M baby is due in a week, and we have a queen size bed, where should he/she sleep.. middle?

Angela - posted on 10/20/2009 ( 415 moms have responded )

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My bf tosses a lot and throws his arms and legs all over the place and really flops around when he rolls over.. Our bed his quite high as well.. I think he's gonna be fine if we put baby in the middle, and that he'll just know baby is there. Also we have a little wodden bassinet that is ground level.. would that be better for baby for the first week instead of on the bed... ? My concern is i want baby in the bed for bonding and to help with post partom. i dont want to be seperated at all from baby!!

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I never had my baby sleep in same bed as me. I think it is very unsafe. My daughter was in a moses basket in her cot in my room till she was 6 months old then in her own room in cot. She is now 3 and still i would never let her in my bed as she would get used to it. If you have your child in bed with you it will be hard to get them in their own bed. And why would you have your child in your bed and your partner in another bed!! Fair enough you want your child close. But having them in your bed is not good at all

Katelyn - posted on 10/27/2009

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if you go to any baby furniture store they have a bed type thing that fits between the pillows soo you won't roll on the baby.. but i really suggest a basinet its much safer and the baby won't relie on your body to sleep. trust me that habbit happens very quickly.

Alana - posted on 10/27/2009

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i didnt want 2 b seperated from my baby at all either and have her in my bed but have now found that if im not in bed with her she wont sleep longer than 10mins which makes it impossible 2 get anythin done she has gotten that attatched that she screams while in the pram cause she cant feel me which makes it hard 2 take her anywhere so i would suggest at least tryin the crib first..........in the end though its whatever u feel comfortable with

Sam - posted on 10/27/2009

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hiya i have just logged on and seen your post... i would really advise that your baby has its own bed space as sharing a bed with a small child/baby can be dangerous... if you want to be close to your baby at all times then you could drop the side ov the cot and push it up close to your side ovv the bed.... this way your baby will get used to sleeping on its own and you will feel safe knowing that you cant roll over onto him/her. You can never be parted from your baby and sharing a warm bath with your baby is good for bonding and also skin to skin cuddles... good luck x x

Carly - posted on 10/26/2009

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I think this is a horrible idea all together!!! I don't mean to sound negative, or bash your desire to have your newborn sleep with you, but it is a poor decision on so many levels! First, there have been SO many deaths of infants due to a parent/guardian rolling over on the infant... all of which could have been prevented if the infant would have been in their own bassinet, or crib. One of my best friends growing up lost her third child this exact way. Her fiance and her decided they would let their newborn sleep with them in the middle of the bed for bonding, and they both felt as if they would be alert enough to sense the baby. They were wrong. It only took a few seconds of my friends fiance rolling over, and the baby was DEAD. My friend tried to move her fiance, screaming as she woke and saw it happening,but it was too late. They were both heartbroken. On a different note, there have been many people who have let their children sleep with them, and the baby never gets rolled over on, but gets "spoiled" in the sense that they will NOT sleep on their own. I have personal experience with this. When my son was a newborn he slept in a bassinet, but was breastfed. I would fall asleep during the middle of the night feedings, and wake up a little later, and decide to just let him sleep with me. It got to the point where he would only sleep through the night if I was sleeping with him. In addition, it got to the point where he wouldn't even nap alone. The moment he was put down while napping, or I got up from the bed, he would wake up! I couldn't get ANYTHING done. (This has been the majority of people's experience as well in this situation! Ask around.) When I went back to school 6 wks later, no one wanted to watch my son because although he was a GREAT baby, he had to be held constantly, or slept with constantly, meaning it was hard for people to get things done. It took me a longggg time to get him sleeping in his own crib, and if I could do it over, I would. I would put the bassinet right next to my bed. You still getting the bonding experience when they wake to feed, but it is so important to get them on a regular schedule, as well as allowing them to sleep on their own. Takes these personal experiences, or don't. Hope this helps.

Christina - posted on 10/26/2009

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I really don't belive in letting your baby sleep in bed with you. My daughter had acid refux and I didn't sleep that well for the first 6 months, but what me and my husband had done was bought a pack n play with the bassenet part. Worked great. She slept in my room till she was about 4 months but not in bed with me. I didnt a loss of bonding because she was in the room with me still. Just so that they get used to not be right by your side every second. When I started to put her in her crib I didn't have any problems getting her in there. She slept like an angle. But it is all up to you...Wish you the best of luck.

Samantha - posted on 10/26/2009

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okay I am a mother of a 6month old baby and I went thou that with my child and I had her in my bed with me but see I had a small bed and noone else it in but me and my child now due to what you are concern with I do think its best for the baby to sleep in the bassinet and not in the bed with you when your b.f is in the same bed as you becus he moves around alot adn it is not safe for a baby to be in the middle of you both becus you or ur bf could roll ontop of ur baby now if ur bf doesnt sleep in the bed with u all the power to u just be safe and watch out that u dont roll over

MaryBeth - posted on 10/26/2009

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I suggest a bassinet then and have it next to your bed. the baby in the bed can be really dangerous and it can cause problems later when you no longer want the baby in your bed. you will have plenty of bonding time and the post partom will come or it wont regardless of where the baby sleeps. sorry if i seem down about that but i have post partum and i got it when my son was in my bed for nursing only. my son sleeps better alone then with someone and always has it will just depend on your baby they are all very different.

Mahalia - posted on 10/26/2009

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Hi, I was the same. Being a first time mum I worried about my child and felt close to her so I ended up putting her in my bed in between my husband and myself. I always held her and being a light sleeper always felt my husband move so I would reposition ourselves.

However now my daughter is nearly 2 and being used to sleeping that way will not get out of our bed. Which makes sleeping VERY uncomfortable.

I would suggest putting your baby in a cot, in your guys room. So you can still bond and he/she will feel your presence so when it comes time to move them into their own room it wont be so hard!

Kel - posted on 10/26/2009

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Oh & i guess it depends on where you live too but you'll have no choice but to have the baby 'not in your bed' when you're in hospital - because of the SIDS risks & other risks as well - they generally don't allow co-sleeping.

Tiana - posted on 10/26/2009

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Wow, you got alot of replies for this cool.

I have a soon to be 3yr old an a 14month old and I'm 21yrs old and my husband is a tosser @ night... I was VERY bad with sepration with my children after birth so both of them slept with me we came home for the hospital with our son an my husband was tired & took an nap I had him bring our son in to nap with him he layed in the middle of our bed facing the wall an cuddled our son like a lil teddy bear an didn't move once @ night ever while our children where in our bed. But now that they are out of our bed (our children left our bed @ 9 months old & we put them into their crib bedside our bed and moved it slowly weekly to the other side of our room then @ 1yr old they were in their own room... beside ours).

My BIGGEST advice to you is listen to your heart.

** Tips **

-Sleep w/ the baby in a Co-sleeper bassinet (attaches to your bed goes from (__) to __) against your bed)

-Sleep with baby in crib beside your bed

-sleep with baby nearest to wall w/ u in middle

-have hubby take nap with baby & stay close by

-put bassinet beside bed

-sleepy with baby in middle



** While breastfeeding feed baby evenly on both breast (They can & will become uneven Oo if you don't feed evenly) **



Tiana

Kel - posted on 10/26/2009

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Well these days they don't recommend co-sleeping anymore because there are more risks (SIDS & smothering) - especially for you if there's a partner who wriggles all night.

The best answer i can give is NOT in your bed (you bond with breast feeding too so you don't have to worry about not being able to bond) - use the bassinet - have it alongside your side of the bed & that will be perfect, he/she will still be within reach & unlike someone else on here - you wont ruin your relationship with your hubby by having the baby in the bed rather than him! You also don't run the risk of ending up with a child who never wants to sleep in their own bed or room.

I had both my kids in the bassinet alongside my side of the bed - we bonded great through breast feeding, there was never a risk with being squished & i don't have them (now 1 & 3) NEEDING to be in my bed every night - they are happy with their own beds & that's 1 less habit i have to break.

Everyone is different, so do what you think is right but if it's not safe because your hunny is a wriggler - then being next to the best is the next best & more safer option!

Kel - posted on 10/26/2009

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Well these days they don't recommend co-sleeping anymore because there are more risks (SIDS & smothering) - especially for you if there's a partner who wriggles all night.

The best answer i can give is NOT in your bed (you bond with breast feeding too so you don't have to worry about not being able to bond) - use the bassinet - have it alongside your side of the bed & that will be perfect, he/she will still be within reach & unlike someone else on here - you wont ruin your relationship with your hubby by having the baby in the bed rather than him! You also don't run the risk of ending up with a child who never wants to sleep in their own bed or room.

I had both my kids in the bassinet alongside my side of the bed - we bonded great through breast feeding, there was never a risk with being squished & i don't have them (now 1 & 3) NEEDING to be in my bed every night - they are happy with their own beds & that's 1 less habit i have to break.

Everyone is different, so do what you think is right but if it's not safe because your hunny is a wriggler - then being next to the best is the next best & more safer option!

Kristina - posted on 10/26/2009

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also, i moved our daughter into her own room at 2 months when she was too big for the bassinet and i was ready to spread out in bed. she transtitioned perfectly with no problems

Kristina - posted on 10/26/2009

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i slept with our daughter in the bassinet right next to me or with her between me and the side of the bed. my husband is a heavy sleeper and i never would trust him next to her. i am a very light sleeper so everytime she moved, i woke up and made sure she was safe. if you have any concern at all about your babys daddys sleeping habits, i wouldnt put your baby in the middle. good luck and enjoy your baby!

Elisha - posted on 10/26/2009

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Also to be honest I had Postpartum with my first and he slept in the bed with me for about 2wks before I decided that it wasn't the safest thing him...My daughter, 2nd born, always slept in her own bed next to me since day one and never had any Postpartum what so ever...

Elisha - posted on 10/26/2009

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Please don't try to put the baby in your bed....never a good idea!!! get a pack in play that comes with a bed canopy and set it up right next to the bed on your side... that way you can sit up to check on your baby without having to get out of bed and she's still basically right next you. You won't have to worry about accidentally rolling over on her, or having the covers accidentally cover her face either by you or by her squirming down in the middle of the night. This worked for me with both of my babies...this is also much easier in the transitioning of the baby to their own bed in their own room. My son went in his own room at the age of 7mos...when he started being able to prop himself up to crawl...or climb/fall out of the pack in play bed. I plan on moving my daughter into her own room in the next month or 2...she's 2 1/2mos old right now. Whatever you decide I wish you luck. Also, just know that even the Dr.s tell you to PLEASE not put the baby in your bed. :o)

Jessica - posted on 10/26/2009

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My daughter is 7 mos., and my Fiance and I co-sleep. It's not what I originally chose to do - it more chose me I think. Although it's not medically reccomended, etc; I do feel it's a *little* better for bonding. She takes her crib for naps. I sometimes lay her in the crib and she'll sleep there all night, or she won't and I'll move her to our bed. I don't feel at this point that the transition to crib full time will be as hard as it's been made out to be (countless lectures from my mother on it). I've tried to switch full time to crib for her, but I think *I* just feel bad for her in there. She's fine... I'm not. LOL... Honestly, you're not allowed to let babies sleep with blankets or pillows or ANYTHING else in a crib and I look at her in there and I think that she might be COLD at night, regardless of whatever type blanket sleepers there are "out there". I know she isn't cold when she is sleeping near to me, and so I feel bad when she's not. As silly as it may be...

Shelly - posted on 10/26/2009

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I would not be able to sleep if i had one in my bed and as a new mother u have to sleep when the baby does. I would sugest that the baby having his own bed when u nap during the day put the baby close to u.

Tonya - posted on 10/26/2009

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I guess you already have a lot of answers and although co sleeping happens and feels wonderful it increases the risk of SIDS

Vicki - posted on 10/26/2009

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dont put ur baby in the middle. Let him/her sleep in the bassinet. You can squish or suffocate the baby. He may forget the baby is there so to be on the safe side dont do it unless your awake but not while your sleeping

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I dropped the mattress to the ground and had the baby sleep on me or on my boyfriend. It worked well for us. It has to be something you are comfortable with! If you have fear you won't get any rest and neither will the baby ;) trust yourself! Have fun!

Erin - posted on 10/26/2009

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Btw, I slept with my daughter in the bed with me, just because my husband is such a heavy sleeper, he wouldn't wake up to her cries to get her and I was too tired to run back and forth all night. She slept between me and the wall, but I slept more towards the middle of the bed so she wouldn't move over and get stuck in the crack, as small as it was. Just remember that everyone is different on how they raise their children, and you should do what's right for you as long as your child is safe. Oh, and my daughter is only 8 months old and sleeps in her own crib now.

Lora - posted on 10/26/2009

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My Ped. Told me that SIDS happens mostly to children that are put on their tummys to sleep. They become so relaxed that their brain starts to shut down. After hearing that I never put my child on his tummy to sleep again. I had him in a bassinet next to my bed for a few months and then put him in his crib he is a great sleeper and we have bonded very well. I had no post partom problems. The first few nights I was worried but just had to sit up and look at him and know that he is ok.

Mel - posted on 10/26/2009

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dont put bub in bed with u it is so dangerous you dont want to wake up to a dead baby. use a bassinette or cot

Erin - posted on 10/26/2009

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Some advice I recieved was to buy a small dog bed with raised sides. That way you'll be able to have the baby next to you, both of you will know where the baby is, and it'll be small so the baby will feel secure like it was still in the womb.

Aideen - posted on 10/26/2009

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WOW -strong opinions here! I think u can be wrong no matter what you do, parenting books differ, medical advise changes over the years. There seems to be a higher risk of SIDS in a cot, higher again in a seperate room. Accidents can happen in the bed...be responsible...hard mattress, appropriate blankets for baby...make sure she can't fall out. No alcohol/drugs/overtired adults...no other children in the bed with a small baby. Have a look at the Dr Sears web site or google attachment parenting.



Some dads don't take well to babies in the bed, some are fine with it. Must be a factor in the decision as it can be a strain on the relationship. Our daughter did move out into her own bed at about 2 and into her own room at 3 without any fuss.



Personally we sleep with the cot right up against our bed, one side taken compeltly off it. Baby boy starts the night in the cot and comes into the bed for a feed and just stays between me and the cot, or in the middle. We have quite a firm mattress and he can't crawl out the bottom of the bed or off the top. (my daughter crawled out the bottom of the old bed in the middle of the night...but luckily she was fine). You can buy co-sleeping cots designed for this as far as i know.



You do really need to do what seems right to you...trust your own instincts. Bond with your baby!!! I think a lot of parenting books are written as if by a nanny...if you were being paid to mind this baby u'd want her in a cot sleeping through the night as soon as possible. That's not necessarilty the goal for a parent, we want happy, secure loved children and we are willing to lose sleep or whatever else is demanded to give them the best start in life. You will feel such love for this little person...just go with that.



See how it goes with Dad at night...if it doesn't work adjust.

Danielle - posted on 10/26/2009

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There are cribs which you can put right beside your bed with one of the sides down which brings it to the same level, this means although your baby still has their own space you can still be right next to them with the reassurance that they are safe. This might make it a more relaxing and enjoyable experience for you not having that extra worry. Do what feels right for you, what works for others may not work you and vice versa. Good luck whatever you decide to do. x

Ashley - posted on 10/26/2009

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i would suggest you put the bassinet next to your side of the bed and have the baby sleep in there just so you know that your baby is safe. i come from a stupid family and my sister in law was in the same place as you as she rolled over on the baby and when she realized she did they had to rush my nephew to the er and a week later he didnt survive. he was only 6 months old. im not saying that is what will happen to your baby but i just want all babies to be safe. hope this message is encouraging and i hope you choose the right way! just go with your gut instict and do what you think is best.

Natalie - posted on 10/26/2009

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For the bleeding, wear depends. It's a lot more secure then a regular heavy duty pad.

Katherine - posted on 10/26/2009

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Tarah, right on about not putting the baby on the edge. Another useful note to add onto that - some people have told me (not on the 'net) that they do put babies on the edge only if that edge of the bed is flat against the wall.



Bad idea, folks! The edge of the bed moves farther and farther away from the wall each day, and even during the night, a person changing sleeping positions can and does adjust the edge of the bed a bit further away from the wall, and the baby could fall through and die.

Tarah - posted on 10/26/2009

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I used to toss and turn all night adn so did my husband and once we had our son we couldnt sleep without him. he slepts in the middle if you are going to sleep with your kid NEVER let him sleep on the edge only the middle they move alot and if they happen to move when you are asleep they could fall andhurt themselves which is no good... Hope this helps!

Tarah - posted on 10/26/2009

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I used to toss and turn all night adn so did my husband and once we had our son we couldnt sleep without him. he slepts in the middle if you are going to sleep with your kid NEVER let him sleep on the edge only the middle they move alot and if they happen to move when you are asleep they could fall andhurt themselves which is no good... Hope this helps!

Sarah - posted on 10/26/2009

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The baby, dog, hubby and I all fit in the queen bed. Admittedly, I have to change the sheets more often granted the amout of spit up my kiddo produces. I sleep on my side, and the baby uses my arm as a pillow and faces my chest. He kicks me when he gets hungry and never needs to wail to get fed. It is nice to snuggle all night long. I know it won't last much longer - I plan on using his crib once he rolls over.

Katherine - posted on 10/26/2009

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Sorry, Bekki, but I am against separating the baby from the mother. I look at my bf and make sure he really does sleep like the dead, no flopping around, and we HATE layered blankets. I have four children, and have slept with each of them till they all turned three years old. I have never, ever had any close calls with any one of them and they have all loved it. SIDS is unheard of in my household.



Here's another catch for you ignorant people. I was born deaf since birth. How, during the night, am I even going to hear the baby cry for food AT ALL? During the day? During naps? The vibrating/light alarm systems for such sounds costs nearly a thousand dollars PER ROOM.



In that case, babies MUST sleep with me if they hope to even be fed at all.



By the way... SIDS are raised dramatically when one or both parents smokes in the house and/or car. We don't. SIDS are actually discriminatory. They pick and choose which family to hit. The message saying ALL babies must be confined only to cribs or bassinets is a one-size-fits-all kind of thing and is actually harmful to those parents who really can't afford a crib nor can hear their baby cry.



Careful with those one-size-fits-all kind of messages AND agencies. They are more callous than they are careful.

Katherine - posted on 10/26/2009

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Trust me, your bf WON'T know the baby's there and your baby WILL die. My bf sleeps like the dead and doesn't even move around at all. So... all four children slept with me, and I'm an extremely light sleeper. Anyone or anything touches me or the mattress moves, I immediately wake up and make whatever adjustments are needed for the baby. However, your boyfriend isn't like that. They do NOT have that maternal instinct and will disregard the fact that the baby's in bed. Instead, buy a bedside cradle. It's one of those that are sort of like carriages, but has an open side facing your bed, and you can link your bed to the cradle. Put that cradle on YOUR side of the bed. All problems solved.



Why would you even want to put the baby in the middle when you KNOW your boyfriend is a dangerous object while sleeping?



Do NOT use a bassinet that's on the ground. I don't care how you say it... don't use it. During the night for bathroom runs, midnight snacks, or in the morning - all those times you get up, you run the HUGE risk of stepping on the baby. Use the attachable cradle. Look it up on the internet.

FayAnne - posted on 10/26/2009

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My son slept in his bassinet when he first came home. i eventually started co-sleeping. he is 15 months old he falls asleep in his crib but when he wakes up in the middle of the night i have to put him in bed with me. i kind of wish i never co-slept at all but it is nice having the baby with you all the time. I agree with holli the bed against the wall really helps especially since you BF is'nt a very good sleeper lol. some people can sense there baby there and not move but others do not you don't want him to be the one who doesn't sense the baby there and something happen. Another thing is that my aunt always co- slept with both of her children they are now 8 and 12 and still sleep with their parents!!!

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one of my friends from high school had to bury his baby sister b/c he parents rolled over her during the night. they woke up to see the baby dead with its nose bleeding with dried up blood...my advice to you is to put the baby in a bassinet next to your bed.



2nd reason, a baby has "pediatric breathing" which means they don't take breaths as often as we do and sometimes they inhale the same breath they just breathed out...if the baby is breathing in you and your bf's carbon dioxide all night, she may suffocate.

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I wouldnt put the baby in the bed at all. Its a horrible habit to start because it wont ever end!!! I know alot of people that still have 3 & 7 year olds still sleeping with them! If you can help it at all.... stick with the bassinet or crib. My son is now 18 months old... & he has ALWAYS slept in his own crib!! Good lluck!

Bekki - posted on 10/26/2009

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Quoting Brenda:



Quoting Tonya:

The safest and best place for your baby to sleep is in a crib or pack in play, bassinet, etc. sleeping with your baby could lead to suffocation, falls, SIDS, and overheating. you should always have your baby sleep on it's back and with nothing except an outfit/pj's or a swaddler, you don't want extra blankets or pillows, stuffed animals etc in the crib. you can still have the baby in your room with you but he shouldn't sleep with you.






Research shows that babies are at increased risk of SIDS when they are seperated from mothers.  Deaths from overlaying are extremely rare when safe cosleeping practices are used.  SIDS is completely unknown in countries where babies normally sleep with their parents.  In studies of baby deaths related to overlaying, almost all of them were related to drug use, morbid ovesity, or smoking, all of which makes cosleeping dangerous, or the parents were sleeping on improper and unsafe sleeping surfaces or arrangements.  For more information on data that our American Association of Pediatrics chose to ignore, see Dr. McKenna of Notre Dame's Mother Baby sleep lab or La Leche League and Kellymom.com's website.  Ignoring reserach to the contrary of their SIDS positon was bad for business, and so it was indeed ignored.  The truth is that if you take all the babies that die from crib related death and compare them to deaths when cosleeping, the crib related deaths outnumber the cosleeping related deaths, and really outnumber them when you take out the cosleeping deaths that were related to improper and unsafe sleep practices.





The research you are quoting was done by a group of pro co-sleep supporters with no scientific backing.. now this on the other hand has scientific backing and im inclined to say i think these people know what they are talking about.



 



U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC) warns parents not to place their infants to sleep in adult beds, stating that the practice puts babies at risk of suffocation and strangulation. And the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) agrees.



Cosleeping is a widespread practice in many non-Western cultures. However, differences in mattresses, bedding, and other cultural practices may account for the lower risk in these countries as compared with the United States.



According to the CPSC, at least 515 deaths were linked to infants and toddlers under 2 years of age sleeping in adult beds from January 1990 to December 1997:





121 of the deaths were attributed to a parent, caregiver, or sibling rolling on top of or against a baby while sleeping



 



When the american academy of pediatrics says something it's usually a good idea to follow along since they tend to be more of experts on the topic of children.

Jessica - posted on 10/26/2009

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I felt the same way but I hate that I let my son sleep in the bed with my husband and I. My son is now 8 months old and will not sleep unless he is in the baby with us. I think that you should let your baby sleep in the bassinet. I know I will be putting my next child in the bassinet instead of in the bady with us. Good luck and I hope you pick the best choice for you and your family!!!

Wendy - posted on 10/26/2009

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My advise is to get a bassinet and put it beside your bed. You really don't want to start any bad habits of letting the child sleep with you, because he/she will never get out of your bed and I know you and your husband will want to have alone time as well.

Katona - posted on 10/26/2009

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Girl, just get a basinett it can sit right next to the side of the bed. Sleeping with the baby in the bed can be hazardous and put them at a greater risk for SIDS. A basinett is a great choice. It can be adjusted to sit right next to the bed.

Chelsea - posted on 10/26/2009

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get a shallow laundry basket and put a pillow in the bottom. put that on top of the bed and the baby should be just fine

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I kept my baby girl in the middle of her father and me IN A SMALLER SLEEPER BED. I recently met a young woman whose husband smothered her young infant daughter by ACCIDENTALLY rolling over on her in his sleep! I know that sounds unlikely, but I've been thinking about how easily that could happen ever since. Scary!

Jamie - posted on 10/26/2009

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Both of my children slept in a crib next to my bed and we bonded just fine and i have no issues with postpartum for the safety of ur baby u should keep him or her out of ur bed so many parents accidently suffocate their babies thet way, it is not safe!!!!!

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Sweety, I recommend that you do some research. I'm not sure where u are from, but I want you to know that SIDS is something that happens....It CANNOT be predicted, or prevented. It does not matter what you do or don't do. If it is going to happen its going to happen. I lost my youngest child to SIDS and she was sleeping in her bassinet. It can happen in the bed with you, in her own bed, or even in your arms while playing or even feeding. It just happens. Yes there are many theories on what may cause it and what can be done to possibly lessen the risks, however, none of those theories have been proven. NO ONE knows what happens exactly. Do your own research, and decide what you are most comfortable with. I believe that if you truly feel the need to put baby in the bed with you.....you should invest in the seperators that way the rolling accident can be avoided.....because as we all know accidents happen, especially when you think it'll never happen to you. And for everyone who believes that SIDS isn't real; that's only because you have never been there.

Emily - posted on 10/26/2009

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I wouldn't recommend having your baby sleep in bed with you guys. My husband and I did that with my 5 year old for a little bit and he still sleeps with us even though we put him in his bed at night he sneaks in when we are asleep. We have done it a few times with our 8 month year old when she has been sick. For the first 4 months she had a cradle on my side of the bed and that worked out just great.

Lora - posted on 10/26/2009

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I don't think that you should ever let your child sleep in the bed with you. I just put the bassinet in the room right next to my side of the bed. There are so many things that could go wrong with the child in the bed with you. Plus when the child is older you are going to have a hard time getting them to sleep in their own bed. My sister went throught that with her first child. My son sleeps in his crib. I just put him in there and he falls alseep. This was from having him sleep on his own. I was so worried about my husband rolling onto him when he was asleep and you aren't even supposed to rock your child to sleep because then they don't learn how to put themselves to sleep when they are older.

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