Insane Doctor Visit - "You Are Overweight"

Melinda - posted on 03/23/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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So I was trying out a new endocrinologist (I have Type 1 diabetes) and instead of commending me on losing all of the weight I gained while pregnant (I had my baby boy 9 1/2 months ago), he decided to tell me that I am overweight, over and over again! I am 5 "2 and weigh 142 pounds, and I wear a size 8-10. When I asked him what I should weigh, he said 115 pounds!!! Before I got diabetes, I was a size 0 and weighed 114. I looked scary and he thinks that is what I should weigh. He was obviously using the BMI scale, which is so out of date and doesn't take muscle and bone mass into consideration. I would like to weigh 135 because that is when I am in a size 6 and I think I look great then. According to the doctor, that is still too much. Can you imagine?!? Never going back to that crazy old guy again.



When I told him I work out 3 days a week, instead of giving me a compliment, he said to work out 4 days a week. When I said that I go on the eliptical for 30 minutes, he said to go on 40 min. Nothing was good enough for him. I mean, I had a child 9 1/2 months ago and he never even acknowledged that I am still in the process of losing weight. He just told me over and over again that I am overweight.



Thank goodness I have some confidence in myself or I would have gone home and slit my wrists or become anorexic. The first year after having a baby is considered postpartum and he was playing a dangerous game with me. I just can't get it all out of my head and I want to go back into that office and tell him off!

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Sara - posted on 03/26/2009

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I had a crazy OB when I was pregnant. I got gestational diabetes and he kept insisting that I had diabetes previous to getting pregnant, which I know I didn't. He didn't even shut up when my A1C came back at 5.8. He still made me go and see two specialists and stressed the hell out me. Then, I had a couple of high blood pressures in the office, mind you one time the nurse stepped on my toe (I was wearing flip flops) right before she took it and the other time I had just witnessed another patient freaking out in the waiting room. But, of course, I had hypertension. Some docs are just crazy. I can't tell you how many times I left his office crying. I even saw my family doctor and she assured me that he was wrong. Funny thing is, a friend of mine went to him and she had a normal pregnancy and she smoked the entire time (not making a judgement here...). He never lectured her about it or really even made comments beyond that she should quit. But he rode my ass for something that I was trying my best to control. I hate to say this, but I think part of it is that a man will never understand what it is like to carry a baby, give birth to a baby and have to surrender your body like that. Good for you that you didn't let it get to you!

Stasia - posted on 03/26/2009

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Oh my gosh! what an idiot! I am also 5'2 and can see how the appropriate RANGE could START at 115 but not be the exact weight!!! The guy sounds like an idiot, im glad you knew better than to believe him!

Jessie - posted on 03/23/2009

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shit hunny i would!!! it sounds like you did good you lost the baby weight and at 142 in a size 8-10 you should be happy and proud of yourself!!!!! and you are managing a baby too GO YOU!!!!!!

Brenda - posted on 03/23/2009

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I'd file a complaint with whoever you have to that's over those type of doctors. That's just horrible.  I am overweight (more than I'd like) and I've never had a doctor go on about it like that.  I usually get the "I'd like to see you lose a few pounds, get out and do some walking or something if you can."  Even with gestational diabetes I didn't get too much flack from any doctor I go to.  (And the only doc that's even mentioned it was my male OB/GYN I used to have.)

Jamie - posted on 03/23/2009

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Wow, now I feel anorieic. I am 5'1 and weigh 108 after having 2 babies. I weighed 125 for a long time and didnt like the way Iooked. I like being tiny. :(

Jen - posted on 03/23/2009

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WOW! That doctor had nerve. I'm glad you decided not to go back to him because you need a doctor to encourgae you not bring you down. I would not say that 142lbs is overweight for a woman. Considering you've had a baby in the same year, I'd say you're doing fine. I'm 5'5'' and weigh about 135 I think which is 10 lbs more than when I got pregnant and my daughter is 15 months old. I actually look the same as I did pre-pregnancy, but my chest grew 2 sizes (not kidding and I thought they'd go down when I stopped nursing 10 months ago) and my booty got a little bigger (that's to be expected lol), but I feel great. If you feel great and think you look great the keep at what you're doing.

Shannon - posted on 03/23/2009

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I'd file a complaint about him, if I were you. I'm not really sure that there is even a way to do that but if there is I would do it. Guy sounds like my mother.

Good for you for losing all that weight and staying motivated! And good for you for not letting that jerk make you doubt yourself!

Heather - posted on 03/23/2009

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Yea I wouldn't go bck to him either...I am 5'2" as well and before I had my son I thought I was too small I weighed 115 as well.  and now after having my son (who is 2 1/2 months)  I am now 130...and I feel like I finally fit my body.  Not to mention...it usually takes moms a year to get back to the size you were before you got pregnant.  I feel like only woman doctors truely understand what the female body goes through after pregnancy...a man...no matter how good of o DR he may be...will never know.



 



I would personally get another opinion...no dr should treat you that way or make you feel like that.