I have male friends, shouldnt my husbands approval be the only one i need?

Roxanna - posted on 09/01/2012

Here is my two cents! YOU are an adult, your husband TRUSTS you! Anyone else needs to stay out of your life! Talk over some strategies with your husband. Put a united front, this is a suggestion, and tell all the family that wants to interfere in your marriage that when they start paying your bills, they can tell you what to do. Or simply tell them they obviously have no respect for you and your husbands opinions and you will have to block them from your life. It's wonderful that your husband has so much faith in you and your mariage!

Dusty - posted on 12/24/2011

If you & your husband trust each other, then you don't need to worry about. The next time your family, or his, tries to butt in about it, tell them plain & simple that it is NONE of their business, you are both grown adults. If they call or text to start in on this, either hang up on them or don't text them back. Eventually they will get the hint!

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 06/05/2011

I would tell everyone bothering you that the next time they comment, you will walk away. The next time they call to complain or nark, you'll hang up and that it should be enough that you two trust eachother. They need to be supportive of your relationship. Tell them to find other meaningless crap to complain about. Dang

Donelle - posted on 06/04/2011

I have somewhat of the same problem, except it is that my husband has friends that are female. He has known these women since elementary school, and I would never tell him who he could or could not be friends with. My husband is a very friendly man, he loves talking to people and is very outgoing. His mother has a problem with him having friends that are women, and even having friends that are single men. I am more of an introvert, so alot of times he will go out while I prefer to stay home and read a book or watch a movie. His mother thinks that he should sit home with me every night but I know that doing that would make my husband go nuts! (He has Adult ADHD and is very antsy!!) When he is out, he is very open and honest about who he is with and where they are. I trust my husband completely and I know that he trusts me, even though I only have a handful of friends. i have a few friends that I have known since elementary school myself and my husband would never tell me I couldnt be friends with them. I think that as long as the lines of communication are honest and open, and both parties are comfortable with the people then it is fine. Problems start to rise when other people start interfering with YOUR marriage! Last time I checked, the people that got married were YOU and YOUR HUSBAND. Not extended family members.....

Karen - posted on 06/03/2011

I think that as long as you and your husband are comfortable it's normal and healthy. What the family is doing is probably thinking that maybe more is going on between these guy friends and you and vise versa for him. or they are afraid something will end up happening and breaking your marriage up. Usually when society sees a girl hanging out with all guys all the time, they lable them as trashy. Wich I don't believe you are or your husband wouldn't trust you. Maybe they are scared that you'll end up with an std or their friends will find out and start critisizing them for the way you two live because it's not common. Maybe if you try and sit down with them and explain that you are all just friends and what you do. Explain that there are people out there with this type of relationship where there is an abundance of trust. That you 2 are very much in love and the 2 of you don't need as many boundries because of how strong your relationship is.