I need advice on overbearing mother

Donna - posted on 04/10/2012 ( 52 moms have responded )

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ok here it is.. first my mom never hits me. me and my bother got into a fight at mcdonalds we threw ketchup on each other.im older im 15 he is 13. i got some ketchup on some woman clothes and my mom had to reinburst her for the damage. my mom freak out on me told me i was a immature baby and my brother to in front of people in mcdonlads. Leaving mcdonalds she told us that she should get us some pacifers and some pampers and a playpen. people were looking at me. like she was right. she took away my x box my i pod and cell i cant go out on weekends now. on the car ride home she is yelling at us telling us when she goes to wallmart she should buy us a crib and stuff.telling me we made her look like a bad mother shes being a total bitch to me.



Can i turn her into CPS for abuse saying those things to me? isnt it slander or something saying lies about someone. saying i need pampers and making me look bad in public.For the record he started it my brother not me. its not fair shes doing this. she took away my games and i cant go out now cause of that bitch

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Sandie - posted on 04/11/2012

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Oh for goodness sake, are you serious??!!! You are 15years old, start acting like it, my son isn't quite 3years old yet and he would never behave that way.

If you want to be treated like an adult, or even as a teenager then I strongly suggest you start acting like one instead of behaving like a spoiled toddler.

Your poor mum must have been so embarrassed, not to mention the fact that she had taken you and your brother out for a mcdonalds, which she doesn't have to do, it was a treat and then she has to fork out money because her kids threw ketchup on some poor lady.

I remember being a teenager, and I understand that you genuinly believe she's against you and treated you badly but you need to take a deep breath, step back and put yourself in her shoes.

Your actions were childish, embarassing and totally unacceptable. I would have grounded you, taken everything away, and probably burst into tears in mcdonalds. You owe you mum an apology and maybe she will see you as more than a child if you can apologise properly and start growing up.

My mum would of made me pay for the cleaning of the lady's clothes too, so think yourself lucky.

Medic - posted on 04/10/2012

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No dear....they were looking at you funny because you DO NOT KNOW HOW TO BEHAVE. Just sayin

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/11/2012

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Oh trust me, no you would not. You ARE being a baby. You are telling me that you would prefer living in the ghetto, with a mother on meth, who abuses you physically beats you, emotionally destroys you, has sex with your boyfriend, picks you up drunk from school, and barely has money to put food on the table, let alone buy you new cloths....so you have to wear the same cloths you were wearing in 8th grade. You want a mom like that? I am sure I can find you one, cause I bet my life that child would love to be in your place right now. Oh, and how about a mom that pimps you out for sex just so she can score her drugs. Your mom is mom of the year. If you had another mother, you would not have all the wonderful things that she can take away from you for acting like a little arrogant shit.

Amie - posted on 04/11/2012

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I'd suggest you look up cause and effect.



My toddlers understand this, my older children understand this. I'm unsure why you don't.



I also agree with the other ladies, why on earth would you think other mother's would condone your behavior? I'd go so far as to say you're probably lucky a few on here aren't your mother. While I'm not one of them, I know there are ones on this site who would have no issue whooping your butt, even at 15, for showing such disrespect and immaturity.

Krista - posted on 04/11/2012

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Oh, and I agree with Sandie -- you're damn lucky she didn't make YOU pay for cleaning that lady's clothes. If I was at McDonald's and a couple of teenagers threw ketchup at each other and some got on my clothes, you can damn well bet that I'd want my dry-cleaning paid for.

First you act like a uncontrollable toddler in a restaurant, and then you whine and refuse to accept any responsibility for your actions. Please tell me...have you actually done anything to justify being treated like you're older than a baby? Because I'm not seeing it.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/11/2012

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Well, beings this is a troll, and probably ST, this is pointless to offer any sort of advice.

Sandie - posted on 04/11/2012

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Well good for her, now is the time for you to do exactly that. Well done for apologizing, now you could offer to pay towards the cleaning of the woman's clothes, to pay your mum back. Get on and do some washing up, hoovering, clean your room, maybe help with the laundry - in other words, responsible adult chores around the house.

It's easy to say sorry and get your stuff back, if you have to work hard to earn them back you will appriciate them more, and hopefully think twice before you act so silly again.

Ignore your little brother if he tries to start something, you are older and should be setting an example to him. Don't embarass yourself by acting like a kid, you're meant to be a young lady, and teenagers don't throw food or get embarassed by comments.

If you overheard someone telling someone your age they were getting them some pampers, you wouldn't genuinely think they needed to wear them, you'd assume they were acting like a baby, no one thinks you can't control your bladder! lol

Dove - posted on 04/11/2012

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Well... duh! So quit slamming her on the internet and start changing your actions. Keep throwing a fit and your words mean absolutely nothing.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/11/2012

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It is clear by this thread you did not mean your appology, and your mom is not stupid. She knows you are not sorry. Give her the money to pay for the damages, and maybe she will elieve you. But, if I were her, you would still be grounded.

Donna - posted on 04/11/2012

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I said i was sorry to her. but she told me my actions will have to prove it not my words.

Sandie - posted on 04/11/2012

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You want to make things right with her and EARN your stuff back? Then you need to apologize, and mean it too. Can you remove yourself from the situation for one second and imagine how you would feel if someone had chucked ketchup on your clothes? Or how mortified you'd be if you were the one that had to pay and apologize on someone else's behalf?

Your mum may not be an angel all the time, none of us are perfect, but you have to understand that what you did was totally immature for your age. At 15years old you shouldn't be throwing food around, and if your brother started it, why did you have to join in?

The things she took from you, I doubt you bought for yourself in the first place anyway so don't be so ungrateful, gifts, treats, etc are things to be earned, and if you misbehave then those things are confiscated until you can earn them back.

If your friends are out and about enjoying themselves, take a leaf out of their books because I bet they'd never act that way, and because of that, they are treated as adults.

I'm only 10 years older than you, and even at 25 I can tell you, if I acted that way with my mum she'd discipline me!!

It will be hard for you to understand now, but you are lucky that your mum cares enough to punish you, mum's that don't bother with discipline don't care enough about their kids, she's trying to turn you into a responsible adult by teaching you about cause and effect.

Hope you have kids just like you someday, ha!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/11/2012

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Yup you do. Go back to your mother and apologize Shannin.

Donna - posted on 04/11/2012

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wonderful things? i dont have things now. my mom told me the only thing i deserve is pampers and a crib. my mom isnt mother of the year. i would take any of you any day over my mom...i dont know what to do to make things right with her.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/11/2012

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"i rather get spanked once and it will be over and i can get my freedom and things back. "

This confirms that you are a troll in my eyes. Get a life Shannin.

Donna - posted on 04/11/2012

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ill tell you what i would take any other mom right now besides mine. mothers should have compassion for there kids. people tell me i should be grateful my mom never spanks or hits me. i rather get spanked once and it will be over and i can get my freedom and things back.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/11/2012

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I remember being a teenager. I never pulled shit like this. Or acted this bratty. I was mature, and when I did something wrong, I would tell my mom about it and deal with my punishment.

Donna - posted on 04/11/2012

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i wouldnt care if she called me a jerk or and idiot anything else. but its her comments with the pampers and crib etc all the other stuff. she says it all the time now..its like that how she thinks of me now.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/11/2012

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Dude, you RUINED someones CLOTHS! You were having a food fight in PUBLIC! I don't care if it is your Christmas vacation. You do not ruin someones property and not pay the consequences. No one has any sympathy for you here. Most of us would have made your punishment much worse. no one cares.

Donna - posted on 04/11/2012

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those words my mom said to me was foul in mcdonalds. she was saying that to me in the car ride home and when we got back to the house. she demanded my cell phone took away my i pod. she took my brothers games away his x box. yes she bought them for us. in the past when we got into trouble she would ground us for a day or two. but she never took away my things before. this is my easter vacation all my friends r doing things but me. she wont even let me go see the hunger games movie with my friend. my friends mom was willing to pay for both of us. she tells me babies arent aloud out without supervision.

Jessi - posted on 04/11/2012

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I'm glad to see that there are so many reasonable mothers left in the world!! My kids are only 4, 2 and 1 and I would hate to think that they could be raised in a world that thinks, Donna's behavior is acceptable in any way!

Donna, you should let your mom read this and tell her that she did a GREAT job in her response! The only thing I would have done different is that I would make YOU pay for the damages. I wouldn't have covered your butt like that!

I hope you are taking all this to heart and realize that what you did is wrong and YOUR responsibility and apologize to your mother for acting that way. She may even give you back your toys, if you are really sorry. At least that's what I do with my 2 & 4 year old, but then again they do still wear diapers (at night)!!

Lacey - posted on 04/11/2012

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That was exactly what I thought--don't even waste the time of CPS when there are kids out there who are being physically, sexually and emotionally abused, never mind the horrible neglect!

Krista - posted on 04/11/2012

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No kidding, Little Miss. Like she hasn't humiliated her poor mother enough, now she's online whining about it to the whole world?

Jenni - posted on 04/11/2012

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Well my dear, food throwing is a phase infants go through. I think your mom was spot on.



And don't waste the resources of a service that is meant to help children who are in real-life abusive situations. You know the kind of parents who act like their child doesn't even exist and doesn't feed and clothe them, exposes them to drugs, physically abuses or sexually abuses them.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/11/2012

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Because of your actions little girl, is why people think you are a baby. Not your moms words.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/11/2012

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Are you kidding me? You ARE babies if you act like that in public. If I was your mom, I would make YOU pay for the damages, and give a formal apology. You are 15, not 5. Give me a break and grow up little girl. They do make pull-ups in your size, you know...training diapers for toddlers that are almost trained? Un real. Yeah, go call CPS. They will laugh at you. It shows you are immature that you would even think that is just cause for calling them. You are a vindictive whinny teenager that got scolded for doing something completely uncalled for and asinine. Poor baby got embarrassed.

By the way, this site is for MOTHERS! Not babies.

Krista - posted on 04/11/2012

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Yeah, my kid is 2, and he knows better than to throw food.

Part of being a grown-up is dealing with the consequences of your actions. You behaved like a toddler, so you got treated like one.

If you don't want to be treated like a toddler, don't act like one.

It's pretty straightforward, really.

And if you think that she embarrassed you by scolding you in front of everybody, well guess what? You and your brother embarrassed HER by acting like a couple of animals.

Suck it up, kiddo. You did the crime, now you're doing the time. And if your friends are out having fun, it's probably because they know better than to act like toddler when out in public.

Dove - posted on 04/11/2012

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My oldest is 10 and I'd be absolutely mortified if she behaved like that in public. Heck, my youngest is FOUR and I'd be mortified if he ever behaved like that in public.



Act like a baby, get treated like a baby. Don't like it? Grow up.

Lynn - posted on 04/11/2012

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The PP's are right-your mom is teaching you a lesson, and I bet you won't do that again! Wait until you have teenagers, then you'll understand, and know how she feels! And, BTW, YOU chose the timing of your behavior and punishment, NOT your mom!!!

Put on your big girl pants and grow up. Your whining is making everyone see that you really are childish and immature.

What did you expect other MOM'S to say, anyway? We all hope our kids won't do that at your age! I'd smack my kids' butts at 10 and 8 if they behaved so badly!

Donna - posted on 04/11/2012

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kudos? my mom isnt a hero. its easter vaction im stuck in the house all my friends r doing things but me.

Lacey - posted on 04/11/2012

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Aren't you precious. You acted like a spoiled toddler, then your mother treated you like one, and you think that's abusive. Medic Mommy is right. She embarrassed you because you embarrassed her. My kids are two and four, and I'll be damned if they act like that in public. Kudos to your mom.

Medic - posted on 04/11/2012

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How dense does one have to be to really think that because someone said they were a baby and needed diapers that the average adult would actually believe that?

Sandie - posted on 04/11/2012

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and I agree with Medic Mommy, people were staring at you because of how you were acting, not because of your mum's words. I'd of stared at you too, immature!!

Donna - posted on 04/10/2012

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SHE TOLD LIES ABOUT ME MY MOM told me i was a big baby to and i needed pampers as well. he started it not me.CAUSE OF HER PEOPLE THINK IM A BABY AND IMMATURE AND I NEED PAMPERS AND STUFF CAUSE OF HER BIG MOUTH.

Stifler's - posted on 04/10/2012

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No. I would have said the same things if my kids were that age. She was probably joshing about the crib from Walmart. You're 15 way too old for ketchup fights and he said she said bullshit.

Donna - posted on 04/10/2012

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im upset cause when she said that. people were looking art me funny cause of her.

Chrystal - posted on 04/10/2012

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If I was mom I'd have taken away all those things and made you work chores to pay off what I had to pay to the women. Sounds like you acted a fool in public and you got treated like one. Suck it up and learn to behave in public no matter what your little brother does. And probably a good idea to stop referring to your mother as a bitch that might make others not think your a spoiled brat worthy of pampers.

Medic - posted on 04/10/2012

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It is not lies.....NO ONE REALLY THINKS YOU NEED PAMPERS!!!!!!! geezzzzz..... we all understand what it is like to have rude children who are disrespectful and act worse than toddlers. That is obviously what you and your brother did. I do not understand why you are having such a hard time understanding this. YOU CANNOT DO ANYTHING ABOUT YOUR MOTHER BEING A PARENT AND PUNISHING HER BAD CHILDREN. You embarassed her....so why are you crying because she embarassed you.

Donna - posted on 04/10/2012

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she could tell lies about me saying i need pampers back on me etc. i cant do anything about it then?

Medic - posted on 04/10/2012

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Well if you wanna act like a child then I guess you should be treated like one. Nothing your mom did was slanderous or bad mouthing. You are badmouthing by calling her a bitch and not listening to your parents.

Medic - posted on 04/10/2012

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Ummmm this is Circle of MOMS.....that being said I totally agree with your mother. Learn how to act in public...it is not rocket science. I would have taken everything away from both of you for acting like little children in public.

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