is natural birth as painful as it seems

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Belinda - posted on 03/06/2010

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It's fun to read all the different experiences. You have to realize that EVERYONE"S IS DIFFERENT! I had an epidural with my first and just some Nubane with my second. The NUbane wears off...time to push. It wasn't bad at all. And I am about 115lbs...5'4"....and both my babies were just under 9 lbs.

That being said I have friends who had epi's and felt everything from the pelvis down. (A good epi isn't supposed to numb anything but your contractions...or so I was told by my midwife)...I've had friends who went natural and slept for the first 3 hours of their infants life.

In the end...nobody can tell you what you're going feel or how you are going to handle pain. Think about what you want out of your birth and then be prepared to throw it out the window :)

Jennifer - posted on 02/18/2010

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Yes, natural birth is as painful as it seems. But, I've had two kids this way. I heard all the stories of epidural and other pain killers used during labor and didn't want that. I had a birthing coach.

I was alert and ready to hold my children after they were born.

My husband thinks that having them naturally contributed to a shorter delivery time. I was in labor with my first child for two hours and my second was born with 45 minutes of labor.

Both of my children were over eight pounds.

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Aimee - posted on 11/05/2011

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hi i have 5 children natural births and only 1 of mine was painful i used a little gas and air on the last stage put breath and push and pant and u can get through the pains that u do have mine was in my back do alot of walkin and gentle excercise to get your body ready for givin birth hope this helps

Jade - posted on 11/04/2011

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Natural birth doesn't have to hurt but if you are fearful it will!(Google fear tension pain). The trouble is woman don't know how to birth anymore as its done behind closed doors, so even if you want to go natural its unlikely it will happen unless you educated yourself. I had my daughter (my 1st) using the skills i learnt in hypnobirthing classes and can honesty say there was no pain at all. It was hard work but not painful, i liken it to running mini marathon! Knowledge is power, good luck to you

Jami - posted on 03/09/2010

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my daughter was my first natural birth (she's the 3rd child) the labor and delivery wasn't very bad (no back labor) but I bled...a lot...and all the stuff they did to me to stop the bleeding was horrible. it was a nightmare. I told my midwife I was ordering the epidural when I got the positive test!

Belinda - posted on 03/09/2010

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I had both my children naturally. Yes it hurts but of course you have to expect some pain. But everyone is different. And you soon forget all about it when you see your little bubba in your arms anyway. Good luck :)

Crystal - posted on 03/09/2010

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Like many of the other women on here, I am have to agree that it was painful but not as bad as all the stories that you have probaley been told. I had my son is Sept, 2009 (my first child) and I did it naturally not by choice but beause I went from a 4 to pushing in 5 mins. I will tell you this your body takes over and all you can do is follow and just listen to the nurses. They were a great help to me, and they take your angry if it needs to come out, they understand that you are not yourself at the moment. Good Luck and Congratuations!!!!!

Lauren - posted on 03/09/2010

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i agree with a few of the other posts on here.. NO i don't think it was as painful as all horror stories i'd been told. i was in labour for 10 hours in total and established labour for 3hours 38minutes and i pushed for 23minutes before my son was born. the contractions are by far the worst, the pushing is a burning and stinging sensation. i also only had gas and air. i found labour and giving birth exhilarating and a fantastic experience.

Maria - posted on 03/09/2010

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To be induced, which i experienced twice is more painful then if you started labour naturally.

Maria - posted on 03/09/2010

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Natural birth is painful and i have had 3 births that way. Two of them i didn't use pain relief at all. Some mothers have only experienced a little pain, then there are some that have had the worst. It just depends on your body. The best way is not to panic too much as it makes you feel worse. I know it is very easy to say, but its better to try to relax and stay calm. If i had a choice, i would opt for natural birth then a C-section. So many ladies in my family have had it and all of them had a huge amount of pain and discomfort after, whereas with natural birth, your able to walk around as normal....By the way, as soon as you have your little pride and joy in your arms, you forget all the pain you went through anyway!!

Audri - posted on 03/09/2010

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I guess it depends on how your birth goes... I had a natural birth, and my daughter was 9lbs 8oz. The only part that really hurt for me was when her face and shoulders were coming out, but that part was over rather quickly. It mainly just burned a lot, and I think it was only a little bit worse because I tore a little. Other than that, I don't remember feeling a lot of pain, just lots of pressure. Of course, when the midwife would use her fingers to kinda stretch me a little and help turn Maddie's head, that hurt at first, but only for a second.
I didn't want an epidural, and by the time I started second guessing that decision, it was too late lol. :D

Niki - posted on 03/08/2010

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not neccessarly, i had a natural birth and yes it was painfull, but not nearly as bad as i thought it was going to be. but everyones different. I also used a lot of natural remedies which i think made a huge differnce. while pregnent I drank raspberry leaft tea to tone my uterus (makes contractions more effective and less painfull, ate really well, did lots of exercise (long distance walking is especially important to get baby into the right position and prepair the ligaments) I took homeopathics. during the birth i took rescure remedy and homepathics and used pressure piont for pain relief - as well as having a waterbirth which made a huge and immediate difference, as soon as i hopped in the water my pain went down by half - magic. and I loved afterwoods, not feeling groggie from drugs, and knowing that my son wasnt born all drugged up. was well worth it and im definatly going natural this time around.

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My 1st baby hurt so much but i believe thats because i didnt know what to expect. i was anxious and stressed so it made it longer then i think it owuld if i had just given into it. My second baby was born at home he came that fast. no drugs nothing not even the paramedics made it in time! i did get a little tense as i was 3 wks early but i got into the bath (mistake only as it made it all happen alot faster then anticipated) and relaxed and my body took over once i calmed and knew what was ahppening it was the most amazing experience ever!

Pamela - posted on 03/06/2010

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My daughter was 8lb 9oz.
I went into labour at 9am (although I had been having little contraction the previous day, they were nothing really, as I fell asleep while having them). My contractions were immediately quite strong, less than five minuutes apart, and very regular.
I called the Hospital, had a chat with a midwife and decided to stay at home till the pain got worse.

A bit after lunchtime I decided to head into the hospital to make sure everything was on track, which it was, so I decided to go home to labour, where I would be more comfortable. They wouldn't let me leave without painkillers, so I had two panadeine just before 2pm.

I lay in my bathtub to give my back some relief, which really helped.
The pains got really strong, so I got out of the tub, my waters broke and I felt the overwhelming urge to push, so I hauled ass back to hospital.

I arrived at 6pm, and gave birth at 6.16pm.

The whole pushing bit was fine, she came straight out, my breathing sorted itself out, I pushed when my body told me to, and to be honest my last 5 or so contractions before my water broke hurt more than pushing out the baby did.


I expected it to hurt waaaay more, which is why I nearly had my daughter in the car on the way to the hospital. lol!
If I'd had a more realistic impression of the pain I would experience I would've been back to the hospital far sooner.


Some things I think helped me:

I focused on the baby. No matter how much it might hurt, she was going to be worth it because I'd been waiting to meet her so long.

I spent NO time lying on my back at all from the first contraction, till when I finally had her out. I can't imagine labouring on my back, that would have totally scared me!

I really didn't want to be a cliche. No swearing and screaming, and crying and hysterics. To each their own, but thats not me.

I walked around, and let gravity help out.

I didn't have anyone with me whose behaviour I had to worry about. Just my partner, and if he freaked out on me, I would've kicked him out and laboured alone! lol

I think if you just stay calm, and focused, and remember that its a very natural thing, and focus on the baby you'll be fine!



Goodluck! That baby is coming out one way or another, so don't stress, just go with it! :)

Lauren - posted on 03/06/2010

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my lil one was 8 pound 14 oz, and i did it with a gas stick, which did nothing!! yes it hurts, but when that little one is out you forget everything!

Ruth - posted on 03/06/2010

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Definately not i only have 1 child and i was only in labour for an hour and it wasn't the pain that hurt it was the burning.But by the end it all goes away and u can't really remember any of the pain anyway.

Tania - posted on 03/05/2010

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My son was born full term at 8pound 10 ounces. I wanted a natural birth but told the midwives to have gas on hand just in case. I ended up not needing gas - i felt so in control of everything, and wouldnt of had it any other way. Yes it hurts, Natural is not for everyone, so just do what you feel comfortable with. When in labour we tend to find strength and courage that we may not of thought we had left!

Chanel - posted on 03/05/2010

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2 tell you the truth my main pain was my contractions i did not feel my girl coming out. lol i think a "C Section" would b more painful considering you'll have a cut open tummy, but i havn't had wun so wouldn't no.... but yes once the baby is out the pain is over str8 away, lil bit sore "down there" obviously but the pain in ur tummy is gone... just remember u have the power to do this u were born for it KIA KAHA (be strong)

Sarah - posted on 03/05/2010

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I went in 1. Not wanting to act like the moms I see on tv giving birth and 2. wanting every pain medication I could. Neither happened. Mine was abnormal the doctors told me, they said no one normally feels that much pain, I guess the postion the baby was in was hitting different muscles and nerves, but it was sooo painful that I'm actually kind of afraid to have another one. And I can take pain I promise you. Good luck in whatever you choose, and remember, it's YOUR decision, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

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no. im the biggest drama queen and it was not bad. my leg injury was 10x worse than childbirth. i was so scared but i did it epi free and had no pain meds. i did it natural. i tore bad to. it wasn't bad. it didn't hurt just uncomfortable. once the head crowns and it burns yes not gonna lie but after that it's like nothing and the pain goes away like instantly. people psych themself out before they even get there which is why it hurts and seems bad. pain is all mental. you control pain. if you think it hurts and make it a huge issue yes it will hurt and be bad because thats what you're focussing on. if you go in with the it's ok it doesn't hurt attitude it won't be bad. i pushed for over an hour,she came out face up arm across the face slightly sideways and i tore and needed stictches and it still was not near as bad as when i broke my leg. honestly everyones different. you can't listen to other peoples stories because it will not be the same for you. asking people about pain is just asking to get freaked out and make it worse lol i learned that 1.

Jessica - posted on 03/05/2010

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YES labor and birth are very painful. BUT there are lots natural of ways of coping with the pain that don't involve medication. I think if you do everything possible to prepare yourself going in- take classes & read, practice breathing and labor positions, get a doula and get your SO in on it so they can be your advocate and support... the more you prepare the better off you will be. There's no way to prepare 100%, because everyone is different, but it will help. Honestly, I caved at the last second and got an epi but I probably didn't need to. I didn't feel like I could take one more contraction and the pressure was unbearable- but I was transitioning. I knew in the back of my mind that the worst was almost over but I got the epi anyway. It hardly had time to kick in before I was pushing so I still felt a lot of it. I think I just wasn't prepared for just how much pain I'd be in. What also worked against me was once I got to the hospital (2.5 hours before he was born) I had much less freedom to be in whatever position I wanted, to move around, basically was very limited on coping techniques. Standard procedure, I had to sit reclining in the bed for while to get iv fluids and wear the contraction monitor, and that was the WORST position for me. I spent the whole day at home sitting on an excercise ball which was very comfortable. Once I was at the hospital I was stuck. Next time I'll be more prepared.

Yinni - posted on 03/05/2010

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i gave birth naturally, tho not by choice. my "nurse" conveniently forgot to call the tech that would give me my epidural (even when my midwife DEMANDED her to get them into my room). im not gonna lie, i felt nothing... at first. no contractions or anything. when my son started to move thru the birth canal tho, it was the most painful experience for me ever and i have a high threshold for pain. thankfully, i was only pushing for about a half hour when my son came into the world and the pain was quickly forgotten. it was more annoying after i gave birth, since i tore and it felt like my back and pelvis broke during the process. i wouldve took another 30 min of birthing pain than the 4 weeks of aches and pains i got afterwards.

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yes and no. of course it hurts... so bad you'll want to cry, but the pain will be over, and its not like an unexpected pain... you know its coming, and theres really nothing you can do to stop it... the baby i mean! i had a shot of morphine when i first got to the hospital, because i was only 8 cm, but right after my water broke and they checked me again and i was already at 10 like 2 minutes... so i didnt have time for the epidural, but honestly, you will forget how bad the pain is and its totally worth it when you get to hold your baby for the first time... i would pick a natural birth over a c-section any day! good luck!!!

Jennifer - posted on 03/05/2010

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I have three kids ant the first one was the worst..I took the needle it was not that bad but i was in labor for 22 hours..I was alert and ready when it was over..My last child was very easy 45 min..I think the more you have the easier it gets...I have enough myself...Also the last time i did not have time for anything i jst had to go..They are both very painful if you ask me..

Shaena - posted on 02/21/2010

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i had no pain medicine, and i am such a wuss! and it turned out just fine, my labor was 45 mins!! and he was 8.2 lbs and i was 40 weeks along, it turned out great, the dr said if i would have gotten an epidural, labor would have been way way longer. i encourage it.

Sara - posted on 02/21/2010

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I also want to mention... for empowerment, in case you decide to go au naturale... My sister is due with Number Eight in April. The only one she's had in the hospital was the first, and only because the state she was in doesn't have lay midwives. The other 6 she had at home [I was there for 3] with a midwife or was unassisted, no drugs, nothing. Think about this: Women all over the world give birth every day, and how many of them are fortunate enough to opt for pain medication? :)

Melissa - posted on 02/21/2010

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Hi Jessica,
I have 3 children. I had all 3 of my children naturally. For me the worst part was my contractions were in my lower back. But I think it's just gonna depend on you and your body, pain tolerence, and just your circumstances. I didn't have any problems with any of my pregnancies or the deliveries. I hope the best for you and yours!! Good luck.

Monica - posted on 02/21/2010

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Hey Jessica, I just had my first child one month ago, and I was just like you wanting to know HOW bad it would really hurt... I really think EVERY person is different I thought I wouldn't handle pain well at all but when the contractions started I became so strong it was shocking to me lol. I had very strong contractions 2-3 min apart for 3 days non stop. By the time it was time for my son to come I didnt take the drugs just because I thought I had done the worst, I just felt ALOT of presure like you really have to go to the bathroom lol . The best thing I can tell you is deep breaths and push really hard when its time focus your energy there dont talk or scream lol it wont help at all.. Because of that I really believe thats why It only took me 3 pushes and the Dr. said that was a big part to me not tearing .. All in all I'm not going to say it didn't hurt BUT I will say it didn't hurt long once it was time to push for me that was the easy part and I'm SO glad I didn't take the drugs because I was wide awake and spending time with him right after rather than feeling out of it for the day... I hope this helps you I wish you lots of luck and just know you will find the strength you never knew you had . ;)

Mandy - posted on 02/21/2010

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Hi Jessica!!

I think every mother will agree with me that the pain of childbirth is painful, but all-in-all when you first lay your eyes on your baby, you realize the pain was all worth it. I really want to tell you to go natural, but you will be the one to really make that call when you go into labor and how much pain you can endure!! I really do wish you the best of luck!! and Congrats on the soon to be baby!!

Erin - posted on 02/21/2010

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It hurt, but it wasn't unbearable. The only medication I had was a muscle relaxer to help me to not tense up during contractions, and I was ok after that. And if felt a LOT better when I was able to start pushing. The actual pushing didn't hurt me at all. I think it all depends on how well you handle pain.

Sara - posted on 02/21/2010

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It depends on your pain tolerance. I'm not very pain tolerant, but it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it would be. Granted, I didn't get to push my son out - I ended up having a cesarian because of his heartrate. [I was 42 weeks so they induced me, then I wasn't dilating so they gave me an epidural hoping it would help if I could relax... and his heartrate started to drop.] The worst part for me was when he was coming down, because he wasn't fitting, and it was quite painful. But other than that the contractions were nothing. I really wish I had the chance to have a vaginal birth, though. And I was planning on going into it with no meds whatsoever. I don't know that it's ever too late to get an epidural, though, unless you've already started pushing.

Georgina - posted on 02/21/2010

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My son (1st born) was so easy 2 give birth 2 at 6lb 5oz.. I had gas and peth for pain but really looking back could have gone without. My daughter was 5 weeks prem born at 5lb 8oz and I was screaming 4 drugs drugs and more drugs.. So really it all depends on your body, the baby and your cirecumstances. My mum had 3 c-sec's and 1 natural born. The first was koz the labour went on for over 24hr's the second koz my brother was breach and the 3rd koz my youngest brother had (still has) a fat head and got stuck. and after having 4 children she says that a natural born, no matter how painfull, is the best way 2 go. Once that baby is out, no more pain and no more feeling like crap. Pain only last's so long and is forgoten once u gaze in2 the eyes of ur new bundle of love and joy:)

Ashley - posted on 02/21/2010

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i had an epidural with my son (6lbs 15 oz) so i didnt feel one thing, my daughter( 8lbs 2 oz) on the other hand by the time the got done sticking the epidural in i went to get comfortable and all of a sudden i felt this pressure to push and out she came within 5 mins of them sticking that in so it didnt even have time to work yet. does it HURT - it depends on what your def. of pain is - some can tolerate it more than others. i thought it was painful, but i really cant describe it because as soon as the baby comes out. you honestly wont even remember the pains. i know that if we decide to have another one im not getting an epidural. I did with my son he was my first, my daughter i wanted but it didnt work that way ! so if i have a third im not getting one because i can remember the pain of the epidural going more than i can of my daughter coming out!

Maggie - posted on 02/18/2010

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I did not find the labour or delivery of my son painful. I was induced at the end of week 35 and he weighed in at 7lbs 6oz. Induction made labour very quick and intense but considering the whole ordeal (being early, being flown out etc) i was determined to have the natural labour and delivery i wanted. i think childbirth is amazing and i trusted my body to do it's job and was committed to working with it. a lot of it is mindset ... a lot is also pain tolerance. and i have a very high pain tolerance so i'm sure that played a large part.

Sarah - posted on 02/18/2010

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My labor with my son was induced & I went into the hospital already knowing I wanted an epidural. I got my epidural (which took them two sticks), got the first initial dose, and then shortly after getting some relief it started to wear off. I didn't understand why I was starting to feel contractions again & then my best friend realized that my epidural pump was "OFF." The anesthesiologist gave me the first dose but FORGOT to turn my pain pump on. Wonderful. So, I went through most of my labor without any pain relief, until I was around 8cm when a different anesthesiologist came and administered another dose. I was in labor for 11 hours & yes it was definitely painful...not gonna lie!! I only pushed for 15 minutes, and pushing didn't seem as bad as I thought it was going to be. Unfortunately I did rip, though. :( I did get SOME relief from my epidural and after my son was born I had terrible tremors from the epidural that lasted like 45 minutes to an hour! I was afraid to hold my son because I was trembling so bad! But, in the end you forget about all the pain once you have your baby in your arms!

Angela - posted on 02/18/2010

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I believe that it is all up to the person. If you can deal with the pain, more power to you. I had an epidural with both of my children. I didnt feel a thing. My labors were both kind of slow though. If they had been fast, I may have attempted the all natural way.

Amanda - posted on 02/18/2010

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To be honest yes it does hurt but after the bby is born you dont think about it all you can think about is your baby! My daughter was 7 lbs so I was in some pain!

Tawni - posted on 02/18/2010

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It's all in how you perceive it.. with my first- it was awful I felt out of control and i was in miserable pain- i panicked a lot- however my labor with my first also stalled at 8cm and for 5 hours i didn't progress at all dispite killer contractions- so i started to doubt myself (and ultimately had to have pitocin to augment contractions- still no pain meds)- that being said- my second birth was AMAZING- no meds of any kind and yes- there was pain but it was NOTHING compared to my first- i was in control- relaxed and ready- also started out much more rested- so i think the key is in how you think about your contractions and how well rested you are and how much support you have there with you. :) good luck!

Brigida - posted on 02/18/2010

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I was in labour for 14 hours and had allot of complications. Everyone is different. I had to be given blood, because I lost so much, it didn't not go well, lol. I think that you are right about the contractions and the pushing (pushing feels GREAT, huge relief) I think mine was painful because of the complicatoins.

Sheree - posted on 02/18/2010

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NO WAY!!! Everyone will tell you all their horror stories and you never hear any good ones, so you only have the worst possible image to go off. I was the same and was imagining the worst pain of my life. I didnt even know i was in labour, i thought it was braxton hicks. I hate pain and cry over a blood test, i am the biggest sook you will ever meet. I think my tattoo I got was more painful then labour and childbirth, and the worst part of it is the burning sensation you get as the baby is about to come out. I had no drugs at all. I had 2 panadols 5.5 hours before my daughter was born as I had a little back pain but other then that it was a breeze.

Brigida - posted on 02/18/2010

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I had a natural birth with my daughter.
And the answer is yes.
Yes it is as painful as it seems and don't do it unless you are sure. But it's worth it. With all the drugs it feels lik your not really THERE for the birth. Without them, it's alot more memberible.

Ashleigh - posted on 02/18/2010

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I did it all natural ( no inductions, no drugs, no breaking water etc.). It was painful, but it was also amazing to experience and to feel everything. I think it just depends on how long the "active labour" is. Obviously if you are tired, try the meds, they are there to help and dont make you any less of a mom. I just totally do not believe in being induced- i went 2 weeks overdue and everything went great!!

Theresa - posted on 02/18/2010

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I had epidurals with my first 3 and with my forth i wanted to go natural and i did up until 8cm then the dr broke my water and the pain was so so bad i got the epi but it didn't have time to work because i was pushing immediately afterward and didn't have anytime to get numb.....And yes it was very painful!!! but on the other hand i didn't swell and healing time was much much quicker than with my others which is weird because she was my biggest baby....

Tessa - posted on 02/18/2010

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Natural Birthing The Bradley Way. IT is a book and method to get through natural labor as pain free as possible. :)

Betty - posted on 02/18/2010

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i had a natural birth with no pain killers or anything. It was not bad at all. I wante to have another baby very quickly but the husband said we should wait awhile. They say the shoulder hurt the worst i thought the head was worse. But the worse part was the episiotomy , sewing up, and them pulling out the palcenta.They gave me numbinh stuff to sew back up and i didnt have enough of that. Placenta hurt the worst of it all. Mine was not detached quite yet.

Vanessa - posted on 02/18/2010

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Yes it is painful, but you body will help with the pain. After a while things go kind of numb. I personally think this is the way to go. It's what your body was made to do.

Martha - posted on 02/18/2010

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My baby was 9 lbs. and my cervix wasn't dialating for hours after my water broke, so YES it was so so painful. At the same time, if I ever have another baby, I will still not have any pain meds. It was such a surreal amazing experience to have natural childbirth and I feel so lucky to have been able to experience it. It is hard, but you CAN do it. You were made for it.

Whitney - posted on 02/18/2010

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I had an epidural with my first daughter, went 26 hours out of 31 natural. But with my second daughter she came so fast there wasn't time. It hurt YES, but to be honest you are so busy working on pushing the baby out and everything else going on around you that you are too focused to care. Just my personal opinion but the end result is SO worth it:)

Jenna - posted on 02/18/2010

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I am not going to lie, Yes!! But after the baby was out I had no more pain and it was a big relief...I do not know you but I am sure you are a trooper, so don't be too afraid and always keep confidence in yourself that you can do this!

Becky - posted on 02/18/2010

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My son was six weeks early when he was born and weighed 5 lbs 6 oz so he was tiny. I went into it wanting every drug imaginable to help me with the "pain" of having a child. I went into labor so fast that I wasn't given the option for an epideral or any other help with my pregnancy and if I had to do it all over again I would definately not have any pain medicine. My son was small but honestly it just felt like a lot of presure and then a little burning sensation because I tore. But just a few hours later I was up walking around and felt pretty normal. My sister did not have a natural birth and it took her a lot longer to be able to get out of bed and move around. But I also think it is up to the individual, I thought it was going to be horrible and I was completly horrified of not being able to have "drugs" because i am so weak when it come to pain but in the end I was so happy it ended the way it did. If he was a 9 or 10 lb baby it might have been a whole different story!!!

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