Is it bad etiquette to bring a baby to a funeral?

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Carissa - posted on 04/20/2009

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Quoting Amie:

If it's family it's fine but if it's just a friend or friend of the family I'd leave baby at home. But that's just me. I took my own to my gramma's funeral when my daughter was 4 and my son was a newborn. When it was friends of the family though I got a sitter.


Yeah that's kind of what I was thinking.  I probably wouldn't have thought twice about it if it were a family member or even if it were a friend's grandparent.  Unfortunately, this service will be in honor of an old friend who died very unexpectedly.   I wouldn't want to upset anyone.  

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Depends on the funeral. If it is a close family member's funeral, then I would say bring the baby - its all about the family being together. A distant relative or a family friend, I would be more hesitant, especially if I thought the baby may cry or disrupt the service. I would be very wary of bringing a baby to the funeral for another child.

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Rachael - posted on 04/22/2009

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I was always taught that babies should always go to funerals becuase even when they are fussing or crying the new life soothes the heart..but that a child thats old enough to ask questions and not understand then get a sitter UNLESS it's family! With familys being so spread out now days it might be the only chance a long distacne relative has to see the child.

Chrystina - posted on 04/22/2009

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I would say no. My step dad's funeral was five days after my first was born and I believed it helped my mother to see her during this sad time.

Julie - posted on 04/20/2009

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I think it is just fine! we recently took our four to my husbands Great Grandpa's funeral and it really cheered everyone up to see our kids. My five and six year old had a few questions, but we just told them that angels took PaPa to heaven. They informed us on the way home that they were a little worried because they never saw any angels come get him lol!

Amie - posted on 04/20/2009

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If it's family it's fine but if it's just a friend or friend of the family I'd leave baby at home. But that's just me. I took my own to my gramma's funeral when my daughter was 4 and my son was a newborn. When it was friends of the family though I got a sitter.

Jennifer - posted on 04/20/2009

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Um I don't think it is bad to take the baby with you. I took my kids to my family members funeral and they were fine .My 8 year old had a few ? about it ! the other 3 were like nothing even was wrong. so I say it is you own choice Good Luck !!!!

User - posted on 04/20/2009

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i don`t think it is i mean even though your morning your family will wanna see the baby to it might cheer them up to see new life in the mist of death. just my opinion

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