I think I want an ALL natural birth...what are the benifits of having an epidural?

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Jasmine - posted on 04/15/2009

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p.s. someone should check on the pitocin and narcotics labels as they have warnings on them both, they are both used in the hospital and though I do not believe that a doctor would intentionally hurt you or your child they also use things that either are not intended for that purpose or that have adverse side effects.

Jasmine - posted on 04/15/2009

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I had a natural child birth and though many have stated that it does not effect your child to have an epi that is NOT true, the same drugs that enter your system also enter your childs system during childbirth and can hinder bonding after the birth of your child, it also makes it so that your natural "in love" hormones after your child is born do not kick in like they are supposed to.



Yes, I suppose there is "pain" but even if it lasts for 30+ hours in the long run that isn't very long and it is not that intense for the whole thing.



You CAN do it, even sometimes when you feel like you can't, and you will feel that way, hormones. Get some support to be with you the whole time, your hubby and a doula is good.....

Alicia - posted on 04/15/2009

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Be open minded! Nobody knows how their body will react to labour and delivery.



You might go into a really quick labour and by the time you get to the hospital there is no time to administer an epideral. Or you may have a really slow progressing labour (like me) in which, after 42 hours of strong contractions you need a break regardless of how tough and strong you are.



Either way, if you are open minded, you won't be disappointed in yourself or the way your labour went :)

Kerrin - posted on 04/15/2009

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I was hoping to go natural when I had my son, but ended up having an epidural.



I had it. Then fell asleep for 1 hour. woke up and I was ready to have my little boy.  I look back and part of me wishes I didn't have the epidural, but another part is glad I did.  I was able to rest and only pushed for 40 mins.  The epidural gave me the break and rest I needed.

Lamieka - posted on 04/15/2009

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whatever is best for u. i had an epidural when i had my son. i got it about an hour before i had my son. it was the best! i couldn't feel a thing, but every time i had a contraction, it felt like i was about to have a bowel movement lol. after they gave it to me they let me go to sleep for about 20 minutes, then told me to push. they thought it woruld be about an hour before he crowned but it was 3 pushes. the doctor wasnt even in the room. 5 minutes later i had my son. it took about 2 hours for it to wear off but i would do the epidural whenever i have my next one.

Rachel - posted on 04/15/2009

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I thought I wanted that too but when I went into labor my daughter was sitting on my sciatic nerve and spinal cord. I also wasn't dilating very fast so I decided to get an epidural so I could relax and dilate. Once I got it I had her in 3 hours with only a 1/2 hour of pushing. The epidural has no effects on the baby or you (you will feel numb from the waist down but it wears off pretty quickly) and you still have the sensation to push. But it is your decision and what ever you decide in the end you will still have a beautiful baby!

Sabrina - posted on 04/15/2009

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Michelle I understand that our body is in pain for a reason but why be in pain if I don't have to be? I went 4 hours without it and I was in so much pain it hurt to do anything. 4 hours with contractions 2-3 min apart. I got to the hospital at 1030pm and I had been up all day and I was tired and needed rest so I got the eppi. It did not slow down because I was on pitocin since my bp was to high they wanted to induce me. I never said there was anything wrong with going natural and I believe I stated that its great for women who do it. I have a VERY low pain tolerance and I wanted the drugs. If it is such a risk to me and my baby why do they offer it?



My son was alert and awake and crying when he came out. He didn't act like he was drugged or anything like that. I had done research before I went into labor and I decided I wanted the drugs.



Your talking to me like I'm a bad person for getting an eppi. I really think it is great when women can do it naturally so good for you but that wasn't what I wanted. Every woman has that choice and its only her choice. There is nothing wrong with getting an eppi. And just so you know my body did do the job of labor and the eppi didn't stop that. After I had it it was only 3 hours until my son was born. So I'm pretty sure that it didn't stop or slow down.



So I'm sorry if you dont agree with my motto of why be in pain when you dont have to be. That is my opinion and I have a right to say that. You don't have to be so condisending just because someone doesn't agree with you.

Sabrina - posted on 04/15/2009

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Michelle I understand that our body is in pain for a reason but why be in pain if I don't have to be? I went 4 hours without it and I was in so much pain it hurt to do anything. 4 hours with contractions 2-3 min apart. I got to the hospital at 1030pm and I had been up all day and I was tired and needed rest so I got the eppi. It did not slow down because I was on pitocin since my bp was to high they wanted to induce me. I never said there was anything wrong with going natural and I believe I stated that its great for women who do it. I have a VERY low pain tolerance and I wanted the drugs. If it is such a risk to me and my baby why do they offer it?



My son was alert and awake and crying when he came out. He didn't act like he was drugged or anything like that. I had done research before I went into labor and I decided I wanted the drugs.



Your talking to me like I'm a bad person for getting an eppi. I really think it is great when women can do it naturally so good for you but that wasn't what I wanted. Every woman has that choice and its only her choice. There is nothing wrong with getting an eppi. And just so you know my body did do the job of labor and the eppi didn't stop that. After I had it it was only 3 hours until my son was born. So I'm pretty sure that it didn't stop or slow down.



So I'm sorry if you dont agree with my motto of why be in pain when you dont have to be. That is my opinion and I have a right to say that. You don't have to be so condisending just because someone doesn't agree with you.

Brandi - posted on 04/15/2009

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Quoting Kate:



Quoting Brandi:

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH EPIDERAL..
whether you have an epideral or natural. you HAVE control over your body cuz YOUR the one pushing~ i am one that had an epi and know TONS of pple that feel the same about it!!! so no matter what you have control.. its mind over matter... like common! dont dis an epideral birth when there NOTHING that proves a child any different from a natural. if your stuck in your own "natural way" then be considerate... i had epideral and i had FULL control over my body, my son is perfect and was VERY alert and has been a very strong boy... he has no weaknesses and is very smart! if people want to dis epi births i know MORE children with issues from natural birth .. but again natural and epideral is NO difference otherthen us smart women get the epideral so we can enjoy the whole experience of bring our lil person into the world.. i know iwas able to jokeand hold a smile til almost the end!!! its great. EPIDERAL is NOT a drug that hurts a child or mother!! its a simple numbing sensation to take the edge of the contraction away!!!!!!

this isnt an Argument ladies... god!!! EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT!!!!





A few things, if you please...






Number one, I think it's a woman's choice to have an epidural or not and NO ONE should make a lady feel bad for having one. Just because a woman gets an epi doesn't make her less of a woman or less of a mommy!






Second, the statement that there is nothing that proves a child is effected by an epidural is just false. There is TONS of proof that an epidural delivery DOES have an effect on the baby and the mother. Sometimes good...sometimes bad. But to make the statement that it doesn't make a difference is kinda silly. If it didn't make a difference...why would any one opt to have a needle shoved in their spine? Why would any one opt to have IV drugs or gas or oxygen or go all natural? It DOES make a difference but it depends on the individual's labor as to what kind of difference it may make.






Third "us smart women get the epidural"? Seriously? That's really insulting. Truely insulting. You're saying I'm dumb because I wanted and had a natural delivery? I'm an idiot because I wanted to experience child birth the way my mother did and her mother before her? I'm not as smart as you because I didn't WANT a needle in my spine? Where is the logic in that? Rude. Very



 



FOR ONE!!! i never dised someone that having an epideral,. I HAD ONE!
and i never dis'd a natural either, i said its dumb in my opinion cuz why feel the pain when you dont have too.. are you understanding??? lol  i know about BOTH thanks.. dont correct me. i have doctors living in MY HOME!!!!!



i guess i am rude but your WRONG with the problems from epideral.. and yes its a choice each  women takes.. how many children do you have lady? you are exactly my point of "trying to be a hero"? 



 i have friends and family that back me on this ALSO i have DOCTORS  that are direct family that KNOW the truth and YOU are wrong.. so go ahead and believe what you want... read your lil interenet tips cuz i think your reading a false site!!!



--a needle in your spine... YOU dont even feel the epideral, (i have 2 tattos and they hurt more!!) so what r u talking about . lol. wheres the logic. ENJOYING YOUR BIRTH AND BEING HAPPY.. why would a person want to feel the pain of a something a water melon coming outy?? id rather enjoy ..  i dont have a huge crack and would like to not feel the pain and be happy..



if you want natural go for it but it wil be much harder  on the mind BECAUSE YOU STRESSING TOO from feeling all the pain!! i dont DIS it i just think its a controlled drug of numbing that DOESnt hurt anyone. its like getting a tooth pulled , do you do it natural too?? doubt it!!!!!



and all lthe other drugs do NOT harm the child or you.. there is NOTHING that proves this.. so dont tell me anything, your so wrong so just stop now.. get off this thread then, your wrong in your doing.... i said what i wanted to say and that my opinion, you have such an issue with it and think so negative about an epideral READ about it...



 



AGAIN ILL STATE!!!!



Natural is fine good for you go for it!!!!!!!



Epideral will let you enjoy and relax and everything is EASY!!!! no pain!



*****THERE IS NOTHING A HOSPITAL WILL GIVE YOU TO HURT YOU & YOUR CHILD!!





 

Amanda - posted on 04/15/2009

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I was suppose to have an epidural with my first one, but he wanted to come out too quick. Was in labor with him for 12 hrs.. With my second one I told myself from beginning I wanted to have him natural, 23 1/2 hrs later I had him... Alot of my friends who have had epidurals, complain that their back hurts at times.. But I dunno.

Claire - posted on 04/15/2009

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It is true that our bodies are designed to do this particular job but before modern medicine giving birth was a huge risk to mother and baby. We are offered these choices now and it's personal. I think it is down to the mother and how she is feeling and coping with the pain, no two labours are alike and thanks to the wonder of modern medicine we are able to give birth in safe clean places and know that we can be kept as comfortable as possible. Theres nothing wrong with that nor is there anything wrong with natural birth it's personal choice and both are perfectly fine.

Michelle - posted on 04/15/2009

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Sabrina...



Labor pain is there for a reason!



I cant see how people can be so 'why have a natural birth and pain if you can have an epi nd be in no pain' I dont get it. Labr pain is there so that your body can do a job. When it is intervened with, the body can not tolerate the intervention and therefore does not work how it should. i wish women would see that having a baby is a natural process. If you equipp yourself with the facts and know how to control your body when in labor, the pain more a less disappears. I was in labor for 5 days. my waters broke on the 5th day, at 7:30pm. I got to hospital at 8:30 after packing my bags. I was examined and found to be 3cm. Was taken to another hospital with a Neonatal Unit. Strapped to the bed, with a monitor on, asked if I wanted pain relief. Obviosly I said No and after having my partner rub my back I felt No pain at all. The midwife couldnt beleive it as she tried to rub my back and get my partner to do it her was (the medical way) and I said No as i hurt more. his touch madde the pain go, as I thought this was our experience, for us to overcome together. After 5 min was told to lie back down and had my legs put in stirrups. My baby was born at 1.54am on Sunday and It was amazing. although I tore and had to have stitches. But this was becuase i was lyng down. If I had been left to kneel like I wanted It would have been fine. The intervention was uneccesary. Why put your body through this? I never wanted it.



I never feared labor would hurt. Not once through out my pregnancy. And It paid off. NExt time im having a homebirth as planned before if baby doesnt arrive too early. Brttany you can do it. !!!!!!

Rebecca - posted on 04/15/2009

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The main downs about a epidural is you cant get up and about as soon as you could without it which helps your body recover faster, you will also have to have a catheter put in and removed again which i have heard can be painfull in itself.  There is also a small chance of damaging your spinal cord when they administer it. On the plus side most women who have had it say it was the best thing they could have done especially those who have long drawn out labours and need the rest. I think you should just make sure you know the pros and cons of all the pain relief options available to you and make your decision when the time comes most of the time in the actuall moment all plans will fly out the window anyway you never know how things will happen and every pregnancy is different. I didnt have any pain relief at all with my first baby mainly because it all happened so fast I think the labour was a total of about 4 hours and i was induced for my second baby which for me made the contractions very strong with little break in between them and again everything happened very quickly. From the time i was induced to the time he was born was  6 hours and the strong pain only lasted for about 2 of them. The midwife gave me the gas mask without me asking and it made me feel horrible so i through it back at her. It was a very painfull experience but trust me as soon as that baby is born it is all over and you have this amazing thing in your arms which makes all of that hard work and pain worth it. Good luck I hope it all goes well for you.

Claire - posted on 04/15/2009

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* that should say i was up and about just a short while after delivering my daughter, still in baby brain melt stage :D *

Claire - posted on 04/15/2009

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I had my first child with epidural (thank god he was 9lbs 14 oz and got stuck and i ended up with internal and external stitches) however sencond time round there was no time and at the end of the day i would have been given a local for my stitches with my son. I would advise don't set anything in stone and dont feel bad if you want more or less pain relief than you thought you would. Each labour will be very different and you will feel different. Play it by how you feel at the time, if you are open to respond to however your body feels and you feel emotionally it will be alot easier. Every labour is personal and whatever helps you to get through as comfortable as possible it a bonus. I did like that within a very short amount of time after having my daughter (without epidural) but then I was more aware of what to expect with everything as she was my 2nd so you tend to feel more relaxed anyway I think. And it's true that it hurts alot with no pain relief but once that little baby is laid on you the pain melts away, so much so that when asked by my midwife if i would be back (20 mins after my daughter was born) I said Oh yes! I will be back, just give me a few years :)

Claire - posted on 04/15/2009

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that should say i was up and about getting showered very shortly after giving birth to my daughter. im still in baby melt brain phase hehe

Claire - posted on 04/15/2009

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I had my first child with epidural (thank god he was 9lbs 14 oz and got stuck and i ended up with internal and external stitches) however sencond time round there was no time and at the end of the day i would have been given a local for my stitches with my son. I would advise don't set anything in stone and dont feel bad if you want more or less pain relief than you thought you would. Each labour will be very different and you will feel different. Play it by how you feel at the time, if you are open to respond to however your body feels and you feel emotionally it will be alot easier. Every labour is personal and whatever helps you to get through as comfortable as possible it a bonus. I did like that within a very short amount of time after having my daughter (without epidural) but then I was more aware of what to expect with everything as she was my 2nd so you tend to feel more relaxed anyway I think. And it's true that it hurts alot with no pain relief but once that little baby is laid on you the pain melts away, so much so that when asked by my midwife if i would be back (20 mins after my daughter was born) I said Oh yes! I will be back, just give me a few years :)

Arwen - posted on 04/14/2009

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It takes a lot of support to go natural. It's sad, but some hospitals don't give it. Labor is meant to be bearable, but when you don't get support, it doesn't happen that way.



I was induced. I tried for 11 hours to go natural. I finally broke down after discovering I was only 4cm after all that time. My contractions were already on top of each other and off the scale, what would it be like later? lol I got the epidural and went from 4-5 cm to crowning within an hour.



My baby didn't have trouble sleeping or nursing, and you do feel the contractions enough to push. I still felt the snip of the doc making room and every single stitch afterwards. =P

Kate CP - posted on 04/14/2009

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Quoting Brandi:

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH EPIDERAL..
whether you have an epideral or natural. you HAVE control over your body cuz YOUR the one pushing~ i am one that had an epi and know TONS of pple that feel the same about it!!! so no matter what you have control.. its mind over matter... like common! dont dis an epideral birth when there NOTHING that proves a child any different from a natural. if your stuck in your own "natural way" then be considerate... i had epideral and i had FULL control over my body, my son is perfect and was VERY alert and has been a very strong boy... he has no weaknesses and is very smart! if people want to dis epi births i know MORE children with issues from natural birth .. but again natural and epideral is NO difference otherthen us smart women get the epideral so we can enjoy the whole experience of bring our lil person into the world.. i know iwas able to jokeand hold a smile til almost the end!!! its great. EPIDERAL is NOT a drug that hurts a child or mother!! its a simple numbing sensation to take the edge of the contraction away!!!!!!

this isnt an Argument ladies... god!!! EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT!!!!


A few things, if you please...



Number one, I think it's a woman's choice to have an epidural or not and NO ONE should make a lady feel bad for having one. Just because a woman gets an epi doesn't make her less of a woman or less of a mommy!



Second, the statement that there is nothing that proves a child is effected by an epidural is just false. There is TONS of proof that an epidural delivery DOES have an effect on the baby and the mother. Sometimes good...sometimes bad. But to make the statement that it doesn't make a difference is kinda silly. If it didn't make a difference...why would any one opt to have a needle shoved in their spine? Why would any one opt to have IV drugs or gas or oxygen or go all natural? It DOES make a difference but it depends on the individual's labor as to what kind of difference it may make.



Third "us smart women get the epidural"? Seriously? That's really insulting. Truely insulting. You're saying I'm dumb because I wanted and had a natural delivery? I'm an idiot because I wanted to experience child birth the way my mother did and her mother before her? I'm not as smart as you because I didn't WANT a needle in my spine? Where is the logic in that? Rude. Very rude.

Brandi - posted on 04/14/2009

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THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH EPIDERAL..

whether you have an epideral or natural. you HAVE control over your body cuz YOUR the one pushing~ i am one that had an epi and know TONS of pple that feel the same about it!!! so no matter what you have control.. its mind over matter... like common! dont dis an epideral birth when there NOTHING that proves a child any different from a natural. if your stuck in your own "natural way" then be considerate... i had epideral and i had FULL control over my body, my son is perfect and was VERY alert and has been a very strong boy... he has no weaknesses and is very smart! if people want to dis epi births i know MORE children with issues from natural birth .. but again natural and epideral is NO difference otherthen us smart women get the epideral so we can enjoy the whole experience of bring our lil person into the world.. i know iwas able to jokeand hold a smile til almost the end!!! its great. EPIDERAL is NOT a drug that hurts a child or mother!! its a simple numbing sensation to take the edge of the contraction away!!!!!!



this isnt an Argument ladies... god!!! EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT!!!!

Rachel - posted on 04/14/2009

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Oh I can't lie though...I couldn't go pee without the catheter for like 2 days..lol sorry if TMI. The doc said it was a result of the epi and it doesn't sound like much trouble but it was agitating after so much.

Stephanie - posted on 04/14/2009

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I had the shot of demerol & the gas while I was laboring and that worked wonders for me. About 30 minutes before I delivered my daughter the nurses thought that it was best for me to have the epidural, which I ended up getting. In the end it had NO EFFECT what-so-ever on me as my body does not take to freezing very well. I also felt like my back was broken for almost 2 weeks after my daughter was born....which I was told would be a possible side effect.



Every woman is different and will know what is best for them when it all comes down to it!!



Good luck with whatever you choose :)

Rachel - posted on 04/14/2009

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For the record- I had an epi after 12 hard hours and it worked until the pushing stage. At that point I experienced all the pain one could wish and hope for during birth.

Aashna - posted on 04/14/2009

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...lets see....in my opinion....epidural...was a life saver......but its all choice you know.....like while i was pregnant i told myself....that maybe ill go all natural....(thats how women did it before drugs were around)....



...but the morning i went into labor....i was sittin on the toilet...in the worst pain....and when i got to the hospital the nurses told me that i was only 1inch....to start walking the hallways.....like a half an hour later....i just couldnt take it....it hurt like hell....they admited me....got me all hooked up...and asked me if i wanted the epidural...and i was like "YES PLEASE"......there was a little pain...cuz of the needle and all....but....once it took over.....i slept until like 4pm...good thing was though i was able to give myself the doses.....so as soon as it wore off....all i had to do was press a button and it was alllll good.......towards the end.....i started to feel pressure.......so i thought maybe i needed to go to the bathroom....nurses were like no....and i was like give me a damn bedpan.....so it took of the pressure...obviously i didnt have to use the bathroom.....but i was in pain....even through the epi....they got me extra.....and when the doctor told me to hold my legs up and start pushing.....i swear....my legs weighed like a thousand pounds....i could barely hold them up.....they were lifeless......



....in the end was it worth it?....kinda....it was my first....thats what probably gets you.......



.....its always your choice...nobody can force you to have it or not....the same with breastfeeding......



....but my advice......try to see how you handle the first hour or so.....if its too much...then go with the epi....and make sure that you take only enough needed...unless you want to try holding your lifeless legs up....and push at the same time...



.....usually the nurses ask you...if you want it.....



....going natural.....tho....i wish i could've have beared the pain....my mother had me and my sister without the drugs........



 



....its all about how much pain you can handle....and how much you cant.....



....but trust me...either way you go...in the end...all you're gunna want to do is sleep.....



..so for that advice.....let the nurses keep the baby for that first night in the nursery....TRUST ME........you need your rest...before the crazy nights begin....

Jessica - posted on 04/14/2009

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i did not have an epidural but i wanted one! i was glad when it was over i did not have one. i got in to the hospital too late so i couldnt have one. i survived just fine and was not groggy or out of it when my son was born. yes, the pain was worth it. yes, i would do it all over again. whatever you decide to do just stay open to possibility that anything can happen, like showing up to the hospital too late for one! do whatever you think will make you feel more comfortable. if you don't feel good about having the epidural plan to not have one, if the time comes and you want you can change your mind, if you do it with enough time. you can plan for one and if you feel like you can do it without then go for it. talk to you doctor and try to come up with what you think you want. good luck!

Shelby - posted on 04/14/2009

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You can do it sister..but you need alot of support. I had an all natural birth and it was worth every second of the 32 hours of back labor that I had. You have to have your mind set that you want to do it natural and that an epidural is not an option or you will give in. If you want an epidural decide now or you will be disapponted in you decide to at the last minute. I know a few people that ended up being disappointed in themselves when they wanted a natural birth and ended up with an epidural. They keep thinking what if I could have just gone a little longer maybe I could have done it.Either way...birth is an amazing thing no matter how you do it. I suggest tking a bradley class and having a doula if you really want a natural birth. They are both extremely helpful! Good luck! Don't doubt yourself..you can do it and it is such an empowering experience. It is not about being a hero..it is doing what you were made to do.

Katie - posted on 04/14/2009

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I had an epidural and I did fine!  I didn't get it until I was almost completely dialated though so after all that pain and then finally having my last 3 contractions just feel like pressure was great!  Then I had my baby girl and took a little nap and woke up and went to see her in the NICU and then took a really hot bath.  It's up to you in the end and I was worried about the effects of the epidural but the Dr assured me that everything would be fine.  It was! 

Kate CP - posted on 04/14/2009

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Okay, I have a question...everyone who keeps saying you feel getting cut and stitched up from an episiotomy...was I the only one who's doctor gave her a local BEFORE he cut me and another right before he sewed me up? And if so...why the hell don't more doctors give locals?!
BTW, I was waaaaaaaaaay too busy to notice being stuck with a needle, cut, stuck with another needle, and sewn up. When you're birthing your mind is on other things. :)

Brandi - posted on 04/14/2009

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i say go with the epideral.. there is no difference other then no pain, or lots of pain!! why be a hero? get it done & enjoy it~ your getting the best thing in life so why not enjoy it while he or she comes! you want to enjoy your time right? so get the epideral and you can atleast sit and relax without contraction pains and then feeling the stitches and yucky stuff!!! It doeasnt effect the child in any shape or form so go for it!

and everyones body reacts different. i was able to get up and walk and do EVERYTHING after 15 mins.. some people get stuck sitting around for like an hr but if your strong and relax youll do great!!! keep a straight head and think positive. its a scary feeling once your there and ready!! i would suggest putting in a request for an epdieral tho whether you change your mind of not cuz sometimes it does take a few hours for them to get it to you... i waited almost 2 hrs. yikes.. Good luck with everything... hopefully you get a nice quick one like me... 20 mins of pushing :o)

Jacy - posted on 04/14/2009

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i planned a natural birth for my daughter  but i sided with the epidural. i kept an open mind that i may want to get one. with my daughter i was induced and didnt even feel my hard contractions until they broke my water at 5cm. them in 10 mins i started to feel them full force and was like ummm i think ill have that epidural now lol and had to wait 2 hours for it. which wasnt bad i actually had pretty good control over them when they came. i decided to still get it just so i knew i could stay in control of m labor and just incase i may need an emergency c section. im glad i got it because as soon as i hit 9cm there was back to back emergency c sections so i had to wait 4 hours to push. im not trying to scare you my labor was great and went really smoothe i only pushed for 58 mins if that. good luck!

Jenny - posted on 04/14/2009

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Hey Brittany,
Obviously you're getting a ton of replies on the this and lots of different perspectives. I'm a childbirth educator as well as a mother, so I just want to offer my professional perspective.
The only things I have to add are: 1) There are certain risks associated with epidurals. There's a greater chance of having a cesarean, and you might not have enough sensation in your pelvis to push your baby out effectively. That means that if you can have a vaginal birth, there's a chance your baby will need to be helped with with forceps or vacuum extraction. Some women do have great experiences with epidurals. But it's not accurate to tell you there's "no reason not to have one."
2) If you do decide to go natural, the best thing to do is stay out of bed! Keep moving and using the positions of your choice. Educate yourself on other methods for coping with pain. Read books and take a birth class with your partner or another support person. You might also want to consider hiring a doula.
Both my babies were born naturally after short labors. Like someone else said, don't listen to those people who tell you you'll be screaming for an epidural and decide ahead of time you won't be able to handle it. A natural birth allows you to be fully present for the birth of your baby, physically as well as mentally. It can really be an awesome feeling!

Sarah - posted on 04/14/2009

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I jusy had my daughter in Feb and went totally natural. The key is to stay at home as long as possible. I think it was worth it. My nurses told me my baby was so alert because i had had no medication.

Lindsey - posted on 04/14/2009

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i applaud you for even considering going "all-natural" for your childbirth :) i have a super low pain tolerance, however, and knew the moment i saw the plus sign that i was gettting any and all drugs they offered....lol. here is a few reasons why an epidural is worth getting: it does not hurt near as bad as women say, it felt like getting a shot, you can still feel when you are having contractions, but instead of pain, it is just a pressure feeling in your lower abdomen, you can sleep while you wait to on your body to dilate, time flies because you are not in pain :)





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SLEEP! I tried natural and i was so exhausted and was not progressing like i should(didnt know) hubby begged me to take it, I DID AND FELL TO RESTFUL, BEAUTIFUL SLEEP. I found out on my daughter's FIRST birthday, the doctors were considering emergency C SECTION and taking her, They were afraid i was going to die, and or lose my daughter. I am so thankful we are okay. i got another when I went in with my son, and it didnt go as well, but i am SOOOO getting a third epideral when I go in to have my second daughter.

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I had a natural birth because labor went too quickly for me to have an epidural!



It was SOOO painful. By the last 1/2 hour, I was in so much pain that I could not relax between contractions. They told me to stop pushing, and I just couldn't - even after they gave me Nubain (sp?).



There weren't any advantages to me as the mother. I couldn't get up and walk around even if I wanted to - by the time we got to the hospital, I could barely stand up because of the pain. There were probably advantages to my daughter - quick labor limited the trauma, and she came out very alert and screaming.



But if I have another kid, we are going to the hospital as soon as I feel more than 1 contraction, and I will definitely be getting an epidural. I don't want to go through that pain again if I can avoid it.

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I have had 5 totally natural births and they were the best thing I ever did. Hypno birthing is excellent. My sister has had an epidural and a natural birth and she enjoyed the natural birth far better. I found that having control over your body and what is going on was awsome!!! :)

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I had my daughter in July and I had been wanting to have an all natural too.  I went in planning to go as long as possible before they did the epi, but I actually found out that I am allergic to the epi.  I ended up getting an IV just in case I needed meds for pain.  I did pretty good.  The pain was pretty bad, but the meds they gave me through the IV were enough to easy the pain.  I do like the fact that I did not have the epi.  I got to get up and walk around with my daughter immediately after she was born.  Also, it went really fast.  They enduced me around 9:30 and she was here by 3:00.  Yes, the pain was very strong, but once she was out it immediately went away.  Plus, if you go to the classes for all natural birth it does help.  They teach you different ways to help ease the pain and I promise those ways really do work.  If you have any more questions, feel free to ask!  Good luck!

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Quoting Sabrina:



Quoting Stasia:




There ARE differences between having an epidural and having a natural birth. If you have an epidural your risk of having to have a cesarean goes up as well as many other medical interventions such as forceps and vacuum.








Birth is a natural beautiful thing and your body was made to do it. I think advising a woman to go for an epidural is not giving her enough credit. Your body was MADE to do it and contrary to what a lot of other women are saying here, you DO have the energy to push at the end, and it IS healthier for the baby to be drug free.








I had my daughter completely drug free and I wouldn't have wanted it any other way. I was able to walk, dance, sing, do WHATEVER I wanted while in labour and because of that and the non medical feel of the whole procedure my daughter was born alert and active. She nursed right away and we got a few hours of bonding in with her wide awake.








Epidurals do have side effects and increase the risk of further medical interventions, why make the decision to have one before you are experiencing labor, it really is not the nightmare so many women say it is









My son was also active and alert, for what I saw of him (they rushed him to the nicu since he had a bowel movement inside before he came out). Like I said if it was dangerous or not good for the baby they wouldn't give it to you.





That's not necessarilly true. There have been many medical "advances" that while they seemed like a really good idea at the time, looking back, have turned out to not be quite as beneficial as we had hoped. 



The choice for or against an epi is extremely personal and one that only Mommy should make. I can respect wanting to get other moms' opinions, though. But it is something that all women should think about on a personal basis. Is it right for YOU in YOUR situation? That's something no other woman can or should tell you.



Honestly, it does make me smile to see so many women have had natural births and had a good experience...or at least realized it's not so bad! But it really is a personal choice and a woman shouldn't feel bad or like less of a woman or mother because she got an epi.

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I fully intended on going all natural, but ended up getting a shot of demoral for pain. The demoral helped me sleep between contractions (although the dreams were like crazy acid trips) and it had worn off by the time my daughter was born. The weirdest part was that once delivery was over, I felt more normal than I had felt in months! I would take the same labor and delivery route again. Having something sticking into my spine is just too creepy for me. :)

Sabrina - posted on 04/14/2009

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Quoting Stasia:



There ARE differences between having an epidural and having a natural birth. If you have an epidural your risk of having to have a cesarean goes up as well as many other medical interventions such as forceps and vacuum.






Birth is a natural beautiful thing and your body was made to do it. I think advising a woman to go for an epidural is not giving her enough credit. Your body was MADE to do it and contrary to what a lot of other women are saying here, you DO have the energy to push at the end, and it IS healthier for the baby to be drug free.






I had my daughter completely drug free and I wouldn't have wanted it any other way. I was able to walk, dance, sing, do WHATEVER I wanted while in labour and because of that and the non medical feel of the whole procedure my daughter was born alert and active. She nursed right away and we got a few hours of bonding in with her wide awake.






Epidurals do have side effects and increase the risk of further medical interventions, why make the decision to have one before you are experiencing labor, it really is not the nightmare so many women say it is





My son was also active and alert, for what I saw of him (they rushed him to the nicu since he had a bowel movement inside before he came out). Like I said if it was dangerous or not good for the baby they wouldn't give it to you.

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TAKE THE EPIDURAL!!!! Both my kids are fine, and it saved me from the intense pain!!!

Erin - posted on 04/14/2009

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I had my daughter 9 weeks ago, and I was also passionate about having a natural birth. I knew to expect a big baby (she was 9lb 6oz - actually smaller than expected!) and had been told I'd probably need an epidural, but I was adamant I could do it. All the women in my family had big babies and I felt I was made to do it. So an epidural was an absolute last resort for me.



In the end I had no choice but to have it, as I was rushed to theatre for a forceps delivery after 20 hours of labour and over 2 of pushing. I laboured quite happily and naturally for the first 8 or 9 hours, but after the doctor broke my waters my contractions intensified and I started on the gas. After about an hour or so of this (and over 10 since labour started) I asked for the epidural as I was so ridiculously tired I didn't know if I could go on. The midwife knew my wishes about the epidural so offered me morphine instead. I agreed when she checked me and I was 7cm, and was told I'd be pushing soon! Ha!! By the time I was fully dilated and started to push (several hours later) the morphine had worn off and the gas was useless, so I pushed for over 2 hours a la natural! I was soooooo tired (started pushing at 5.30am). They had to get my baby out. So I eventually had to have the epidural anyway. Others have said they could feel the urge to push, and a bit of pressure. I felt NOTHING. Even with forceps you still have to push, and the midwife had to actually tell me when.



I would say definitely keep your options open, and don't be disappointed if you decide to have the epidural. It's true it keeps you in bed longer, and I'm still having UTI's from my catherter, but if you have a long labour like I did I'd say it would be very useful in conserving your energy so you can push effectively when the time comes! I often wonder if I'd gone ahead with the epidural earlier, whether my pushing would've been stronger and more efficient and I wouldn't have had to go theatre for the forceps. But the end result is the same! My big fat baby girl!!

Kasie - posted on 04/14/2009

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I was in labor for 2 full days without and epidural and on day 3 they gave me an epidural because they thought i was going to need a C-section and once my body relaxed and i wasn't fighting contractions I dilated from a 4 to pushing in 2 hours while i napped. When I have another child I don't think I will wait and fight the pain as long as i did. The choice is yours but weigh your options and do whats best for your situation.

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quoting toy:

Well to be honest I had a all natural birth with both of my children and I would do it again. It is safer for you and the baby. You will remember it better and appeciate it more. Of course that is just my opinion. Hope this helps. My mom had epidural and it got in her blood stream and she almost died.


Not remembering it is not necessarily true I had an epidural and I remember everything.

Stasia - posted on 04/14/2009

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Quoting Jade:



i went with an epidural. why not...the only difference in an epidural and natural is no/little pain. i would advise you to go with the epidural but its your decision.





There ARE differences between having an epidural and having a natural birth. If you have an epidural your risk of having to have a cesarean goes up as well as many other medical interventions such as forceps and vacuum.



Birth is a natural beautiful thing and your body was made to do it. I think advising a woman to go for an epidural is not giving her enough credit. Your body was MADE to do it and contrary to what a lot of other women are saying here, you DO have the energy to push at the end, and it IS healthier for the baby to be drug free.



I had my daughter completely drug free and I wouldn't have wanted it any other way. I was able to walk, dance, sing, do WHATEVER I wanted while in labour and because of that and the non medical feel of the whole procedure my daughter was born alert and active. She nursed right away and we got a few hours of bonding in with her wide awake.



Epidurals do have side effects and increase the risk of further medical interventions, why make the decision to have one before you are experiencing labor, it really is not the nightmare so many women say it is

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oh but make sure you are switching sides every hour to make sure you don't just stay numb on one side because the anisthetic goes to the lowest point of your body otherwise you'll be able to feel one side and not the other. (that's why you hear all those stories about only one side being numb, if your nurse isn't doing her job and rotating you only one side will be numb.)

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Yep. I thought I wanted to go all natural too but I was put on pitosin and ended up being on it for 12 hours and the pain went from a 0 to like an 8 in a matter of minutes( and I have a pretty high pain tolerance). I got the epidural and I felt nothing I slept 4 hours through my hard labor woke up pushed my daughter out and all I felt was pressure. It was GREAT! I will definitely be having another epidural. lol. But I wouldn't do pitosin again unless I had to.

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More power to you, but the pain is unbarible, i had to have it with a three of my kids, i was trying not to with my first but the pain takes over, very quickly and it's like no other, if u don't need it great but, why suffer .

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I was in labor for 4 hours with contractions 1 min apart before I got my eppi. They did give me a cath before the eppi an I didnt even feel it go in.



After 2 hours after the eppi I got a "hot spot" on the right side of my body an I could feel everything. They shot me up with a different pain killer an all was good. When it came time to push I could feel the pressure an I knew when to push just minus the pain.



I say good for you to all the mommys who went all natural, but why be in pain when you dont have to be. After my son came out it took about an hour before they would let me get up an walk around. I have had no complications from it an I'm very happy I went with the eppi.



Its your choice your baby, you will know what to do when the time comes. Just keep an open mind. Good luck an congratz!

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get a epidural!!! you'll need your energy for pushing ..trust me it took me from 5:30 in the morning until 4:30 at night to have my baby!!! it's the best,\!!!

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