Miscarriage at 9 weeks....

Elizabeth - posted on 12/01/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )




I found out a few days ago that I am having a miscarriage. Baby has no heartbeat at 9 weeks, and I've been spotting. I opted to not have medical intervention at this point, as I was already spotting, but I'm wondering how long this is going to take (and how long I can handle waiting...) Bleeding has increased, but honestly, is still nothing like the "heavier than a heavy period" my doctor said I would see.

At this point, I"m just starting to want a little closure on the situation. This is my first miscarriage, I'm only 27 and already have a beautiful 2 1/2 yo, so this took me completely by surprise. I've read other moms who had "incomplete" miscarriages, where their bodies never fully expelled all the tissue, and I'm worried this is going to be me.... Anyone else have an early miscarriage like this? How long should I expect this to continue?

And.... how do you get past this?


Laura - posted on 12/01/2011




I have had several early miscarriages and with the exception of the first (which lasted for almost 2 weeks) the others have all been around 7 days. As I was only a few weeks with most, I didn't seek medical intervention. However with the first, I was 2 days from my 10week visit, and went into labor (yes, I had contractions which stopped when everything passed). I had to get checked out to make sure I didn't need a D&C..

It's not easy to get past having a miscarriage. While I know mine are caused by my body not being able to handle the hormone changes it's still saddening. I think especially because after my first I managed to carry to term, and now have a beautiful 3-yr-old. Make sure you have lots of support and don't do anything strenuous.

Kimberly - posted on 12/04/2011




I recently miscarried at 8 weeks. I was just shy of my 12 week appointment when I started spotting. I went in when it increased. They gave me a prescription to help me pass everything, but by time I got home i was cramping/ contacting hard. I passed tissue over the next few days. You can talk to your dr about what option is best for you and your family when it comes to passing the tissue. My heart goes out to you and I know how you feel.

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Caroline - posted on 12/07/2011




hi i had a miscarrage may this year and didnt even know i was preggers. i didnt notice spotting but i was bleeding and thought it was a period, i couldnt move for cramps. it was hard emotionally even tho i tried the old 'cant miss what you didnt have' thing. my mother in law does seem to be right tho as she said have baby soon after and even tho this one (due in april) was a suprise, after i got over the parinoia (when will period start, is it really there etc etc) solved by dating scan. i must say i am now over the miscarrage, i still count it as a pregnancy as it was there for a little bit. i was told by the nurse that its not unusual to get preggers shortly after a miscarrage. when you ready talk to people also. hope this helps the last question. i also must say i only had one and now feel for women who have more.

Christina - posted on 12/03/2011




I'm so sorry for your loss! I recently experienced my first pregnancy loss as well! It happened 2 weeks ago. I was 2 days shy of 17 weeks, and I still haven't miscarried yet. My doctor is taking the wait and see approach. I've been cramping and have had a little bit of bleeding on and off but nothing significant. I'm frustrated and so ready to be done with this so I can finally have the closure I need and move on. I see my doctor again on Monday so I'm hoping he'll finally do something!

Once again, I'm so sorry for your loss! If you feel like talking, please feel free to email me! You and your family will be in my prayers! Hugs!

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I'm sorry for your loss.

My first miscarriage was a missed miscarriage at 8 weeks genstation. So I didn't find out for 2 weeks. With in 24 hours of finding out I went into labor (yes full on labor). I ended up having complications and had to have an emergancy D&C.

My second miscarriage was at 4 1/2 weeks. I waited 2 weeks (which hormonal and ultrasound monitoring) for my body to do things naturally. It never happened, even after using meds (which I used after the fetal tissue had passed), nothing happened. In fact my bleeding stopped (hence the meds). I ended up having another D&C, with this one the doctor took pictures of my uterus where the clots has been, it was extremely swollen and red. I had to be on antibiotics for a week prior to the D&C and 5 days after.

I also have issues with hormones. I have to take progesterone within 5 weeks or I'll lose the baby. With my second miscarriage I lost him despite the progesterone. But he was up near the top of my uterus, if he has survived and impanted there I would have most likely died of uterine rupture.

I get extremely sick during pregnancy. With both my daugther and my current pregnancy (he's due in a few weeks), I lost 15+ lbs by 16 weeks (I gain it back starting at 25 weeks, and end near my starting weight). I totally get the red meat thing. I couldn't even have it in the same room as me (cooked or uncooked). I get hypoglycemic during pregnancy (the oposite of diabetic). I wouldn't worry that things like acne and rashes causing pregnacy issues. Morning sickness in the first trimester is a sign that everything is going well (even with the weight loss).

Elizabeth - posted on 12/02/2011




Laura, Thanks for the response.

If you don't mind me asking, because it seems like my situation is similar to yours, how did you find out your body can't handle the hormone changes? I ask because though my first pregnancy was full term without worry of a miscarriage ever, it sounds as though even then I might have had hormonal issues.

My first trimester I couldn't eat meat for about a month because it would make me throw up (maybe that's normal, maybe it's not). I also had horrific acne for several months. Then, I was a gestational diabetic, which is a condition directly caused by the hormones in your body when you are pregnant. Finally, in my last trimester, I had a skin condition that caused me to itch and have red rashes all over my body (can't remember the name of the condition though). I also developed eczema for the very first time in my pregnancy.

Both the skin condition and the diabetes are not very common in pregnancy, and having both at the same time occurs less than 1% of the time, statistically. (I think it was actually around 0.25%) Now, with this pregnancy, I feel like it never really got off the ground. I felt pregnant for a few weeks, but around 7 weeks I got super nervous because I wasn't just exhausted like I had been with my first and though I had some acne, nothing like with my first either. Then my pants actually started fitting better and I eventually started spotting just a few days before being told the baby had no heartbeat. It just makes me wonder, if my body can't handle the hormonal changes well either. Of course the doctor says not to worry until you've had 3 miscarriages, but honestly, the thought of another one right now is devastating, so I'd love to know how you found out and if my situation sounds at all similar to yours.

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