I have a question please help

Kelli - posted on 06/28/2010 ( 100 moms have responded )

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I notice when I take my birth control, I feel like a different person. I am moody, mad, upset and frustrated at everything. I am not happy at all. I am supposed to take my first pill tonight since my period and I don't want to. I am so afraid that i will start to feel like I did before. I DON'T want to get pregnant for a long time but, I don't think that it is fair that I have to feel that way all the time when I take my pill and my husband doesn't. They need birth control for men. lol.
I don't know what to do. I am thinking about not taking it for a month and telling my husband, NO SEX, but I think that is crazy. He won't use condoms. what else can I do? What is the best method of birth control? The Shot? That birth control rod they stick in your arm? Please help. Thanks everyone.

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Emily - posted on 06/29/2010

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Natural Family Planning has come a LONG way in the past few years... maybe it would be an option for you and your husband? rather than counting days on the calendar, its based on the signs and symptoms your body gives off when you are ovulating and it does require some abstinence. but it is totally worth it! its worked for me for the past 5 years and best part - no meds!

Lauren - posted on 07/04/2010

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I can't use it at all I would get sick with every type of birth control I tried and I was miserable!!! I make my husband use condoms now because both he and I do not want kids in the near future and he isn't willing to risk my health just because he doesn't want to wear them!! He puts up with it because he loves me and we both really don't want to get pregnant anytime soon, well at least anytime soon after this one pops out lol

Laci - posted on 07/03/2010

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BC is so complicated! I have three kids, and now my tubes are tied. I am so relived that I no longer have to worry about BC.

Best thing to do is talk to your doctor (or a second opinion from another doctor)

I had the same problems on the pill, I tried the patch (it left the band-aid squares anywhere you put it) I hated the patch, I did the shot (I didnt really have any problems with it, but it was really expensive) I had a friend on the shot for about 5 years, when she got off the shot and tried to get pregnant she couldnt. If I didnt have my tubes tied, I would probably go with the charting (Natural family planning) No more messing around with trying to find a good BC.

Best of luck to you!!

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if you get moody from taking the pill.. do not get the shot!! i got super moody from the pill and took the shot.. worst mistake ever!! i gained 60 lbs from it.. and i was so cranky all the time.. i was sick and felt like i was pregnant.. also i know a few people that got pregnant while on the shot.. i think the iud is best..but every woman is diffrent.. so best bet.. talk to your doctor

Christy - posted on 07/03/2010

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You should tell your doctor about the problems you are having so that they can discuss the different options with you. It may be that brand of birth control. If you are not going to have anymore children you or your husband could always get fixed.... You husband may not like it but it easier if he does and the health risks are less sever.

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Tameka - posted on 07/03/2010

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I use the nuva ring and it hasn't failed me yet! Its painless and doesn't give you mood swings. You don't have to think about taking it everyday. You wear it for 3 wks, take it out for 1 wk and replace it with another for 3 wks and so on. Ask your doctor it's great!

Jessica - posted on 07/03/2010

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Hey, i tried everything i either got heavy or depressed!! I got an IUD-inter uteran device. The one i got is called "Mirena" it lasts for 5 years. i got mine in June 2007. it's now 2010 and i have yet to have a problem with it. It has NO side effects and the best part, you only have to get it every 5 years!!!!! And IF you get a period, it's only for 1-2 days! in the past 3 years i have gotten maybe 2 periods, lasting 1-2 atmost!! Works GREAT!!!!

Kristel - posted on 07/03/2010

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You just need to visit your Doctor to talk to him about birth control and what you expect from it. Abstince is completely effective for not having a baby but not so effective in marriages... They also have the female condom and non-oxyl 9 foam you can insert about 10 minutes before having sex. Perhaps you need to have a sit down talk with your husband and tell him how you feel. I would tell your husband first and go to your doctor with your husband so he can fully understand the contraceptives you are taking or looking at taking.

Mariya - posted on 07/03/2010

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i personally like the meraina you dont have to worry about it for up to five years

Krys - posted on 07/03/2010

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I was on both the shot and every type of bc they offered but that was over 9 yrs ago. I can tell you though some ppl do better on the shot and some do better on the pills but i guess i just didnt like any of the side affects, i guess id tell hubby condom or no sex, im sure hed choose the right thing:D

LeLani - posted on 07/03/2010

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I have an IUD and have had no probs with it. Your dr should be able to help you out with this prob. I was on the Depo shot years ago and I do NOT reccomend it. Have a conversation with your dr and see what she/he reccomends...Good luck!!

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You can try the birth control shots, I hear they have very different side effects. Although, I have never had them myself. You can also ask your husband to get a vasectomy. These are reversible so its not like you could never have children again. Its not fair you have to be the only one making sacrifices in this department. Your husband should give a little too.

Amanda - posted on 07/03/2010

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I just had my Implanon REMOVED on Thursday BECAUSE of the problem you're complaining of. Everyone is different mind you, but apparently my body and JUST progesterone don't get along too well. I had it removed and went back on Yasmin. I was on it for 5 years before we started to try to have kids. Had NO problem getting pregnant after 90 days break like they recommend. In fact...I thought twice about going back on BC at all because my cycles are SO predictable down to the day and hour that I really don't think I could get pregnant if I was watching the calendar. I was NEVER more hormonally balanced and HAPPY in my whole life as I was when I was pregnant or before I began taking BC pills when I was 25. When I am on nothing...I am happiest.

But I will tell you this...skip the Depo shot. Lol..I have a couple 2nd cousins thanks to that shot. Its only proven to be about 80% effective. Lol.....and Mason is the proof. That's my cousins son. Unplanned. She didn't do anything wrong, neither did the docs...it just happened she was one in the unlucky percentage that it didn't work for.

It certainly IS unfair that there isn't BC for men. They get Viagra...they kinda get everything before we do. Even their version of "tying the tubes" is easier to do and to recover from. Its a cryin shame. Hang in there. It'll be alright. Talk to your doc and really be up front about the mood swings. You may have PMDD and in that case they may try you on Yaz or something similar. It didn't work for me. I had breakthrough bleeding every month so I went back to the Yasmin, but I tried the Yaz because of the mood swings you're talking about. I just hope that with all the happiness I have in my life right now with my son that it will change those things. I'm prayin... =) Good Luck Kelli!

Merry - posted on 07/03/2010

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the mirena comercial states that it can cause you to loose your fertility so I would not recommend it
Also it says that it can cause you to miscarry, it can terminate a baby it you get pregnant. the LOOONG list of warnings up to death on the mirena make me certain i will never think of getting it. one lady on circle of moms had a baby born with the mirena stuck in its head and the baby died. scared the heck out of me. not likely but it happened to someone!

Merry - posted on 07/03/2010

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DIAPHRAGM!!!!!! its awesome! no side effects no hormones no termination of embryos no mood swings no risks. wonderful choice, i wonder why no one has one? I love it and recommend it to everyone.

Jennifer - posted on 07/03/2010

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TRY ONE WITH LESS ESTROGEN! IF IT HAS LESS IT WONT MAKE YOU GAIN MUCH WEIGHT OR ANYTHING!

Paulette - posted on 07/03/2010

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Besides the shot, and what they stick in ur arm, there is also mirena, which they place in u and lasts for about five years. The birth control pill that I was on didn't agree with me either. So, I tried the depo, which is the shot, and that was way better. Now that I have two kids and realize that I'm definitely satisfied with just that I'm going to try the mirena.

Betty - posted on 07/03/2010

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I work in a doctor's office and alot of women come in for IUD insertion. the Doctor says the IUD is the best method of birthcontrol, especially if you don't want to become pregnant for sometime, they can be in for 3-5 years. talk to your doctor.

Tiffanie - posted on 07/03/2010

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I went through every single birth control on the market, sometimes even having to take two pills simulateously. All of them gave me the same side effects, extreme anger! In talking to my doctor I had a simple request, give me a BC that makes me not need to take antidepressants! I have to take BC, or else I don't stop my period, which totally sucks, but if you don't have a medical condition like that, I would look more into the family planning. I do not like putting extra chemicals in my body when I don't need them, but I don't like having my period two or three times a month. I asked my doctor about Yaz when it was pretty new to the market and LOVE IT!!!! I would say talk to your doctor about all your problems, there is a BC that will work with your body, it may just take some time and a process of elimination. Good luck :)

Sarah - posted on 07/03/2010

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I am on a low does pill, Loestern24 and I feel the same way. my husband and even my friends have committed on the differance but I'm afraid to not use bc. there is a emplat called essure which is a permint form of hormone free birthcontroll. you should research it.

Stephanie - posted on 07/03/2010

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If your b.c is causing so many problems you should ask your doctor about it. Only your doctor is going to be able to help you figure out what the best option for you is.

Ashley - posted on 07/02/2010

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The shot works good but i won't get it again because it made me gain weight. I know have paraguard which is an iud and there is also mirena iud..paraguard is a 10 year and mirena is 5 year...I would definatly go with one of these...you can have them removed at anytime when you decide to have kids.

Katie - posted on 07/02/2010

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There are a lot of different kinds of pills with very different hormones and hormone combinations in them. If the pill is the method of birth control that you want, then have a talk with your doctor about what has been going on and try a different pill. If all else fails there is always the IUD. I personally love the pill, but since I'm breastfeeding and don't care for the only pill I can be on while breastfeeding, I currently have an IUD. Good luck!

Amanda - posted on 07/02/2010

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Have you told your GYN/OB about how the pill makes you feel? I'd personally start there by talking to him about it....

Katie - posted on 07/02/2010

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The best birth control that I have tried is Mirena, I love it, lighter periods and it's such a low hormone dose that the mood swings aren't or haven't been an issue for me. Ask your doctor for one with a very low dose of hormones that should help. Good Luck

Jen - posted on 07/02/2010

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If you have depression problems not associated with b/c, don't use the NuvaRing. It's known to cause problems with depression. I was on Depo for 3 years before I came off and got pregnant, and told EVERYONE it was the best form of b/c ever, and it was! After my daughter was born, I got back on it because I didn't want to have another kid right away, but wanted my options open. It created sooo many problems with my moods and sex drive the 2nd time around that I came off it a year later. So it really just depends on your body's ability to deal with the various hormones in the various forms. Hope I helped a little bit!!!

Hannah - posted on 07/02/2010

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I have a IUD and love it it stays in for 5 years and you just have to go to your obgyn every once in a while to have it check

Sheelah - posted on 07/02/2010

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i know alot of ppl that tried the IUD...maybe thats the best option for you....they fit it for you and it stays in for up to five years at a time i believe....i would definetly go off the pill if thats how you feel....maybe your allergic to it.....talk to your dr and find what they say.............

Carla - posted on 07/02/2010

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I have the implant in my arm it is 98 percent effective and works as soon as you have it in, it gos in your arm and can stay there for 3yrs and then has to be changed! If you do decide to have another buba then you have it taken out, and there is no disruption to your cycle you will become as fertile as you was before within 24hrs of having it out! It is fantastic, would completely recommend it!! Good luck xx

Alexandra - posted on 07/02/2010

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I am on the IUD... i found it to be very effective. I am the same as before and no side effects like gain weight or moodiness. I love it and i would never change it for anything. I am able to have sex with my bf with no condom. Have not had a scare. The only thing is my bff told me that her aunt got prego with the iud. But i guess its like any birth control, there will always be that slight chance. I highly recommend the iud. :)

Veronica - posted on 07/02/2010

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Research Natural Family Planning -- I love it - no pills involved - simply charting your fertility - so you know when you can and cannot have sex. And, if you wanted to get pregnant - you know when you are fertile, as well.
Good luck - I dont have any other advice, as I don't use anything other than this.
Take care,
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Jessi - posted on 07/02/2010

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try talking to your dr about switching your birth control...maybe it's that specific brand or maybe it's the pill in general. ask about the different types like depo or mirena or nueva ring. have you been checked out for pmdd? talk to your dr about yaz.

i talked to my lpn about mirena but she advised against it for me b/c of my age being there is a possibility of serious infection making future pregnancies more difficult, only being 21 & wanting more children i took her advice. we decided depo would be best for me as i hate pills but she did recommend only using it for 1 to 2 years being anything longer can increase weight gain & cause issues trying to get pregnant in the future. i have a friend who used depo for longer than the recommended time & at the age of 20 found her self having to take horomones just so she & her husband could have a child. it took 2yrs of self-injection before she finally fell pregnant.

Tiara - posted on 07/02/2010

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Birth control has hormones which obviously we naturally have in our body. When we take something that has extra hormones in them we are taking the chance that it may alter our bodys hormones with the medication. Usually you will eventually get used to the pill but sometimes it just is not for you! Just like ME!! I use mirena and I have also had the depo and the mini pill. The mini pill has only progesterone in it and to me that is a good thing. I like this but you have to make sure you take it every day at the same time no matter what! Depo has its side effects but eventually i got used to that and so did my body then didnt have n e more problems. Mirena I have had since the end of October of 09 and have had irregular spotting and periods for the first 5 months and cramping but now I only have occasional spotting and some cramping for a few days a month. There are two kinds of IUD's....a copper is one with no hormones I believe and the other is the mirena. I chose the mirena because I am sensitive and was afraid of a reaction to the copper ...plus the mirena can take away a menstration and I like that!
Hope this helped Kelli!!!

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I have that prob with the pill and i have tried alot of them and all give me side effects..the shot is ment to be good but i heard there is a chance of having trouble getting pregnant for some women after it,if you wanted to have another baby.My doc told me the mirena is the best,its not for me but talk to your doctor and ask for info on all types of contraception and have a read and decide then.Many women will react different to different contraception so its trial and error in a sense to see what suits you.

Nunu - posted on 07/02/2010

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there are alot of birth control methods ask ur doc for the right one for u the pill always have a down side either putting on weight,loosing weight,mood swings so really pills r no good to me either i went for injection nd workd well for me untill i decided to have a baby nd now currently back on injection again...but always ask coz it might work for me but not for u,... all da best.xx

Gerda - posted on 07/02/2010

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HI, Before going for the shot, rather go talk to your GP and tell what problems you have with your current Birth control and then he will help you and give you the correct pill for you, then you can stop worrying about getting pregnant and being moody! Hope you get some help soon.

Inez - posted on 07/01/2010

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I hated the shot. i was menstruating like 3 weeks out of a month and i gained a ton of weight. i know that some birth control are very mood enhancing. It is scary but when you realize what it causing the craziness it helps to deal.

Dee - posted on 07/01/2010

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i just had this problem.. was exaclty the same - i was taking something called Levlen Ed 30.. My gyno told me that pill has testosterone in it and to try a more feminie brand... like brenda.. diana.. etc.. there are a few out there.. i am just gonna have to do the same and see how i go..

Autum - posted on 07/01/2010

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i am on the shot and we aren't going to any more kids just the one son i have and my husband got fixed

Ashley - posted on 07/01/2010

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I had a similar problem with the pill ... it was always making me feel so crappy but i am now on the ortho evra patch and it is totally different i feel no side affects at all and i have been on it for about 2 years

LaNee' - posted on 07/01/2010

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I have the Mirina and I LOOOOOOOOOOVVVVVVVEEEEEE it. I dont have to worry about getting prego until five years from now or unless I decide I want more kids. Its great, no side effect for me and I have a shorter lighter period. You gotta look into it and discuss it with your doctor. If u dont like it, you can always get it removed..It takes about a minute to insert it in and ince its in you dont even feel it. I have to check often to make sure its there and it it. But try it youll love it.

Menchie - posted on 07/01/2010

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As what the others said you should consult your doctor. It really depends on the type of the birth control pill used. though there are no medical proof that pills causes mood swings. pills though are given if you have hormonal imbalance. and hormonal imbalance is frequent with pregnant women. notice their attitude? so. may it be the reason or not. maybe you should try the shots or try other pills.. the best that you can do.. is ask your doctor. there are a lot of different pills anyway. good luck.. and always look at the bright side of life.. stay happy.

Vixi - posted on 07/01/2010

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He wont use a condom?! I love the fact that men expect us to make all the effort whilst they dont have to do anything!!! They expect us to take the pill/get the implant etc whilst they do a big fat nothing just so they can get the pleasure afterwards!! grr!!!

I'd tell him it's his responsibility too not all down to you and he should make a bloody effort!! lol sorry if I sound harsh but this kinda thing winds me up lol x

Sarah - posted on 07/01/2010

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I would tell your doctor if I were you. Maybe he/she could have you try a different birthcontrol. Make sure you get all the information. My friend was and I am on the shot. My friend's doctor didn't give her any information about it. When you're on the shot you have to take calcium and sometimes it is hard to get pregnant when you get off of it. She hasn't had kids yet so she was mad. I have three and I don't want anymore so i Got put on the shot. You can spot sometimes but most of the time there is no bleeding but it depends on the women too. There are so many options now so I would just talk to your doctor and figure out what is best for you. Good Luck!

Ashley - posted on 07/01/2010

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A couple months after I had my son I had to stop breastfeeding and shortly after that I started noticing that I was snapping at people and just flat out being a B. I talked to my doc and she had me go on Yaz. It's the bc for pmdd. basically it helps with bad periods and even worse mood swings. Just after a couple months I noticed a huge difference it was sooo expensive though. My doc gave me a card the got me it for $20 a month instead of something crazy like $50. When the card expired I called my doc and told her I wasn't feeling like a crazy person anymore and that i couldn't really afford it. To rewind for a sec, I had Mirena put in at my first checkup after having my son. It doesn't release estrogen so it's actually safe to have Mirena and take the pill at the same time if need be. I haven't had Mirena in quite a while and still no babies and no Crazy Ashley! Good luck with whatever you decide.

Melody - posted on 07/01/2010

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I would suggest to be careful with low dose pills, some medications will affect how well they work, not just antibiotics but other stuff as well. I am on one of those medications and my OBGYN recommended the depo shot, I never had mood swings or weight gain, but I have a family history of bone density issues so was told I should only take it for a couple years and then take a break. But if taking it is upsetting your life this much you def need to talk to your doc about it, there are so many options out there that there has to be one out there that will suit you and your hubby both. Good luck!

Christi - posted on 07/01/2010

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i have the solution! mirena, it's an iud. i got pregnant while on the pill, never missed a day, was not using antibiotics and i was using condoms as well. it scared me to death to get back on it and risk another pregnancy, so i got the five year mirena. the depo shot causes tremendous weight gain, i was alergic to the adhesive in the patch, the nueva ring is a pain and my husband could feel it so i chose the mirena iud. best choice! no periods and no mood swings or other side effects. i have actually lost weight on it!

Chrissie - posted on 07/01/2010

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I hear you loud and clear sister.. I'm going to try Neuva ring.... The shot (Depo-Provera)made em CRAZY! Pills give m bad tummy aches and massive headaches.. I don't want the implant, I think its about my only other option.

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I've got the perfect birth control for you! It's the IUD. There's a plastic and copper one. The plastic one won't get you pregnant for up to 5 yearsand the copper one won't get you pregnant for up to 10 years. I went with copper. ;) It'll help with your menstral cycle, which will also be shorter and so much more lighter. It's about a half inch in height and as thin as paper almost. It get's put in your cervix and you won't even feel it there. It looks like this: T. Also, another good thing about it is it doesn't make you gain weight and you don't have the mood fluctuations. And you don't have to remember to take it everyday. I forget quite often that I even have it. Ask your doctor about it. ;)

Amanda - posted on 07/01/2010

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I was on the pill for the longest time before i had my children and i had the same behavior you do...take to your doctor about nuva rings...i use it now and all of my co-workers at the hospital i work at in labor and delivery say its great for moms b/c there is a small dosage of the medicine that is delievered every day and its a slow release. I personally love nuva ring b/c im horrible with pills but i will admit i don't have any mood changes unless its that time of the month.

Denice - posted on 07/01/2010

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I wanted to get on this, but my friend just got pregnant on it and she had it in for only 3 years.

Denice - posted on 07/01/2010

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Try telling your doctor whats going with you so that they can change your pills.

Rachel - posted on 07/01/2010

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I have had that problem before with every pill I have used. After research I decided no to the shot and I had tried the patch with the same result. I found what I am happy with NUVARING. It isn't uncomfortable and didn't take long to adjust too, best of all I now feel calm and complete, no moody and depressed. It is so much better now. I was even having pregnancy symptons with other birth control (including lactating after almost 18 months of dryness) everything was crazy and it is so much easier then the pill. NUVARING + ME = Happy husband and pleasant family.

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