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Losing the value of Sex

Lena - posted on 12/15/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I've been doing some thinking. And I realized this.....

Nowadays, many kids have sex in high school and even middle school. This is nothing new. After many years of seeing this and being around such influence, many girls grow to see that there is nothing wrong with it. When I was in middle school, I loved school. I did my school work and tried to stay on top. And never had a single though of having sex with a boy I liked ever crossed my mind. When I was in high school, I dated a boy. We were 16. He cheated and dumped me because I never talked about having sex and always changed the subject if he ever asked. Having sex to me, meant doing it with someone I was to spend the rest of my life with. It meant commitment and love. Connection with that special someone.

What does it mean to you?

Why is it that I see young girls and boys have sex for no reason? Because everyone else is doing it? It it because if you don't, he will leave you? How ridiculous is that! I hope this is a wake up call to realize how much society lost the value of sex. That before they turn 18 they had more partners than they have fingers to count. And when it is time to get married and they find that special someone, they have nothing give.

When girls get pregnant and don't wanna get married because they are "too young" for commitment just amuses me. If you are old enough to have sex, you should be old enough to be committed to that person. Otherwise, why were you having sex with that person in the first place? For fun?

What are you teaching your kids about sex? Does it mean anything anymore?

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Felicity - posted on 12/18/2009

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I think things are a little different here in England, when i was at school loads of people were having sex although it was wrong and some young girls (14 or 15yrs) i knew were just been taken advantage of by older guys in there 20's as they thought they looked cool being picked up from school in there boyfriemds pimped up cars. It seems to be seen as really uncool if you havnt "done it" by the time you are legal to. Girls 18 and above seem to be incouraged by adverts for sex toys that you can use with your partner on the tv. If two consenting adults who are using protection want to have a bit off no strings attached fun then where is the harm? Women seem to be easily given a bad name where if a man is to have had a few sexual partners it isnt seen as a problem which i think is really sexist. Why should a women save herself for the one she wants to marry but a guy isnt expected to do the same? And as for having nothing to give, does commiting herself to life with that one man not mean she is giving him something? Plus i have three kids but am not going to get married anytime soon to their dad just due to the fact most people i know who have been married are also divorced. Just thought id put another side onto you debate :-)

Danielle - posted on 12/15/2009

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Sex sometimes is also a way for young teens to act out, reaching out for someone to love them, or to show affection to somebody. We have to realize that sometimes there is a problem and yet no one has offered to talk to these teens and when a young girl does get pregnant, it creates a much bigger problem for them. I myself was one of those teens. Mainly because my father was never really around...he chose to go marry someone who was 18yrs younger then him instead of spending time with his daughters. I was 16yrs old when I started having sex because I just wanted to find someone to share those feelings with. I admit the guy I did it with was a big mistake but just remember that most teens have sex because they have sheltered feelings and don't know where else to go. Of course when you are a teenager it doesn't mean anything but for some it does and those are the ones who get easily hurt.

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