Is it tacky to have a baby shower for your 2nd child?

Kayla - posted on 07/26/2010 ( 90 moms have responded )

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ok so im expecting my second daughter in Nov. and was wondering if its tacky or not classy to have a baby shower if you kept everything from your first child and if it is ok to have one what could we have besides a full blown baby shower?

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Aneliese - posted on 07/30/2010

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I find it rather rude having a baby shower for any child. Why not just say, come over, we will play some games and you can give me gifts? lol



I would leave it up to people to come and visit me once baby has been born, and if they want to give you a gift they will, and most do.





ETA: I'm in New Zealand and obviously other countries are different. But here I think its rude. its just a way for people to get gifts. baby showers haven't been around forever here, its something people have copied for america etc.

Ashley - posted on 07/30/2010

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i was always told you're no supposed to have another baby shower if your second child is the same sex as the first unless there are quite a few years between them, but who cares go ahead and do watever you feel like doing. if some of the people that you invite dont show up dont get upsetand just have fun with the ones who do show up.

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Chesnie - posted on 07/30/2010

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Not at all..I know tons of people that had showers for all their kids..Alot of poeple dont keep things from their first child so its impt to have things for the next child, especially if its a girl/boy first time then second time a boy/girl..Every child is special..good luck, the diaper shower is a good idea

Jennifer - posted on 07/30/2010

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i'm with Aneliese!

i am all for celebrating life, as long as you tell people not to feel obligated to bring gifts.

Aneliese - posted on 07/30/2010

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LOL Tascha.
Of course we welcome new babies. But having a baby shower is basically saying I want gifts, well in NZ it is anyway.
Totally different story if someone else is organising it and the mum-to-be has no idea, then yes, that is nice, but to organise your own baby shower, IMO is rude and basically asking for gifts.

Rebecca - posted on 07/30/2010

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i dont think its tacky, the shower is supposed to be a celebration, not about getting gifts. I like the idea of makign it a diaper shower, this way you get what you need. I plan on having a 2nd baby shower but this time i wont need to get big ticket items but just the essentials.

Anneke - posted on 07/30/2010

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I didn't have a shower with my 2nd child, 2nd boy, but I also didn't have many people who would have come. My 3rd was a girl, so my friend threw me a small shower in her honour. They were also in 2 different provinces with different friends and family. I do not think it's tacky or rude, especially if someone is begging to throw one for you!! That means they want to do it! If you don't really need anything, suggest diapers and the every day things as gifts. That's what I did with my daughter. She is 8 months old, and I haven't had to buy diapers or any bath products yet! Instead of having a baby shower, have a diaper party!!! You can make it for couples instead of just women. And do whatever you like. I know couples that had a shower for the women and a diaper party for the men. For the guys, they just got together, drank some beer and watched a game or something, but they still had a good time. They gave the dad a pack of diapers or wipes. All it is is a way to welcome a new baby into the world. How you choose to welcome your little one is up to yourself. A shower is just a fun way of doing it. Maybe you could wait until after the baby is born and have a "birthday party". Everyone gets to meet your little one.

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I don't think it is rude...especially when it's your friends or family throwing it for you. What's rude about wanting to welcome a baby into this world? The gifts are always a plus, but everyone should always know it's never expected in order for them to come over for fellowship. Obviously your way of celebrating life is different and not welcoming :( Sorry for you.

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I just had one for DD#2. We let people know that we wanted giftcards but also registered for items we didn't get with DD#1. Plus we needed a new crib since DD#1 is in hers as a toddler bed now. We did coed for both showers and had a late afternoon shower with this one with a nacho bar. It was nice and relaxing.

Mandy - posted on 07/30/2010

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Not tacky at all it is things for the baby not you!!! So why not this baby hasn't been showered with gifts yet they deserve the same treatment :)

Jessica - posted on 07/30/2010

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I am due in September with my second daughter and my babyshower is this weekend. I do not think it is weird at all, and if people ask if you need anything just tell them exactly what you do need or ask for giftcards. I am asking for target giftcards cuz all i need is a double stoller. I think every baby deserves to be celebrated just the same.

Sabrina - posted on 07/30/2010

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I am 7 months pregnant with my second child and I have everything I need from my 1st. So i plan on throwing a diaper party. I don't need many of the main thing but I still want to celebrate my new baby.

Angela - posted on 07/30/2010

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I was always taught that only one baby shower is appropriate and especially if children are close in age or same gender, but nothing wrong with having a fun celebration to welcome the arrival!!!

Ashley - posted on 07/30/2010

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Well, I am due at the end of September with another boy. They will be eighteen months apart. I thought I shouldn't have one, but my mom and MIL begged to throw one. I didn't register anywhere but when people asked I said diapers and clothes (my first was a spring baby and this one will be a fall baby).

Tina - posted on 07/30/2010

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no its not tacky its a wonderful thing to do i just had my 2nd child just recently i had a huge baby shower on my first child now 3 and it was wonderful but, on my 2nd lil boy i wasn't sure if i should or not but i did have one and it was GREAT tons of family and friends coming to celebrate your child and your pregnancy! :) Instead of calling it a baby shower call it a celebration of your child's life coming into this world!! hope the best

Sharon - posted on 07/30/2010

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I dont think there is anything wrong with having a second shower..I have 4 girls and had a shower with each one..There are 5 years between my first and second and 5 years between my 3 and 4th..But each one is special..With my 4th I actually thought about having a welcome baby party rather than a shower. But with her being born 2 days before christmas it just didnt work out..lol..

Brenna - posted on 07/30/2010

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my opinion is that it is up to you and no one else. I am pregnant with my second but dont know if it is a boy or girl yet. My daughter will be 22 months when the new baby is born. I think that if the new baby is a boy i will most definitely have another shower. If it is another girl I have decided to have a welcoming home party once the baby is born, besides more people would want to show up to a welcoming party than a baby shower in my opinion. Than everyone gets to meet the baby, hold the baby, and you will know what you need at that point for gifts....even if its just diapers and formula. Lets face it-no one can ever have enough clothes and diapers for a new baby!!

Melissa - posted on 07/30/2010

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Do it! I am expecting my second and we had a awesome baby shower! Though you might have kept everything from the first, there are a lot of new things that they did not have just 2 years ago-

Heather - posted on 07/30/2010

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I think its totally ok. Another idea is a diaper or hygiene party :) I did that for my sis when she had her 3 baby :)

Leah - posted on 07/30/2010

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Not tacky at ALL! This baby is just as special and just as big of a reason to celebrate. Friends and family are happy to help out and buy gifts, and if not, they won't go or won't buy one. Absolutely have another shower- I did! Why feel guilty about something that people don't HAVE to go to??? Do it!

Jaimie - posted on 07/30/2010

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I don't think it is tacky at all baby stuff is expensive get whatever you can for free...

Trisha - posted on 07/30/2010

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My mom and I just got into a fight about this yesterday and she stated that it is known for people to not throw a baby shower for the 2nd child. I am 14 weeks pregnant with my 2nd baby and she just doesn't understand. I can understand for them being the same gender but close in age. I sold everything from my first pregnancy (daughter) because I didn't think that I was going to have another baby for a while. So I currently have nothing. I even told her it depends on your friends and family and what they do. I don't think it's wrong at all.

Alaina - posted on 07/30/2010

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I do think it's kind of tacky to have a second shower when they are close in age, but I also think each baby should be a celebration, so I would say maybe instead of a shower, have a welcoming home party for the baby when she arrives. Most people will bring some kind of gift. I am pregnant with our second, my son is 2yrs old and I'm not sure if were having a boy or girl yet, but I can't imagine asking people to come to another shower where gifts are expected. Perhaps I'm a bit put off on the idea because of my cousin in law...........she is pregnant with their second girl about 1 1/2 years apart, they sold all of their first girls things, even after they knew they were having a another girl! It just seems that they are looking for handouts! Whatever you decide, just make sure you wont uncomfortable sitting in front of a bunch of people. If they don't like the idea, they don't have to be there!

Elizabeth - posted on 07/30/2010

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oh i would have one. have food and games, family and friends! No one has to get you anything just have fun. And diapers & wipes are always good to get if they do

Vicky - posted on 07/30/2010

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I didn't have one for my first, however if I do end up having a second bub, I will probably have one for that bub :)

Brittany - posted on 07/30/2010

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I was told no if the baby is different sex than the first or if you gave away first borns things

Brittany - posted on 07/29/2010

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For one a baby shower was to celebrate the arrival of a baby as also to be a bonding time for families. Plus its not like ur on ur 5th kid and ur doing a baby shower so i dont see a problem in having ur second

Heaven - posted on 07/29/2010

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i had another baby shower for my second daughter
and still have both of there stuff for keep sakes although i was told your not suppos to have a second baby shower but hey look at the year we are in and not only that both of my daughters belong to too diffrent men so for my second they wanted to trow me a baby shower

Mildred - posted on 07/29/2010

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I dont think its tacky at all every baby should be celebrated in its own special way, If you dont need many stuff than you could always make id a diaper and wipes party! you can make it what ever you want! BBQ, potluck anything

Heather - posted on 07/29/2010

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i have a boy and a girl and even tho there is a big age difference between the two(6 yrs) i think its kinda nice to have a party for both of them even if its just a welcome to the world party after you have the baby so in my opinion baby shower away!!

Sarah - posted on 07/29/2010

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I really like the idea of the baby sprinkle!! My friend had a second baby shower with her second but only because it was 7 years difference between the two kids (and a change of dads). I have had 5 kids in 6 years and I think my friends would get a little bored with the whole shower idea. But the Sprinkle is awesome!!! Who comes up with this stuff? lol

Sabrina - posted on 07/29/2010

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iam due in nov as well with my second daughter...we are going to have a baby shower but afer the baby is born and gifts are optional! since we do have most of everything....:)

Michelle - posted on 07/29/2010

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LOL, Well I'm not all sophisticated and stuff but I want one this time too. I have a few things from my son but they are all blue. This time I am having a girl. I love the BIG SISTER PARTY idea Racheal spoke about.

Debbie - posted on 07/29/2010

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Not at all, who told you it was tacky, even if you were on your 6th child does not matter you can have as many baby showers as you wish, i wish i had a baby shower for my second daughter but i was not so lucky.

Angel - posted on 07/29/2010

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Im having a baby shower with my 2nd baby and i agree i dont see how it can be tacky. It is a time to celebrate this baby as with any is just important as the 1st and should be shown with a lil shower celebrating with family friends and loved ones.

Shannon - posted on 07/29/2010

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I am all for celebrating each pregnancy!! I now have 4 babies, and no matter what anyone says there will forever be things you need for each baby. I will be honest, I even think its a good idea for you to throw yourself one. Which had I not been told by my mother that it was a "selfish idea" I would have done.
Good luck, and enjoy the celebration of the life you have created!!

Brittany - posted on 07/29/2010

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I only think it is tacky if you expect big presents like with the very first child. If you focus more on the celebration of life rather than receiving gifts (which now that I think about it focusing on that with the first show is super tacky, too) you should be totally ok in my book.

Tiffany - posted on 07/29/2010

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They call them "sprinkles" instead of "showers". It's perfectly normal to have one, each pregnancy is a reason to celebrate! Maybe you don't need the big items, but diapers and supplies are always nice!! Congrats!

LaWanda - posted on 07/29/2010

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I am haiving my third child in Nov and I am having a third party for this one. Mostly a diaper party, but everyone can feel free to bring what they want. I want to celebrate each of my children individually. If someone has a problem with it, they don't have to come.

Persis - posted on 07/29/2010

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I think every child should be celebrated no matter if they're the same sex or how far apart they are from one another. All babies are blessings.

Carina - posted on 07/29/2010

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i say go for if you want to. i am having my 3rd and we are having a aby shower. my only problem is that i want to wait till after the baby is born to have it and my mother in law wants to through one for me before the baby is born and thats only 4 weeks from now.

Melissa - posted on 07/29/2010

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I don't feel its tacky, but if you feel that you have everything that you need, maybe you can have a diaper party, where every guest brings a big pack of diapers. You can still celebrate the new baby, there is nothing tacky about it!

Skyelar - posted on 07/29/2010

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Soooo not tacky! Even if you kept all the stuff from your last child and dont want to give it away you can always tell you guest to buy more of the essential type of things. Like diapers and wipes and ect... Or you can always donate your old things to charity if your guests get you something new of the samething. I am on my very first child and I benefitted from charities cause I have no money at all and baby daddy is a major bum(saying that out of spite). So I suggest go ahead and spoil yourself with a baby shower give the old things to charity groups and help other moms like me who are expecting and need all the help they can get. Besides Im sure you and your new baby deserve new things. Nothing wrong with a second baby shower!

Charlena - posted on 07/28/2010

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No it isnt tacky its a personal choice rather you want to have one or not , I didnt have any planned baby showers for my kids , but my job gave me a surprise baby shower which was sweet . I bought most of my sons items who is due in 4 weeks over the period of the 9 months so i really didnt need anything , it would have just been to much stuff lol

Amanda - posted on 07/28/2010

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i think its ok . i was wondering of it was wrong to have one for your forth child .if youve never had one . i feel like i missed out

Maya - posted on 07/28/2010

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I don't think it's tacky! I got a lot of grief when I had my second and didn't get much support but I felt like well I'm having a boy four years later so it was much needed and why not celebrate another beautiful baby coming into your life! I agree you can call it a celebration of new life party. ? how far apart is your first from your soon to be second?

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There's always something that you need like diapers. Plus why not celebrate it, even without the gifts.

Lacee - posted on 07/28/2010

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It used to be traditional to only have a baby shower with your first child. But times have changed and it's fun to celebrate each child. Maybe you can have a small bbq or even wait till the baby is born and have an Introducing Baby party. Thats always fun.

Michelle - posted on 07/28/2010

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i don't t hink its tacky at all. i had a babyshower for all 3 of children. you have the right to celebrate and "shower" you new baby (whether its your first or your fifth) with lots of love. if anyone thinks its tacky then they are not worthy of you.

Griffin - posted on 07/28/2010

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I have to admit to being somewhat annoyed with my brother & his wife having another shower, considering the second was also a girl and less than 2yrs apart. There was also a bunch of stuff on the registry for the older sister, but they never said anything about it being a big-sister thing...
However, having my own son and hoping for a girl next who probably won't be much more than 2yrs apart, I want to have another shower... I was in and out of the hospital a lot with my first, and it made having a shower rather difficult!

Stephanie - posted on 07/28/2010

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I'm pregnant with my third child and I've had a baby shower for each of my other two and am positive my family will throw me another one. How horrible for anyone to suggest this baby isn't worth celebrating!

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