Meghan - posted on 10/28/2010 ( 36 moms have responded )
Our first baby was completely unexpected and a total whoops... I was 6 months pregnant when we got married. He is the most incredible little boy. When he turned 2, I wanted another child. But my husband was dead set against it. He only wanted 1. Eventually he granted my wish after I pretty much had to threaten to leave. I didn't feel that it was right to deny our oldest a sibling just because we were too lazy (basically). During that pregnancy he was a little put off by it. There wasn't really any excitement. He didn't participate that much. He says now that he feels badly about it.
My husband is an amazing father. I don't know any man that loves his children more. Even though he didn't want another child, he still loves him as much as he does our first. He loves me too. There is no doubt in my mind that my husband loves me truly and fully. It's pretty incredible.
That being said. I just found out this morning I'm pregnant. My husband was talking this past year about "getting clipped". I kept putting it off because I wasn't ready to close that chapter of our life yet. It was only recently that I was considering to go for it. I told my husband that I felt I was lucky to have 2 children and that it wouldn't be fair of me to ask for a 3rd. So for his birthday in December I was going to give him a permission slip for a vasectomy. How do I tell this amazing man that I'm pregnant again?
He handles the finances in our house (he has everything automated). So I know that is a concern for him. He also worries about child care. Right now his mom watches our boys for us while we're at work. But she's 67 (he's only 27) so how much longer is that going to be possible and would it be fair of us to ask her to watch another one, much less a newborn? My brain and my emotions are going all over the place with this. I'm not sure really what I'm feeling. Hell, I'm still nursing our youngest at night, he's 1.
So I need help please. How do I tell this wonderful man I'm married to that we're pregnant again, when I haven't even come to terms with it?