I think my 3month old baby girl dont like me!!

Jen - posted on 05/11/2010

o had the same issue.. my opion..babys can feel our vibes..and who is the first person to care for baby..mommy.. we take care of everything and we get tired and cranky to.. so when daddy who does 20% or the work takes care of baby..hes alot calmber and relaxed..thus making baby relaxed..just remebr crying is the only way baby can comunitcate with you..dont get down just try to relax wich i know is hard..but when i stoped freaking out so did my son..

Nadine - posted on 05/10/2010

well i had the same problem @ the begining wis my 7month baby boy... but sometimes wen he sees me, he jst want me and no1 else & other times wen he sees his uncle he jst start laughin & enjoy it and cries if i take him from him...
dont feel sad or uncomfortable,,,, jst relax and enjoy it

Tabatha - posted on 05/10/2010

girls aare usually daddys girls.. my daighter is too.

Tanya - posted on 05/10/2010

You can try wearing a sling everwhere with her in it. Being wrapped in a sling (not a front or back carrier) close to moms heartbeat and body will sometimes calm the child down more than if you simply hold her.
The other thing when she is crying and fighting to be with you the sling will hold her tight and keep her safe and you can still do things that you need too.
She will start to get comfortable with being in the sling with you that she will start to nap in the sling and stop 'hating' you

Best of Luck!!

Jackie - posted on 05/10/2010

Babies can sense when you are stressed or tense. They also know certain smells and maybe thats all it is. If you wear perfume then stop for a week or so and see if maybe she just doesnt like it. Another thing you might try is having daddy wear a shirt for a few hours, over another of course, then laying it across your chest as you hold her. She will pick up his scent.
Another method is that maybe mommy doesnt have enough padding. My first born didnt want me to hold her. She prefered my mother to simply because mommy boney and nanas cushy.

Sandra - posted on 05/10/2010

I have a 7 month old daughter (7 months today, wow times flies) When she was 3 months old she went through a stage that made me really upset and cry. She would smile for daddy and was always happy around him. She would NOT ever smile for me, and didn't even notice if I was gone (I am a SAHM so I am very rarely gone) When my husband was gone she would cry for hours until her came back. Now that she is a little older she smiles and laughs for me as well.....

Hang in there I know from experience it is really hard, but I am sure it will pass.

Becky - posted on 05/10/2010

My daughter use to be a mommys girl and would scream when my husband held her or even talk to her. Than we went on vacation when she was 2 months and for the entire week my husband carried her in the kangaroo. Even since then she is a daddys girl. She is fine with me when he is not around but the mintue he comes home from work all she wants is him and nothing else.

Emma - posted on 05/10/2010

i would try not worry about it too much as shes only 3 mnths its just what babies do sometimes! may be she is used to her dad more if your not aready spend more time with her take her out by yourself in the pram, play with her etc! it will just be a phase that will pass babies can be just like that sometimes im know that probably doesnt help how your feeling but do you have a bit of postnatal dep too as babies can pick up on that and you may just feel that your not doing a good job as depression can do that to you! hope things improve for you which am sure they will! talk to your health vistor or midwife!

Randi - posted on 05/10/2010

I stayed home with my son for the first two months of his life. The next month and half I worked a "normal" schedule Mon-Fri 8-4. But around last April my schedule changed. I went to working midnights. Then to some days and evenings. While my baby still wanted his Momma he began to bond with his daddy more. His Daddy was having to do more for him because Daddy works "normal" hours. My son is 17 months old now and he is a Daddy's boy. But he still loves his Momma time. If you don't get that alone time very often and dad does that might have a lot to do with it. Of course babies can sense frustration and tension but they behave in different ways for many different reasons. I'm sure she loves you very much.

Tighler - posted on 05/09/2010

My 12 month old was closer to me than her daddy until she was 3 months. ever since she hit that mark she is the biggest daddy's girl, but he's also laid off and a stay at home dad now so. it depends on the situation!

Jonquil - posted on 05/09/2010

Awww, your baby does not dislike you. Something that helped me a lot when my son did that was observing what his father did that made him stop crying and cooperate. Babies have their preferences, too! They're people just like us, only they don't know how to communicate except to pretty much do things like cry and coo. I don't know why but it seems like a lot of us get in to motherhood thinking that we should automatically be able to soothe our babies just because we are their mothers. This is not the way it works. While there are instincts there that help out tremendously, it's our choice on whether or not to listen to those instincts and on top of that we DO have to learn various skills along with getting to know our child as a person so we can tailor our skills to fit their needs.

I think you might really benefit a lot from reading The Happiest Baby on the Block. It helps explain the way a baby's mind works in a very logical and understandable way and gives tons of tips and solutions to various problems you may encounter.

Krista - posted on 05/09/2010

Thank you all, i love that i have this sit to go to and other moms have gone through the same thing!!! i have read them all and im taking everones advice and useing it. Again think you all i dont feel like such a awfull mother now that i know these things happen. OH and happy mother days!

ps i will keep you all posted on the changes if there is any.

Jennifer - posted on 05/09/2010

My sister in law went through the same thing with her youngest! She used to cry bc of it. IDK why that sometimes happens! But now my SIL's little one is a year and wants to be with her CONSTANTLY! She hates not being able to see her! And it just all the sudden happened! I'm sure that it is just phase or something and your little one will too want to be with you all the time soon!

Andrea - posted on 05/09/2010

If this is your first daughter, dont be suprised. Some Dads are just more naturally relaxed even if we get a little tense they can sense it. My first daughter did this, but my second now she always wanted me and not her Dad, think of it this way u get one and he gets one.

Shannon - posted on 05/09/2010

It will pass for sure, but in the meantime try some new bonding techniques. My husband felt the same that our daughter did not like him because I breast fed for a few months and she preferred me for that. He tried using the kangaroo carry (laying on your back with your shirt open or off, and laying baby also with no shirt on top of your chest) because the skin to skin contact calms a baby and she will love hearing your heartbeat.... It worked! after a few days Aria is just as happy to let daddy calm her as she is to let me

Stephanie - posted on 05/08/2010

I agree with those that are saying that a baby can sense when you are uncomfortable. Also, a lot of babies go through some sort of stage like that. Just remember, this too shall pass. Just be strong and stay calm :)

Nicole - posted on 05/08/2010

Im sorry to hear that. Maybe you are having some feelings of depression that are making you uncomfortable? Its nothing to be ashamed of and you should definatly talk to you doctor if that is the case. If you are uncomfortable in any way a baby can sense that and it makes them upset.

Heather - posted on 05/08/2010

I'm a single mom and My son from day 1 has simply liked Men more. I practically didnt exist if a man came around in his first 6 months (unless it was to give him his bottle then he liked mommy) Now that he's 1 he is going through a "mommy-and-mommy-alone" phase and I WISH he would go to someone else! He doesnt even like my grandmother or my BF both of which he used to LOVE. So Honestly dont get offended, its partially a phase but also the male voice is deepr and easier for babies to hear, its more soothing to them. just try to relax with her

Heather - posted on 05/08/2010

Sometimes breastfed babies are harder for the mother because they know the boob is nearby. My daughter was a perfect angel for my mom and sister when I left her, within 5 minutes of me showing up she was fussing because she heard my voice.

Danielle - posted on 05/08/2010

I had the same problem with my son for a few weeks, I was frustrated with my current situation, what i suggest is try and relax and once you are than hold her, that might help

Theresia - posted on 05/08/2010

babies cant sense when you are uncomfortable, that may be it. maybe its just all the stress of being a new mommy. Just try to be calm and comfortable around her you could also try putting something of yours in her bed that smells like you because babies that age respond to smell before sight.

Nancy - posted on 05/07/2010

First off I want to ask you who she spends more time with and who holds her more?? If it is her daddy then the only thing is that she has a stronger bond with him. I have two daughters and have gone through this myself. Dont worry though because she WILL bond with you and the older she gets the closer she will get to you both. for the first year or so she may favor one of you over the other but that DOES NOT mean she doesn't love you. I read that when they start to get about toddler age they start to understand that the other parent can do the same things the other can just as good. i cant remember all the reason they switch but i did read it and my daughter favors me and has finally let her daddy start doing things for her and even says she wants him instead of me. so just hang in there every child is different and don't give up hope

Tracy - posted on 05/07/2010

I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM!! I am sooo jealous ..my daughter is 9 months now..I gave birth to her but she came out liking her daddy better! I just accepted we are all different and we like some more than others..sorry hun.