I need other peoples opinions on this!

Heather - posted on 11/05/2009

your mom. if her dr. isnt concerned, do what YOU think is right. she sounds healthy to me :D plus, dr's dont reccomend starting them on food too early. i was told it can jump start potential food allergies.

Sara - posted on 11/05/2009

I had the same problem with my bf parents acutally. As long as shes healthy and shes gainin weight and her doctors are happy then keep doin what ur doin. Tell his parents that shes ur daughter and u will decide whats best for her and how to raise her. If they dont like it then to bad they have to respect their wishes. U need to make sure they understand that as long as they dont respect ur wishes then they wont be left alone with her. Now if ur doctor is worried about her wieght then u need to follow his intructions not his parents. But until the doctor is worried keep doin what u believe is right.

Suzie - posted on 11/05/2009

i know that no-one knows their child best then the mother every child is different if you feel your little one is ready for food then try it my little girl is 4 months now and has been having solids for the last month and as for the inlaws i think you should put your foot down let them know that they have had their children now its time for you to have urs im sure they wouldnt have appreciated others trying to control what they did with their children advise is fine but they sound over possessive. if my bf parents told me i needed parenting classes then i wouldnt be worrying about wether or not you hurt their feelings as it is obvious they dont care about urs. You sound like ur doing an excellent job dont let others tell you different!!!!

Monique - posted on 11/05/2009

Sounds like you're doing a great job and your bf's parents need a refresher's course in baby watching! It's not the 80's anymore!

Nikkita - posted on 11/05/2009

I say it's not about them! If her doctor says she's ok, don't listen to other people. If you haven't talked to your doctor yet, see what he/she has to say.

Renee - posted on 11/05/2009

my little guy had to have rice cerial in his milk at that age but it was only a very little amount... but that was because he wouldnt keep his bottle down.... but personaly if your little princess is putting on weight i would leave things as thay are till u think she needs food.

Sasha - posted on 11/05/2009

when my baby was 2 weeks i started feeding him with a spoon... do rice its easier on her belly

Evelyn - posted on 11/05/2009

Your baby is just fine in weight for her age. All that is needed until 6 months of age is breast milk (preferably) or formula (with iron.) This meets all of her nutritional needs until about 6 months of age.

I never have given my son a bottle with cereal in the breast milk, too risky. Scared he'd choke.

My husband's parents sort-of do the same thing though, I wanted to follow the recommendations of pediatricians and NOT start food until 6 months. My husband's mom was always trying to feed him ICE CREAM and junk like that and it would make me so MAD... It was so frustrating. I didn't want her to babysit which kind of made me feel guilty, but I felt like I needed to supervise in order to be sure my son will stay healthy. His health is the most important thing, and that's my responsibility. He is now 7 months and I am a little more lax with her now that he can have other foods, but I don't allow junk...thats for sure!

Elizabeth - posted on 11/05/2009

i didnt start baby food until my son was almost 5 months the doc said that they get all their nutrients through either breast milk or formula and feeding them baby food is just "practice" for table food. and i think her weight is perfect! i dont think u need to put cereal in her bottle. theyre little for such a short period of time there will be pleanty of time for baby and table food before u know it!

Elizabeth - posted on 11/05/2009

i didnt start baby food until my son was almost 5 months the doc said that they get all their nutrients through either breast milk or formula and feeding them baby food is just "practice" for table food. and i think her weight is perfect! i dont think u need to put cereal in her bottle. theyre little for such a short period of time there will be pleanty of time for baby and table food before u know it!

Candie - posted on 11/05/2009

my daughter weighted about the same at birth and the same around 3 months and i never put cereal in her bottle. I started spoon feeding it to her at 4 months and she's perfect weight at 10 months she weights 20 lbs. You are her mother and what you say goes. Stand up for your baby and do what you think is best for her. It's ok if she's little the less weight she has to move around then she'll crawl and walk earlier. If you do want to put cereal in her bottle talk to her dr. first because some like mine don't recomend it. But I defiently would NOT suggest table food there are too many thing she could be allergic to at the age and if she has a tummy ache that means no rest for mommy.

Alida - posted on 11/05/2009

Most doctors don't recommend starting cereal until 4 months.. some people start it sooner (my brother and I were on cereal at 2 weeks). If she seems like she needs it then maybe talk to her dr but from what you've explained, it doesn't seem like it. Plus, at this age milk is still satisfying her! She is def too young for table foods though so I would keep your foot down with that. However, they do need to respect that this your and your boyfriends child and not theirs.

Kim - posted on 11/05/2009

honstly i wouldnt leave my child with them, you can mess your childs system up by giving them foods to soon, baby cereal is one thing i gave my son baby rice and cereal at 2-3 months and it was through a bottle and i was holding him and feeding him, its up to you if you think shes ready them go for it and look for alligic reactions to the new things you give her, table food is a no no at this age

Alicia - posted on 11/05/2009

Talk to her Dr. about it. And then next time gram and gramps are trying to push other foods on her, let them know what Dr. said. Stick to your guns. This is YOUR daughter, not theirs. Again, talk with Dr.

My oldest son started rice cereal just past 4 months, not because he needed to gain weight, but because he needed something thicker in his belly to help him feel fuller longer. He was a total chunk, but always felt that he was starving. With my Dr.s blessing we started the cereal, but never in the bottle (I was breast-feeding).

Keep in mind that every baby is different. If she is happy after feeding the amount you give her, not still acting starving, then she's fine! But you should talk with her Dr. too.

Jennifer - posted on 11/05/2009

yeah, my baby wasn't ANYWHERE near thin - kinda fat in fact... and her father's dad kep trying to feed her pudding and candy - when Really young - under 6 mo.

just be persistent. tell them NO! then tell them no again, and take the baby out of their arms when they procede to ignore you and give her stuff anyway. i don't think the cerial is good for them AT ALL - my girl would just get constipated when i'd try giveing it to her at 8mo. be prepaired to tick them off and to fight for her. she's YOUR baby - NOT THEIRS!!!!!

if your little one is the one in the pic - she looks just fine! (very cute too!!) as long as you are feeding her when she's hungry(duh..) and she is in fact gaining weight - she's fine! not all babys are little blobs of fat - and they turn out just fine.

Alyshia - posted on 11/05/2009

just say this is my child they can give you some tips but its only up to you if you want to use them or not. i have a daughter who was 6lbs 13oz bottlefeed and it took her a while to gain waight and i have another daughter who was 6lb 11oz who is now around 17lbs and she just turned 3 months but she is breatfeed waight depends on the child

Sarah - posted on 11/05/2009

other people, regardless of who they are, should *definitely* respect your wishes as far as taking care of you child goes... YOU are her mother!



a 3-month-old doesn't need 'table' food, but putting a little cereal in her bottle will help if she seems fussy after feeding, as though unsatisfied... i started putting cereal in my son's bottle at 4 weeks! just ask your midwife, pediatrician, whomever you trust and knows your child. remember that you know your child's wants and needs better than anyone else.



best wishes!

Amanda - posted on 11/05/2009

I wouldn't leave her alone with them either. It sounds like she is perfectly healthy and gaining weight like she should. If your not sure ask your doctor or public health nurse they will tell you if she is gaining the right amount of weight or not and then they will let you know what thing you can do if she is not either. I would just leave them alone and go on with what you think you should do unless they actually try it with out asking you first and then I would get mad it is your child and you are the one with the rights on what to do with your child. they raised theirs and if the doc says she is ok then she is ok. At three mths my son was always hugary it seemed like his formula was not satisfying him but he was still healthy in everyway I had a grandmother who got mad at me and said I was starving him and that formula was not the way to feed my baby that breast milk or canned milk was the best and she had six kids so she would know. I ignored her and just kept up with the formula untill I could start feeding him solid food he is now almost three and he is fine. so whatever you would like to do would be best and I wish you the best of luck.

Rosey - posted on 11/05/2009

table food at three months?!?! that's way too early!!! i didn't introduce cereal until 4 months and it was just a spoonful or two that was extremely thin in consistency (mixed with a lot of formula). unless a baby has acid reflux, cereal in a bottle is a bad idea - it should be introduced with a spoon and that's it. and i think most pediatricians don't recommend veggies and fruit purees until 6 months for many reasons - one being they don't have that swallowing motion down yet, and two being their tummys are way too sensitive. maybe bring your boyfriend's parents to her pediatrician to explain how food should be introduced....

Jenny Dale - posted on 11/05/2009

I think breast milk is the golden ticket! If they can't respect the way you want to raise her then they shouldn't be in your life, tell them to respect you of get out! You know best and she should not eat any table food until 6 months. In my opinion.

Amber - posted on 11/05/2009

You can start feeding cereal, but nothing else for this young, but don't add it in the bottle all doctors usually disagree about that.

Katrina - posted on 11/05/2009

It's your baby and u want the best for i understand, but on the other hand if your boyfriend trys to help by telling them not to feed her that stuff well then his respecting what u want, but i would ask a pediatrician if its OK and how her weight looks and go from there. hope everything goes well

Katrina - posted on 11/05/2009

Quoting Evelyn:

I need other peoples opinions on this!

I have a three month old daughter she weighed 6lbs. 7oz when she was born. For the past three months my b/f parents have been telling me that i need to put cereal in her milk cause she looks "poor" and they say her milk is not satisfying her. Now she weighs 12 lbs. 5oz., I think she is gaining enough weight for her size. I will not leave her alone with them, cause his dad is always wanting to feed her table food already. I get mad and tell my boyfriend that if they can't respect they way I want to raise our daughter, then I will leave. I need to know what I should do or what I should say. I don't want to make them mad, I just need some advice on what I should do. Please let me know! Thank you!

Cherise - posted on 11/05/2009

In my opinion if you strongly believe in something you need to tell them, and not worry about making them mad. This is YOUR child and what you say goes. I went through similar stuff and yes they may get mad at first but they will get over it. She seems to be gaining weight fine and if she is still fussing after a bottle maybe try increasing the amount. Rice cereal shouldn't hurt her if it is runny, just at her age it should only be a few bites, her stomach is the size of her fist, so think of that when feeding her. They may think the bottle is not satisfying her but it probably is or she is not happy with the type of formula. The best advice I could give you is talk to her pediatrician. They will tell you what is best. Also follow with what you truly feel is right. Your her mom you do know what is good for her.

Amanda - posted on 11/05/2009

I think that you need to decide when she is ready for food, My oldest son started on the baby foods when he was about 3 months old, but my younger little boy didn't even start cereal untill he was 6 months, each child is different and starts things at different times. you will know when its time.

Amanda - posted on 11/05/2009

I think that you need to decide when she is ready for food, My oldest son started on the baby foods when he was about 3 months old, but my younger little boy didn't even start cereal untill he was 6 months, each child is different and starts things at different times. you will know when its time.

Natasha - posted on 11/05/2009

In all honesty I'm going through a similiar situation. My child is 3 months, weighed 6lbs 15oz at birth and is steadily approaching 13lbs. Yet everyone tells me he looks slim. However he is 23 inches long. I started him on cereal last week because he is hungrier than normal and the milk is really making him wet more diapers than normal because its alot of water. So as for the cereal I will tell you this do what you feel is right because if I would've let my family make that decision my child would've been eating cereal at 2 months. As for the grandparents by all means lay down the laws now because that is your child. They had their chance to raise their own kids, but this is your chance. As long as you are not getting the feeling that your baby needs more food or the doctor has not told you anything different. She will be okay, in fact I think if I hadn't started my child on cereal until four months he woud be fine. Take a stand now so later on they will know your are not for the nonsense. You have a lawful right to make choices for your own children. Thats why your name is on the birth cert. Also I think it would be a good idea to have a sit down with your b/f before you go to his parents. That way you can be in agreeance with him..then you both can talk to his parents as parents. I am a first time mom, but I take my rights as a parent seriously. So I hope that I have gave you some insight on this situation. Have a good evening!

Katherine - posted on 11/05/2009

stick to your guns!!! Unless you child's Dr. says she needs cereal in her milk or says she isn't getting enough shes doing just fine.I'm having this problem with my in-laws and i stuck to what i knew was right and my daughter is better for it.Your daughter doesn't have a voice yet YOU NEED to be her voice.First time parent or not you know whats best for your little girl.Take her to the Dr. and bring it up if your not sure.But for most its 6 months before they have anything that isn't milk (1 year before cows milk)

Ebby - posted on 11/05/2009

Quoting Evelyn:

I have told them that and they tell me that I need to go to Parenting classes along with the pediatrician.

They sound a bit "touched" in the head and need to welcome themselves to the 21st century.  Ignore it and go on with life as usual and do what your instincts and up to date parenting books say as well as the doctor.

Cassie - posted on 11/05/2009

I have a 3 year old little boy and I fed him cereal that young, but I think that you should use that mommy instinct that you obviously have and do what you feel is the best for your daughter. My son was 7 lbs 14 oz when he was born and he is 38 now at age 3. All children are different and I think you will be able to tell if she is ready. As for the grandparents.... Been there done that. Me and Aiden's father are seperated but with his mom I had to just stand my ground sometimes you just have to be rude with people for them to get your point. They may get mad at first but they will more than likely see your side and give you the respect that you deserve. They are only little for a short time so savor it as long as you can girl!!!! Good luck.

Amy - posted on 11/05/2009

Personally I wouldn't feed her anything other than her milk until she shows you signs that she's ready. Like not seeming satisfied after a feeding, opening her mouth when she sees you eat, reaching for food, things like that.

I had ppl tell me the same thing with my son, but in my case he's very large for his age so my husbands family kept telling me that I need to feed him more to satifiy him. I just politely said no. I just started baby food at 5 months and that was under the advise of a pediatrician as he has acid reflux and she though food may help. Just go with what you feel is right, after all Mom's usually do know what's best.

Jennifer - posted on 11/05/2009

Quoting Janel:

Most doctors will say to try not to give them cereal until 6 months...that said it will not harm them to start earlier. I was giving cereal to my little guy at 2 months to help get him through the night, then again he was huge (9lbs, 2ozs) at birth. Your little one though is doing fine, 6lbs in 3months is great, so their idea of what poor is...is well, poor, LOL. Do not give cereal if it makes you uncomfortable. Only you decide when you are ready. Best way to tell is when the little ones start taking interest in whenever you are eating...good sign that they are interested and possibly ready to try solids. My little guy is now 5 months and he is eating cereal at night daily now...but just started to figure out the whole spoon=food concept. As for the bf"s parents, they are still the grandparents, and grandparents think they know it all! As much as it sucks you cannot control what they do when you are not there, and by not letting her stay with them you are only making things worse. Remember if you leave her with them and they give her cereal...which they will...it will not hurt her. Maybe try to look at it in the perspective that they are worried about her...you could be thankful for that because some grandparent's jut don't care. It is hard for them to let go of control sometimes. The cereal will not hurt her. I am not taking their side here as it may seem just to reassure you. I am on your side but just want you to know that the cereal will not harm her. One other thing, you should probably stop telling your BF you will leave if his parents don't start respecting the way you chose to raise your daughter...it is not him doing anything wrong. I assume you and him both have the same thoughts on the cereal?? If so, then it should be up to him to tell his parents to back off, he should not be putting you in this situation to begin with. Sorry I babble alot,lol. Basically long story short: you cannot keep your daughter from her grandparents and you cannot monitor everything they do with her. You and I know that they will give her cereal when you are not around, remember it will not hurt her and try to think of what you don't see won't hurt you either...even though you know they are gonna do it try not to dwell over it. And you fear of her gaining weight o fast...do not worry, babies will regulate themselves. They will grow fast one month and slowly the next, do not fear "obesity" in an infant.

i agree 100% i started my first on cereal around 6 months and my second around 4 months. they are both at the top of their growth curve and developmentally ahead. whenever i had a family member, usually my husband's mom or grandmother, question the way i was caring for my children i took them with me to the dr. that way they could sit in the same room and listen to the same advice i had been given and that gave them the oppertunity to ask any questions or voice any concerns they had to the ped and we both recieved the same answer. and if they ask about feeding cereal or baby food early and your dr says that you could then voice that you're not comfortable doing it unless it is the best choice for the baby. remember to keep that the focus and not who is right or wrong.

Sarah - posted on 11/05/2009

I had the same problem with my youngest, and her doctor told me that it was fine to start giving her baby cereal, she just said to make it more liquidy, so that it is not to hard on the babies stomach. But as for the inlaws, you have to stick to your guns, this is your baby, NOT theres, tell them thanks for the advice that you will consider it and then do what you feel is best for your baby. But if you are unsure talk to your doctor, they will give you the best advice. And let your baby tell you if she/he is ready for more than just milk. Try the cereal, if she/he is not ready she/he will not take it. hope that all works out for you.

Tracy - posted on 11/05/2009

AT the end off the day your the babys mum and if your happy with your baby,they keep doing what you are and just tell them you will do it when you feel ready two !!

Melissa - posted on 11/05/2009

Ugh! I heard that all the time even from my pediatrician that my daughter wasn't gaining weight fast enough. I think she's just fine, but yeah, it bugged the hell out of me. Now that she's 4 and her height and weight are pretty in sync, nobody says anything anymore. My daughter was 7 lbs. 7ozs. when she was born. I think your bf's parents need to respect your wishes concerning your daughter and she really doesn't need to be on baby food for another month.

Simone - posted on 11/05/2009

well my daughter is 11 weeks now and she was 7lb 3oz and the last time i got her weighed she was 14lbs 2oz, and i'm jus breast feeding her. i want to wait til she about 5/6 months before i bring food into her diet. it's your child and you need to state to them and just be straight. i would not be happy if that happened to me...

Jessica - posted on 11/05/2009

i think she is gainging weight just fine!!! what does your doctor say? thats whats most importnat!!



my daughte is 9 months. she started out 5lbs and 7oz (totally healthy) just tiny!!! she gained weight perfect and her doctors were pleased. but everyone says shes small for her age! i didn't start cereal til about 4months and baby food around 6. every baby is different. i'd talk to your doctor.



but if they don't respect your feelings i'd just have a sit down with them and explain why you feel the way you do and to please respect you!

Jessie - posted on 11/05/2009

My in laws were kind of the same way and my husband and I finally just sat down with them and kindly explained that as her parents, we were going to be regulating what she ate because if something goes bad in her tummy and she gets sick/is allergic/gets gassy/or whatever the case may be, we are the ones who have to deal with the side effects. We asked them to PLEASE not feed her anything unless we have cleared it first. Also, we try to find alternative "treats" that we know are safe for baby to let them give her so they feel special, for example, i gave the ok for my parents to let her have a taste of mashed potatoes but said no to the ice cream.

Samantha - posted on 11/05/2009

My baby is now 5 months old and I started him on the rice milk at 4 months because the doctor recommended that we wait until then. He is eating baby foods and we have only tried adult foods such as icecream and nothing else. we don't want to feed him real food yet because his stomach isn't ready for it (according to the doc). babies will eat when they are ready. its not good to rush them.

Kerri - posted on 11/05/2009

sounds like u are doing fine sweetie just stand your ground and if u have any ??? talk to her doctor but she sounds like she is the right size....... just stand firm with them your are doing a wonderful job

Thea - posted on 11/05/2009

Don't feed your baby table food till you think she is ready. Tell them to respect your parenting. I had the same problem. I told my in-laws to respect me. They still would not so I stoped taking my kids to see them. They could not be trusted. If they wanted to see them they had to come to my house were it was MY rules. She sound healthy. Talk to your doc. To me she is a Very healthy size. You are a good mom!!!! Take care of your little girl the way you wish. She is yours not theirs!!!!!!

Jennifer - posted on 11/05/2009

Frist of all you are the mother and what you say goes..There is no reason why you should put cereal in her bottol... Unless your DR.feels its nessaery to do so.Cereal should be feed in a bowl mixed with formula no sooner than 4months and even that early..Stick to your guns you no whats best.....

Kirsten - posted on 11/05/2009

I think at 3 months I started putting a lil baby cereal in Ry's milk at night so he was fuller longer. Ask your doc what he says about food s right now, and when you feel comfortable giving her food then do so. Tell your B/F's parents that this is how it is, and if they can't respect then you and your baby will be abck later to pick your their son up. Simple as that, your the mom, and yoru B/F should stand by you.

Stephannie - posted on 11/05/2009

i didnt start giving my daughter who is now 6 months cereal until she was 4 months. and if shes gaining weight then she is perfectly healthy. I also told my husband and everyone else that my daughter isnt to be getting any kind of other food unless i approve or until i talk to my doctor or until shes at least 6 months, here and there we give her little tastes of something new..but certain things should be answered by a dr on what and what not to give her yet

Marie - posted on 11/05/2009

I so think you are doing the right thing. Babies tummies are not ready for cereal or food before 3-4 months. Her weight is fine for a baby her size. Listen to your pediatrician not the inlaws!!!

Katt - posted on 11/05/2009

3 months old is way to young for table food of any sort. I started my daughter who has no issues like that 8.5 when she was born now 23.4 (9months) at 4 months on rice cereal and I didn't put it in her bottle. She was taking 8oz every 2 hrs and waking up constantly so I decided to start her a bit early even then when she was 4 months she got the rice cereal for 2 weeks before I gave her anything else and be sure to start with veggies when you start with food. If I were you I would explain to them as nicely as I could that she is your child, not theres and if the doctor isn't worried about her growth then your not either. She's not doubled her birth weight my daughter didn't do that untill she was 5 1/2 months and thats a good thing!! I have a friend her baby is 8 1/2 months she was 4.15 when she was born and now just 14lbs!! So you have nothing to worry about I would tell em to shove it

Sarah-jane - posted on 11/05/2009

hello evelyn my daughter is 3 and a half monthes and its ok to add things to there milk iv been giveing my daughter baby food since she was about 10 weeks now an she was only 6.5 when born and is now 13.5 so i dont think it dose make them to big, it will help her sleep better as well. id recommend baby food my first bolanase

Erica - posted on 11/05/2009

Always ask your daughter's pediatrician what you should do. They will know what is the best for her!

Nicole - posted on 11/05/2009

Whichever decision you make, your boyfriend's parents should respect that..So from that perspective of it...if you as the mother make a decision for ur child after hearing your child's Pediatrician's ideas about this don't let his parents change ur mind. You are the mother and you seem as though you want whats best for your child. Don't let them undermine you, and stick to your grounds! : )

Roxanne - posted on 11/05/2009

Tell them the truth, the baby's lungs and kidneys can not digest table food as of yet. Feeding her table food now will cause damages internally and possibly asthma. If they love the baby, be patient and feed the baby as the doctor orders.