Jennifer - posted on 01/11/2012 ( 18 moms have responded )
Okay. My child is three. I am obviously not saying to ignore them all of the time, but I am really at my wits end. My daughter has just thrown the worst temper tantrum that she has ever had. We were in the mall. She had just played and gone into a store that she wanted to go into. Then I decided to stop and buy one thing before we left. In that store she asked me to pick her up. When I said that I could not at the moment she threw herself onto the floor. Recognizing that she was either getting tired or hungry I quickly paid for what I needed and left for home. On the way home she kept misbehaving so I informed her that she would be getting a time out. She took her time out at home while I made her lunch. She then had a fit because I do not allow her to sit and watch TV while she eats, she has to eat at the table. She started screaming, but eventually it just became an attempt to get my attention so ignored the behavior. She then became so angry that she picked up a plastic microphone and threw it at me- hard. It really hurt. I told her to go into her room (which I hardly ever do- time outs are usually in the dining room in a designated chair) and continued to attempt to ignore how she was behaving. She came out of her room and downstairs and started pushing my plate of lunch and my glass of water. Then she took the chord for her Leap Pad and dunked it into my cup of water. Completely irrational behavior, but again she is three. Eventually she started to calm down and start eating. I know that part of this is because on a couple of mornings in deperation to get her to eat breakfast I have allowed her to eat dry cereal on her little fold out couch, but nothing more. I am concerned that ignoring her behavior is doing more damage to her psyche than good. I am not sure where she has learned to act out like this.