I want to have another baby. Am I too young and is it too soon?

Kara - posted on 06/24/2010 ( 106 moms have responded )

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Im 24 in august and my daughter will be 1,my husband and i have been talking about having another baby.Im worried what my family will think of me if i have another baby to soon and also how hard it will be and if i can cope.I want my kids to be close together and i really only want 2 kids.

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Courtney - posted on 06/26/2010

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As a mother of 4, I had a child at 21, 23,25 and 27. I have often times been told that I had too many children too quickly. While I do agree with that, I also would not change a thing, I adore my children. Please be aware that my doctor had told me many times that the more children you have and the closer together you have them the more pain that could be caused from the pregnancy. I think so long as you have an income and are able to support the baby, it's your decision, good luck and congratulations!

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Kaitlin - posted on 06/27/2010

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I'm having my second in October, and they will be less than 13 months apart! I will be 24 in a week. Do it while you're young and have the energy!

Casey - posted on 06/27/2010

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if you guys can handle it then go for it...at the end of the day it's you and your husband taking care of the kids..don't let anyone else's words have an influence on what you want to do.

Charlie - posted on 06/27/2010

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I was 24 when we had our second child. If its what you want go for it, its your decision and family. I would however recommend you see a doctor to make sure you're healthy and fit enough. We started trying when our son turned 1, I fell pregnant twice and lost both. I was told by the hospital to wait 3 months and it was probably cos my body wasn't ready. Our little girl was born Jan just gone. I feel sad for the 2 I will never meet but am so happy my little girl is here, safe and sound and very healthy. I know it can be hard to wait but sometimes its worth it just to make sure everything is right. Hope this helps x x x x

Kayla - posted on 06/27/2010

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you are not to young,you should have a other baby. i had my first child at 18 year old and now i am 20 and i am have a other baby,
24 is a good age to have a other baby so go for it

Kandice - posted on 06/27/2010

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You aren't too young... I have children that are 11 months apart (I was 22 when I had my children) and my second child ended up being twins... So God works in Mysterious ways, But he will not give you more than you can handle! I'll pray for you. God Bless You and your family!

CHANTELLE - posted on 06/27/2010

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YOUR 24 YH WITH 1 CHILD AGED 1 WELL IM 26 WITH 5 KIDS SO I CANT SEE HOW U THINK YOU ARE TOO YOUNG LUV, BUT I WOULD ADVISE U ITS NOT EASY HAVING MORE THAN 1 UNDER THE AGE OF 3, ITS ALOT OF WORK CONSTANT ARGUEMENTS ON WHO,S GONNA GET MUMMYS ATTENTION, BUT IF ANOTHER BABY IS WHAT U WANT THEN GO FOR IT, YOU ARE AN ADULT IVE ALWAYS BELIEVED IT MUST BE VERY BORING FOR AN ONLY CHILD,

Lizan - posted on 06/27/2010

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Never!! I'm pregnant with my 2nd, my first won't even be 2 years when the 2nd is born... big plus, having them close together means they grow up sooner! :D

Jayde - posted on 06/27/2010

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I don't think your too young, its your life and you can do what you want!! I think its good to have kids close togehter and for the mummas to be young! I am 20 and i have a 10 month old. xx

JoeyLynn - posted on 06/27/2010

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go for it!! I'm 22 and my son is just 7mths and we are pregnant again!! I am super excited! do what you think is best for your family. :)

Anne - posted on 06/27/2010

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I'm 26, me and my partner have a 19 month old son and we decided that we wanted another baby once he was 1, i fell pregnant within weeks of his 1st birthday but that baby wasn't ment to be and i lost it. Its taken along time to fall pregnant again but we are expecting another in jan11.
If your both ready to have another i don't see what it has to do with anyone else.
Good luck to you xox

Mariah - posted on 06/27/2010

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i am 26 now and my girls are almost 19 months apart. it is hard at first but for me it is really hard because my oldest is almost 2 and we are potty training but we are almost done..and i am breastfeeding the youngest one who is 3 months. 2 in diapers is not a bad thing. your life and your family (husband, you and your daughter) is all that should matter if you want to have another one that is up to you and your husband. everyone else will love baby either way

Elysia - posted on 06/27/2010

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only u can decide if your ready for another baby, i only just turned 23 in march and my son is 15months old and my 2nd bubba is due in 2 weeks. I know its going to be stressful at times considering they will both be so young but i cant wait.

Lyndsey - posted on 06/27/2010

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ill be 23 in august (our first child will be 2 in october) and about to have my second baby pretty much any day now. my children will be 21 months apart. my son was only 12months old when i got pregnant with our second and we wanted it that way. it is all up to you and your husband. if you guys feel it is ready for another baby then it really shouldnt matter what everyone else thinks. most of my family was very happy for us when we told them we were trying again and then pregnant again, but there are always those 1 or 2 people that will complain about anything they can to get the attention on them. just go with what you and your husband want.

Natasha - posted on 06/26/2010

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I would say go 4 it. i am really not the 1 to listen to what family members say. I just made 30 & i have 4 beautiful children.. And after each pregnancy my family would be the 1st to say don't have anymore.. But the way i see it is if im taking care of all my children with no problem, then i should b able to have as many as I can afford. I had my first 2 children about 2 years apart then i waited 6 yrs and had the next two 20 months apart, lol, sometimes i go crazy but its all worth it for me. And eventually im going to have just 1 more, lol. I know im crazy but i just love it. lol

Jami - posted on 06/26/2010

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I say go for it! I wish i would have gotten started earlier, but I had my first baby at 30. I really wanted to have another right away, but my husband and I decided to wait about 2 years, plus I think its only fair to let my son be a baby. I am sure whatever decision you and your husband choose will be the right one for your family. ~Good Luck

Brittney - posted on 06/26/2010

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I just turned 25 yesterday, I have a 21 month old and a 4 month old. It's great so far having them close but it's a lot of stress. Mostly becuase I'm kinda alone, my husband is deployed basically the past 1 1/2 years and still has 6 months to go. It's financially a lot between 2 in diapers and now as soon as I get one off formula I now have another one. But I wouldn't trade it for anything. My family didn't have an issue with me getting pregnant again so quickly they knew it was planned he only had 2 weeks to make it happen and it def. did lol. I actually had a lot of people where I work that were shocked and I kinda caught crap comments like Oh knocked up again already, or of course the when's number 3 coming!

Heather - posted on 06/26/2010

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shoot i'm only 20, my twin girls 1yrs&9 months.me & my boyfriend are already planning to try for #3 around christmas. its all in how bad you want it. who cares what the fam thinks cuz u know as soon as baby #2 gets there they will be filled w/ just as much joy as they were w/ #1.
best of luck to you!

Amber - posted on 06/26/2010

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Go for it! If you both are ready, to hell with what everyone else thinks! There will be days that you are ready to pull your hair out because of the stress but it is so rewarding!

Casandra - posted on 06/26/2010

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If you want another baby that's you and your husband's business. Don't let your family or friends tell you how to live your life. If you're financially stable and it'll make you and your husband happy, i say go for it!

Jessica - posted on 06/26/2010

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IMO I would stick to having one right now. There are so many things that this child is going to get into and it just seems fair to concentrate on one at the time. You can always have another one down the road, enjoying the time with the oldest one is something you can never get back. You still have plenty of time to have another one.

Lacye - posted on 06/26/2010

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if you want to have another baby then go for it. it will be hard but it can be manageable. i wouldn't suggest it because it can cause a strain on your body. but if it's something you want to do then do it. don't worry about what your family has to say. when the baby gets here they will love it.

Tabitha - posted on 06/26/2010

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Don't worry about your family do what you and your hubby think is right. I had my first daughter at 19 and 10;5 months later had my 2nd daughter and 20 months later i had my son. I would not change a thing i'm 28 now and thing are great they all get along and are really close.

Lauren - posted on 06/26/2010

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My third son was born in December. He is my third in 3 years. My oldest is almost 3, my second just turned 2, and my youngest is 6 months. I just turned 23 in May. My husband and I have been married for 3 1/2 years (our oldest is a honeymoon baby).

People will say things, no doubt. My family hasn't been happy about any of the pregnancies. But when I ask them which one I should give back, they tell me "none of them!" :)

Stephanie - posted on 06/26/2010

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I'm 22 and my husband and I are expecting our second child. Our oldest, Allister, will turn 2 about 2months after our baby girl is born. Although this pregnancy was a complete surprise, I'm sort of relieved to get it out of the way. I knew I wanted our children to be close in age, and this is IT. No more children after this. My husband and I decided that once these two are off to college, we will actually be able to enjoy retirment and the empty nest at a decent age, lol. If YOU and your husband think that the time is now, GO FOR IT. Don't let what other people think influence the decisions that you make for your own life. Whether they like it or not, it is YOUR life, not theirs. Our families weren't exactly accepting when they found out I was pregnant this time, but.. they've come around to the idea. Good thing, too.. because I have about 2 more months left and she'll be here. LOL

Catharine - posted on 06/26/2010

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I was only 20 and i have a four year old and a one year old your never to young for babies!!! I have my first at 15 a second one i misscarried at 17 and a another baby at 19 and i am doing just fine and am sure you are a great mother 2 is always better then

Lucy - posted on 06/26/2010

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im 23 and i have 3 kids mine are 2yrs apart and i find it is a great age as i only have one in nappies and one on a bottel but u need to choose ur own gap and have them as close together or as far apart as u wont i was told to have them with bigger gaps but i wonted small gaps and be able to enjoy them being close

Tamara - posted on 06/26/2010

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having kids close in age means you get through the nappy phase earlier!!! but in future it means less driving around as they will both be at primary school and high schools at the same time!!!

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i agree what the other girls r saying!
its ur life and u should live it the way u want not what others tell u.
i have 2 kids my son is 7 n my daughter will be in 5 Aug they r only 2 years a part maybe... my family was not happy at all but it was something my husband i wanted n we were ready, so over all age doesnt matter but if u r happy n ready then go for it!
live ur life n do want makes u happy!!! I DID : )

Ruth - posted on 06/26/2010

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hi no your not to young hun if u what another baby go for it i will be 25 in august and i have 4 children my oldest just turn 6 on the 18th june and my youngest a little over 7 months

Tia - posted on 06/26/2010

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Im 19, and i have a 18month old daughter, and im 7weeks pregnant with my second... Its not up to everyone else, Its up to you & your husband xx

Bobbi Jo - posted on 06/26/2010

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Both my husband and I turn 30 this yr and have a soon to be 4 and 5 yrs in Nov. We were 25 and 26 when the boys were born. They are a week shy of a yr apart, Yes its hard at time but I love them being close but at times i wish they could have been maybe 8 more months apart. We lost our 3rd baby last Dec and now are really deciding weather or not to have a 3rd. We still feel a little incomplete but we are getting older and both our boys will be in school full time now. I would have liked them to be all within 2 yrs of each other. We had been trying with no luck.So I say do it now while you have the energy and are able to. Your family will come around and if they don't they will be missing out on your great growing family.

Amanda - posted on 06/26/2010

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I am going to be 21 in November and my first will be 21 months when my second son is due in September. Don't worry about other peoples' thoughts or comments. Talk with your hubby and if you and he think it's time to start trying again; go for it. Also, think of your financial and mental state. Are you capable of taking care of two children under 3 years old at this time?

Andrea - posted on 06/26/2010

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i think if you want another baby it should be up to you and your husband if anyone else has a problem with it who cares its your family you your husband and daughter you shouldnt care what others think as long as your happy thats the only thing that should matter

Lisa - posted on 06/26/2010

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its your life and your married. who cares what your family thinks. My daughter was about 13 months old when I got pregnant with my son. He is due Aug 22. She'll be around 22 months old. My mom had me at 21 then my sister 21 months later and my brother 2 years and 3 months after my sister.

ALEXIA - posted on 06/26/2010

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i say wait until you are ready..you said if you can cope? so it sounds like you are not for sure. I was 20 with my first and got pregnant when my daughter was 15 months..im not going to say it was easy because for me it wasnt. my kids are 3 and 1 and they have so much fun together! but it is hard work so make sure you are ready:) hope this helps

Stephanie - posted on 06/26/2010

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You are in control of YOUR life. If your family wants to think bad thingd about it, then let them.

Also, you could just not tell them that you meant to get pregnant. That is what I did with some family members. I knew they would judge me because I'm still in college, but what they don't seem to remember is that I go to school free of charge because I have a permanent injury that prevents me from getting a "low-education" job.

Erin - posted on 06/26/2010

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Im 24 and just had my second baby on June 10th and My Older son was only 19 months. So I say go for it. Its what you want. and Honestly it hasent been too bad with both of them. :)

Shandie-Renee - posted on 06/26/2010

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i was 17 when i had my 1st 19 when i had my second and i just had my 3rd 5 weeks ago and im only 22 ... dont worry about what others might think as in the end its ur happiness and i think if u want to have another go for it !!! Good luck

Sabrina - posted on 06/26/2010

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i was 19 when i had my son and 20 when i had my daughter. you are definately not too young, but it is hard work and although i would never ever change my kids i occasionally think a slightly bigger age gap would have been easier. only in some ways though, in others its better. they play really nicely together already and they still nap at the same time in the day. and i can take them places they both like not places that are only suitable for one of them :)

Carrie - posted on 06/26/2010

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I just turned 25 and im due again in september. my first one is 14 months. my parents are not supportive of this of. i say go for it especially if your husband is supportive. mine is. but we are also done after this i think. he does have a 12yr old too.

Sara - posted on 06/26/2010

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If you want another baby thats up to u and ur husband, I am 24 and I have a 19month out girl and me and my boyfriend are expecting again I am 19 weeks so I dont think it would be a problem if u want another baby and as far as ur family goes there arent the ones to make that decision for u and ur husband u need to do what right for u and ur own family... Good luck

Rina - posted on 06/26/2010

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just go 4 it. even if they didnt like it at first theyd get over it pretty quickly! i was pregnant by accident at 16 n my mum did everything she could to try n get me to have an abortion n in the end she was there at the birth n has loves my daughter ever since. any bad feelings WILL pass even if i takes until ur baby arrives. i new id regret having an abortion desptie what family wanted n ul regret not having a baby if u want one. im pregnant now and worry if ill cope but i no ill be fine once the babys here. do what makes u happy x

Tiffany - posted on 06/26/2010

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If you want another baby go for it! You shouldnt let your family feelings stop you from wanting to add an new addition to your family. Children are such beautiful Gifts from God! I also have an 1 yr old and i want another one as well i dont know when they'll happen becuase i dont have an husband :( But anyways just go for it girl!! God Bless you and your family!

Julie - posted on 06/26/2010

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i had my son in january of this year and soon as dr released me husband and i were ttc #2 new baby has same due date as first will be 12 months apart

Kay - posted on 06/26/2010

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If u want another kid then go for it ur not to young at 24 live ur life the way u want to not how others expect u to live it. I heard of women with babies less than a year apart in age so go do it if u want to.

Becky Jane - posted on 06/26/2010

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hiya kara
i am 27 and just had my baby girl 5 months ago, i am already trying for number 2, if its right for you and ur hubby and there are no objections from the pair of you go for it.... its nothing to do with your family if you feel your ready then you are!! good for you xxxx

Amanda - posted on 06/26/2010

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I have a 3 year old and a 3 month old and i think it is the perfect age. The 3 year helps out (getting diapers, throwing diapers away, etc..) and he is still able to play with the baby and they are pretty close in age i think 3 years is PERFECT but its really up to you and how close you want your kids to be i think that with 3 years in between them they can still be close my brother and i are 2 years apart and are very close. Hope this helps :)

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