Moms who have chosen not to circumcise.

Mary Doug Claus - posted on 02/09/2013

people want to circumcise their kids so that they wont masturbate.
the "cleaner story" its pure BS.

Krista - posted on 01/30/2011

In my area circumcisions are rarer and rarer. There is no one in our city who will perform one. We didn't get our son circumcised and I had a friend who did. As far as I'm concerned, no one has a right to ask about your son's penis except your doctor. Tell people that it is not recommended by medical experts. And then give them a weird look and ask: "Why are you so interested in my son's private parts?" That should shut them up! :o)

Cyndel - posted on 01/30/2011

around here most people circumcise their boys, but I chose not to because of what I've been hearing about current doctors and the bad jobs they've been doing.
My neighbor didn't circ and I asked her questions about it and in the end I just was too tired to get him to the doctor to have it done. My son was born in a Maternity center, the don't provide on site circ's, you have to find a doc to do it, though they give a few numbers of docs in the area that do most of them.
Anyway, with all the hype against circ's it is surprising that anyone with out family connections to a religion that requires it would be so strongly for circ.

Stifler's - posted on 01/30/2011

It makes me laugh that anyone would think anything of it.

Laura Zoey - posted on 01/30/2011

Just let them know that in 2009 68% of all boys born in America were NOT circumcised!
Tell them, medicine improved all the time, we learn new things, and practices change for the better!

Danielle - posted on 12/10/2010

I personally feel that it is mutilation of the body. And it is not even your body! As long as it stays clean, and free of infection then you should leave the human body the way it is supposed to be! But I agree with everyone here, it is not anyones business what you choose to do or not do with your child!

Daria - posted on 12/09/2010

My son isn't either, my mom and sisters used to make fun of him (until I put them in their place, cause later on in life they might have done it in his face). But, I went to a Ped Urologist and he said he sees more cases of uncircumsized boys with issuses and than those who are not being that the fore skin grew like so to "PROTECT" the penis. I don't care his father doesn't care and that's all that matters, I will however inform him that there may be dumb females who freak out to his extra skin. I also, wondered why they were so concerned with his penis, it was very wierd to me, they tried to tell me they were just joking, but, joking about a childs "wanky" is not funny to me, so I keep my eyes and ears wide open around them (along with others)....

Maxine - posted on 12/09/2010

That makes me laugh what your friend said, the foreskin actually plays a huge role in sexual function and comfort for a woman when it comes to intercourse. XD

Lin - posted on 12/09/2010

My sons are circumcised; however, the option to recircumcise my youngest may come up (he was a bigger baby - almost 10# over 3 weeks early - and not everything got removed that was intended to be removed), and as we've been told doing it again would be purely for looks, we will decline and receive a lot of the same garbage you're getting. In my opinion, the only people who would be concerned about my child's penis are his parents, his doctor, and child molesters. And I will not hesitate to ask friends, family, and strangers which category they belong in. They can't say they're his parents or his doc, so they should quiet down - who would admit to being the last category? And those who don't get the hint will be asked, "Oh, so you're a child molester? I know you ain't the baby's mother/father and you're not his pediatrician, yet you're going on about my son's penis. There are many quality therapists to help you with your condition; let me get you in touch with someone who can help you."

Hope this helps!

Tyrae - posted on 12/09/2010

truthfully being uncircumcised actually feels better for the guy. I don't have a son, but if I ever do have one I wouldn't circumcise him. My hubby isn't and he doesn't want his son to be that way either. There is such a high possibility of infection if it is done, and putting my son through a surgery like that just doesn't seem right unless it is absolutely necessary, which it isn't.

Alyssa - posted on 12/09/2010

We chose not to have our son circumcised as I believe that he should remain the way he was born, and no modifications should be made as per our opinions unless something medically relevant came up. He will mangle and disfigure his body enough when he's a teenager. There's no sense in my mind why I would put him through extra pain. I think he's perfect the way that he is.

Sammie - posted on 12/09/2010

Exactly Sarah, if you (general you) sleep with an infected person, chances are very good, that you will catch the disease, circumcised or not.

And for the people who circumcised because they think they are reducing the chances of their sons getting infections. Well there is more chance of a boy getting an infection from the actual circumcision wound, then an intact boy/man getting an infection ever, in his lifetime from having a foreskin.

Over 80+% of the worlds men are intact, and if there was all this infection problems with foreskins, then im sure circumcision would have caught on more with all the other countries. Women have WAY more infections then any man, and no one is cutting anything off of them.
If the foreskin of a child is left alone, and not forcibly retracted ever, the chance of infection is very, very slim.

Sarah - posted on 12/09/2010

my son is not circumcised either. when one of my friedns found out she told me he was going to get a ton of infections and that it is really bad for your baby. i just laughed. she is dumb. you just have to clean it a little better. and when you circ it takes nerve endings away in a man. its no one bussiness what you do with your child either!

Heather - posted on 12/09/2010

i no how you feel all the boys in my family(cousin,nephew,brothers,etc.) are circumsized and my son isnt. Me and my husband both wanted to get it done at first but then decided not to no big deal plus my husband isnt and never had any problems. Just take care of it and he will be problem free. And i would tell anyone that he is fine you chose not to but you are his mother so you are gona take care of it and thats it, they can keep all there comments to thereselves!

Frances - posted on 12/08/2010

That is so funny that that man believed it was for better sex?! so ridiculous.Anyway, It sounds like youve made yourselves an informed decision and thats within each parent's right. I personally believe aside from religion and medical reasonings a circumsision is no longer necessary and Its a proven idelation because the proceedur is becoming less and less common. Here in Sydney Australia, the proceedur is rare and usaually done by a specific doctor who (once found)requires the parents to inform him of the reasonings for thier choice before approval. There's an incling to the idea that it was common place during the war times because the access to cleanliness and bathing was dismal- Maybe the operations these days are stemmed from 'the father has had it done the boys shouldnt look different'
My GF has her boys done and that is her own right, dosent change a thing between her boys or mine-
I believe as long as the parentee has researched the correct reasoning behind the proceedure then its thier own choice-
Sometimes we each need thicker skin to grow so other ppl's comments dont effect us but then again its a two way street and why do other ppl feel thier beliefs have precedence over our own-

Sarah - posted on 12/08/2010

Sammie: I always thought the HIV/AIDS and STD thing was a stupid I mean come on people this is 2010 by now we know the only two things that protect against HIV/AIDS and STD is wear a condom or don't have sex unless you know the person is clean and by knowing I mean they have physically been to the doctor and gotten results via a blood test an can actually prove that to you

Lora - posted on 12/08/2010

I have 3 boys and none of them are circumcised. I looked at all the facts and found no reason to do it. I, too, sometimes get funny looks. What I always say is "God put the skin there for a reason. Why put your child through the pain? As a mother, I couldn't bare putting my child through it" I know women that have and had problems with the circumcision. (ie bleeding, scars, infection, etc.) All for what?

Danielle - posted on 12/08/2010

I chose to have my son circumcised. His father is. The men in my family were too. In my opinion it prevents certain health risks but I completely understand it is a personal choice for every parent to make about their little boy. I don't condemn parents who do not have their son's circumcised and in return I expect the same respect for the decision we made for our son.

Sammie - posted on 12/08/2010

I forgot one more thing, which is very important.

Do not EVER forcibly retract your childs foreskin. Actually the ONLY person who needs to retract a foreskin, is the one who owns the penis the foreskin is attached to. When a child is old enough to understand, you simply explain to him, when/if he is retractable, to practice the 3 R's. Retract, Rinse, Replace. Thats all that an intact penis needs to be clean. No scrubbing, no soap, just a little warm water.

Sammie - posted on 12/08/2010

Sorry i was apparently logged under my daughters account.

I would like to address the "Circumcision reduces the risk of HIV/STD's" comments.
The United States has one of the highest rates of circumcised, sexually active men. And also has one of the highest rates of HIV/STD's. So if you think about it, circumcision is not working out for reducing Sexually transmitted Diseases. What works better is condoms. Yes, practicing safe sex works much better than circumcision.

And to your OP, your friend said he feels bad for you son because he has his foreskin, which has over 20,000 erogenous nerve endings, to make sex more pleasurable(the clitoris only has 8,000 erogenous nerve endings). And his has been chopped off. Who is the unlucky one there?

Makynzi - posted on 12/08/2010

I have not read all the comments yet, but i had to comment on this.........................

" The oldest is having problems with his fore skin retracting and is being sent to a surgeon to be circumcised some time after the first of the year."

How old is your son? It is completely normal for a boy not to become retractable until puberty. A foreskin is adhered to the glans (head of penis), and should be tight so nothing can get under it. Thats why its there, to protect the glans. Please get a second or third opinion.

" I have known other people who have had little boys that had the same problem.'

This would be because it is normal.

Sarah - posted on 12/08/2010

@Emma my naval piercing closed up too i had it done 4 times over have scarring though, same with my nose totally closed over can't even tell i had one in my nose or eyebrow

Angelique - posted on 12/08/2010

Hi I have a 4 month old son. My husband & I also chose not to circumcise our son, & we too looked at all the facts.

For us we chose not too based on religious and moral standards. & also on the thought that if our son chose to he could always later have the procedure done. From what I have read it was originally done for hygeinic purposes but in todays day & age we are more medically and technologically aware and advanced to know about hygeine and how to maintain good health, so it is not necessary. Though studies have shown that std's etc are less likely past on in circumcised men.

At the end of the day he is your son and its how you feel that counts. Follow your instincts & have faith in yourself. & put your foot down to other people crapping you out about it!

Stifler's - posted on 12/08/2010

I have had a fair few piercings in my ears and they have never gone away, you can still see the holes even though you can't fit an earring through them. Same with my navel piercings, I can still see them and can't fit anything through there.

Kelly - posted on 12/08/2010

My advice is....this is your child so let ppl say and think what they want. if you try to please everyone you'll be unhappy. Do what makes you happy and what you feel is right for your child.

Summer - posted on 12/08/2010

Let them talk because I also didn't see the sense in doing it to my son either.

Ashley - posted on 12/08/2010

I'm pretty sure that in Canada most are intact, so it hasn't come up.

Toni - posted on 12/08/2010

Sarah, I have normal piercings that have not been stretched as do many of my friends whose holes do not seal up (as I said the back of mine do, just not the front). Anyway I just wanted to point out that ear piercing can be permanent as well. As I said they are both human rights issues.

Sarah - posted on 12/08/2010

@Toni im yet to see anyone that has a normal piercing that hasn't closed up. unless they have been stretched they do close up. Unlike circumcision a girl can choose not to wear earrings a man can't choose to put the foreskin back on

Toni - posted on 12/08/2010

Regina, caring for your son's intact penis requires no special action. Remember, foreskin retraction will occur naturally and should never be forced. Once boys begin to bathe themselves, they will need to wash their penis just as they do any other body part.

http://www.circumstitions.com/AAP-care.h...

Sarah, ear piercing is permanent on many people, I know several women whose holes have not sealed up, for myself only the back of my holes seal up so I still look as though I have holes (I do wear earrings but I went years without). I find it amazing that people can think circ is ok yet ear piercing not or vice versa, they are both a question of human rights.

Amanda - posted on 12/07/2010

oh and the sex thing, men are thicker with an uncircumsized penis and it is much better, i would know :P...now that i have completely gone overboard, im done

Amanda - posted on 12/07/2010

You know, my boyfriend is Mexican and was never circumsized, his sister has 3 boys non of which are circumsized. Its not necessary, but we circumsized our son becuase his parents told us how as the baby gets a belly, it pushes the forskin and he was getting a lot of bladder infections because the skin was making it so he couldnt go the bathroom. Anyways, I dont think that you will be having to do much explaining soon because so many people are chosing not to circumsize these days. Not that this answers your question, just thought it might ease your frustrations.

Crystal - posted on 12/07/2010

You might mention, he doesn't need his left pinky toe, but you didn't cut it off at birth, either. Then fisnish up by asking if they always start conversations with penis inquiry....

Jesica - posted on 12/07/2010

When I was pregnant I had told a lot of people I wasn't going to have the procedure done on my son and I got a lot of crap about it. I even herd the story on how it's better sex for the women. I always felt that taking away should be the choice boys/men should make when they are ready. People in America feel that it's wrong that some countries stitch baby girls vagina to make it tighter to show they are still virgins when they reach the age of sexual activities. I never saw a difference. It's wrong in our society to do that to a girl and it should be for a boy. There is a lot of controversial studies that male circumcision isn't even healthy for the babies. The best thing to do is tell those that are being nosy and rude about it to kindly mind their own business. You made the right decision, the decision that you feel in your heart is better for your son. No one can or should be able to take that from you. Be proud of what you didn't do. You gave your son the choice to have it or not when he's ready to decide that.

Brenda - posted on 12/07/2010

My son isn't circumcised and I'm not plaining on circumcising my newest one. My husband and I had talked about it when I was pregnant for him and we both didn't really see the point of having it done. It doesn't hurt them and as long as it clean and no infections happens there's really no reason it get it do. I believe it doesn't change anything. I was told that it better for their sex life's when they're old and that the penis can sometime cause infections in woman if their not circumcised. i didn't fell like it was my place to chose for them. If the doctor would have told me that I had to do it i would have but my oldest is almost 3 and we never had any problems. Just let people that it was up to and that what you decide. but I know how it feel everyone try to give my their opinions on how I should've. just don't let it get you. your the mother and you know what best for the child.

Charlie - posted on 12/07/2010

I think any one who refuses a person based on their their natural body is shallow and not worth the time anyway . That goes for men who prefer an unnatural looking women to the point they would be disgusted by a woman who were naturally beautiful .

Imagine the scenario if you went to go to bed with a man he he recoiled in horror at the sight of your untrimmed Labia should you then get labiaplasty ? should every daughter thereafter get labiaplasty because of this ? NO .

Amanda - posted on 12/07/2010

dnt wrry about what others think... when i was pregnant we waited to find out the sex untill i had her.. but we decided if it was a boy we were not doing it.. and when ever anyone asked us we just said its not in our beliefs ( my bf's not) im more open rather then pro or con... i dnt really have a reason too or not too

as long as yopu teach him how to take care of himself n clean properly there shouldnt b any discussion on it.. its your choice not others..n your right they shouldnt have any interest in it. its your sons not theirs llol..some pple are just so stuck on "ways n means" theres no room for options

Shanna - posted on 12/07/2010

I agree with Tanith Van Druten,My little man is intact,i couldn't bear to put him through unnecessary pain.There are also doctors that refuse to do it too.

Antoinette - posted on 12/07/2010

For real, my son is now 5years and he will be 6 on Christmas day 2010. He was not circumsized and forget what every one says, nothing is wrong with him, once we as parents take good care and make sure we do what we are supposed to and clean and wash and moisturize, ur son and his genitals will be just fine.

Regina - posted on 12/07/2010

@74
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@Shelley Schmeling
Is there a site that tells you what to do exactly for cleaning? We chose not to circumcise our son, he is 19 months old and we haven't had any health worries, and I haven't thought about it until I read this.

Wendy - posted on 12/07/2010

We didn't mutilate...I mean circumcise our boys either. LOL. My husband, who is also "intact" (loved that description btw!) forbode it. Circumcision is unnatural in his (and mine) opinion and I'm sure our boys will be happy with our decision. Foreskin is there for a reason - because it is supposed to be. Plain and simple.

Sarah - posted on 12/07/2010

I can't believe there are women out there who won't sleep with a guy who isn't circumcised how silly! and circumcision is nothing like getting your ears pierced!! ear piercing is not permanent if you don't want them anymore you simply let them close over, you can't wait for the skin to grow back over after a circumcision



I might add too ear piercing wouldn't hurt nearly as much as a circumcision.

Christine - posted on 12/07/2010

My son is uncircumcised at my husband's request, and I'm fine with that. My mom gave me some flack for it because she thinks that other kids will make fun of him for it, but it seems like most of his peers in this area are the same (which is kind of weird, because we have a lot of Jewish families), so I figure that won't really come up. Children shouldn't be discussing each other's genitals, anyway.

Rachael - posted on 12/07/2010

ignore them. let them keep their opinions but there is no medical reason for getting a boy circumsized. my son isn't either because his dad isn't frmo north america and back home boys are rarely circumsized.

Kelli - posted on 12/07/2010

My son is circumcised, I didn't do any research on it or anything, I just asked my husband if that's what he thought we should do, he said yes... so we did it. I don't personally care what other ppl do, I know some people who have opted not to have it done, and that's fine... it's not my son and it's certainly not my penis... so what do I care??? :)

Tracy - posted on 12/07/2010

I haven't found it to be a problem. But actually most of the people I know have girls. It seems to be a huge personal choice. I find that if the dad is then the son will be too. I asked my husband what he wanted to do when our son was born and thankfully he said NO to getting it done. My son is 7 and a half years now and he has never had a problem. I myself did research and I thought that it was not necessary. Try not to be bothered by what other people say. He is your son and it's your choice. At least you know you made an educated choice and not because someone told you so. Hope this makes sense...it's kind of early and I haven't had my coffee ;o)

Christi - posted on 12/07/2010

Way to take things out of context Loureen. If you had read the post I was responding to, you would understand what I meant. She was saying it shouldn't matter what man's penis looked like and I was telling her that for some women it does. Does that mean that was the only reason I had my son circumcised, no. You took what I said out of context and chose to call me sick. Whatever. I think it's sick that people pierce their child's ears. I made an informed decision, just like every other mom did. Not saying yours was right and mine was wrong. I was also trying to save my son the pain of doing it later in life. My husband was circumcised wrong and had to have it redone when he was 7 and he remembers it and the horrific pain associated with it. Newborns do not remember that pain, thank God, and while yes it killed me to have him in pain, once it was over with, he was fine and didn't even seem distressed. I was in the room when it was done and he didn't shed a tear. But like I said, I made my decision based off of many many aspects of experiences in life and medical facts.



And to answer your question Emma, yes I would not be able to see a man again if he was uncircumcised. Yes, men just like women should be loved for their personalities and if they are a good person, but let's face the facts that you can have all the personality in the world, but if there is something that is such a turn off that you cannot have sex with them, then it's a deal breaker. I am not saying that there are not women out there who like it. Personally, it is such a turn off that we would not be able to continue our reltionship. And penis size to me does not matter because I am married to a man that is not that well endowed, but he understands how to use what he has if you know what I mean.

Sarah - posted on 12/07/2010

I didn't. My ex had a circumcision when he was 13 because he wanted to look like the other boys as a result we have decided to allow our son make the decision for himself when he's old enough. It's a bit like a tattoo really how upset would you be if your parents decided at birth they were going tattoo a pink teddy bear to your forehead? besides the risks are too great i don't have a religious reason to do it (in fact im a non practicing catholic) and teaching him to clean his own penis can't be that hard

Stifler's - posted on 12/07/2010

White stuff? Ew.

Erin - posted on 12/06/2010

I don't have a son but if I did I would get him circumcised. I have a friend that is not circumcised and he told be that many women would not have oral or vaginal sex with him cause if his penis. He resents his parents for it and wants to get the procedure done when he works up the nerve.
I have seen 1 uncircumcised penis in my life and it had white stuff under the foreskin. It looked disgusting.