i tied my tubes after my last child now i am regreting it !

Jennifer - posted on 09/29/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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hello,
i am 28 years old and have three girls , my oldest is 13 then a 10 year old and my baby who is 6. yes i was very young when i had them but i wouldnt change my life if i could. now that my babies are getting older and i am hitting 30 soon i am really wishing i didnt tie my tubes so soon after my last child. i am almost falling under depression over this and dont know if i should try and even reverse what ive done. any thoughts???

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Holly - posted on 09/30/2010

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first I would love to say, if i may, dont ever feel badly about having your children so young! We had our first at 17, which yes by world standards may be young, and are now at 28 pregnant with our 5th child, due in January, but i dont care! we've always been great parents and love our kids, so........we personally agreed early off that we would jsut use rhythym or barrier methids because i have known many people who have used surgical contraception and regretted it later.
do you know exactly what process was used? if they were just cut and not burned on the ends you could try getting it reversed, kind of like a vasectomy reversal. A pricier option is to use in vitro fertilization. you still have yoru eggs, they just cant get where they're supposed to go! So they can take them out of your ovaries and fertilize them, then implant them. of course you may end up with multiples because manypeople usually do this way. you could also like others said adopt! there's always little babies our there that could use a home, and it may be the plan God has laid out for you at this point in your life! And His plan for the little child that you'd be adopting. You have a lot of options, but unfortunately all kinda pricey. I hope you get the answer you're looking for!

Amy - posted on 09/29/2010

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i only had one child and i wanted my tubes tied, but then i decided to get the paragard iud it leasts 10 years and now im glad i have an option ... but i've heard of reversals also they can harvest your eggs from you tubes and implant them in ur uterus and you can go that route

Heather - posted on 09/29/2010

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I almost did after my last one,but I had a thought I might want more. I got the 5 yr IUD so I couldnt,I have not heard alot about reversal. But it might be what you are looking for. Talk to your doctor.

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Jennifer - posted on 09/30/2010

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wow !! thanks for all the comments and thoughts. i am really thinking about the invitro and yes we have thought of adoption but my husband has no bio children of his own and we are going to try for that first. i would say to any woman out there that is thinking about getting them tied DONT its a mistake if u are not absolutly sure your are done ! me i was in a horrible relationship and thought that was what i needed to do. thanks again to everyone who commented :)

Amanda - posted on 09/30/2010

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I am feeling the same way. My doctor told me that my tubes would be premantly tied in 5 years. I have one more year to go and I am praying that I get pregnant again. The doctor also told me that getting a reversal actually reduces the chances of becoming pregnant. I haven't heard of the harvesting my eggs and planting them in my uterus. I will definitely look into that. And of course adoption is possible.

Juliana - posted on 09/30/2010

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how about adoption or foster parenting? I know there is a natural bond with babies that came out of you but there are so many kids in this world that would love to have a family and maybe you can provide that for them.

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