Is my son the only one that is a pain in the butt?!?!?!?!?!

Jennifer - posted on 06/15/2010

OMG my son is going to be 1 in 2 weeks and I thought that he was the only one like this. He gets into everything and makes a huge fuss all the time and he has this new thing where he screams at the top of his lungs for no reason all the time. Sorry girl with I could help.

Brandy - posted on 06/15/2010

Have you tried time-outs? I did time-outs with my daughter starting at about a year old. 1 minute for their age (so your son would have one minute then a minute and a half when he is a year and a half), on a chair in a place that is out of the way, no responding to any kind of noise they may make (yes, even if it's really loud), if he gets down, you keep putting him back up until he realizes that you are not going to give in (sometimes it can take a while when you first start enforcing time-outs) but don't talk to him when you do this other than to tell him he is having this time-out. If he moves around, fine, as long as he stays on the chair just ignore him and when his minute is up, calmly explain to him why he had the time-out and not to do it again or he will get another time-out. That's my system and it works awesome for my daughter (now 2) and all the kids I have babysat.

The not sleeping through the night can go on for a while yet and is completely normal. I agree with you on the bed sharing thing. I love sleeping with my babies and my daughter slept with us until my son was born when my daughter was 20 months and now my son sleeps with us. We put her in her room at that time and she didn't have a problem with it. I don't see why your hubby has such a problem especially since baby isn't coming to your room until 2 or 3 so that's half the night you guys have the bed to yourselves. Just explain to your husband that you enjoy being an attached parent and this is an important part of the way you want to mother your child. If his problem is intimacy, take him out of the bedroom when baby is in the bedroom. Hopefully he agrees to let you share the bed for a while longer.

Nikki - posted on 06/15/2010

my son turns one on Thursday and he is all over the place , getting into everything but to be honest he is a baby now a toddler and really what do you expect at this age, they are exploring and learning and this is the only way they know how

Angie - posted on 06/15/2010

He's being 1, totally normal behavior all the way around. With my first for about 2 weeks after she started crawling I did the whole "no touch" and redirecting thing but then I realized that if she was getting into stuff she shouldn't it was my own fault for having it at her reach. So our house is bare. We went through and anything we weren't ok with her touching, playing with etc we put away. Now there aren't so many temptations for my kids and I don't have to do the whole hovering over them thing to make sure they don't break something or get hurt because I know when they are playing in our home there isn't anything that could hurt them. It is obviously not that way at other's homes and when we are out visiting I do hover and redirect a ton but I feel like at our house they should be able to relax and not have to worry about doing something wrong.

Denikka - posted on 06/15/2010

I have an almost 15mo old son.
I think you just need to relax a bit. Your kiddo is exploring his world. I do the same thing Rachel does. Just move everything that's not child friendly out of reach.
My son has days (most of them) where he doesn't really get the word *no*. He LOVES to climb up on tables and some days I do little more than pull him off of them and tell him no (and why) and attempt to distract him with something else.
At 1, punishments don't really work all that well. Try redirecting him and distracting him with things he IS allowed to play with instead of punishing him for things he isn't allowed to play with.
Only telling a child no or explaining what they shouldn't/aren't allowed to do doesn't help them, especially at a young age. Give them alternatives that they are allowed and redirect them in positive ways.

As for the sleeping, some children just have different sleeping patterns. If sleeping through the night is such an issue for you, try cutting out his nap. I cosleep so it's never been an issue for me personally, but I know with me, when I sleep during the day, I'm much more likely to wake up at night. It could be the same way for your son. I personally don't think there's a problem with what you are doing now, but if your hubby has an issue with it, perhaps you need to talk to him and attempt to find a solution that everyone is happy with. Maybe attach a side bassinet that your son can sleep in instead of the actual bed.

Dominique - posted on 06/14/2010

No. I think all babies are pains. My daughter is a month away from 1 and get into all kinds of things. Just laugh it off, after all, kids will be kids. Try not to stress also, because they feel it and I think it gives them even more energy. And about the co-sleeping, I do it sometimes, when I've been up on F/B way too long and need extra sleep time in the morning. My child usually wakes at 6 or 7am, but while in bed w/ mommy she sleeps until 9 or even 10. Just figure out if you're doing it for him or you, then figure out if you really want it to end, that will help you make a decision. hope this is helpful.

Alicia - posted on 06/14/2010

My son is also almost one (on the 25th), and is into everything as well. He understands no, but he has days where he still tries to get away with whatever he's doing until he sees us coming to stop him. Typical boy, I think. As far as waking up at night, your issue might be that you allow him into bed with you. Since you're okay with that, then you might have to be okay with his waking up, because every friend I know who has allowed their child to sleep with them since birth still have sleep issues, and a couple of their kids are 3 or older. Personally, my son would wake up for no reason during the night and I'd go pick him up, or pay attention to him, whatever, but I was told that's the only reason he didn't go back to sleep, because he knew I'd come pay attention to him. Once I stopped, or just gave him his paci and laid him back down and ignored him (this took a week or so), he started sleeping through the night finally. If the waking up is especially hard for you, and you want it to stop, I'd suggest not letting him stay in bed with you for now. It doesn't have to stay that way, when he's a little older and used to sleeping in his own bed, then let him come stay with you in bed randomly. This way you can also compromise with your husband, who will probably be happier that your son isn't always in bed with you.

Rachel - posted on 06/10/2010

All 3 of my kids were sleeping at least 6 hours solid through the night in their own beds by the time they were 5 months old. I was always too nervous having them in bed with me unless I was feeding. Up to 3 months, I kept them in a bassinet next to my bed and at 4 months, they moved to the crib. My oldest, who is now 5, would never go to sleep unless she had white noise...a vacuum, hair dryer, tv or radio static. I would run one of those for about 10 minutes and she would be out like a light for the rest of the night. My middle child liked music and my youngest just needed quiet. I've seen a lot of kids that will not sleep fully without some kind of sound in the background. That might help you to find something your son finds soothing.

As far as the not listening and getting into everything, it's just the joy of having a one year old. They love to explore. Instead of suffering through the frustration of constantly saying no...I moved all the un-kid-friendly items out of reach. With other items, if a hand smack didn't work, they would be put in the play pen or just distracted with something else. They have a very short attention span. If you can attract his mind onto something else, he should leave your stuff alone...at least for a few minutes.

Maria - posted on 06/10/2010

my son is almost 9 months old, still sleeps with me, doesnt sleep through the night, and into everything too lol. that just sounds like my life. he is just starting to walk which makes things even harder! just hang in there and try to enjoy him at this age. before we know it theyll be all grown up and we'll totally be missing baby!

Taylor - posted on 06/10/2010

i do get down to his level and tell him no and all that good stuff and it just does not seem to work...i have never seen a child that dosent listen at this age...ive seen them older not listening but not this yooung where they dilberately ignores you!!!! and i completely agree with that sleeping in the bed thing thats what i was always told growing up...and my son is the only baby that i know that doesnt sleep thru the night and he only take 1 30 min nap a day and thats it...

Itsa - posted on 06/10/2010

Tell your husband to stop being so cruel. How does he think it worked at the dawn of the human era? The baby slept with the mother until it didn't want to anymore. Children need comfort and reasurrance from their parents and if sleeping next to the pair of you gives him that then tell him to suck it up and be a dad! Thats why you guys started a family, isn't it???

My son sleeps with daddy every night, he works till late and comes home just before our son is due to go to bed. He starts off sleeping in his crib then hubby brings him to bed when he goes. I have him all day so I let them snuggle while I sleep. I wouldn't have it any other way! It's not natural to shove a baby in its own bed and expect it to be comfortable after 9 months of warmth and soothing mommy voice, breathing and possibly snoring too! It's also been proven that kids who are allowed to sleep with mom and or dad are more likely to be confident later on in life, less scared to try new things and it creates a stronger bond. If your son rolls around alot, make a little "nest" for him in the middle of the bed so he can't kick dad. If dad is having trouble sleeping with junior in the bed then tell him to hit the couch!

Sorry, just the way I think things should be!

About him getting into everything.. he's exploring his world and testing boundaries! Rather than popping or snipping, try saying no in a very low and stern tone. Then get down to his level, put your hands on his shoulders and explain how bad or dagerous something is. Give him a kiss and say you don't want him to get hurt, then take him to another room and play.

About him not sleeping thought the night... babies up to 2 yrs old are actually not supposed to sleep through! Think... all the new info going into their little brains all day... their naps are very deep sleep because they're so active. At night, the body and more specifically the brain, repairs and build new cells for information storage. This process requires very light or REM sleep. This is the stage just after falling asleep and just before deep sleep. Babies go in and out of REM and deep sleep all night long. While in REM, the slightest noise, creak or dripping sound can wake them up. Then they see it's dark and mom and dad are nowhere in sight! It's scary!

Sorry if I seem a bit pushy here but I'm just trying to help!

Christina - posted on 06/10/2010

My son is a huge pain in the butt but also the sweetest little boy I know.He is 3 years old and just has moments where he doesnt want to listen because boys have so much energy.1 year olds are always going to be into everything anyways and pretty soon he will start saying no all the time too.Just find what discipline works for you and your son and you will be all right.It takes a little while to set up routines but just be consistent with things like bed time and put him back in his bed no matter how many times it takes.I still let my kids sleep in my bed if they are sick or not feeling well but other than that they need to be in their own bed because its better for you and your husband.

Kristi - posted on 06/09/2010

i used to let my children sleep in bed with me but i had to put a stop to it when i realised she just wouldnt go in her own bed, my OH works nights so when he comes home early hours he wasnt able to come to bed so was sleeping on the sofa and even found him in my daughters cot! :-/ so i had to put a stop to it!
it was sooo hard to break that routine tho and very distressing for me to hear her crying like she did but now its brilliant! she goes willingly to bed at 6:30 (she is 2 years old) and stays in her bed and wakes up nice and refreshed around 8am! and i in the meantime get the bed to myself and am not just mummy but me for a few hours!

you and your hubby should be able to put the kids to bed and have u time! thats a personal opinion anyways!

with the whole pain in the bum, have you tried the naughty step/mat/spot??? we use the naughty step very very rarely, but i sit them by the front door! and bribary is brilliant if they understand it!
all i do is simply say no very very sternly and if they do it again no again a bit louder and take their hand and move them away if again i give a stern no move them away tell them y its wrong and sit them by the door! i understand for a 1 year old this may be hard haha but the stern no and move him away should work, let him have a hissy fit on the floor if thats what he does and ignor it, then everytime he does it move him away and he will soon realise u dont like him doing that and he wont bother doing it again as it gets him nowhere!!

long winded but hope it helps! xx