Lauren - posted on 03/03/2010 ( 103 moms have responded )
What is some of the craziest advice that you have received from your MIL?
Lauren - posted on 03/03/2010 ( 103 moms have responded )
What is some of the craziest advice that you have received from your MIL?
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Amber - posted on 03/09/2010
i think im lucky bc i cut my MIL and my husbands whole family out of our and our childrens lives... they still try to send things to our first son but i always send it back.... but i cant say the same for my hubby my mother is very opinionated and a nurse and my gma works in the labor and delivery but we usually just tell them enough and they stop... but it doess get annoying... the worst ive gotten was prob. when my dad rocked my son who was 1 month old and he apparently had raised 3 perfectly fine kids and as he was finishing his sentence and trying to burp my son he projectile vomited all over him.... he got what he deserved... mommy always knows best
Amy - posted on 03/09/2010
I dont know if its advice but she told me when hannah was 5 weeks old that hannah dont need me and she will be jus fine without her mother!
Renee - posted on 03/09/2010
Oh my goodness she is very oldfashioned and from the phillipeans you name and I've heard it like I shpuld never go out in the car alone the baby needs some one always in the back seat with it no matter what and the list goes on
Vixi - posted on 03/09/2010
wish my MIL gave a damn! there was this one time she was lecturing me because I dont feed my 1 yr old (who was then about 10 months) chips!! Then she gave my daughter an apple of all things, and obv she started biting big chunks off so my MIL took the apple off saying, ohh shes taking big chunks off isnt she!? I thought and you're lecturing me saying I should give her all these chips and chunky foods wen she has like only 3 teeth?! grr!!
Charlotte - posted on 03/09/2010
My ex-mil was a sandwich short of a picnic if you ask me! lol She told me not to believe drs! She also said that tinned tuna was too good for cats, you shouldn't call animals "baby", its always good to iron underwear and towels..etc. But one thing she said that has stuck in my mind was when I had trouble breastfeeding my twins and she had a go at me, I told her I couldn't force them to suckle and she told me I had too!!!!!!
Jeri - posted on 03/09/2010
I havent received any really, she just trys to do my mommy job for me. When my daughter was younger she would step over boundries, when my daugher was about 6months she thought that we should be giving her baby food so she went to the store and bought a lot of baby food. And my FIL always thinks i am a bad mother becuase i dont do what he thinks i should do. Whats real sad is that they always say how good of a father abbie has but they never make that comment about me...
Deb - posted on 03/09/2010
My son was a very fussy infant up until he hit 2 months old. He cried a lot and fussed quite a bit. Bed time was always an issue because he fought his sleep hard! I would rock him until he fell asleep even if I was rocking him for 3 hours. One day while visiting, my MIL said "Well somebody needs to say it....you've got to go put him in his bed and let him cry it out." This REALLY irritated me. If i'm going to listen to him cry, i'm going to do everything possible to calm him down. (He was 5 weeks old) My 5 week old child does not need to be left alone screaming himself to sleep. I don't care what she did with her children, I will not let my child scream itself to sleep and neither will someone else.
Matjiua - posted on 03/09/2010
I don't do MIL. They're nothing but evil witches to me! I don't think I'd want to listen to their advice anyway.
Kristine - posted on 03/08/2010
My MIL doesnt know how to speak English so we havent really spoken directly to each other (plus we live in different countries). But I consider myself lucky because she is also a pediatrician so the advices that she give (translated to me by my husband) are really helpful. So far, the craziest advice she has ever given was not to take a picture of the baby while he is sleeping.... meh! old wives tales..... =)
Andi - posted on 03/08/2010
Not to stand in front of the microwave while I'm pregnant even when it's not running. Not to reach above my head while pregnant because the cord will wrap around her neck and strangle her. Which is a myth, and the babys cord gets wrapped around their necks several times during the pregnancy and it always comes untangled.
Another thing she's told me is not to yell at my son. She was on the phone with my husband and I had just gotten our son out of the tub and he took off running. Afraid for him to pee all over everything I took off after him yelling for him to come back. I'm 9 months pregnant with baby number 2 and running after an 18 month old isn't so easy, especially when he can get up and go in less than a second and it takes me at least 30 seconds to get off the floor. lol So when I got to him, he started throwing a fit, threw himself on the floor and screamed a really high pitched scream. So I yelled...if you want to call it that, and told him to stop and that we do not throw fits. He stopped and I got him dressed so he could take his nap. Later that day we went to my mils house and she had this long conversation with me and my husband how we shouldn't yell at him. When every other time we're over there she's yelling at her other 3 kids that are between the ages 12 and 20. So I just had to laugh and let it roll off because she has no room to be talking to me about yelling when she does it all the time and I've been a witness to it almost every weekend. lol
Another thing is when my son was a newborn she kept telling me that why he's crying all the time is because he's hungry. When clearly I had just fed him and he spit up due to him eating too much. She would go and make a bottle for him and feed it to him and he wouldn't want it but she would feed it to him anyway and he would end up spitting up even more. Being a new mom I didn't know exactly what i was doing but now that I look back on it, I did know what I was doing and I shouldn't have let her force feed my son when he wasn't hungry and the reason he was crying often was because he wanted me and she's loud and abnoxious and I'm not like that plus I had to change his formula and he was better until we went to visit her again. Even now at 18 months she's a little too much for him to handle. lol
Stephanie - posted on 03/08/2010
my daughter when she was born you know how they like to make noises while they sleep. my mil kept on saying that she was hivey. of course i knew that she was full of it bc i know that babys do that and of cousre she wouldnt leave me alone. she kept on telling me to give my daughter cat nip tea. i told her i was the mom and i was not going to do some stupid wives tell on my little girl. and she left if alone after that.
Sara - posted on 03/08/2010
that is rude of her,time 2 cut her from ur life.u r a great mom 2 want to let ur child b herself.if that isnt good enough for the monster inlaw then u dont need her
Jenny - posted on 03/08/2010
Well me + my hubby are expecting his 1st child and my 2nd I am actually having my csection 2morrow. Anywho we are currently staying at my inlaws due to the fact that we are completely remodiling our whole house so weve been here for a few months now.. My M.I.L is cuban born and raised in Cuba she has been here for 15 yrs and she is consistantly telling me how we amercanized people are ridiculous wasting money on formula and baby food because her children and grandchildren were eating rice and bean purees at 21 days old, thats why their all fucking fat (excuse my language) lol honestly my hubby isnt fat only because he works out but her daughter is a whale and her grandkids are as well.. I am literally scared to leave her with my newborn because the thought of her giving my kid house food so early drives me insane.. Thats all I need for my child to grow up with stomach problems.. Ughk its so frustrating!! Oh and did I mention that my hubby is the definition of a "momma's boy" and our house is 4 houses down from hers I love it!! I am constantly in compition with her and my sister in law.. My monther in law tries to out do me in everything I do 4 my hubby and according to her I am the devil and her daughter is gold... AHHH SO MUCH FUN AND EXCITEMENT ;]
Tara - posted on 03/08/2010
I'm fairly lucky with my MIL... although after dating for 4 years (and living together for 2) she thought we were getting married too soon, and she asked me to wait to have kids for 'at least 2 years' hahaha I found out I was pregnant a few days later!! Then, she thought we should have waited to have our 2nd baby, when our son was 26 months (she had her kids all 4 years apart). Now, I'm saying I'm not sure I'm done having kids... we might want another one in 3-4years, and apparently since my husband 'hated being the middle child' she thinks it's a horrible idea! And that we should only have 2 (her oldest son decided to only have 2 children, and they're 3 years apart and waited almost 3 years after the wedding to have their 1st...) I try to remember everyday that other women have it worse than me, but it's hard!! BTW my husband is turning 30 this year, and I'm wanting to throw him a surprise party, but it coincides with our town's annual elvisfest, so they're trying to tell me not to throw it, since they want to go out... It's also our son's birthday too... I'm not missing everything for their sakes! I have to work every other weekend... sorry, changed the bday party last year for them... not this year!!!!!! BUT, my brother in law and sister in law put us down for moving and building a house... a week later they bought a lot 3 DOORS down!!! fun fun fun!
Carrie - posted on 03/08/2010
I guess im lucky I love my MIL!
Lainie - posted on 03/08/2010
I get along well with my MIL but some of the stuff she says drives me crazy. The worst though is that she works for the ambulance, not emergencies just transporting patients home or to different hospitals etc. and she thinks she is a Dr she often shows me her training books so that i can see what they look for in a very sick baby even though my daughter has not even had the sniffles. Also she told me recently that she had been worried that my baby was blind for a while there, because she thought her eyes were a little cloudy and her eyes didnt follow when MIL moved a finger in front of her face at about 3 weeks old!
Sabrina - posted on 03/08/2010
Oh and I forgot to add, she made my husband get rid of our cats when I was pregnant because "they were going to make me have a miscarrage" I've been around cats all my life, I'm sure I've been exposed to toxoplasmosis by now and my doctor didn't have a problem with us having them. But she convinced him I was going to lose the baby so he got rid of them.
Sabrina - posted on 03/08/2010
My MIL, from the day we told her I was pregnant, compared me to her daughter. Her daughters children are perfect and her daughter does it "this" way and so on and so on. Drives me crazy! This isn't her daughters baby, it's our baby and we'll do it the way we want to! They also try to push religion on us alot, I'm not a religious person, I respect that they are but it's just not that important to me or their son right now.
Jessie - posted on 03/08/2010
omg! yes they at one time told breastfeeding mothes to give babies bottles of water...but seriously not ok! its my OWN mother that drives me fricken batty. his other granny lives on the opposite side of the country so she hasnt been around since he was born. she flew and splent a week and half in town and came and helped us after he was born. she was sweet and helpful and did not give stupid advice. my own mother keeps insisting that I need to 'take away the booby" from my son. he is almost 8 months and last week we were at her house towards his bedtime... he was crabby and she was holding him and when i left the room he started crying. apparently he is too attached to me because of this and if I just 'cut him off the titty' he would not be so dependent on me. Um, hello?! he is a baby for crap's sake? if he isnt dependent on his mother who should he be? a few days ago I sat down to nurse him and she looked at him and said 'you know you're getting to be too big for that booby' UGH! she insist that I am horrible because I dont warm up his baby food jars I feed him room temp and that just wrong i guess. drives me insane!
Anneke - posted on 03/08/2010
believe it or not the MIL is great and never has said anything! its my mum who has been ridiculous. Wanted me to feed my child sweets when he was 4 months old, Then the rest the family where upset they couldnt get him a selection box for xmas or fill him with junk food. Apparently it does them no harm as long as they brush after. So stupid.
Anne - posted on 03/08/2010
we moved recently and my in-laws came over to see the new place a WEEK after we moved, and they were complaining that we hadn't really unpacked anything; well lets see here the house in currently UNDER CONSTRUCTION and I have a one year old son so could that be why we haven't UNPACKED YET? My husband is constantly trying to please his parents, well if they don't like how your life is well then frack them, I mean come on but other than that episode nothing really to think of.
Jessica - posted on 03/08/2010
That when she gets hiccups, bundle her up because that means shes cold..... what??? lol
Jessica - posted on 03/08/2010
ugh i hate when my MIL tries to tell me what my baby needs when he's crying. if anyone knows what he wants its me. im really the only one who can calm him down. i just dont appreciate her trying to tell me how to be a mother.
Schyla - posted on 03/08/2010
I am really very sorry that your mother in laws are hard to deal with. I use to feel that way about my own until I read a book called Amazing Grace, it really opened my eyes to some very interesting concepts in the in law department. I still have trouble with some of the things that my in laws do but I now realize that if you can ignore the annoying things and learn to love unconditionally (remember this is the women who raised your amazing man so there has to be some good in her and if your mans not so amazing then you know were he got it form) I use to really hate that my Mother in law never put the clothes I packed for my girls when they go for visits on them and would buy them all new stuff like what I provided for them wasn't good enough but in reality my in laws knew that my husband and I couldn't afford to buy them new clothes all the time and even though what we had was fine they wanted to spoil my girls for the little time they had to spend with them. I found this out by having a calm adult conversation with my mother in law. So girls draw some boundaries and stick to um look for the good and above all stay calm even with the massive guilt trips mothers and mother in laws can lay on you. You know what your doing and even if you turned out just fine there are better ways to get the same results. I hope you all have a wonderful day.
Melanie - posted on 03/08/2010
mother in laws are worst than father in laws..they tend to compete and compare you with how they were when they had babies,they compare almost everything to you. they are nightmares!!!!
Natalie - posted on 03/08/2010
Everyone has there own way of raising there kids... Why is it so hard to follow another parents guidelines even if you do not agree with it! I get mad at my mother in law also she has gotten a lot bettr with that. But i do feel like i dont have room to talk cause i am just there step mom. My husband and i raise them full time, but i still tend to back off. before they were able to eat anything and everything well im more health concious and so is my hubby and we want the kids to learn at a younger age so they will eat better when they are older. They wont develop weight or health issues like we did. we both have lost tons of weight look and feel great but it takes pain and dedication so why not change the kids diets now.. People just dont get it at time. But it comes dont to people respecting others.
Marceline - posted on 03/08/2010
My main problem is with my mother. His mom died 8 years ago and his aunt that assisted in raising him is a wonderful woman. My mom is the type that says when my kids are at her house there are no rules and I am not supposed to punish my 3 year old for cussing and hitting! I told my mom that if she wanted to raise kids,she needed to go raise her own. (I am the oldest of nine.5 still live at home). My mom also said that I shouldn't listen to the doctor about my sons feeding. And she seems to think that I shouldn't have to cover at her house while breastfeeding.
Leticia - posted on 03/08/2010
none...shes always really helpful....I turn to her alot more than my mom sometimes...long story.
Melissa - posted on 03/08/2010
My mil is determined to keep my husband and I from moving out of state. In a couple of he attempts she used our son (before he was born) as leverage. She has a habit of taking my husband to lunch while I am at work....one of these lunchens was to try to convince him that he and I needed to buy a house in order to get the first home buyer credit, this conversation happened in Oct 09, I was due in Dec 09 and the credit ended in Nov, so according to her we needed to find a house, break our lease, pack up and move before I had our son in Dec. (her thought was if we owned a house we couldn't just up and move when he graduates from school in June).
My favorite one however is that we needed to wait until my son was 2 years old for my husband to find a job and for us to move out of state becasue at 2 it would be much less tramatic than if we moved when he was 6 months old. really???? lol
Lindsay - posted on 03/08/2010
LOVE this topic, My MIL tends to not give to hoots about the way we do things, sometimes i feel as though shed be happy If me and my hubby split up & him and my daughter go live their, she tends to think shes her mom some times...
Josslyn - posted on 03/08/2010
My MIL believe babies shouldn't go to day care centers and should be raised by their Grannies, Was told when the baby is born I should drop her off there on a Monday and go fetch her again on the Friday. WTF!! Lady has a few screws loose, how else is a child suppose to become socialized?? I will not be bullied into being told I should be a stay at home mom, I work for a living and that's the way its going to be, in this day we can't afford not to have the extra income, I was not as 'privileged' as she was to be a stay at home mom.
Sacha - posted on 03/07/2010
Mine is also a pain in the behind, the way I see it, if I want advice I will ask my friends or the child health nurse. I hate getting told advice without asking for it. I will not leave my daughter with her because like alot of other mothers here I do not trust her to do what we want. Luckliy she lives overseas and I do not have to deal with her that much. For xmas we were going over to see his side of the family, she asked me if I would like a walker for the baby, I said that I would rather not have one as I believe they do not speed up the walking process and if I really wanted one I would just get one myself. We get there and she says she has hired a walker to use as a highchair, the last day she says she didnt actually hire it, she bought it, and made me feel like I had to take it home with me. Now it just sits in a cupboard. She says snide little things about how it was done in her day, and I'm like, well times have changed lady! She came over to stay for a whole week when my baby was 2 weeks old and kept telling me my milk was not good enough because my baby wanted to feed every 2 hours. I texted my mum and was like "if this woman tells me my milk is not good enough once more, she is going to get a fist to the face" She also says I should be putting salt in the babies veges for "flavour" What a load of BS! This woman has gone on about baby panadol and bonjella continually and we have chosen not to use them as we do not feel they are necessary. I refused to go out early on new years because I did not want to leave until the baby was asleep for the night scared that she was going to feed my child panadol and bonjella. I will raise the baby how I want to and her approval is not needed, but I cant see myself leaving the baby alone with her for a long long time. I have told my partner when we have another one, she is not welcome to come and stay for at least 2 months as I doont want her in my ear again and invading my space while trying to adjust to a new way of life. Anyways I have had my little vent and so many of you women have it way worse than me, so for that I feel a bit lucky. Keep on smiling ladies and dont let these bitches bring you down!
Nicole - posted on 03/07/2010
well my ex boyfriends mom, never gave advice, shes just crazy! she thinks im an unfit mother because i don't think shes stable enough and i don't trust her to be around my daughter. she was watching her once and i was sitting on the couch to look over and see her feeding my 2 month old ounces of water. i got up and yelled at her saying no wonder why she doesn't eat for you, water is a filler!! hello! and no wonder why she had the runs. and shes like shes not sick cuz of me! then when my bf and i broke up (due to her crazy ass) she made my life a living hell. she posts stupid shit on facebook thinking shes gonna win in court. she tried to kick her own son at because he was spending time with his daughter, yet complains to me that i withold her from him. umm you freak when he comes here. not to mention when you talk to her its like talking to a box of rocks. shes dumb and useless. nothing going for her, just lives off of her husbands money because god forbid if she can work because she gets a kidney stone. shes a piece of crap and nuts. she needs to go to a psych ward. this isn't even all of it! haha. she went crazy after haley was born. she also thought that haley was her kid. she would tell me to drive 20 mins everyday so she could see the baby when i worked full time and went to school. good one crazy b*tch.
Aura - posted on 03/07/2010
For the most part, my MIL is great. Sometimes though... like, when my daughter gets fussy, they tell me to put her to bed in a seperate room and let her cry. I also have a hardwood floor and my daughter has just started to practice standing. She's very wobbly and falls so I say, be careful because I don't want her to fall and hit her head. THey just tell me that she needs to fall. To put that in perspective, ALL 3 of their sons have had excessive stitches in their heads. One had a concussion with memory loss. Yeah, I'll listen to you. And they freak about the wierdest things. LIke my daughter loves these stacking cups. THey take away the smallest of them because she can "almost fit it in her mouth" but they try to feed her hard crackers or grapes! She's 8 months old and has 2 teeth! Recently she gave me a parenting book. She had it in her language so she looked for a copy in English for me. It was printed in 1985! SHe says "it was very helpful for me"... Thank you, I know you mean well, but no.
Christina - posted on 03/07/2010
I haven't had alot of dealings with MIL but the Grandma in laws can be fun too. I was in the middle of feeding my then 8 month old when she told me to get up and get my husband something to drink. I told her respectfully that he was in the military and knows how to take care of himself.
Nikki - posted on 03/07/2010
She gave your baby coke! my god i would have killed her! That's really disrespectful and stupid. Im lucky, i haven't left my baby with my mil yet but i know that she would respect my wishes if I did. I would let her know how you feel and that it's your baby not her's and that it is important for babies to have a balanced healthy diet. You poor thing, what a horrible situation to be in.
Fallon - posted on 03/07/2010
with my first child my mother in law held my daughter in her arms, looked at her and said 'dont ever listen to your mother she doesnt know what shes talkin about' .. my daughter being a premature baby and having eating problems was the conversation we had been talking about. i think i know my own child better than her and when she needs to be force fed inorder to survive ;) ignore MIL's they just want to take control over your life so they dont lose their mummy boy sons to nother woman..oops too late =)
Jessica - posted on 03/07/2010
nothing lol i'm a single mother, if i did ever hear something i'd be like this is my child ur grandchild i raise them how i want so thanks anyways
Rosita - posted on 03/07/2010
i have the best mother-in-law!
Jessica - posted on 03/07/2010
lol well I sort of have 2 mother-in-laws, My husbands dads common law wife, and my husbands mom. Well the common law wife is amazing! Great personality, she txt me (she lives 5 hours away) amd likes to keep up with whats going on in our life. My actual mother-in-law could really care less about anything to do with us unless its something that can be turned into an "all about her" situation. She is very childish and self absorbed and has recently decided to stop talking to me....I think it's because she knows i get along with my other mother-in-law. As far as I'm concerned she can be that way allllll she wants, makes it easier to sya no when she just assumes we should bend of backwards for her whenever she demands it.
Alyssa - posted on 03/07/2010
My husband's grandma told me to let our son cry it out when he was like 3 weeks old. She was like "It'll toughen him up!!!!" :-O
Rachel - posted on 03/07/2010
That's the issue with all MIL's they feel replaced and try to assert themselves as the first loves in their boys lives, because they are soooo pathertic, and need therapy
Rachel - posted on 03/07/2010
I just had to say my madien name was Malcolm, weird, two Rachel Malcolm's in the world!
Lyndsley - posted on 03/07/2010
My mother-in-law is wonderful, except for one thing that reeeeaaaaaaallly pisses me off. I feel like she is constantly trying to convince me to get onto anti-depressants. Yes, I get anxious, and I am a busy as hell mother, so I get overwhelmed. SHe will slip in comments like, "If I had only known about stuff like prozac when I was your age, I would have been a much better parent to my kids." Wtf?? My daughter is amazing, and well loved. It really hurts.
Natasha - posted on 03/07/2010
well my MIL thought that when my son was 5 days old she should get him for a week...yeah that wasn"t going to happen...she also lies about me and myhusband saying that we don"t work and that we demanded she pay our rent every month...no clue where that came from...she constantly puts my husband down and then when we do family stuff he is completely ignored...so now we just don't talk to her, life is so much better now!!!
Jess - posted on 03/07/2010
The craziest advice my MIL has given me has to be to crush up biscuits and throw them into my daughters bottles ! I gently reminded her liquids go in bottles and solids go in a bowl...... mixing them up is a choking hazard !
I don't really have any horror stories because my in laws are lovely. They mean well and they just want to give us their love all of the time. But it can be over bearing and I do feel degraded when my MIL cleans me clean house..... Its not fair to looking for dirt ! My MIL cleaned the inside of my kitchen bin for crying out loud ! I really wish they would speak english though.... we both know they can. My daughter doesn't speak Italian and neither do I...... it would be nice for them to respect our decision to teach our daughter English only. We also don't follow their cult.... I mean "religion". So Christmas time is tense, they don't believe it should be celebrated. I LIKE Christmas and I don't plan to ever skip it. And that goes for Birthdays, and Easter.
So its more just frustrating stuff really.
Anila - posted on 03/07/2010
So, I'm a fairly young mom. I turned 22 in January and my son is 7 months old. My b.f is 23, an only child and this is our first child for both of us. Needless to say our families were excited, his especially. But the reason I think they were so excited is because we live in Philadelphia and I am from Miami beach Fl, and that is where all my family is. So the ONLY family i have here is his family. At least until i finish school and graduate and the plan is to move to Miami.
Now, his family really wouldn't be so bad if it wasn't for the following things:
1. they speak english but aboslutely refuse to "make the effort to" around me. (They're haitian and i am not and exclusively speak creole around me) and also they don't even attempt to talk to me, they just communicate via b.f. This wouldn;'t bother me so much except they want us to spend every waking moment there (see number 4) but Im a 22yearold stay at home mom, with no car when b.f is at work in a city i really dont know very well at all. So sorry i don;t want to go from being home alone with an infant all day and then have to spend the days i have b.f with me at his parents house being ignored.
2. All of his cousins who are around our age have kids too but they like to do what i call "drop off parenting" where they basically have a baby and leave it to the older generations to take care while they go off and enjoy youth. My "in-laws" i guess were expecting the same thing so they were OFFENDED i repeat OFFENDED when i chose to take a year of leave from school to be a stay at home mom and breastfeed my son. They took it as "she doesn't trust us to raise her son so she'd rather stay home with him then leave him with us" um.. no. How about I know that my son is my responsibility and I'm going to take care of him myself since i brought him into the world and am perfectly capable to do so.
3 Don't even get me started on the constant harassment about "when are you going to start feeding him formula because breastmilk isn't enough" Im sorry he isn't fat enough for you guys. Even though he's in the 85% for his size and weight and 3 months advanced in development. the lack of formula is obviously doing him harm and causing him to wither away.
4. They expect us to be there ANYTIME b.f is off from work. This is mostly because his father is a barely functioning alcoholic. I mean he is literally smashed from 8 a.m until he passes out at 7 p.m or a little later. The man hasn;t even ATTEMPTED to get a driver's license because he knows he'll be too drunk to drive at ANY time. He's unemployed, and at home all day. My M.I.L is the one who works. Therefore my b.f has to be the man of his PARENTS house as well as ours and has to compensate for his father.
5. Is a continuation of 4.. They think that i should leave the baby with F.i.L and either go back to school or to work so that it'll be easier on us to help THEM. So, instead of spending the first year of my son;s life giving him quality attention and love and care, i should drop him off with drunk man so i can go and work, so that we can then support this drunk man. On top of that they try to bully me into leaving him there because I like to be courteous and pleasant so they figure if the ask me for somthing I'll comply. Just the other day F.I.L says to me: "You're going to leave him with me on tuesday so you can go job hunting, its ok I have lots of formula here for him" And a few weeks ago my mother was visiting from Fl to see her first grandchild and his mother wanted to take the baby to new jersey to visit her sister that same weekend when my mother was only here for 5 days.
the list goes on but this is already really long.
Belinda - posted on 03/07/2010
im not really on speaking terms with my mil, in oct last year i had a mc, the day i came home from the hospital she had a fight with my hubby because she wasnt the first to know about my situtation, first phone call since oct was in dec demanding we go to her house on xmas because 'all the family is coming' so we went there and did not hear from her until january the day of my 2 yr old sons speech assesment and we have not spoken since then and she lives in the next town.
Sandra - posted on 03/06/2010
nothing I do is right. I actually believe that she thinks my daughter is HERS....no joke. she is just terrible. This weekend we went up to her place. (she keeps bugging me to let her keep my 5 month old overnight, and she is a functioning alcoholic so there is NO way in hell I trust her to watch my baby without me) so i told her I will be there the whole time, and she is not allowed to drink....welll I left early because she got drunk...but my FAV part of the weekend??? My daughter is starting to get separation anxiety. everytime she held my baby she would scream...so what did I say??? "you're not doing it right, you have to do it like this, let me show you" HAHAHA just like she says to me all the time. She went to change my daughter diaper, and she was screaming...same thing "thats NOT right, let me show you." it was WONDERFUL giving her a taste of her own medicine.
Taylor - posted on 03/06/2010
Everything From how to load the dishwasher to how I should do my laundry. I could not even begin to share the awkwardness of our relationship!