Holly - posted on 02/22/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )
I feel really frustrated with my husband. It seems that every time he has to deal with the kids he ends up getting into power struggles/arguments with them. One of the specific things that I hear him doing is telling the kids, "If you don't . . . then you won't . . ." instead of the more positive "After you . . . then you can . . ." They react negatively to this and are much more likely to refuse to do whatever he's telling them to do than if he would say it the 2nd way. I think that it is also his tone of voice, he tends to use a more negative-disaproving tone of voice than a positive one.
I would love to know if anyone has dealt with these issues with a partner who didn't seem very interested in learning better parenting skills. What have you found that worked?