I've tried everything and he won't stop crying?

Samantha - posted on 08/27/2009 ( 93 moms have responded )

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I have trie everything and he wont stop crying. Ive feed him, burped him. changed him. held him. walked with him. cuddled him, and taken him out side, which normally works. But i still dont know whats wrong with him.

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Anne - posted on 09/01/2009

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when we got new insurance, i had to switch pediatricians and i'm soooooo happy with the new one, he's great. when i took my second son(he's now 3 months old) to him for his 2 week check up, i got a handout outlining everything that could/should be going on at that time and some of what to look for and do in the coming months.

"crying
babies cry. it's true. there is a normal amount of crying and an abnormal amount, let's start with abnormal:
irritability: a baby who is irritable screams nonstop for 2 hours in a row or longer. nothing can be done to quiet them even for a second (not feeding, rocking, swinging, car rides, snuggling-nothing). a baby who is irritable has meningitis until proven otherwise and should be brought straight to the emergency department.
colic: a baby who is colicky cries, and cries a lot. he/she never cries for 2 hours in a row or longer (if he/she did that baby would be irritable). crying goes on and off all day long (usually more at night, however) and if timed with a stop watch would be more than 3 hours every 24 day. reasons for colic include gerd and milk protein allergy as well as idiopathic colic (idiopathic colic means that we don't know why they are colicky they just are). colic usually starts at 3 weeks, is maximal at 3 months, and resolves by 9 months of age.
fussy: a fussy baby cries often. never more than 2 hours in a row (or else they'd be irritable) and total crying time is less than 3 hours in a 24 period (or else they'd be colicky). a fussy baby is normal. just love him/her."

"gastro esophageal reflux disease(gerd)
symptoms: spitting up frequently (~8 times a day or more), arching the back when feeding or shortly after, appearing to be in pain when feeding or shortly after. babies can also be excessively gassy and fussy.
treatment: antireflux medications (zantac, pepcid, axid, prevacid). despite the myth, a change in formula is not the treatment for uncomplicated gerd."

"gassiness
babies are gassy. three times as gassy as their fathers. this is because babies swallow a lot of air when they feed. that air has to go somewhere; it can be belched(burped) out, but babies don't even know how to burp themselves, or it can go through the bowels and get passed as flatulence(farting). nothing works for gassiness (mylicon drops have been proven to be a placebo). most gassiness is not due to any medical condition. gerd predisposes to gassiness because babies will swallow more air when their esophagus hurts(see above). lactose intolerance can cause babies to be very gassy but it is very rare (less than 1 in 100,000 babies); lactose intolerant babies will also have severe diarrhea (~20 times a day) and poor growth. the treatment is a lactose-free formula (similac sensitive or enfamil lactose-free)."

"symptoms of milk protein allergy include severe gastro esophageal reflux disease, blood or mucus in stools, and severe eczema. soy based formulas (isomil advance and prosobee lipil) are discouraged due to a risk of allergic diseases including asthma."


that's everything that my doctor has told me. my son was crying a lot just like yours and sometimes the only thing that would help was if i would give him a bottle. at one point, i think he was taking 5-6 oz at a time which for a newborn is about 2-3 times what the normal is.when i reached my point of peak frustration i took him to see the doctor and based on everything that i told him, we thought with relative certainty that he has gerd. the doc explained to me that the reason that he was drinking so much was because he was trying to find something to coat his esophagus to ease the pain of the acid. so we tried the zantac for about 2 weeks and it didn't seem to be doing any good and then we switched to prevacid and it seems to be helping a lot better.

so about the best advice i can give is to try some of the advice from some of these awesome moms, and if nothing that you try seems to be working then maybe you need to make an appointment with the your doctor and see if they can't help you.

Eva - posted on 08/27/2009

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I know exactly how you feel. How old is he? Can you still swaddle him? Maybe he's overtired and can't settle himself down. My 3 month old likes it if I swaddle him really tightly, bounce him fairly vigorously (you don't have to worry about shaken baby syndrome unless you're violently whipping his head back and forth), and make a loud harsh shooshing sound a couple inches from his ear. It kind of depends on how old your baby is though, he might not like being swaddled.

Erika - posted on 09/01/2009

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could be colic, i had that problem for the first 6 months, same thing every night, some times swaddleing him and sitting on the bath tub and running the water helped, but not always

Sarah Jane - posted on 09/01/2009

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there might be something else that put up.. try to consult him with the pediatrician, that would best help u i guess.. and yes it might be just a colic pain i guess..

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When my baby went through a fussy7 period (evenings usually) around 3-6 weeks of age, I had one of those soft slings. I'd wear him in it and tuck him completely in, so he was cocooned in there, and then I'd just try to go about my evening business, but doing a lot of walking around and swaying. That usually worked. i think the wramth, shutting out all sensory input, and the movement all were soothing. Good luck!

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i would sing or humm to my son and he would stop crying..I would have to do that to get him to sleep the first 5 months.( along with rocking) Good Luck.

Gillian - posted on 09/03/2009

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my baby boy was just the same,he constantly cried,i would get him checked over by a doctor just to sure its nothing medical as it turned out to be with my boy,colic is very painful for a baby and i used infacol for my kids and it helped.unfortunatly though some babies just do cry alot,and you may have to weather the storm but try to stay calm and if you need a breather then take one,go have a cup of tea then come back,if you feel yourself getting cross just take five minutes but dont worry everyone gets cross sometimes especially with a screaming baby it can become very tiring,just make sure baby is put somewhere safe,then have a minute to collect yourself.im sure this will pass but get him checked out just to be safe.

Sally - posted on 09/02/2009

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he could also be lactose intollerant my son is and i am now on a soy formula he is getting better he has colic on top of that so he is not 100% but the soy helped

Sally - posted on 09/02/2009

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hey that's sounds so familiar how old is your baby????

my son is now 9 weeks and i had the same thing he just keep crying i went to the doctor and my son had colic and he had a tear in his bum it took me 4 different doctors to diagnose it .......but they say it normally disappears after 12 weeks well the colic anyway for the bum i had to go to the doc and get some cream!!!!

dont know weather that helps!!!! good luck

Sarah - posted on 09/02/2009

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if it is wind try lying him on a table on his stomach and rub his back you can be a little rough(not in a bad way) with this and it usually will move the wind. My son suffered from wind very bad and we did this a lot with him i was also told to move the legs up and down this can move the wind down and out the bottom end.

If it is colic i would go to the chemist and ask for an over the counter medication( the doctor recommended me to do this with my daughter who suffered from colic extremely bad) just talk to the pharmacist.

Jessica - posted on 09/02/2009

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A VACCUM untill you talk to your doctor..It worked for our son just leave it running close to him..and it will soothe the baby

Vanessa - posted on 09/02/2009

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maybe it is colic. My now 8yr old was like that I changed his formula to a lactose free one and he did better.

Christine - posted on 09/02/2009

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My lil boy does the same thing sometimes. Me and my husband pick him up and bring him in our room with us and lay him on the bed. Generally within 10 minutes he is out like a light. I cant gaurantee it will work but its something you can try.

Rose - posted on 09/02/2009

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my son was da same. nice warm baths with a washer over his tummy. rubbing his tummy...make sure his tummy is covered use jump suits not singlets cause it keeps his tummy covered... rap him up and put him on his side with pillows in front and behind 2 surport him....always burp him twice in da middle of the bottle and at the end... keep him sitting up 4 20mins even if he is asleep before u put him down....try and get him 2 take a dummy cause it really helps....

Beth - posted on 09/02/2009

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My son was exactly like this. He would cry for three hours straight every evening. There wasnt anything that i could do for him. He had colic really bad. i gave him gas drops which seemed to have helped a little bit. I hope this helps a little

Angel - posted on 09/01/2009

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well ussaully when a baby is fussy and nothing else is wronge it could mean gass! its crazy but my son fusses allot and when i give him his gass med hes fine! look for gripe water its in the medicen section at walmart its a special order thing so call before you go to make sure they have it! its all natural so its not gonna hurt him anouther thing you might want to try is put him/her on a flat surface and hold his/her feet/legs and curl his legs up to his/her belly like hes doing leg lifts. it will help to move the gass along! if that doesnt work give him/her only .06mg of tylonole it should help! and for the bath thing try getting in with him i did that ith my baby and he loves the bath now. dont let the water get too hot or too cold!

Kia - posted on 09/01/2009

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Quoting Eva:

I know exactly how you feel. How old is he? Can you still swaddle him? Maybe he's overtired and can't settle himself down. My 3 month old likes it if I swaddle him really tightly, bounce him fairly vigorously (you don't have to worry about shaken baby syndrome unless you're violently whipping his head back and forth), and make a loud harsh shooshing sound a couple inches from his ear. It kind of depends on how old your baby is though, he might not like being swaddled.


 



 



I agree with this - I did these things exactly when my son was going through the crying-non-stop thing - the swaddling tightly and vigorous bouncing and shooshing worked atleast for a while.



 After about 2 months I put him on formula and I noticed a huge change after a week or two. It broke my heart to stop breastfeeding but if you are not bottle feeding it may be something to consider - I don't know why it worked but it did for some reason. Good luck.

Lia - posted on 09/01/2009

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It seems like most moms suggest colic may be the culprit. Although that may be likely u may want to have him checked for G.E.R.D Its like acid reflux n can be very painful for little ones. My daughter had the same issue. In the mean time, u can try to weigh down his feeding w/ a little rice cereal, and make sure he stays upright during and after feedings. With my daughter I had to keep her in an up right position all the time, she was even at an incline when she slept. It helped alot!!!

Nichole - posted on 09/01/2009

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you know babies can sense when their mother or whoever has them is tensed, stressed out or irritated. This makes them feelthesame way. My little one started teething at two months and i have a short fuse for crying babies. And boy did he test that fuse! I tried everything just like you but because i was upset and irritated it just seemed like i was making him cry more! then my babies daddy mother came over picked him up out of my arms and he was quiet jus like that. I thought my heart had broke. but she explained that she was not tense or irritated and the baby sensed her calmness and was soothed by it. So try having another mom who has not been stressed out come give you a hand in the mean time youtake a hot bath and relax and then when you go back to hold your child your relaxed and your baby should cuddle you. Hopefully likethe others said its not colic.but if what i suggested does not work you might try gently pushing on her belly if she cries harder she is gassy and you need to workthat gas out she is miserable. and if she is still hysterical take her to your pediatrician

Laura - posted on 09/01/2009

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have you tried running a fan in his room? I run a daycare and have used this it really works..I also use a machine called a white noise..it makes a soothing sound and blocks out noise I got mine off the internet

Christa - posted on 09/01/2009

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My daughter did that for the first five months. She literally cried 16 hours out of 24 hours a day. NOTHING worked and the doctor's never found anything wrong. She's 25 months old now and is happy and healthy. YOU will get through it and so will he. Hang in there.

Carol - posted on 09/01/2009

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Have u tried a different formula if you are bottle feeding... we had to end up givin our first a low iron formula when she was a newborn b/c she was real cranky. I think it was by similac.

Karen - posted on 09/01/2009

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by the way reflux can be treated with medication to heal erosions that are causing pain

Karen - posted on 09/01/2009

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Colic Has very specific symptoms.....usually starts at 3 weeks of age, with crying for about 3 hours a day at the same time ( usually evening ) until 3 months of age. If you baby crys alot all day... it could be acid reflux. Does you baby spit up at all? Try calling your pediatrician.....if the crying is new it could be that reflux is causing him some pain.

Alicia - posted on 09/01/2009

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Not sure if mentioned or not, but I've heard babies can sense when you are frustrated or what not especially if you are "fighting" to get them to sleep/settle down (not saying you are/were). But best is to be calm yourself as I find that works (or if you need a break first to calm down . . . ). Otherwise we have one of those big "work out balls" that are used for sit-ups/crunches & what not that we sit on to "bounce" the baby to sleep and find that helps too.

Keisha - posted on 09/01/2009

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Try music!! My son calmed down when I sang to him or played the same music over and over. Classical I've heard sometimes works. Now that he's 17 months he loves anything with a beat.

Wendy - posted on 08/31/2009

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my baby started teething at 3 monthes, and didnt get her first tooth til 10 monthes, i knew she was teething caused she was putting everything in her mouth, try a cold/cool wash cloth for him to chew on, during bath time my lil girl would pick up the wash cloth and put it in her mouth, i hope that made sense and hope it is helpful good luck

Christina - posted on 08/31/2009

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we gave my sisters baby chamomile tea warm & barely sweetened so my niece would drink it & it helps her. my newborn niece was the same way & my twin sister came over 1 day crying with her poor lilly screaming. i told my sister to lay down, me & my boyfriend made her some tea & she is now a happy baby again & she will sleep most of the night. try this (its all natural). good luck!!

Jody - posted on 08/31/2009

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The best advice I can give you is buy the book "On Becoming Baby Wise"! It helps you get your baby on a schedule which helps them sleep through the night quickly! I have 2 kids and this book works but the baby will have to cry some and that is ok! They have to learn to soothe themselves to sleep! My next door neighbor recommended this book and she has 5 kids and she used the book on each of them and it worked! Very good book....cause sleep is important! I hope this helps!

Dawn - posted on 08/31/2009

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They say babies who are colic iis due to Acid Reflex...very painful! Have you tried different formula's? If soand the formula's didn't help, why don't you try putting him on Milk and give him Vitamins daily?

Hannah - posted on 08/31/2009

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has he got a routine? i had the same problem we used to wake him up at 6:30 am feed him change him ect play with im bout eight stick him in his chair or play mat make sure hes fine go do your thing housework ect by nine or ten put him to bed for a while get some sleep your self if need be then get him up bout half 11 12 for lunch then play with him go out to the park then back to bed bout 2 3 up for tea then bath and bed for 6 7 ish then i found by six months he was fine till he wanted cuddles all the time and scream when you left the room i know it sounds bad but we did the pick up put down routine for 4 hours after that we left him in his cot he had toys drink tv and he was safe so we left him he carried on screaming for anouter 2 hrs before he stopped but know he stays in his bed till we get up with no bother unless he not well then he comes in with us but all the time he was screaming i wanted to hold him but i knew i couldnt or it would be harder later on
also is it after feeds? if still on milk he might have reflux james still has it if he drinks milks

Cassandra - posted on 08/31/2009

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i've learnt with my son that being hungry and stomach hurting can look the same at a young age. i was over feeding my son because he would start crying after about 2 hours, and i thought he was hungry again. well, it turns out, if babies' bellies hurt, they want to suck on things (soothing).. which only made it worse of course.
i would first check to see if there's nothing physically wrong, (socks too tight, laying on a toy, hot/cold-best place to check is back of neck)if not, try different things. keep it up for a while, it takes some babies a while to calm down after being upset. my son still likes to lay on my chest until he falls asleep when he doesnt feel well. he doesnt want to be touched, talked to or looked at, just wants his mommy's familiar smell, heart beat and sound of my voice (talking to other people). it may work..?

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What about Colic? Colic will cause lots of misery for your child, his tummy may be hurting him if it is Colic and NOTHING will sooth it, at least not permenatly. you can get a wash cloth and wet it in warm water that is stilll safe enough to put onhis skin without burning him. massage his tummy with it in a circular way, this usually helps loosen up the gas.



Okay, now there may be one other thing I can think of, Leg cramps, or what some call growing pains! this could be it, and if it is, they will cry forever , you have to massage there les for them to feel better. Try this it might work.



Best of luck to you.

Erica - posted on 08/31/2009

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okay there is this trick i saw on oprah once....seriously i was rolling my eyes and saying whatever when i saw it but i tried it on my daughter (she was colic) first you swaddle them really tightly, then lay them face down on your arm with their face up @ your elbow and bottom @ your hand, use ur hand to hold onto them. Then if they take a pacifier hold it in their mouth with your free hand and kinda bounce them as you shhhhhhhh them, you have to be shushing a little louder than they are crying. I though it was BS until i tried it and was like WOW this really works. I used it all the time with my 3rd child too! Good luck!

Veronica - posted on 08/31/2009

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It may just be gas. Maybe try giving some Mylicon drops, they are safe to give at his age. Also when my son had gas in addition to the Mylicon drops it helped to lay him on his back and move his legs in a motion that simulated riding a bike. (This helped with constipation also.)

Dale - posted on 08/31/2009

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at about 2 months my daughter started doing the same thing....at first i got really frustrated because i couldn't work out what was wrong, it was a different cry to when she had colic too so i knew it wasn't that... after about a week i realized she was doing it because she was exausted and i'd have to sit there holding her to me patting her back and tune out the crying and eventually she'd just go to sleep, it doesn't happen so much anymore, basically only when she doesn't get enough sleep during nap time. you just have to be patient and it'll work itself out

Trisha - posted on 08/30/2009

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Maybe he is teething...teething can start way early. There is teething tablets you can try and give him tylenol as well. There are some babies that no matter what they will just cry and depending on how your feeling if your frustrated he will catch on and he can sense it. There are tons of things you can try a nice warm bath, put him in a swing and play the music, get some toys he can hold read to him, something could be botherin him if nothin works call the doctor. They are really helpful. He could have gas as well, they have something for that as well its called mylecon or something

Tanya - posted on 08/30/2009

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there are a lot of things that could be annoying him. He might not like the breastmilk/formula you are giving him, he may need a change or it might not be satisfying him. A good idea is to take him to the doctor if he is like it constantly and get a checkup and ask about different things to try. It might be something really simple.



If he is on a bottle, try a different type of bottle, or try some infants friend. I'm just guessing but my baby only cries constantly when she has an upset tummy or is really hungry.

Beth - posted on 08/30/2009

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one thing that can help is to massage the baby with a cold pressed grape seed oil there are ways to find a class in your area for baby massage. let me know if you need any more help finding a class i might be able to help.

Kimberly - posted on 08/30/2009

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I have to agree. My daughter was a very happy baby, but when I would lay her down on her back she would cry. She had a lot of gas and spit up a lot. I tried so many formulas I was going nuts! Finally got her put on nutramigen. The moment I gave her that formula she was relieved and has been good ever since

Anna - posted on 08/30/2009

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Have you tried wearing him in a sling? the wrap kind are really comfortable and babies love being close and carried. Make sure there's nothing making him uncomfortable - like, their skin can get raw and painful in the deep creases around the neck, or maybe the kind of diapers you are using are uncomfortable on him? Also, it might help to eliminate some foods from your diet for a while if you are breastfeeding - I found if I ate green vegetables it would make my boy cry for the first few months. Massage can help too.

Maria - posted on 08/30/2009

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have you been to your gp? starting point it could be a term known as colic its basically trapped wind for a baby and it can be very painful if he pulls his legs up to his chest or has very dark green poo in his nappy its colic there are lots of different things for that hope this was helpful if not a solution xx

Miranda - posted on 08/30/2009

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Used gas drops for my little ones when they went through their crying fits. There is a brand called Little Tummy's and it worked great. It was reccomended to me by my doc. I have a community for mother's who have or did have babied with colic to give advise and support. Check it out. Good Luck and God Bless.

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He could be constipated or gassy also when this happens, just wrap a blanket around his stomach tight. It will soothe him and he will eventually feel better. Just a thought if nothing else worked.

LINDA - posted on 08/30/2009

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my friend had t same prob, n b cos u say wen he's out side it works.....well go to yr doc get em checked as my friends baby wasnt gettn enough oxegen in his lungs, as one of his nosterils was blocked, its wort checking out,,,good luck

Sierra - posted on 08/29/2009

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it might be his teeth. My youngest daughter cried for nearly a week straight at 2 and a half months old. I went to the Dr.s and freaked out convincing my self it was a more serious problems because he said there was nothing wrong with her but couldn't answer why she was crying. At almost 3 months i discovered a tooth the hard way while breast feeding, i never knew babies can get teeth that young. And there SHARP!

Beth - posted on 08/29/2009

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I had the same problem with all of my babies and it ended up after much trial and error with our pediatrician that they were all allergic to milk and soy. I had to follow a special diet for breastfeeding and with my first child I had to use special formula. I would take him in to the doctor.

Brenda - posted on 08/29/2009

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First, you have to calm down. Colic is a noraml thing, but first you have to rule out everything else before you think it is colic. Make certain there are no physcial discomforts, like a tied toe (a hair or thread that gets wrapped around the toe, sometimes very hard to see) or something like that. If it is colic, no one knows for sure what causes it. Some theories hold that they have gas, others say it is simply pain caused by an immature nervous system. Try holding him across your forearm, where your arm rests under the belly, and gently rock back and forth while you stand or pace. Movement helps colicky babies quite a bit. My now four year old did nothing but scream for the first six months of life, and there was nothing wrong with him phsyically. What you want to rule out are the less obvious things, like reflux, which could make him uncomfortable. While Happiest Baby on the Block can work for some, it is basically a whole book dedicated to five things: Side lying positon, swaddling, shhhing, sucking (pacifiers), and something else I forgot. You can find it on Youtube with clips from the DVD. Now my sons have both HATED swaddling, so don't for him into being swaddled if he doesn't like it. Strip him down to the diaper (or strip that too if you're brave, :)) and strip yourself bare to the waist. The skin on skin contact will sometimes help to soothe a baby that is upset. Also, take a bath WITH him. Fill the tub with nice warm water and sit in the tub with him. This is a little secret I didn't know with my first. Not only do you get a tearfree bath, but it can also calm an upset baby because they get comfort from you and from being in the warm water (reminds them of the womb, the same concept of the S's). If it is gas, the gas drops might help, but don't rule out teething either. My little guy started teething at about nine weeks and we had no idea until I could finally feel the little tooth bud under the surface, so you might try some tylenol to see if it helps. Don't try this if he is so upset you think he'd choke on the liquid however. If you have a fan let him watch it, it was one of the few things that would sooth my oldest, ceiling fan that is. Also, holding him close and gently bouncing on the side of the bed may help (especially while using skin on skin contact). I know it is frustrating but try to keep yourself calm. If you get too frustrated put the baby down for a minute and collect yourself. If it is colic, there is not a lot you can do until the fit of crying passes. However, I do recommend seeing your doctor about it just to rule out medical concerns. I hope this helps some, and good luck.

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my son gets like that when hes over tired does he take naps during the day because i made the mistake of keeping my son awake so that he would sleep through the night and now that he doesent nap hes very crankey at night but i cant get him to nap to save my life

Melissa - posted on 08/29/2009

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Is he colic? If so get the book. The Happiest Baby on the Block. By Harvey Karp. My first son was Colic for the first three months of his life. This book was a life saver!!

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my daughter was the same way she cried one time for 6 hours! I used lots of gas meds. and warm compress on stomach. as well as swadles her held her tightly adaingst me and patted her butt the harder and faster the more she liked it! (I know it sounds crazy!) but it was the only thing that worked for her! and I refused to drive around with her that's one bad habit you don't want to start! she also liked her swing! on high. also try feeding one or two ounces at a time and burping her.
just hang in there It seems like it'll never stop by then one day it stops. also try the DR. BROWN BOTTLES IF YOUR BOTTLE FEEDING! they are designed for colicy babies and work! good luck!

Alishia - posted on 08/29/2009

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I use to give both my boys gas medician, wrap them up, warm water, lay them on their left side in my arms, and rock and rock and rock and sometimes cry with them

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just a few possibilities, acid reflux, colic, gassy tummy ( I know when I have gas its VERY painful) teething, start of getting sick? there are so many possibilities, but if your baby is typically very calm and happy I would take the baby in to get checked out something serious could be wrong.

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