I'm a mom of two, that doesn't mean I have to dress like I'm 42 >:(

Karma - posted on 05/03/2013

you seem too young to even be having kids so do yourself a favor and stop or wait until later when you are more mature. You didn't describe exactly what a typical outfit would be for you but if your family said more like a mom they probably mean more conservative and respectful of your kids and not necessarily like an old lady. You can wear current styles like cute jeans and t shirts and tops that fit well not too tight or too short showing midriffs or butt cheeks etc. Save the Britney Spears look alike clothes for when you get to go out at night or with your husband if you have one. Think of how your kids would feel when they are school aged and you are showing up there looking too sexy. How would you feel if you were in there place? You are setting an example for them. Like it or not motherhood just change your life forever and you have to act accordingly and responsibly and less selfishly now but that does not mean you have to dress ugly or old fashioned etc. Just tastefully. If you aren't sure what that is you should watch the tv show "What Not to Wear"on TLC or maybe even apply to be on there. many times they have helped moms go from trashy to classy or frumpy to great looking . They even did a special on moms _ you can get it on dvd now.

Sarah - posted on 12/13/2012

Hey Connie,

I appreciate what you are saying here. If you feel comfortable in what you wear, then no one has the right to tell you how you should dress- regardless if you are pregnant or not. It's that whole rape and what you wear debate all over again- just with a slight twist.

I was pregnant at 17 and gave birth at 18 and of course no way was I going to dress like typical mom at 18! Pushing my baby around in a stroller at Walmart I was dressed in denim shorts, tube tops and strappy high heels. I'm 36 now and that baby is almost 19 which I consider still young and I certainly don't dress like your typical mom. Fair enough the hot pants and tube tops aren't a regular feature in my wardrobe but high heeled pumps, short skirts and spaghetti strap dresses are still anorm for me.

Francine - posted on 09/05/2012

No wonder today's kids are so screwed up with comments like these on this post. I agree you should dress with what makes you feel comfortable but you need to realise that is the example you are setting. I can just imagine a 12 year old wearing cleavage and mom saying "you're not allowed to wear that" when mom is wearing the cleavage herself, yet mom will say "I can wear whatever I feel like wearing". Just observe women walking down the road and you'll notice they can't even clothe their body type, everything has to be tight, cleavage down to the belly botton and skirts up to you know where and this is what young girls look up to not a very nice example society is setting.

Deidra - posted on 08/30/2012

I'm 23 with a one year old and wear the same clothes I did before I had her. My family says the same thing but I ignore them and wear what I want. What I told my mom is I dress like me...What I wear is what I'm comfortable in I don't care who likes it b/c if they care about how I dress then they don't like my personality.

Deanna - posted on 08/28/2012

Yes you can.

Phebs - posted on 08/27/2012

Thanks Felisha - I'll check it out

Felisha - posted on 08/26/2012

Well no you do not have to start wearing your mom jeans just yet! When you mean tasteful who would you compare yourself to as far as your dressing? You can still be stylish and covered especially when around your children. Not everything needs to be super tight all the time or low cut. As long as your clothes are the proper fit things should be just fine. All your dress do not need to be short dress or form fitting dresses either. Check out these sites for some stylish moms. Good Luck!



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Phebs - posted on 08/23/2012

Yeah I find that my figure has changed a bit since I have had two kids. I'm not the skinny winnie like I was before. (I have a muffin top and no motivation to excersize - I feel a bit like a kath and kim at times.) I'm 29 years old and I refuse to dress like a 'Bree Vandercamp' (Despirate house wives), I am a colourful person and have plenty of life and what I wear usually shows this in some way. U mite say weird - I say GORGEOUS!!!!!



Anyway, I am also an artist and have always had a flare to dare to be different. So I am slowly filling my wardrobe with better fitted clothes. But I still wear the stuff I had before I was preggas - I just notice that the first thing I do when I get home is let it all out. Belt, tight jeans, big heels and spanx off - daggy trackie's and ugg boots on!

I wish there was something that looked super trendy, young and hip - that was as cumfy as my daggiest track suit!

That would be nice.

I say dress how u wanna dress (but do take note if anyone tells u ur cleavage is making them fall over - or if ur plummer butt is showing - which I discovered the hard way) - save all the good stuff for the beach - where string bikinis are ok on everyone - even wrinkly grandma's! ur family sound very similar to my family - but ur 21 and a mum - ur not dead! Live, be happy - be free being u.

Jodi - posted on 08/17/2012

LOL, Elizabeth, they aren't driving me nuts, but I just wanted to point out the reverse discrimination. I notice how often these same women bitch an moan about "oh, all these older mums JUDGE me, wah", and then this? This is JUDGING older mums too. Get over yourselves. If you're going to make discriminatory comments such as this yourselves, then you have to suck it up.



There are women out there at 40 who look better than some of you 20 year olds (and believe me, I've looked at a few of your profile photos), just as there are some 20 year olds who are probably better mothers than some 40 year olds. No-one should be discriminating, but that's exactly what this post is doing, when in reality, there is no particular aged attached to what you wear, you just wear what you feel most comfortable in.

Toni - posted on 08/17/2012

You are an adult, so you can wear whatever you want.
Most people who see me would classify me as 'goth'. I wear black trench coats and big platform boots when I go down the street, even when Im with my 3yo son. It is what Im comfortable wearing, so I wear it.
If someone asks me why I dress that way I always reply with, why do you dress that way?
It stumps them for a minute, then they reply with 'Its normal and comfortable." To which I reply, "To you maybe, but not me."
Just be yourself. Happy mummy= happy bubba.

Elizabeth - posted on 08/17/2012

Just wear clothes. If people judge you for dressing hip then tell them the other option is for you to go naked and then be charged with public indecency... not a very a mom-like thing to happen!

I'm a 24 year old mom and my boyfriend tells me I go from dressing like a 12 year old boy to a replica of his mom working in the yard. I don't care, it's what I like.

Jodi, sorry everyone is driving you nuts over "40 year olds" attire, perhaps I should post some photos of Jennifer Garner, Jennifer Aniston, and Cameron Diaz? They're all 40!

Amanda - posted on 08/17/2012

I am in the same boat with my mother. She continues to tell me that I need to dress like a mom. I am 30 and I wear short shorts, short skirts, and tank tops, and the occasional revealing top. Dress how you are comfortable dressing.

Chelsea - posted on 08/16/2012

I say when they pay your bills and buy your clothes, they can tell you what to wear. For tips, I love dressing with a 60s housewife vibe. It's retro and trendy, but also youthful looking and doesn't give the impression that you are 100. Mamas need to feel good about themselves, and telling you that you shouldn't dress how you are comfortable is completely unsupportive. I mean, I believe in having taste and dressing appropriately, but you also need to feel beautiful and those comments aren't helpful. I'm sorry that they are doing that to you.

Candice - posted on 08/14/2012

well im 29 and dress in the junior section still. Sometimes I venture off into the womens section. They have cute clothes. But as most moms know, after kids I stoped doing makeup and getting dressed up unless im going out. i'm usually in pjs, or comfy clothes, hair up. ugh. just takes too much effort sometimes to do all that everyday. lol

Candice - posted on 08/14/2012

well im 29 and dress in the junior section still. Sometimes I venture off into the womens section. They have cute clothes. But as most moms know, after kids I stoped doing makeup and getting dressed up unless im going out. i'm usually in pjs, or comfy clothes, hair up. ugh. just takes too much effort sometimes to do all that everyday. lol

Tracey - posted on 08/04/2012

As long as you are not "hanging" out dress as you feel comfortable

Tiffany - posted on 08/01/2012

Ugh I am having a hard time dressing in a style that I like, mostly cause I am trying to get out of the wear-sweats-cause-you're-too-tired-from-being-up-all-night-with-baby mode. Also my stomach doesn't look the same now after my second baby at 23. Plus I have it a little more fun I get comments from my strict religious parents about what should be appropriate to wear, which to them would be at least 3/4 sleeves and long pants and skirts. I find just dressing how you like no matter what people say as long as you look age appropriate no matter what you're wearing that's fine I say.

Christy - posted on 07/29/2012

ya u can get nice clothes w/ being preg

Brandi - posted on 07/26/2012

I am 23 with a 4 year old daughter, a 2 1/2 year old daughter and 30 weeks pregnant with my 3rd little girl (last baby for me) I plan on dressing the same way I did before after this baby. I think you should wear what you feel represents you and what you like. Having kids makes you a mother, not your grandma lol

Jessica - posted on 07/25/2012

Just because your a mum, it shouldn't take away from your identity. You are still you. Lots IFAD mums forget that and loose themselves along the way. Don't let anyone control what makes you, you. I'm 23 with 2 kids ( and 1 on the way) and I wouldnt think twice about wearing tight jeans, singlets etc. the best thing we can show our kids is confidence, in every aspect.

Maretta - posted on 07/23/2012

ok Jodi if debating gets you through your day but thats no help to Connie!!!!

Good Luck Connie I hope you find something that makes you feel comfy & Classy Remember confidence is everything and you are beautiful no matter what =)

Amy - posted on 07/23/2012

I am 26 married with 3 kids and I still wear the strapless low cut tops and tight jeans mini skirt with tights and boots. Its your body and if your comfortab le then fair do's. Just coz you have kids doesn't mean you have to be a granny and wear full length tops and full length skirts.
You are who you are each to their own taste I say xx

Heather - posted on 07/21/2012

I'm 23 yrs old, my son is 2 1/2yrs old, i have 3 step-kids ages 4,6, and 8. I wear what I want including shorts and spaghetti straps. If your family wants you to dress like a mom tell them, "I am dressing like a mom, I'm dressing like myself." Just because we have kids does not mean we have to wear long sleeve turtle necks, and dress pants all the time. We are still in our early 20s.

Melissa - posted on 07/21/2012

lol I'm 25 and I still dress like I'm in highschool. Dress however you want! People will always judge, so what does it matter? Right? :P

Corinne - posted on 07/21/2012

... I don't want to dress like a black woman either. I would look silly because I'm German, not African. Btw, my coworkers joke around with me when I wear something that looks a little more age appropriate for them.

Jodi - posted on 07/20/2012

Basically, what you ladies are doing is EXACTLY the same as if you said "I don't want to dress like a black woman". Seriously, it is. It is a form of prejudice and discrimination to base an opinion purely on the basis of age.



Oh, and the comment about a 20 year old wearing what is made for a 2 year old is silly. You are showing your maturity with that one.



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Do I need to say more?

Jodi - posted on 07/20/2012

Not an argument at all, apparently I am entitled to an opinion and I am giving it. Just because you don't agree with it doesn't mean I am picking an argument. I actually think you are all very close minded and ageist.

How is a 40 year old wearing something a 20 year old is wearing, not wearing something in a tasteful manner? Doesn't it depend on the 40 year old and the 20 year old as to whether it is tasteful on THAT person, nothing to do with their age? I've seen some pretty tasteless looks of 20 year olds in short shorts and a tank top too, basically, some people shouldn't wear them, period. Some people can get away with the look, some can't, age has nothing to do with that.

BTW, neither age group should have their boobs out, that's tasteless regardless of age too.

Maretta - posted on 07/20/2012

Jodi it seems your on here to pick an argument....I am 23 & my mom is 45 and i dont want to see her wear the same thing as me just as i wouldn't wear the same thing as my daughter who is 2.

I think you should wear what you want but also in a tastful manner..... I know as a child i would be embarassed to see my mom at my school in short short aero shorts & a tank top with her boobs out. Just think of your children. I think at 21 junior clothes are fine!!! Hell i'm 23 & i still wear them

Jodi - posted on 07/19/2012

LOL, I'm not offended, I just think to make a comment about "dressing like you are 42" is stereotypical and rude. Would you say that in front of all your work colleagues who are in their 40s? It's kind of like, well, anyone under 20 isn't old enough to be able to look after a baby properly. The fact is, everyone is different, and making broad sweeping statements about ANY age group is offensive all round, and is actually a form of prejudice and ageism.



*picks her boobs up off the floor and goes off to put on her fat pants*

Corinne - posted on 07/18/2012

I actually work with women who are mostly in their 40's and they all pretty much look the same. I don't have an issue with it.... I work with the elderly, I've seen what time can do to your body. I'm just saying I feel you should dress in a way that flatters your body.
You seem to get offended easily Jodi... I don't know how you don't have hemmeroids or ulcers.

Stacy - posted on 07/18/2012

Don't worry about what anyone else says. You're young, and just because you're a mom doesn't mean you have to wear mom jeans and shapeless tops. Dress how you want and you're comfortable. I'm 35, have 2 kids and STILL don't dress like a "mom"! So the bottom line is: ignore them.

Kelly - posted on 07/17/2012

Don't listen too them dress the way you like, people always has something to say when your pregnant or a mom, you are young and should still be able to dress classy or sexy if they don't like it well they will just have to get over it. Congrats on your new baby girl I am also having a baby girl and people always trying to tell me what to do also I just say ok and do what I want anyway! Good Luck

Kelli-ann - posted on 07/17/2012

yes you can..being a mom does not require a certain dress code..at least not in my world..wear what makes you happy and makes you feel good about yourself

Jodi - posted on 07/17/2012

Wow, you've got quite a skewed idea of 40 year olds, way to stereotype. Personally, I think everyone should wear what they feel comfortable wearing and screw what everyone else thinks....you AND the 40 year olds. I just think you are over-stereotyping.

Corinne - posted on 07/16/2012

Well Jodi, most 40 year olds I know look it. I don't want to see clevage from saggy breasts. Just like I don't want to see any middle aged woman who looks it in booty shorts. If you have amazing genes and still have youthful legs, arms, boobs, etc. fantastic, flaunt it. For all the normal women please age with grace.
Since my c-section and especially since my second one is coming up in three weeks I need clothes that don't show off my little kangaroo pouch I got with two peices or clingy material. Babydoll shirts and tummy tucking jeans for me!

Jodi - posted on 07/16/2012

I guess I'm just curious as to how a 40 year old SHOULD dress. Apparently there is some expectation that society has that I must have missed at some point....

Stifler's - posted on 07/15/2012

Bahahah gothic box of Crayola! Love it

Ashley - posted on 07/15/2012

Im 27 a mom of two and I get ridiculed all the time for what I wear. Im not 40. I have a killer body for having two kids and im goin to flaunt it. I tell those haters to f off and they are just jelous that they dont look good lol. Dress how you want, its your body.

Fran - posted on 07/13/2012

Just be yourself. We teach our children not to judge others. So don't let this bother you.

Charlene - posted on 07/13/2012

Think you should just be who you are and dress whatever way you want, theres no rule book and its important to teaches children to embrace who they are regardless of other peoples opinions :) x

Firebird - posted on 07/12/2012

I'm 27, my daughter is 7 and I still dress like a fucking rock star. My hair is black and blue, and my eye make up makes me look like I was gang-banged by a gothic box of crayola. lol Wear what you want - to hell with what other people think. YOU are the one who has to face the mirror everyday, YOU are the one who has to like what you see.

Brittany - posted on 07/12/2012

I get that too. Only my mom had that idea in her head before I had kids. Although in her defense, I think she was more pointing out what she liked.

I have always found the woman's sections of major department stores to be a bit old for most women (even those in their 40s). I get this weird look with my clothing options anyway.

We don't all have stylists like most of the women do that we see on TV. Nor do we all have the same taste in clothes. That alone makes the "mom" look pointless. I honestly wear the same things I wore at 15. It is what I like, there isn't some part of our brain that goes poof "mommafied" when we get pregnant.

Meghan - posted on 07/12/2012

What does that mean?? "Dress like a mom"? Because we have kids we have to cover up completely and not dress nice? We still want to feel good about ourselves and we should!!!!! We deserve it!!! I say dress like a classy 21 year old and wear it with pride!!!!!!!

Phoebe - posted on 07/12/2012

I know how this is. I'm 21 with a 13 month old, I wore what I could get away with in my grandparents house and when I moved out my clothes didn't really change all that much. I wear shorts above the knees and tank tops in the summer which wasn't really approved of while I was growing up but I skirted around the rules until I was out. I wear two pieces when swimming but usually with short cutoffs and a camisole over the top.



I don't think I'm too bare for whatever circumstances. But I guess my clothes were still too risque, because I went shopping for a wedding and tried on this dress. It's a nice dress, it has a bit of stretch room because my son at the time was only 3-4 months old and I was losing the baby weight.



Well I took my best friend with me to go shopping with the family and the fam was all over this dress saying that "it was perfect for a mom but still cute" and things along those lines. I was planning on putting it on hold for a day while I checked out my other options, but my mother in law went ahead and bought me the dress. Saying that it was perfect and I shouldn't need to look at anything else. Now don't get me wrong, I've made some awkward fashion choices(Like I wore a thong to another wedding because I had changed from my skinny jeans to the skirt and didn't think about it until my skirt flipped up... that was after this wedding.) but I don't think I need other people telling me what's appropriate to wear. I'm 21, I'm not dressing like a Vegas hooker leave me and my clothes alone.



Sorry for the rant, you aren't alone though. Just keep your head up and don't pay any mind to what they say. You probably look better than they did or do after having kids and they are upset that they have unflattering things to hide and want you to feel as covered up as they do.

Jodi - posted on 07/12/2012

Ah, COMIS, I think you totally missed my point :P

Angela - posted on 07/12/2012

I'm 21, 22 this sunday. I have a full sleeve tattoo, other tattoos, wear either skinny jeans or short shorts, and whatever top. And "flip flops". My 2yr old son has a Mohawk and I don't give a flying shit what anyone thinks about the way I look. If I am comfortable in what I wear I'll be happy. If people can't be happy for you when YOU are happy and comfortable then stand up for yourself and tell them where to go. No one should dictate what you wear. How to feel. Etc. you only live once.
:)

Hope - posted on 07/12/2012

Yes, you can dress as you feel appropriate hun. Being a mum doesn't mean you have to kiss goodbye good taste!

Jodi - posted on 07/11/2012

What is *dressing like you are 42*. I actually find that rather insulting.

Julianne - posted on 07/11/2012

I'm 24 with 2 kids. I have tattoos, plugs, piercings and I don't care what anyone says about the way i dress. I love my style. Just because your a mom, doesn't mean you have to dress a certain way.

Stifler's - posted on 07/11/2012

I am 23 and dress how I used to before kids, I was never that conservative or whatever. Wear whatever you feel comfortable and think you look nice wearing!