Cassie - posted on 11/13/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )
I'm 22 almost 23 and I have a 7 month old daughter. The father is not in her life(by my choice) and will not be in her life, until she's old enough to make the decision of having him in her life. However, I have recently started seeing a guy that I've had very strong feelings for since I was 14 yrs old. But we never dated each other, we were both too stubborn to say anything. This new guy, had an accident 5yrs ago, he was shot and is now a quadriplegic. However I still care about him just as much as I did when I was 14. I visit him once a week b/c he is across town from me, but I talk to him on a daily basis. When he was shot 5 yrs ago his doctors gave him a life expectancy of 5-7yrs. With it already being 5 that only leaves 2 more years. However I have faith and believe that he will get better and will live longer than expected. When it was brought to my mothers attention that I was seeing him and that I had these feelings for him she wasn't and still isnt very happy. She told me that she doesn't think that it's a good idea that I am bringing my daughter into this relationship and that my daughter is going to get attached to him. She also doesnt think that I should be getting attched to him b/c of the fact she only thinks he will live another 5yrs max... I've gotten into an arugement with my mother about this already b/c she would bring it up everyday and I finally told my mother that I was going to be with him no matter and that if she only thinks that he has 5yrs left then I want her to let me be happy for that 5yrs. I've been the only one to make him happy in the last 5yrs and I find that a great acomplishment. I guess what I want to know is am I wrong for thinking like this???? Should I be thinking more like my mother???? Is it wrong for me n my daughter to be getting attched to this guys being that he is a quadriplegic???