Its bin 4 months

Leah - posted on 04/12/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )




My ex has not seen my children since Dec 09 ( just after Christmas when he spent a total of maybe 10 min at my house and most of that time was on the computer ) lets add that he did not get them anything for Christmas and that he forgot there Birthdays the last 2 years and again never got them a gift or a even just a card ... He did come to the party (last year after having to remind him about it) but all he did was sit on a bench and I mean that he just sat on that bench untill it was time to eat and sing Happy Birthday... He has not called in the last 4 months and then maybe 3 before that ... he has never given me a cent towards any kind of Child Support ... This is how its bin since we seperated..He has taken them once for the day 2 years ago and has never taken them for the weekend or anything like that ( not that I mind I dont really think I want him to) Should I just drop him like the dead beat that he is or should I take him to court and make him pay ??? Its bin over for about 4 years now and my daughter is almost 4...

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Cynthia - posted on 04/12/2010




I'm not in any sort of similar situation, but I can tell you what I'd do if I was. If you go for child support, then he will have rights to see the kids, which he might take advantage of if he has to pay... You don't want him to see the kids just because he feels he has to because he's paying, right? I'd drop him and give him no contact. You're been surviving this long without a dime from him, so you know you can do it. Sounds like your kids are at that age where they'll start understanding what's going on and realize what type of person he is, they don't need someone like that in their lives... someone who's only there when he feels like it. Personally, I think it's best for your kids to cut off all contact since there's barely any contact anyway. Good luck with whatever you decide :)

Haylli - posted on 04/12/2010




I am so sorry to hear that . That must be very hard for you to have to put up with, the dissapointment for your children if it effects them i dont know but i could imagine, honestly hun do whats in your heart of hearts if he just makes things harder for you then see ya but he is the dad - wait father, so he should be accountable and responsable for them making him pay is fair thats the least he could do you need to think of you and your children first, what would be best for you all then consider what is the best option for him the cards are in your hand and you have the say so take that and do what you want.

hope it all works out for you.

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