leaving kids at home alone

Dora - posted on 06/09/2010 ( 20 moms have responded )




i work nights from 7:00pm untill 9:00am what age is ok to leave my son and daughter at home alone? instead of taking to a baby sitter?


Lisa - posted on 06/27/2010




Personally, I would not feel at all comfortable leaving a 12 year old and a 8 year old, over night for all of those hours.

There are too many weirdos in this day and age and someone could be watching and learn the hours that the children are left unattended.

Amy - posted on 06/13/2010




You might want to check if their are guidelines to follow in your local area. You should be able to get the info (if any) from Child Protective Services (they may have it listed on their website, or you can call)

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Elizabeth - posted on 01/19/2011




well in my state there isn't a set legal age. I had my daughter in a day care that got shut down by the state because of things she was doing to the kids so things can happen anywhere. If you live in a safe area have an alarm system or dogs and kids with common since not to start fires or open the door for stangers then 12 and 8 is fine. only do this if your 100% confident because you don't want to be on edge the whole time your at work.

Also I bet you can hire a college/high school student on the cheap to sleep at your house. imagine getting paid to sleep!

Nikkole - posted on 01/19/2011




It mostly depends on there maturity level! I wouldn't leave my kids at home all night till they were like 15 or so just because things can happen!

Trishabenz - posted on 01/19/2011




Hi Dora! I started leaving my son at home alone since he turned 12. However, I made sure that any of my family members know that he is left alone at home so that they could also watch him over from time to time. What I do to protect my son when I am not with him is I registered him to SafeKidZone. It’s a panic button alert installed on his cell phone that in just a press of it, his trusted friends and family members and the call center will instantly be alerted that he is in danger. It has also other features that are very helpful for him. If you want to check out, this is their site http://Safekidzone.com/

Amy-andrews85 - posted on 06/28/2010




Well the new report safeguarding children they say that if the child is responsible enough to be left alone then they can be left if in high school age 10-16 etc So if you feel confident in your children that are the age specified that you have no problems.

Katie - posted on 06/28/2010




i would say 14 perhaps but depends on the age difference between your kids as its not fair to ask a young teen to look after a younger sibling..

Jenni+shane - posted on 06/28/2010




i think if they are really young it be best get close friend or family look after them. i would not leave my child home until they are teenagers and only if my child feels comfortable with this and it would be for only for short time about hour and i would take a moible with me so i could come straight home. if i was close to my neighbours i would also let them know so they could check on them for me. how old are your kids. my mum only left us at home by our self when we were teenagers and not that often and it also depends on each child as well. as u feel horrible if something happen to them.

Tcordukes - posted on 06/28/2010




i wouldn't leave my kids alone day or night for 14hrs straight,maybe at 16 -17 if they are responsable enough, and if anything where to happen ( fire, break ins and more) i would much rather take on that responsablity myself instead of making my child feel responsable because they where left in charge.

Alex - posted on 06/28/2010




well if you are leaving both of them then i believe one of the children legally has to be over the age of 14 because they are technically babysitting the other child in saying that though you say you work from 7PM to 9AM is this correct?? and u want to leave you children over night asleep by themselves for this period of time?? i think in general this is not a good idea at all

Niki - posted on 06/26/2010




remember to have a really good talk to your kids about how they would feel - do they want someone there at night to put them to bed etc? would they feel neglected or are they independent enough for it not to matter? then go through various sinarios with them - what would they do if there was a fire, someone broke it, or there was an accident, make sure that they can come up with good answers by themselves without you telling them (cos in the confusion of an emergiency they are less likely to remember something you told them to do)

User - posted on 06/26/2010




Normally your child has to be 12 years old or older depending on maturity level to be left home alone for any length of time. If something should happen when they are home alone and younger than 12, the police could call child welfare on you and you could have your children taken away from you for neglect. I used to work child welfare. This happened to one of my cases. The mother left her 10, 7, 5, and 3 year old home alone when she went out and the house started on fire.

ALEXIA - posted on 06/26/2010




Is there a way you could hire a nanny or someone who could stay the night with them? i think you should check this out..have you heard of babysitters.com?

Candace - posted on 06/13/2010




i have my 9yr old and during the day i work. i have been leaving him home to take care of himself for almost 2yrs. i buy all the things he can cook in the microwave, i made sure he understands how to follow the directions and got him his own cell phone to call me whenever he needs to. it depends on the maturity of the child. dont forget to make sure that the child has a way to get a hold of you in any situation. good luck.

Dora - posted on 06/12/2010




my son is 12 and daughter is 8 . i would totaly leave them if i worked day hours but i dont i work nights so im unsure

Babyb_n_tabitha - posted on 06/09/2010




i was left at home when i turned 8. i wasnt left alone if i had to use the stove or any of those danger things. also if tey are in school you have got to make sure hey can wake them selves up and get going on their own. i was a very indeependant child and was making dinners for my mom by age 10. stove and all.

Leeann - posted on 06/09/2010




how old are they! they need to be comfortable being left in the house alone! u wouldnt want them waking up and realising that you arent there and freaking out! my mum used to leave me in charge of my siblings and it started from i was around 11-12!

Sarah - posted on 06/09/2010




I think it would depend on how responsible they are, if you have someone close by maybe a neighbour that they can go to if there is a problem and how safe your neighbourhood is. I think I would still not be leaving them until maybe after 13years...but I know people who have left there kids at home alone from around the age of 10. How old are your children?

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