just wondering if any one else had a bad experiance at the hos. after giving birth?

Sheryl - posted on 03/03/2010 ( 20 moms have responded )

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when i had my first son erik. i just turn 21 and when the hosp. started to fill up with women. so they moved me from the birthing center. i was spending time with my son and then cause he was having a hard time sleeping cause he bad gas and couldn't handle my milk. a nurse came in there about 7 at night said to me give him to me. all do it! took my son out of my room. told me to go to sleep. i told her no. and she said yes. then she took him then he till keep crying like i told her. cause naturly he wanted me. i wanted to go out there and just grab him but i could not move very well. finally after making my son cry for about 4 hours she finally brought him back and said here. i was so angry. i think she did that cause she thought i didn't know anything. i was upset about then and same as know. all i did was cry cause i want to hold my child. am i the only was had something like that heppen to you. i think it was cause of my age. i am trying to let it go. my second time was way better. but man i am having a hard time with that one time. i don't think anything was ever done to that women. even after tilling the hosp. about it.

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Sheree - posted on 03/05/2010

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The day after my daughter was born I had a horrible nurse "help" me with breastfeeding and she turned around and said "I dont know why you cant do it, its really not that hard and the milk is there!" Needless to say i cried my eyes out and never tried breastfeeding again. I also plan not to breastfeed my next child and refuse to feel like a failure again.

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Parts of my hospital experience were good...other parts not so much. My labor was induced at 7am & everything went smoothly for a few hours. Once the pain starting getting unbearable, I asked for the epidural & it took the anesthesiologist forever to get in the room!!! (It seemed like HOURS lol) He finally arrived and it took him two sticks to get the epidural in right. He gave me the initial dose & I was finally getting some relief. Once I had the epidural, the nurse turned up my pitocin to go faster and to speed up my labor. Then after only about 20-30 minutes the pain started to come back full force. I was confused & wondered "is this what an epidural is supposed to feel like?" I kept telling my family & best friend that something wasn't right & the epidural was wearing off. Soon it had worn off completely and I was in extreme pain. I couldn't take it anymore and asked my best friend to go get the nurse. A different nurse than mine came in and was pretty rude and handed me a button to press. "You're supposed to press this." And she left. So I pressed it and nothing...no relief. Finally my friend realized that my epidural pump had NEVER been turned on!!! WTF.

There were two nurses that helped deliver my baby & they were GREAT...as was my doctor. :) The nurses on the post-partum unit were really nice too. THe only problem was that they waited forever to bring me clean sheets, gown, towels, etc. Everyone who's had a vaginal delivery knows what it's like right after birth. It's no fun to lay in dirty sheets...

Jessica - posted on 03/05/2010

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OMG some of these stories are horrendous!! I can't believe medical professionals would treat people like that. My experience wasn't terrible, though I wouldn't say it was perfect. I mostly just hated being in the hospital setting. I hated sitting in the hospital bed while laboring so I could get damn iv fluids. Why do they require those anyway? It was the worst position to labor in. Before I went to the hospital, all day at home I was sitting on a birthing ball and it was the only thing that made the pain better. So I caved and got an epi while I was transitioning. It didn't work well. Then they had me flat on my back to deliver. I didn't even think they did that anymore. And the Dr gave me an episiotomy, without asking me or telling me he was doing it (the epi must have worked somewhat because I didn't know until he told me afterwards.). It turned into a bad 3rd degree tear and I could hardly move for the entire time I was in the hospital.

For all that, my birth was quick and smooth though. Then afterwards I was holding him and made the nurse show me how to breastfeed lol; I was determined to get the best start with that and knew right after birth was the best time to start it. She did and she was nice. Then we waited for like 2 hours for them to take the catheter out of my back and to move me into the recovery room. The rest of my stay wasn't that great... I hardly ate the food, I was in so much pain from the episiotomy, I was overwhelmed with being a new mom, and could hardly sleep because someone was always coming in to ask me something or check on me or the baby.

Sheryl - posted on 03/05/2010

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wow it feel good not to feel alone on this! you think poeple would care more about people. esc. when they go into that feild.

Amanda - posted on 03/05/2010

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I was 17 when i had my 1st born. I asked the nurses to leave her in the room with me so i could get used to her cry. that night a nurse came in and said i'm taking your daughter to the nursery cuz you won't hear her cry and she may die of sids if i didn't pay attention. Yeah needless to say i had my 2nd child in another town cuz that was beyond wrong to tell a brand new mother

Rianna - posted on 03/05/2010

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I had a nightmare time. I had a 29 hour labour most of which I never had labour pains. I then was sent in for a c-section. They gave me an epidural which they missed the first time and actually got the second ( she never told me how to sit or what to do to receive an epidural).
After the birth I found I was getting sicker and sicker. I couldn't go to the toilet, I had terrible stomach pains to the point where I couldn't get out of bed to get my daughter who was less than a metre away in her cot at the hospital. It was walking hunched over and I was living on pain meds, I was actually smuggling my mothers paracetemol out of her bag just so I could cope with my daughter.
The nurse who pulled my drainage tube out on the 3rd day didn't turn the suction off and ripped it out of my stomach, I think that was more painful than the actual labour I did experience. The blood went up the wall and all over the carpet. Yes they had CARPET in a maternity ward.
On the 5th day they discharged me after they told me that the pain was caused by my uterus contracting and I just had a "low pain threshold". I drove 2.5 hours home to the small town where I live in absolute agony... every bump in the road felt like someone was stabbing me in the stomach with a knife.
When I got home I went straight to bed, by this time I couldnt even stand up and I was starting to run fevers. My mother, praise god, gave me her cell phone and put it next to me on the bed just incase I needed help in getting up. I couldn't climb out of bed to even go to get a drink of water.
6 hours later I started shaking uncomtrollably to the point where I could barely call Mum. I started convulsing in the bed and I kept fading in and out of consciousness. My mother slapped me twice to keep me alert because I was losing the ability to stay awake. My whole body was shutting down.
My father called the ambulance and they took 15 minutes to arrive at my house. They got lost in town and the 000 caller gave them the wrong address. I died on the way to the hospital, my heart stopped and they revived me and I died again at the hospital and they revived me once more.
The small town hospital doctor found out that I hadn't had a bowel movement in 6 days and gave me medication and started me on some IV antibiotics. I was transferred 4 days later to another hospital north of me. I told them I would rather go home and die than go back to the hospital I just came from lol!
They didn't know what was wrong with me until they did a CT Scan and found that I had a 8 cm abcyss full of dead blood on my left side of my body. The doctor told me that it was a miracle that I was alive and I must have had a strong immune system because most abycesses that big bust at 5 cm. If I busted I would have died straight away and been poisoned from the inside.
It took me 4 weeks in hospital plus an additional 9 weeks out of hospital to actually be to the point where I could function again as I was before. I later found out that the hospital were supposed to check bowel movements and give you this liquid which makes you go. They gave me nothing except prunes... I kid you not.
I would say to anyone... please don't be so agreeable like I was. If you think that there is something wrong with you. Kick up a fuss. Your life is in their hands.

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I can sooo relate,ok here we go my 3rd baby during check ups they were always LATE not 30min but 1 to 2 hrs late, at 35 weeks i requested to be induced early as with my other 2 due to gestational diabetes with my 3rd it was uncotrolled and my son was over 2 pounds heavier then my last two babys, the dr finally agreed after i chewd his head off i said its not like your pushing him out! So on the day of delivery tuesday got there at 8 am as reqested they didnt look at me till 10 am then gave me a trainee midwife when i was a high risk pregnancy, i stressed to them i wanted to be in a hot shower as long as possible as it helped with pain for my 2nd child i was in the shower 5 min and they snapped at me to get out the couldnt monitor the babys heart beat properly so i was put on the bed in agony i passed out 3 times in pain when he was coming out he got stuck too BIG but noone would listen they yanked him out put him on my tummy i freacked out he was blue and not breathing i yelled at them and they took him away to sucktion him and he started breathing in the meantime this all took 2hrs 2nd stage was 10 min! after i delivered the placenta i was having sever stomach pain i told the nurse and she said it was just my uterus contracting and she started pushing on my stomach the pain almost made me blackout again i told her if she touched me agin id F&%king hit her to call a dr, my mum said to her why is my daughter losing so much blood? the nurse painiked called the dr by this time i had lost over 2lt of blood the idiot dr comes in and starts trying to explain the procedure to me when i couldnt even see straight my mum and husband standing next to me said dont you think we should sign the consent form but he said no and shoved it into my hand they wheeled me of in tears took my baby away didnt tell anyone why no explaination to my family, my hubby bite off the nurses head to explain what was happening, after i got out of surgury i had a total freack out thinking my baby was dead i asked the nurse to find out but she was TOO BUSY by that stage i was hysterical,they moved me back to the delivery suite where my hubby n mum waited they demanded my baby be brought to me from special care i was able to hold him for 5min then he was taken back,when they moved me to the ward a nurse came about 1am and said i needed to go with her my baby wasnt going to make it i freaked out again she asked if my surname was jhkjhf of course it wasnt she had stuffeed up the beds!!!!! i demanded the nurse looking after my baby call me immediatly as i was on a catheter and couldnt gewt out of bed! 24hrs later they brought my son back they wouldnt help me b/f and i had 4 canulas in my left arm! one of them bleed into the tissue of my arm and it swelled and became infected so i could barley hold my son i was forced to bottle feed then they made me feel like such a bad mother! I hate them all and wouldnt send my dog there EVER!

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A lot of the staff where I went were so rude. Even during monthly/weekly checkups, I was just another number. I worked as a cashier, and got really bad sciatic nerve pain at 8 months, and asked for a doctors note to move to part time because it was so painful. The receptionist, not a nurse or doctor, was so snotty and asking me why I needed a note. Not her business. Then during labor, first the starting nurse was kinda rude cause she thought I was wasting their time, since my water was just leaking, not fully broken. Then, the epidural didn't work, and I was all antsy from the pain (the baby was in the wrong position) and the anestheologist came back in and told me "I don't get why you're so antsy there's nothing to get excited about" That pissed me off. It's my first child, and I'm in a TON of pain, I have every reason to be "excited!" Then, when he was finally coming, and that burning sensation came, I shouldn't say sensation lol, I shouted OMG it burns! (lol) and the actual delivering doctor told me "Oh yeah, welcome to the ring of fire." Now, had these comments been said nicely or sincerely, no problem, but they were extremely rude during the whole pregnancy/birth process, that I didn't even go back there for my 6 wk checkup. I also plan on going to a different hospital next time around!

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I had a fantastic labor and delivery experience at my hospital. My nurse was great and so were the rest of the staff on the l and d floor. With that being said once i got upstairs to the mommy/baby unit it was terrible!! I had a vaginal delivery and tore a little bit so they stitched me up and i was of course very sore and bleeding. After I had my daughter my nurse in l and d brought me to the bathroom and gave me an ice pack/ menstrual pad. It was very soothing but it was still hard to go to the bathroom. They were supposed to give me a lot of those so i could have one each time i went to the bathroom. I had to keep asking for them and they would bring one at a time. I never recieved anything else to help with my pain. Then on my second night in the hospital my night nurse asked if i had been using my "topicals" to help my pain, i asked "what topicals?" and she brought back ice pack pads, witch hazel pads, numbing spray, and some type of mousse. These were things I was supposed to be using the whole time to help with my swelling and healing. They did pretty good with my daughter and not prying too much but we had to wait forever to see someone. It took my husband a literal 12 hours to recieve a blanket. I had to repeatedly call for motrin to help my pain and they would forget my vitamins as well. I really enjoyed Labor and Deliver but recovery was RIDICULOUS!!!

Sheryl - posted on 03/04/2010

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wow! it feel good to now i am not the only one who had to deal with bad people. i think are just people who should not be in health care. cause they have not heart for it. it looks like some of you went through some thing worse than me. it just sad how people can be. but at least now i know. i am not alone. when it comes to these bad experiance at the hospitals.

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Hi, I'm 26 and just had my first child September 29, 09. During my pregnancy I've watched all the delivery videos that I could get my hands on so I could prepare myself for the unexpected and researched on the drugs they also give to ease the pain; but when I actually went into labor it was a nightmare. First off I was in labor for 2 weeks but when I went into full labor the nurse I had was one of the "natural" delivery nurses. I kept asking her for the epidural cause I had back labor and it was so painfull but she refused to give it to me even though it said in my chart that my doctor ok it. My boyfriend, my dula and even my Mom begged the nurse to give it to me but she had every excuse in the book as to why she couldn't. And my doctor couldn't do anything about it because he was delivering another baby in a different hospital. I was at the hospital at six in the morning and didn't start pushing till 6 at night and kept on pushing for two straight hours till I told my doctor that I couldn't push anymore cause I was so exaughted and needed help. So he used the clamps and the vaccum on my son to get him out because his head wasn't straight down the birthcannal but his face was to the side so he was in great risk of suffocating. Finnally my doctor got him out and gave him to me. But since my labor was so bad he told the nurse to not let me out of bed for the night and to give me food right away'; but of course the nurse did the complete opposite - she wouldn't give me any food so my mom went out to the nearest fast food joint and brought me back something. When I was done eating the nurse came in and told me to get out of bed so I could go to the bathroom and take a shower; of course my boyfriend and my dula both said that I shouldn't but she didn't care so when I got out of bed I hemmireged and lost 6 - 8 pints of blood and then passed out right away. It took them two hours to wake me. When I was back into bed I asked one of the nurses if I could hold my baby and she said that I couldn't because the I was to week and those were the doctors orders but by now I had a different nurse on duty so she let hold him anyways but only for a few minutes. I had to stay in the hospital for about a week because of my loss of blood and all the new blood they had to give me to replace what I lost. But at the end of the day my son was healthy and happy and I probably would do it all over again just to get him.

Jess - posted on 03/03/2010

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My troubles with the hospital started from the minute I was admitted so this could be very long! I was induced at 35 weeks because of pre-eclampsia.



So I was given the inducement drugs at 8pm on a Tuesday, I was told I would stay in that birth suit until after the baby was born..... I was told my partner could go home and get my stuff and the baby's bag and then come back and stay the night. Instead they moved me to a ward upstairs, dumped me in a room with nothing by my handbag and the clothes I had worn in... jeans and jumper ! They told my partner he had to leave and couldn't come back until morning. I was left with nothing to sleep in until 11pm when I called the nurses back AGAIN to find me a hospital gown !



So I made it through the night alone, I had tummy pains from the drugs which is normal, but they offered me morphine despite being deadly allergic. It was written all over my hospital files, i had to wear a special hospital bracelet and a medic alert bracelet because morphine will kill me !!!



The next day (Wednesday) was a public holiday, so their was no staff around. Unexceptable in my opinion ! I was meant to be checked by a doctor at 8am to see if my inducement drugs could be removed.... he never turned up. So at 9am my nurse found a midwife who was available to come and have a look. She accidently broke my water while removing the drugs and saw I was 3cm dilated. So they left me in my room. Told me they would get the birth suit ready for me ! 3 hours later they finally moved me. I was in agony. I was screaming with every contraction, vomitting and blacking out. I was left that whole time with no staff and to labour on my own. My mum and partner had to clean me and take care of me. I was strapped to monitors and not even allowed to roll over.... and they REFUSED to give me any pain medication !



So cutting the story a bit here. I was moved to the birth suit just after 12pm, and I was assulted by a midwife, spat on, yelled at and told to stop pushing ! A new midwife came into the room because she heard that it wasn't going well, and she realised the baby was crowning. She told me to start pushing and my daughter was out in 3 pushes ! That was at 1.12pm. So 4 hour labour.... and the nurses kept telling me it would take at least 24 hours !!! They should know better than to be so complacent.



Then they took my daughter away from me, and sent her off to special care. She was only 4 pounds. They said it would just be overnight.... I got her back a week later. After they lied to me constantly. They put a feeding tube into her and made a mistake and she almost drowned when they feed her. Even though I told them NO to the feeding tube. She didn't need it, it was just easier for the nurses !!! They didn't check on me at all in that time... not once, not even my stitches. The nurses acted like I wasn't even a patient. It was like being in a self containted cheap drive in motel !!! The food made me soo sick... when they bothered to send me any. I missed sooo many meals because they didn't have any food sent to me. 2 lactation consultants refused to help us with our breastfeeding. The special care nurses were so rude, and they just didn't care ! I would NEVER go back to that hospital. I would rather birth at home *which is illegal here* than go back to that hospital.



The hospital sent me home without my perfectly healthy baby at 9pm Saturday night ! They didn't even tell me they were discharging me, they told my partner to pass on the message ! My blood works came back and were all over the shop, I should not have been sent home. Once we finally got our daughter back. the following Wednesday... after the hospital ran out of excusses to keep her, they falsly reported us to child protective services, who came to our house. inspected our home, grilled us on everything. even things that have nothing to do with our baby. Like our employment history ! We were cleared IMMEDIATLY !!! And the governement lady told me that she was from a team that deal with drug addicts, alcholics and people at high risk of harming their babies. She said she had NO IDEA why the hospital had reffered us to her ! I was sooo angry ! The hospital were very spiteful and nasty with my daughters follow up care, and refused to ever say we were doing a good job, despite her being exlusivly breastfeed and gaining above average weight ! Im sure they did all of this becuase im not married, I was 21 but look much much younger. And my partner is 27 but looks about 16 !

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with my son i have a great experience right up until i got to thte hospital.After laboring for hours i gave birth to a perfect( at least to me) little boy. i wanted to breastfeed immediately after birth but that didnt happen... after being transfered to my lovely(not)suite i slept after asking about my son finding out that they were doing some test on him and that he was recieving a bath i decided to try to get a little sleep the first sleep that i had had in almost 17 hours. When i got up a couple hours later i phoned the nursery to have my son brought to me to feed... well the nurse just did a hit and run with my sun and well i could get around very well and no one was there to help me with the breastfeeding thing. When the nursery came to get him for the shift change he was still sleeping on my chest because the nurse had moved the bassinet that the baby sleeps in at the hospital to the other side of the room and well i was not exactly steady on my feet with just myself to hold up i wasnt taking a chance that i might drop my baby trying to put him down. Upon seeing my holding him to my chest the nurse told me that it was bad parenting and that i wasnt going to be a good parent if i did such behavior. She left me crying and feeling like a failure... then the top nurse on the night shift called my room about two hours later and told me that i was a bad parent for trying to bond with my baby which i did not get to do when in the delivery room... which considering that i had a vaginal birth.

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with my 1st child one of the nurses asked me if I want pain medicine through an I.V while I waited for the epidural. I told her no bcause i had heard that it may have an affect on my baby. She looked at me like "whatever". 10 minutes later another nurse came in and changed my I.V fluids. I fell asleep b4 she left the room. When I woke up the room was dark and there was 2 ultrasound techs in the room, doing an ultrasound on me. It scared the mess out of me because I did not remember going to sleep. I was drowsy during the entire birth of my child.

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The hospital I had my daughter at was amazing, but there was a couple things that bothered me a little. I gave birth at 18 years old, my daughter (now 5 years old) was born at 26 weeks, after delivery she was rushed to the NICU. I couldn't see her for 2 1/2 hours after the birth, becuse I still had to deliver the placenta, not the hospital's fault. About 2 weeks after she was born, I was able to hold her for the first time, again, not the hospital's fault, she was just too fragile (2lbs 1 and 1/2oz). After I saw her, after the delivery, I was taken to a "ward" (a room with 3 other new Mom's) My family had requested a private or semi-private room for me. I felt so sad being in the ward because, I was the only new Mom in the room, that didn't have a baby beside her, there was a minor mix-up with the paperwork and I was switched later that day. When my daughter, who has a minor disability, was about 2 years old, I got a summery of her life since birth in the mail. I had to find out by reading the summary that she wasn't breathing when she was born. The hospital didn't tell me that. I was livid when I found out!!! But I think they were trying to avoid a horrible situation at the hospital, which was probably a good idea in the long run. My husband and I plan to have our second child at the same hospital next time I get pregnant.

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i had a bad time too in the hospital after having my son have no idea if it was to do with my age or not i was nearly 22 when i had him. i was waiting to be discharged and the midwife came over to do the last checks that they do before letting you go and turned round to me and said " you do realise that because you are bottle feeding your baby is more likely to die of cot death", i mean is that something you should be telling a mother especially a new mother come on, i was really annoyed but didn't say anything and maybe i should have.

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i actually liked mine. this was my first so i was scared beyond belief and the main dr was out of town so i had my dr i normally see and a sub for the head one. both being guys i figured theyd be no help lol so luckily my mil was there and 1 of the female nurses was there and she stayed by my side the whole time and was there to make me feel better about the whole thing and talk me thru it. i didnt have any pain meds or epi, in fact it really didnt hurt just uncomfortable so i just didnt feel the need. when they told me the head crowning would hurt i freaked out but tho that hurt pretty bad she still made me feel so much better. after i had her they got me all stitched up in minutes and right after i had her they took her to the other side of the room to get her cleaned up and his mom cut the cord and i let her hold her first since she was super exited and i was worn out. but they moved me to my room and i had a nurse i had had prior when i was in with contractions and she was really sweet and gave my husband free meal passes to get food and made us feel as comfy as possible and let me keep our daughter in the room the 1st night and the 2nd the other nurse who we had took her to the nursery so i could get some sleep and she was great with her. and she brought her back early the next morning when i woke up. i am new to the area we live in but my husband said thats the best hospital in the area and all his friends went there and i am glad i did.



tho one nurse promised me a hot fudge sundae when i had her she said she was gonna go get it and i never got it, my husband said they didnt even have ice cream bc the fridge was broken. i was kind of mad bc i was looking forward to it, but oh well. he said she told me that to make me feel better, well that didnt work.

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I had my son on a thu night and he had a little bit off trouble breathing the next day so they took him to the special care nursery. he needed to have antibiotics cuz he had an infection and then had to go under the lights because he had jaundice. they didnt tell me anything about what was going on until me and my partner both went and asked which was 2 days before we got to go home. but the hospital decided it needed my bed and told me i had to go home and leave my baby there. i told them i knew he was going home then next day and they said no u cant stay we need the bed. so i had to go home and leave my baby in hospital. it made me very angry and i was in tears that i had to leave my baby there. i couldt even breast feed for him...so dissapointed

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I had a wonderful experience at the hospital where I gave birth. The staff was great and really respected all of my wishes. My son had high billy rueben #s so he had to spend 24 hours under the blue lights. I wanted to exclusively breast feed so every three hours they had to get him out of the lights and bring him to me. I had to feed him and give him right back. They told me it would be alot easier to just give him formula so he wouldnt have to get all dressed again and brought to me. I told them I really only wanted to breastfeed and no problem...they took all the extra steps to make me happy. I loved my birthing and hospital experience. It was fantastic!!

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I had a horrible experience at the hospital as well and it had nothing to do with my age. I was 29 when I had my son. I had him on a Friday by emergency c-section. The night nurse Thursday night when I was induced told me I was no longer able to get up and go to the bathroom because the babies heart rate would drop. The babies heart rate dropped every time I had a contraction my sister was very concerned as was I and we questioned it and the nurse turned down the machine so we couldn't listen to the heart beat. When the morning nurse came in she was very concerned and was in my room almost the whole time and tried everything with me to try to get the heart rate up, but then she just called the dr back and I had an emergency c-section. After I repeatedly asked for assistance with breast feeding and no one would help me. My son was tiny and wasn't latching. They told me if he lost any weight they were going to give him a bottle so I refused to let him leave the room after that. They told me that they were getting full and wanted to move me to a different section of the hospital without my baby so I got my dr to release us to go home. Also the second day after the baby was born I repeatedly asked for pain medication and they said they kept forgetting because they were too busy. I hated every minute of being there.

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