Lost wedding ring

Brandee - posted on 06/23/2011

I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. My husband lost his first wedding band when we were swimming in Lake Michigan. My dad couldn't wear his ring to work because he worked in a factory. My father in law lost his while working on the line at a GM plant in the 70's and didn't replace it until he recently retired. Don't blow it out of proportion. If he takes it off before work he probably did think it was in his car. If you want him to have one then get him a ring and a designated place to store it at home during the week so he can wear it on the weekends. It is not a deal breaker though.

Sharon - posted on 06/23/2011

I lost my engagement ring about a month after my husband and I got engaged. His attitude was, oh well it’s lost, no reason to fret about it. I was angrier than he was. His response was that s**t happens and you shouldn't sweat the small stuff.

If your husband has to take it off for his job, then he probably did lose it, but was afraid that you might have gotten angry over it since some women might. Talk about it with him and when you two can, get another one, but buy a stand for him to keep it on and have him place it there in the mornings before work. This might help prevent it again.

Holly - posted on 06/23/2011

Hi rebecca, I understand how you are feeling. My husband kind of does the same thing he also lost his ring. I talk to his about my feelings and asked him where is his heart. He told me the ring was just for other to know I am committed and married. My hear is yours forever. I know I am married and sure the are beautiful woman out there and I aknowledge their beauty but you are in the place I need you the other woman are jealous of you because you are MY wife. I could not believe he would say those words after that I know he come straight home from work and his heart is mine.

Jessica - posted on 06/22/2011

The ring is only a token, a simple. Just get another one(sounds cold I know). At-least he didn't BREAK it (how on earth my husband did that I will NEVER know...).



Then again my husband ALSO didn't wear it most of the time (guess he didn't want his little sluts to know he was married).

Sherry - posted on 06/22/2011

No, my husband usually takes it off while he's at work since he's a Forman for a landscaping company and he doesn't want to loose it. If he did loose it, no i wouldn't be angry or upset stuff like this happens all the time and if i happen to ever loose my wedding rings i would want him to be and feel the same way i did.

Nicolene - posted on 06/22/2011

You can be angry because why didn't he leave it at home in the first place. He know he can't wear it to work. He don't really have an excuse.

Dodie - posted on 06/21/2011

Well, Rebecca, it really bothered me that my Husband wouldn't wear his wedding ring to work--& Oh Yes they can!! All they have to do is put some electricians tape around it & they can wear them. That's number one. Well, my Husband didn't want to do that, so I bought him a chain--his idea!--& he wears it around his neck 24/7!!
As to the loss of your Husband's wedding ring? Well, it happens, & not just to men, either!! If you feel that he lost it because he wanted to--doesn't want to be seen when out with the guys for a beer with it on his finger, or whatever--then, Oh Yeah!, I would be really ticked! Can you do anything about it? No. So go buy him a new one, & either make him wear electric tape over it, or buy him a chain so he can wear it around his neck!! Let's see him get out of that one...*chuckle-chuckle!!
God Bless...Dodie/Nana
PS ALWAYS pick your battles!!

Rebecca - posted on 06/20/2011

Ok thanks for the replys, I wasnt to upset by it, and then i started over thinking it, and thought to myself maybe it should bother me. Truth is i was suprised that he didnt loose it earlier. Thanks for putting my mind at ease

Crystal - posted on 06/20/2011

Heck who care? If he knows he is married to you then who else needs to know? I never wear mine and my husband has given up. I'm a girl and hate it being on. Always in my way and have to remember to put it on. As long as he loves you what does a ring do?

Tasha - posted on 06/20/2011

I wouldnt be upset. If you have a honest, trusting loving relationship rings mean nothing. my husband couldnt lose his if he tried lol it was tight to begin with and he barely got it on at our wedding. i tease him thats why we could never get divorced because they would have to cut his finger to get it off. But anyway i'd be more upset that he didnt tell me. Its a little thing to lose really. better a lost wedding ring then a lost marriage or trust!

Jane - posted on 06/20/2011

I wouldn't be angry or upset if my husband lost his wedding ring. I might be upset if he lied deliberately about it, simply because that would mean we hadn't established the level of trust that I think a marriage needs.

And actually, I lost MY wedding ring and engagement ring. I have no idea what happened to it. I do know that it was during a time when my son was stealing things from other family members and giving them to kids at school in an effort to make friends. In fact, he did take my replacement ring (an inexpensive silver band) to school, where it was confiscated by a teacher. The teacher left it on his desk and another student stole it. That upset me a bit, first that my son took it and then that the teacher didn't do a better job of keeping it safe.

Our solution was to get all new rings for our 20th anniversary, because my husband's ring was literally worn out from when he did yard work. Both of us needed new rings so that solve a problem.

Tara - posted on 06/20/2011

Oh..and I lost my engagement ring as well. No clue what happened to it, but we believe it got left behind while our daughter was in the NICU after her birth. We think that with going there so much and you have to remove jewelry and such to wash your hands each time you see the baby, that it just got left on the sink and no one noticed.

Amelia - posted on 06/20/2011

I haven't lost my wedding ring but I lost my original engagment ring from my husband. Accidents happen. I agree with everyone else, you should be upset that he hid it from you but not because he lost it.

*Fluffy Bunnies - posted on 06/20/2011

My husband did lose his. I was really upset about it. I was more upset because he hid it from me for about 4 months. He lost it at his mom's house somewhere in her giant yard...or in the woods lol. Almost a year after he lost it his brother and nephew were moving the woodpile and they found it! I know everyone doesn't get that lucky and I didn't expect them to find it. My husband looked for it for hours and his family looked with metal detectors. It's ok to be upset. It's a symbol of your marriage, but your anger will pass. Just make sure he knows that he should just be honest with you about these types of things. I was more hurt that my husband hid it from me.

Tara - posted on 06/20/2011

Here, this will make you feel better:

My husband lost his wedding ring within an HOUR of us getting married (almost 9 years ago now)! Lol! It happened during pictures (we had an outdoor wedding and outdoor pictures..so yeah, there was no way of knowing where to look). You can actually see in the pictures where it had moved down his finger and in the next ones, it's gone. He had lost some weight, I guess, and it didn't fit like it was suppose to.

Anyway, he felt so bad (we actually had the limo driver stop and a few from out wedding party offered to go back and look, while we headed to the reception)..there's no way I could have been mad or annoyed. Things happen :) Maybe your hubby just didn't want to upset you, so he didn't tell you. It took a few years and we did finally get it replaced, but because of his job, he also can't wear it. But, believe me, we know where it is at all times..hehe :)

Amanda - posted on 06/20/2011

Personally it woul'dn't upset me too much, but then my husband only wears his on the rare occassion that we go out