Ms.Khulu - posted on 06/25/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )
i have a 19 mth year old boy and i recently went back to varsity this year to finish my degree. i left my son with my mom and she found a nanny to assist her. i am on vacation so i am back home an dthe nanny is around. i have been apart with my son for 2 months and a half now and when i got back i found out that he had really bonded with her and he didnt know me, i mean that is obvious that it was going to happen but it really struck a cord with me and it hurt me really deeply! the girl is good with my son but she has got attitude problems and it seems as if she is out to fight for my sons attention with me and to get on my last nerve. she resents the fact that i tell her to do stuff concerning my son and she has just gotten used to the comfortable living here and she hates the fact that i am back and she doesnt have the freedom that she used to have before and now i am here to monitor her in terms of how she does certain things for my son. i have sat down with her on one occassion to talk to her and bring to attention some of her faults. this morning shit hit the fan when she just slept through the morning but letso (my son) was already up, i asked her if this was how she normally wakes up after 9. she said she was not feeling well and i asked her why she couldnt wake up and tell me that she was not feeling well still she didnt say anything. i thought this was all so rude considering the fact that this week she has been acting hoity toity and challenging me. i am a very open and sociable person i dont look down on people i want to have a good relationship with her seeing that she is the one taking care of my son but it seems as she is challenging me. i felt that i had had enuff and i told her that when she takes her money she will pack her things and go. she went to my mom all teary eyed saying that i talk down to her and ever since i came i have been mistreating her, when i try to ask her when did i mistreat her she cant even mention it. i now absolutely hate her and her stinky attitude and my mom says that the problem is with me and that because i have bi-polar i always feel that people are against me i think that this is a wrong judgement based on my mental state of mind which i am taking medication for and i feel its unfair. am i in the wrong or is there really something wrong with me?