is going on then you need to tell her the truth.

Paulina - posted on 01/03/2010

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my opinion the father is the one thats there for them the one that spends time with them and worries about them and once she is old enough to understand you sit down with your child and let them know what the situation is

Medic - posted on 01/01/2010

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i dont think you should stop her from calling him anything...but i also think that when she is older she needs to know the truth....my son calls my husband daddy even though hes not his sperm donor....and my husband IS his daddy so if your boyfriend is her daddy then let her call him that but make sure she does know the truth but obviously at 15 months shes not going to understand

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