Is an eight yrs old child too young to have a cell phone? ....... Please explain the reason for your

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Melissa - posted on 05/10/2010

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I think it's funny that most people beggin their arggument with "when I was a kid" becouse just like our childhoods where more dangerouse than the black and white bicylce rideing apple pie ladden days of our parents, the world our kids are in now is a much much scarrier one than we had to deal with.



And my thing is while yes at this age your child will probably never be 'alone' but they will be away from you - at school, granma and granpas, a friends house, church, ect. - my little guy is only 2 and half months right now but I do plan to get him one of those cells made for kids at about 5 when he starts going places with out me and starting school.



I want to know that if he ever needs me for Any reason at Any time he will be able to get a hold of me. And as for the "barrow someone phone" arrgument, what 5 year old has their parents 10 diget number memorized? And what if they wake up at 3 in the morning at a sleep over and are homesick or had a bad nightmare, they are not going to go wake up their freinds parents and say can I use your phone to call my mom. I feel it will be a security blanket for us both.



And of course you have to think what if the worst happens? He's at a field trip at the zoo and gets lost, the teacher has so many kids to tend to she doesn't notice and he gets left behind. My own mother left me after a 4-H meeting when I was 12, (she thought I had gone home with my sister) and the doors where already locked. Luckly the boy I was playing withs mom knew where I lived and took me home. But I'm just saying anything can and will happen and when it does i want to know he will be able to call for help.



I think it's becouse cell phones where a big deal when we where kids people think they still are. But if you think about it they are kinda like shoes now, everyones got one (and sometimes 2)

Cassondra - posted on 05/11/2010

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I have two answers, yes if it is for leisure and fun, and no, if it is for safety and family contact matters. a child that young has better things to do than be on the phone all weekend with their friends, like playing outside? lol if it is, for example a child with divorced parents or parents who work late then they might need it to contact their other parent or caregiver after school or if they are lost or something like that. :D

April - posted on 05/10/2010

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I think that if you feel your child needs a cell phone, then by all means, get them one. No one can tell you whats right or wrong when it comes to your child. Only you know best!!

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Just because they ask for one is not a good reason. However, if they are always on the go, a phone seems like a necessity. They have phones that you can control who they call, who can call them, and you can even track where they are on the internet. pretty nifty. when my daughter is about that age, we will probably get her one like that. but definitely not one with that I cant control. at least not that young. If she wants a normal phone, she can wait like I did until I got a job and bought one myself. lol hope this helps.

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am I the only one surprised at these responses? When I was 8 I was at the park with my friends and mom. I was playing soccer and being a KID. When I was 8 no one had cell phones! There were HUGE car phones the size of a brick, and only rich people had those haha.
My daughter will NOT be getting a cell phone until she is in highschool. I really can not think of a reason an 8 year old should need a cell. Shouldn't they ALWAYS be with an adult when they are not home?

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Amanda - posted on 05/11/2010

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Yea. It teaches them nothing but *bad habits* talking on the phone all the time, text messaging, getting in trouble with the phone. Not that you child woudl do that but thats my opinon!

Kalia - posted on 05/11/2010

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Uhm yeah. Why would an 8 year old need a cell phone? In todays time I keep my kids as close to me as possible. They are only 3 and 5, but even at 8 I would not feel comfortable leaving them outside to play by themselves. Schools, churches, ect have phones for a child to use to call their parents. I think 8 is WAY to young to even think about it. Now, once the kids are in high school and I let them have a little bit of freedom I will give them a cell phone, but it'll be a limited plan, not one to call thier friends.

Melissa - posted on 05/11/2010

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Rebecca...I didn't get a cell phone until I was in my 20's. I saw no reason to get one before that. My parents knew where I was going and always had the cedll phone numbers to my 2 best friends (who I was always with). So if they needed me or I needed them, I would use there phones. If my son had an overnight school trip, first I would try to chaperone (cause they are fun) and if not, then I would think about it. But still probably not cause the instructor or a teacher would have a phone or they would give you contact information. Ther are to many badthings that could happen. An 8 year old is not mature enough to make adult decisions. There brains are still not fully developed to make crutial decisions, smart decisions. My son should be outside doing something active, not sitting on his butt texting or talking on the phone....this is why our children are so obese!! They are children and therefore still act and think like children, not responsible adults. I couldn't agree with you more Rebecca.

Rebecca - posted on 05/11/2010

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yes. that is waaay too young. unless shes onan overnight school trip i didnt get a cell phone until i was 17, what would make me want to give my 8 year old one? teach her to do something else. not sit on her but and update her twitter/myspace/facebook.

Melissa - posted on 05/11/2010

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I don't think there is 1 good reason for an 8 year old to have a cell phone. If they are at a friends house....do they not have a phone that your child can use in case they need to talk to you?? And where would an 8 year old go (besides a friends house...and hopefully you will not let them go there if no parents are home) that you would not be there with them?? My son isn't getting a phone until he absolutly needs to!!

Amanda - posted on 05/11/2010

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I guess it all depends on the reasoning for he/she to have it. If they are mature enough to understand not to give out the # and only use it for emergencies or to contact the parents i suppose its ok. But if they are just running rampant around the neighborhood showing friends, giving out the # and letting people use it willy nilly then no its not a good idea at all.You never know who could get ahold of the # and those unwanted people could be ones you don't want your child coming in contact with. EVER!! But like i said i guess it all depends on the parents trust in the child and the child maturity level. Personally i wouldn't even give my 11 yr old a cell phone.

Melissa - posted on 05/11/2010

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What reason in God's name does an 8 year old need a cell phone for?? Sports is not a reason. My son is 7 and plays pretty much every sport. Number 1, I do not leave him alone at any sport, because there are crazy people out there and the instructor is not a babysitter. I stay with him until the sport is over and then take him home. If my son wants to call a friend, he can use my phone, and if he goes to a friends house, there parents are there and they have a phone that my son can use to call me if he needs to. He is always with me unless he is at school. We are trying to make our children grow up too fast these days. An 8 year old is still a little CHILD. When my son can pay for it himself, then he can have a phone...until then...he has me and my phone if needed. We are becoming to dependent on electronics...and the age where people think it''s appropriate to give out phoes is getting younger and younger. Again, I go back to my priginal question....what id God's name does a baby need a cell phone for?? You are the parent and should be with your child!!

Beth - posted on 05/11/2010

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It depends on the need. If his reason to have a cellphone is for communication/ security, and these are greater rather than the fad of having one, then consider it. but when you do, teach him responsibility when & how to use it. Schools have rules for use of cell phones inside the class, is he responsible enough to follow rules?



Also things like those might attract robbers especially your kid is an easy victim. Study your environment and the implications of a kid having a cellphone -even your kid's attitude towards it. Material things can be both pain in the ass or benefit. just make sure that your kid can handle the responsibility =)

Jordan Ashleigh - posted on 05/11/2010

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I think children should have cell phones until absolutely necessary. I was in a lot of extracurriculars in junior high and I always borrowed a phone, took a parent's cell, or had quarters on hand to use the pay phone to call when I got home from away games, meets, and competitions. I was 13 when I got my cell phone and that was because I was spending all of that time away from home and still needing to call to get a ride.

I don't know why you would even consider getting a child under 10 a cell phone. My nephew has an iPod Touch and is constantly texting friends. He never puts it down. It's a good thing those things come with unlimited text because the bill, if there was one, would be through the roof.

My daughter isn't quite two yet, but I don't think she'll be getting a phone until she's in junior high and spending time in extracurriculars with no way to get home afterward. If she's going to be at a friend's house, there will probably be a landline available. If she gets one before that, for whatever reason, it will be a child's phone only able to call a few family members' cells and home phones.

Anyway, I'm barely an adult myself, and I think children are waaaay to materialistic now and giving a child his or her every desire simply because they want something only encourages that. What happened to boundaries?

Brandee - posted on 05/11/2010

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I would say in most cases no.. but my niece turns 8 years old today and she got a cell phone for her birthday.. Not really because she NEEDS one, mostly because it was just convenient.. She got a real slide up keyboard cell phone.. not a Firefly type or a pre-paid.. My kids will probably not have a cell phone until they start going places without me.. Like with friends and other adults for the weekend.. I won't say they will definitely not have a phone at age 8 (Brandon is 2 right now), but I don't think the need exists until around age 12

Destiny - posted on 05/11/2010

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My little girl is only 2, but I plan on giving her 1 once she starts having sleep overs. I plan on givinng her a preapaid, and explaining that she will get introuble if she uses it for other then emergency. Lots of familys are cutting cost so cutting home phones. And it may be a little more intimdating to a child to ask to use someone person pphone then thier family phone. OR I dont want to worry about someone else not having the minutes on their phone. My daughter will return the phone to me when shes done. I also plan on letting her take it to field trips, or once she gets older other things she will do with friends without mommy.

Sarah - posted on 05/11/2010

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hmmm depends what they want it for if its to contact you when they go out on there own and they need to call you then ok, but if they just want one then i would say no

Kim - posted on 05/11/2010

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No not at all as long as that child is big enough to understand responisbilitty why not allow him to explore the definition of it. My son has a cellphone and its so convenient for both of us.

Ruth - posted on 05/11/2010

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i would most definitely say yes. 8 is way too young for a cell phone. i would say at this day and age, 14 may be a better age.
cell phones get stolen so this attracts more risk to your child. do they just want one because everyone else wants one? if so, then that's not a reason to give them one. i just think it is not necessary and teaches children about materialistic things which is a bad idea.

Shantane - posted on 05/10/2010

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I thought so at first but when i missed my daughter's school bus a couple of times and she had to go to the neighbor's house, then i got her a phone! She only uses it "on occasion." basically when she gets off the bus if i'm not there yet.

Jamie - posted on 05/10/2010

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what reason could an eight year old possibly need a cell phone for maybe if he were 13 or 14 i can understand that cuz theyre old enough to venture out on their own but an 8 year old shouldnt be left without a parent or some adult supervision unless its outside playing around the house then they still shouldnt need a cell phone

Kim - posted on 05/10/2010

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I think yes definately too young to have a cell phone. Think of it this way would you let your eight year old go off with her friends to the mall or to a park or somewhere whithout adult supervision? NO (hopefully)! At eight they should still be supervised wherever they go and would then be able to ask an adult to use their cell phone or other phone. There is no good reason to start giving that kind of responsibility to and eight year old. Especially with all of the technology these days where anyone can hack into anything and get what ever they want. Also i have to comment on the mom who thought it would be a good idea to give her 4 year old a cell.. They cant even read very well if at all. How that heck to you expect him to use a phone properly??? Too much privelage will end up reaising snotty kids who dont appreciate the things they have later in life because they have always been given what they want. Keep a kids innocence and imagination without giving them all the technology that we have today. Give him a book not a cell phone!

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yes i think it is too young. i dont think an 8 year old should be going anywhere where you dont know where they are or where they dont have access to a phone so they shouldnt have a need for one.

Lacye - posted on 05/10/2010

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i'm old fashioned. i believe that 8 year olds are too young. some (not all, but some) are not responsible enough to have a cell. it is possible they could run up a huge bill, depends on who you go through.

Alena - posted on 05/10/2010

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You know your child better then anyone. Do you feel they are capable of taking care of it and responsible enough to know when to use it and when not to....like in school. I am an art teacher and know some of my 1st graders that have phones that take better care of them then some of my 4th graders. just trust your instinct.

Heather - posted on 05/10/2010

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My personal opinion is yes, it is too young. my reason is this...Where is your child that you don't know where they are? Are they at school? They have phones at school... Are they at a friends house? I'm sure they have a phone there. And 8 year old does not go anywhere without permission and you (hopefully) know where they are at all times.

April - posted on 05/10/2010

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I might be old fashioned, but to me a cell phone only provides them more of a way to get into serious trouble, and prevents them from being a child. I'm not allowing my son to have one until he turns at least 16, and has a job.

Delora - posted on 05/10/2010

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I personally think yes. As long as they can't go anywhere without you taking them and leaving them with a responsible adult, they have no need to have their own personal phone. You wouldn't leave an 8 year old unsupervised so whatever emergency that comes up, the adult has the phone.

Rachelle - posted on 05/10/2010

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right now i dont think an 8yr old would need one but like amanda said it depends on the child and the situation... i know some cell phone providers have special phones just for kids

Nikkole - posted on 05/10/2010

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yes 8 is way to young. it bugs me when i see a kids txt and ride a bike. We wasnt allowed to have one untill we could drive and even then we had to pay for it. . me and my boyfriend already talked about this and r lil girl will not have one untill she can drive. they are kids not adults

Amanda - posted on 05/10/2010

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My step daughter is 7 and has had a cell phone for over 2yrs. My husband has custody of her but she has regular visitation at her mom's; her mom won't allow my sd to call us from "any phone she pays the bill for", so we got her a phone. She has never gotten in trouble for not following the rules we have laid down and has used it more than once in emergency situations.It depends on the kid, whether it's a cell phone, computer, camera or being allowed to walk to a friends house; every kid should be judged by their behaviour and maturity.

Elizabeth - posted on 05/10/2010

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I don't think so as long as it is a pre paid phone, and have them earn their minutes for their phone..you never know what can happen when you are out and about

Melinda - posted on 05/10/2010

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Honestly, no. I have a 10 year old step son and even though he is fairly responsible, he has broken his DS twice, lost the communion neckalce we gave him ( VERY expensive) and broken his MP3 player. There really is no need to give him a cell phone. If he goes to a friends house I make sure to know where this friend lives, who their parents are (and meet them) where he will be and when I will be picking him up. Children need their parents to be involved in their lives. Not jut giving them a cell phone and telling them to have fun adn answer it if they call. When I was younger, there was never an option of giving a kid a cell phone. My parents knew where I was, who I was with and when they'd be picking me up. If you can't trust your child to be where they say they'll be, then they shouldn't be going out! When they reach teenager years, high school, then it's time to discuss a cell phone. Plus, just giving them a phone and paying for it doesn't teach them anything. If they want a cell phone, they should get a job and pay for it!

Natasha - posted on 05/10/2010

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I think it depends... they have these neat little phones that are designed so that a child can only call mommy, daddy and emergency... those i think are perfectly fine if the child is taught how to use it appropriately... but a regular cell phone I think is a tad extreme...

Mellanie - posted on 05/10/2010

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I believe that an 8 year old, if given a cell phone on a calling plan, needs to work for it. He needs to be doing things around the house that are not everyday tasks (picking up his/her room-that's expected, not something to be rewarded for; doing dishes-that's expected, if no one does them how are you gonna eat?). But I also think that a child that walks to and from school needs to have some form of communication while not in the presence of a responsible adult, so that would be a good time for a pre-paid phone with boundaries.

Brandy - posted on 05/10/2010

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I would get the 8yr old a chatterbug phone where you "the parent" sets a total of four numbers into the phone, they could be parent #;s or emergency contact #'s, or even a fyew #'s of friends you agree to. I think they are pre-paid so there will be no extra $.

Pauline - posted on 05/10/2010

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my 8 year old has had a phone for a few years he only has numbers i put in it and i now feel safer letting him out to play even if it is just in my street as i have a small baby to and cant always go out to fetch him so i can ring him instead !!!

Christina - posted on 05/10/2010

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My sister got my niece, 6 and my nephew, 8 cell phones for Christmas! To be honest it was a complete waste of money! They are always with a responsible adult who can make an emergency call, or get in touch with her if needed! I feel that having a cell phone is a huge responsibility and most young kids are not ready for it! If it werent for us (the family) my niece and nephew would have lost there phones many times, they just kept putting them down and leaving them! Either way it is a parents personal decision, but it just makes me wonder what they will be asking for when they are 10, 12 and so forth!!

Christy - posted on 05/10/2010

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Yes and No. On the No side of things because its just another device like hand held video games or ipods that isolate your kid from family time or a common respect for paying attention to the conversations and activities going on around them. When I go out to restaurants and I see children playing on phones or games whatever it maybe while the rest of the table carry's on a conversation I just see a lack of respect. On the YES side of things I love those tracking phones. When you go to the mall and they wanna walk around with there friends or there at a sporting event with school or just simply them being out with friends...its a great way of staying in contact and if anything happens they can call you or you can track them down. Should the phone be strictly there's I don't think so it can be shared with the family and when there at home they can use the house phone!

Melissa - posted on 05/10/2010

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my step son came over our house from his moms with his own cell phone at 5 years old and a note from his mom saying "its so evan can call me at night before bed" we took the phone gave it back to her and told her we didn't want to see him with it again till he is at least a teen when he needs it. and told her that the only reason he doesnt call her at night is because he doesn't want to we ask him every night if he wants to call her and he says no so we don't force him cause it only makes him get angry. ( he doesn't like him mother very much)

Kirsty - posted on 05/10/2010

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no not at all i want my children to both have a phone as soon as they start goin to there friends etc so i know theyre safe

Emma - posted on 05/10/2010

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My son is 8 he has a mobile. He kept asking for one. I got him one this xmas and he hasn't even switched it on. I think its a good idea nothing 2 expensive but if they do go out to play it's a good idea they can always contact u. I can't see any harm really.

Brandi - posted on 05/10/2010

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YES .. way too young ... did you have a cell phone when you were eight ??? Does he drive anywhere... is he away from you for long periods of time ... not necessary at all... I don't plan on letting my son have a cell phone until he is 15 ! Get walkie-talkies !

Kristy - posted on 05/09/2010

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I personally think it is too young, however if your child goes for walks or to the shops alone with friends and you feel safe for them to have a phone. im sure your can program number into the phone that he is only aloud to call by calling the provider (company) But if he just wants one to call his friends then i would wait until his older,

Jennifer - posted on 05/09/2010

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Yes. I believe an eight year old is too young for a cell phone because, although my 8 year old is responsible, she still dialed 911 and blamed it on her siblings. I do not feel that an eight youar old is mature enough for a cell, even if they are mature for their age.

Autumn - posted on 05/09/2010

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We got my daughter a cell phone when she was 8, but it was just for when she went somewhere without us, for emergencies, and so we could call her when she was with her biological mom because she never answers when we call to check on our daughter.

Tarina - posted on 05/09/2010

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Personally I would say Yes absolutely 8 is too young. Here is my reasoning: I have an 8 yr old son, and in my opinion, there isnt a single moment where he is beyond my contacting as it is. If he is outside playing, I know where he is and who he is with. If he is out with a family member, they have a phone I can reach them at, or he can call me from if needed. Other than that, there is no reason he cannot come home and call them from here. Theres not a single conversation an 8 year old needs to be having that they need any amount of privacy for besides walking to the other room at home. Again, in my opinion ♥

Kylene - posted on 05/09/2010

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At one point, I think it was Disney that made a special phone for kids like the one the first responder to this thread was talking about. I'm not sure if they still make it or not. I could see maybe one of those just in case there's some kind of emergency (ex: riding a bike down the street with a friend and gets hurt or something), but as for a real cell phone? I just can't see why an 8 year-old would need one. You can't control what other kids text to your child. Unless it's a phone with a few pre-programmed numbers, you also can't control who your child calls when you're not right next to them. They're also a BIG distraction in school, as kids are trying to use them in class or when they get stolen. (I used to be a teacher. Trust me, both scenarios happen quite frequently.)

User - posted on 05/09/2010

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hell yes to young what would a 8yr old even need one for i think it will just be trouble

Katie - posted on 05/09/2010

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As you have read there are lost of reasons of why and why not. You know your child best. Does his responsibility level high enough for a phone...like will he try to use it in the class room or leave it laying around? Does his temperament level enough for sensitive technology...if he gets upset will he throw it? Will you feel safer with him having a phone? Like the kind that has emergency call and parent buttons or a GPS for location and safety purposes it huge benefit for me and my 6 yearold? If you can afford the phone plan and keep up with minutes?

Amanda - posted on 05/09/2010

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My 8 yr old girl does for the simple fact there are alot of nasty ppl around the town we live and i would rather spend the money and be able to track her than worry if she is where she is supposed to be. she is an active child and i have to work. there is always someone with her but things happen and not everyone is as dependable as you would like. She only calls family on it and i moniter everything she does. She does text one friend but they are close and her mother and I keep in touch on what happens. She is better with her phone than i am where i have broken a couple of phones she still has the first one we got her and its still in really good shape. I think it all depends on the kids maturaty level and reasons behinds the phone.

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