Christine - posted on 07/18/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )
my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost a year now and at first is was great i thought he was wonderful. when i first met him, he introduced him self as a full time student in law inforcement technoligy, having just graduated out of the police academy a couple months prior to our meeting and working a semi loading dock full time. we clicked emotionally and mentally more than anyone i had ever met. and although in my past i would have never dated a cop i thought i would just go out on a limb and attempt to try. the first two to three months where so great and always full of wonderful conversations and dates. and he met my 5 year old daughter and they clicked as well. he played with her so well. even after a hard days worked and doing school he'd come tired but yet ready to play! but after the first couple of months were over i started finding things out here and there. 1st i found out he was enrolled in school but just using the grants and loans for our dates and time together and video games systems, you recreational stuff and failing all his class misserably. like when he said he had done tons of home work online he hadnt even logged on to go to class in months. i found out he has an ex wife with three kids of his i just had to drive him to court because he had his car repoed cuz of nonpayment. his court date was about nonpayment of childsupport and possible jail time so my dad gave him a job.he uses my car to get there and is already getting wrote up because of being late constantly. i also found a message from him to one of his friends from the police academy on my phone (cuz he doesnt have his own)saying that he was seriously thinking of going back in cuz he cant believe he failed out and got kicked out. hes contantly telling me that he doesnt know where his money is going. and has been using my comuter to add hundreds of half naked gils to his facebook. these last two i only know because i do his farmville for him decor wise and send and collect gifts for him. and theres always notices of mail of him telling girls there gorgeous and notices of countless girl accepting his friends requests as of yesterday he has over 600 new girl type friends on there. i cant take it any more and i can only imagine what else hes hiding from me. my daughter is about to start kindergarten and im finally going to get to go to work since i lost my last job because my daughters father was supposed to be watching her while i was at work but called me in the middle of my sift to come get her and said he couldnt watch her anymore because he was having issues with his girl not wanting her there.i havent had much of a support system family wise and daycare cost more than i could make im considering on going back to school and getting a degree but i want to get a good job first so i have a way to provide for my self and my daughter without male support at all. im not exactly sure what to do from here without him tho cuz most of everything i just wrote he doesnt even know that i know. any pointers?