Yesica - posted on 02/05/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )
Yesica - posted on 02/05/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )
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Tara - posted on 03/03/2012
it all depends what they are getting spanked for, if its a case where they are misbehaving then u would need to do it there and then to give them a shock more so they wont do it again, i think 1 is enough.
Danielle - posted on 02/27/2012
I spank in public if the situation warrents it. If my daughter is simply not listening to me I will pull her aside and talk to her about her actions and possible consequences (time outs, no toys, no park). Since we have been doing that for most of her life, and sticking to it, she is really well behaved. But there are times where she just steps a little to far past the boundary and she gets spanked once. My parents spanked me as a child and I did grow up fearing them. That kept me out of A LOT of trouble. But fearing them does not mean I did not feel their love. I knew and know my parents love me... a great deal. I also knew to stay in line.
Maree - posted on 02/27/2012
I'll tell you what you shouldn't do.....SPANK.
If you are unable to find a way to discipline a 2 and 3 year old then i think you should look into some parenting classes as i believe your parenting skills are seriously lacking.
To be honest i am still,after all this time,shocked at people who ask how many spankings they should give a toddler or small child. Do you not know that there are better ways to get through to a child than to inflict pain on them ?
Sometimes i think that some adults need to be taken into a private bathroom and be beaten into submission which is what a lot of parents are doing to their babies,whether they realize it or not....2 and 3 year olds are barely out of babyhood so if an adult is unable to control a baby then maybe they should look at what THEY are doing wrong instead of what the child is doing wrong...
Lyssa - posted on 02/27/2012
i think if you need to spank your kids in a public place, you should take them to a private area. usually 2 swats is what my son got and that did the job. hope that helps!
Good Day! - posted on 02/05/2010
This is what I do. I warn. I make it very clear. "If you dont stop____, you will get a spanking." If she doesn't stop, I take her to the closest private or semi-private place I can find. Then I pop her on the leg once. Not hard, just enough to make a point. We stay private until the tears have stopped. Then I explain why she got a spanking and we hug and kiss and go about our business.
Monica - posted on 02/05/2010
spanking doesn't damage children. my parents spanked my siblings and me. None of us ever got into drugs, and never got in trouble with the law. I don't know what religion you are but I was taught to FEAR God's wrath. Now children should not be afraid of their parents but they should be afraid of disappointing their parents. When I spank, I also remind my son I love him and do not wish to spank him but he has to mind me. I also tell him it hurts me to spank him, because it does. I don't like it, no one should but it keeps him well-behaved and he's a happy loving child. Just as I was.
Colleen - posted on 02/05/2010
i dont have anything against ppl who think spanking is wrong however if you have tried everything else with the child then spank them. i spank my daughter in the store in front of everyone. i will tell her if she doesnt stop and start listening then i will spank her in front of everyone and sometims she stops sometimes she doesnt, usually i only swat her oce on the bum but it usually works. unfortuantly there will always be those busy bodies who think they know all, and trust me i've gotten into it with one or two in the store about mindin their own business, but you have to do what feels rigt to you and works for you and your child. not worry what everyone else thinks.
Elle - posted on 02/05/2010
I would avoid spanking in public unles you have to to stop them from doing something dangerous. I dont have anything against spanking but some people do and may call child services if they see it. I prefer natural consiquences - not putting dirty clothes in hamper = no clean clothes to wear- but in extreme times spanking is necessary. If once doesnt work then spanking isnt going to work.
Carolee - posted on 02/05/2010
If they are doing something dangerous, spank then. If they are just misbehaving, take them to the bathroom and make sure nobody else is in there if possible. When I need to spank, I only spank once.
Stacey - posted on 02/05/2010
i dont think you should ever hit your child, you are a parent, your job is to dicipline, spanking may be a easy option, but your child wont learn anything by this, only to fear you, !! do you really want you child to be scared of you??? your the person that should keep your child from harm, nurture and protect, not hurt!!!! try settling rules boundarys, and if broken dicipline in a way the child can understand, tiem out!! naughty step, take away a fav toy etc, stop them watching tv. when your child bahves reward them , thats best not hitting, x
Monica - posted on 02/05/2010
spanking in private is better. so you don't get those dirty looks from people who think its not okay. What most people don't realize is that proper spanking hurts their feelings more than it does their bottoms. Anything beyond that would be abusive.
Lydia - posted on 02/05/2010
The idea of smacking (or any punishment) is to give an immediate consequence to an action - if you delay your response to a young child they will find it difficult understand what they are being smacked for. If you dont want to smack them in public then you need to find a different form of discipline (well you dont *have* to but I believe it will be far more effective if you find something you can dole out on the spot).
Sheryl - posted on 02/05/2010
me we spank if there are doing something that they really should not be doing. things like once they have been told not to hit then they hit again. then yes! they get whatever there age is. thats how many they get not more. but if it bad but not that bad we put in time out for the most part. they set for a min for everyear old they are. but with out screaming or throwing things. but when they got older like 10 i may just start for the most part taking somethings like a redio. plus grand them. that what my family did boy did it work. i think when they get older as a parent we got to change how we handle things.
Felicia Neikolle - posted on 02/05/2010
I feel that it depends on the age of the child to what the spankings should be administered as well as the severity of the crime. I have always felt that punishments should match the crime so have used spanking at times and others not.
I always had a rule with my kids that if you're brazen enough to act a fool in public (i.e., throw a fit in the middle of the cereal aisle because I won't get you Coacoa puffs) then you should be brazen enough to handle the discipline being administered in the same area. Now, if the offense was more severe then yes I took them into a bathroom to spank them instead. I started at a very young age with my kids carrying around a "spatula" that you ice a cake with. I referred to this as the paddle and always kept it in plain sight. This served as threat enough to most times NOT hafta use it. But when it was necessary they did get the swat on the hand or thigh (depending on age) while in public.
As for how many, that should suit the crime. Lying in our house gets you 3 ... if you fight the spanking then you get one more for each missed swat. My kids have never had more than 5 swats to their bottoms and it has never been on bare skin. I think that is important as well. I hope this helps and good luck!!
Sarah - posted on 02/05/2010
Here are my thoughts. I think that most of the time there are better ways to deal with discipline than spanking. I am not opposed to spanking and there are some circumstances that a spanking is warrented, but this is few and far between. I find that if done right time-outs work really well (even in public). I think if you don't have kids under control at home then there is no way you will have them under control in public. Kids are going to test the limits and they will test to make sure that the rules you have at home also go for being in public. When they know that what goes at home also goes out in public they behavior better. I think you also have to be wise in what you expect your kids to be able to do. I know that if I try to do something over their naptime I will probably have cranky kids. I know that if it is getting close to a meal time they may also get cranky.