Is it ok to have a baby shower if its yor 2nd child?

Laura - posted on 03/23/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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Hi my name is Laura! I'm 26 and my husband and i are expecting our 2nd child in 12 weeks! we already have a 2yr old and i was thinking of having a baby shower but my mom and a couple of people i know said your not suppose to get one after your first?? anyone have any thoughts on this? can i have one or is it not right??

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Dana - posted on 03/24/2009

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I see nothing wrong with that at all! The older generation (our parents) think if it is the same gender, you should not but if you had a boy and then a girl or vice versa it's okay to have both. Our generation literally have showers for everything. I don't mind in the least going to a shower for a second, third or even fouth child. Each child is special and should party it's way into this world!!!

Laura - posted on 03/24/2009

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Quoting Pam:



I'm going through the same question myself lately. I have a 2 yr old and am due in July. If you want to have people over then do it! Have a craft party and make things for the nursery or have everyone over for a dessert night and then show them the nursery. Then no one will feel obligated to bring things. All I'm saying is do what you feel is right, you could always get your other half to put it on then you're not the one in charge. Plus that means he has to clean up!






those are great ideas! maybe i will do something like that instead so people dont feel obligated to bring a gift! i appreciate your input and good luck with your new arrival!

Pam - posted on 03/24/2009

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I'm going through the same question myself lately. I have a 2 yr old and am due in July. If you want to have people over then do it! Have a craft party and make things for the nursery or have everyone over for a dessert night and then show them the nursery. Then no one will feel obligated to bring things. All I'm saying is do what you feel is right, you could always get your other half to put it on then you're not the one in charge. Plus that means he has to clean up!

Laura - posted on 03/24/2009

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I just wanted to thank everyone for their thoughts on this matter, however i'm having trouble understanding why your first child can get recognition and have a celebration of it's arrival but your 2nd or even 3rd can't?? why is this? i don't need gifts i just want to celebrate the coming of a new life!

Jenny - posted on 03/23/2009

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personally, i don't think it's right to have another shower, even if your second child is a different sex from the first. unless someone wants to throw you the shower, and would encourage no gifts needed or donations to a charity instead. i don't see it necessary, besides, those people close to you will give you a gift anyway! congratulations and good luck! 

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I think it's perfectly acceptable for women to have baby showers for as many babies as they have.  A subsequent baby isn't less special than its older siblings.  And certainly, if (as you commented below), you just want a party of sorts for everyone to come and hang out and admire your wonderful nursery, I don't see anything at all wrong with that.

Lori - posted on 03/23/2009

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Why not!  I say go for it.  If people think it is improper ettiquette they shouldn't come.  Being pregnant is hard, especially with a 2 year old. .  You deserve a little fun time!

Stephanie - posted on 03/23/2009

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I think itsz totally fine, every baby deserves a celebration, u should totally have 1

Nicole - posted on 03/23/2009

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There's nothing wrong with having a second baby shower. Your friends and family will understand your desire to have everyone there to celebrate.

Emily - posted on 03/23/2009

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Technically, any mentionof gifts is considered impolite even if it is just to say "No gifts." That said, I would still put it on the invitations. Parties are fun!

Arwen - posted on 03/23/2009

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I think you deserve a shower for every baby you have. =) Hard work growing babies, and not just the first one is special. You need a party!

Laura - posted on 03/23/2009

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Quoting Emily:



I have no problem with someone having a baby shower for a second baby. I think all babies are special and deserve a party whether it is a shower, blessingway, or welcome baby party. However, it is considered improper etiquitte to throw yourself any shower. People might think you are only having the party to get stuff.






Thanks for your response i didnt really mean a shower for gifts i just wanted to invite people over to play games and see the nursery, just an excuse for a party i guess! i am having another boy so i dont really need anything! but if i send out the invitaitons would that be wrong? i could even specify no gifts please just come to celebrate the the new baby on the way!! ??? what do u think???

Emily - posted on 03/23/2009

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I have no problem with someone having a baby shower for a second baby. I think all babies are special and deserve a party whether it is a shower, blessingway, or welcome baby party. However, it is considered improper etiquitte to throw yourself any shower. People might think you are only having the party to get stuff.

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