just for the record

Amber - posted on 04/08/2010

altho that is true its also true that u need sprem and an ovary to make a baby and thats that. i have no problems with same sex relationships or gays raising kids because its all about the love. but science is science and fact is fact and it doesnt change.

Jamie - posted on 04/08/2010

Call me old fashion, but I believe it takes a man & a woman to make a child. Now us single mothers make it happen by ourselves.. I don't agree with gays or lesbians raising children.. it's confusing enough raising children with enough going on in the world as it is. Two men can't be fruitful nor can two women.. That's my own personal opinion!

Sheryl - posted on 04/08/2010

everyone one has different view and everyone need to respect everyones views. now there are other ways but in the end it does take a mans sprem and a women egg. father can be really uncles, grandpas or a good guy. my uncle was my dad for years and still is. cause he was there! but from my view i just think that it supposed to be man and women. but i understand where you are coming from does that mean i would be rude to you or your view no. i still respect those i don't agree with. i didn't post this to fight or anything just saying you got your view and we got ours and belives. i think when it get hard is when people starting say you have to belive this or that and push there belives. me; i would still some what i belive but with respect just like i think i am know. it just all about respect. but in the end that not what we are here for we are here for advise to handle thing in life with kids or just everday life. not to judge others! so plz don't judge us who don't agree with you on this fact! once again this is just my view on his.

Jamie - posted on 04/08/2010

Thanks for all the response, I was just wondering how it was dealt with. I grew up in a very small town with the traditional family and have never really been exposed to truly open minded people to speak with it about. I believe that you should do what makes you happy, and to create your own happiness because no one is going to find it for you. I hope to one day live in a world that doesn't discriminate, this world was made with all different types of people in it and should be supportive of all the people.

Josslyn - posted on 04/08/2010

Well, my grandmother is gay and as far as I can remember her partner was the male figure around the house, Janette is an amazing "male" role model for us kids and we absolutely love her to bits: She taught me how to use a slingshot, drink a pint of beer without falling over lol, how to use self defense, shoot a gun, camp out. fly kites, etc.

Not all Father figures have to be "male'

Devin - posted on 04/07/2010

I agree Melisa. I grew up without my father and then he passed when I was 19. Not that I wouldn't have loved a relationship with my father, but it didn't have much an effect on me not having one either.I believe all a child needs is love and guidence. And yes Melisa, I have hope that we will outnumber them someday!!

Melisa - posted on 04/07/2010

I really believe in mixed families and I do not believe that a child NEEDS a father figure. My partner for example never had a father figure. He never knew who his father was and it has not effected him at all. He is an amazing father (better than I could ask for from any man!) and has no issues with it. His mom was an amazing mother who just worked extra hard to make him into the man he is.

As for homosexual parents, I am all for it! The more people who begin raising families that way, the more people will be raised to accept it! And just like Shannon said, in a generation or two there will be real equality. People need to get over the idea of a traditional family and accept that times have changed. Unfortunately, times have changed but actions have not and people still discriminate OTHER peoples lives. Why don't we who believe in happy ending no matter the sexual orientation teach our children the same. Maybe one day I will be lucky enough to see the rude, closed-minded people out numbered.

Shannon - posted on 04/07/2010

who says a father figure has to be a father? it could be an uncle, grandfather, friend... just because the parents are both women or both men, doesnt necessarily mean that there arent other influential people in the child's lives. i am a straight woman, and i am engaged to the father of my child, but in reality, we arent the only ones in her life. there are her aunts and uncles, grandparents, cousins, friends of ours etc etc etc. i am fully for gay or lesbian couples having children and raising their children not to be judgemental, and maybe in a generation or two there will be real equality!

Jamie - posted on 04/07/2010

I understand that many children don't have male role models, but most of those are not by choice it is because the father did not want to be there for the child. How would you approach that aspect of a father figure when one wasn't there to begin with?

Lunaddict - posted on 04/07/2010

Both my mother and older sister are gay so I have never saw a problem with two women or two men raising children together. with having a male role model in a child of a lesbian couples life, I have lots of straight women friends who are raising there child alone because of a dead beat dad and have happy children, Love is all there really needs to be in a childs life and it doesent matter who gives it.

Jamie - posted on 04/07/2010

I am not against two people of the same sex raising a child together, no more than I am a single parent raising a child, it happens in today's society. But I do have a question. Do you believe that your child needs a father figure in his or her life? Children rely on dads to teach them so many things. And also, do you think that having two moms would make it harder for your child, I am sure that you have been discriminated against for your sexuality, how would you react to your child being discriminated against because of your lifestyle? And for the record I am in no way trying to be rude or put down a homosexual relationship, I am just curious. I am glad that someone would want to take in an un-wanted child there are too many in orpanages and if they can find a loving family to take them in I am happy to see that instead of the child putting thrown away.