Is there sex after child birth?

Alison - posted on 06/17/2011

i know what u mean,i had my daughter 4 months early and since then havent been in the mood too much,nor was i when i was pregnant,it kinda hurts now but of course with more sex that goes away,but like others said just have sex try and make it fun

Iris - posted on 06/16/2011

Just do it look at your husband, your love ♥ hold him, kiss him, caress him and do not forget him and the gift he helped give to you.... your little daughter.. A lot of women feel this way after a baby some because of how they look, sometimes its after birth depression.. sometimes its having a child in the home for the first time feeling weird making love. But it is still you and still him nothing has changed you have just added another piece to your love.. making the circle complete and now having a family.. ♥

Nicole - posted on 06/15/2011

Rough deliveries and the effects from them can linger for a long time. Do you have access to a counselor who can help you talk through that trauma of your birth? Birth trauma is a real thing! And it's effects can linger for some time. Try to find a good licensed professional who can help. You may be suffering from mild PTSD due to those complications. MANY women do, but they brush it off as craziness or think they will just "get over it" and never get help, but many still NEED help whether they admit it to themselves or not. And there is nothing wrong with suffering from birth trauma. It's not your (or any other mother's) fault!

Nicole - posted on 06/15/2011

Get some lube, get some good romance novels, watch some good romance movies, get a sitter and have a date with the hubby, tell him to write you some love letters and you will write him some naughty ones in return, get a sitter and take some time for yourself, do something that makes you feel special, take an hour bubble bath at least a few nights a week, etc. I've done all of these at one time or another and they've worked for me.

Cynthia - posted on 06/15/2011

I had a lot of problems after childbirth. A server infection from my c-section and ended up back in the hospital and had a second surgery to remove the infection. I have never been the same since. My husband and getting for supportive with helping me around the house and understand my feels...but I its a little dissapointing feeling this way and having no desire to do "it". I still do and enjoy it some, sometimes, but the fact that I don't want to really bothers him.

Misty - posted on 06/15/2011

it is perfectly normal!!! get some lube n get busy!!! our bodies tend to go through alot of changes after baby, but hang in there!! foreplay is a MUST!! it helps get you in the mood n helps the hubby be content n not so hung up about intercourse!!

Krystal - posted on 06/15/2011

Yes it's normal, and you fix it by having sex even though initially you may not be in the mood.You'd be surprised at how quickly that can change once you get started.

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 06/15/2011

Yep - love the inet :) My bf and I went toy shopping..... laughed at most of it and didn't buy anything but if I wanted one, at least I know whats out there now and we got to talk about it all.

Jessica - posted on 06/15/2011

wow 16 months, I don't know what I would have done. However, everyone is different I was ready after 4 weeks! Also, I would just like to mention someone said something about getting a sitter and going to a sex shop, better yet order it online and make it a complete surprise!! Good luck (in bed)

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 06/15/2011

Why is it non existant? Have you talked to your doctor about herbs that may help? I just read yesterday omega 3 fish oil is supposed to boost your sex drive.

How exhausted are you? Is your husband helping around the house?

When our baby was born I was soooooo tired I didn't think I'd have the energy but we still did it some how, at least once a week.

What other problems do you think may be contributing to it? Even the simple fact of feeling like a caretaker all day and not being able to find time for a shower or playing 'baby games' with our kids may do it. It's tough

Courtney - posted on 06/15/2011

well said, nicky!

Stifler's - posted on 06/15/2011

I always feel like sex. I wish I didn't. I thought having a second kid would make me not want it but nooo. My husband is the one who has no sex drive.

Bronwyn - posted on 06/15/2011

My youngest child is over a year already and I still struggle to get into the mood!

Maria - posted on 06/14/2011

Well for me just the thought of getting pregnant again was a total turn off because my husband is very fertile so now that I'm having my fourth child I am getting my tubes tied hoping to have a better sex drive thinking that it won't bring another child just the pleasure that we look for.

Carly - posted on 06/14/2011

I was gonna say something similar to casey- start your own engine girlfriend! and yes, I'm talking masturbation. If you push your own "on" button a couple times, it won't be so awkward getting back in the saddle with the hubby.

Cynthia - posted on 06/14/2011

Thank you to everyone who posted something! I don't feel so alone anymore. I figured it was normal, but having that reassurance really helps. :)

Brianna - posted on 06/13/2011

i think that even if u dont feel like it u should still do it for the sake of ur marriage. sex is a important need for ur hubby and sometimes we need to just do to make them happy

Casey - posted on 06/13/2011

It's normal to feel like this, have a look at your local chemist cause I know you can get medication to help give you a boost in your sex drive, also get yourself onto a good multivitamin to keep your energy levels up and try to get plenty of rest cause your not going to feel like sex if your already exhausted and run down. Another thing that helps is to get yourself a sitter for a couple of hours and you and hubby visit your local sex shop check out some of the toys and stuff. It really does take alot more effort once you have had kids to get yourself in the mood so thats why you need to keep it interesting ;)

Stifler's - posted on 06/13/2011

I agree with Alecia, the more you do it the more you feel like it.

Nicky - posted on 06/13/2011

Its a bit like going to the gym, you can't be bothered going, but you do know its good for you, and when you are there, you are glad you made the effort!
dont forget, you may not be feeling sexy, but thats not what your partner thinks when you jump him LOL

Katie - posted on 06/13/2011

I agree with alecia. I often don't wanna do it because I am tired and worn out after looking after our little one all day (being 8 months pregnant doesn't help either) but once we get going I am always happy we put in the effort. And then the more we do it the more I remember how much I like being intimate with my husband.

Amanda - posted on 06/13/2011

I think you'll find sex is the last thing on most mums minds after looking after the kids all day.
You need to make time for your hubby as well. Maybe if your hubby is home during the day or at weekends and bubs is asleep go for it then

Minnie - posted on 06/13/2011

There must be...or nearly everyone would be a singleton, no?

I had little interest for many months and I found a glass of wine or something similar helped a lot.

Alecia - posted on 06/13/2011

it is normal. the way to fix it....is to have sex!! seriously. if it feels weird then just be intimate the first couple of times, but the more u do it, the more u will want it. sometimes even if im not really in the mood i will if my hubby wants it anyways cuz know once we get going i will want it! lol and then i will want it more often. just take it slow and go for it!!