MTV's !6 and Pregnant ... What is wrong with these girls!!!

Tiffany - posted on 02/21/2010

I think the show is a great show, so many of my friends who have teenage daughters are always asking is being a mom really that hard?? I think it gives teens who want to be mothers or teen who are already pregnant a wake up call, life as a young mom is hard life it up while you can because life after baby needs to be all about baby.

Amber - posted on 02/21/2010

Amen. :)

Ashae - posted on 02/21/2010

Janessa maci was my favorite to she stepped and took care of her son and more. My mother had the same views as you. I cant say i totally agree but in some way I do. I would home that at the age of 16 my daughter doesnt get pregnant but im defintely not going to give her the chioce of keeping it. there is other things than abortion like adoption but I cant say i would let her keep. being a mother at 20 with school and college is overwhelming and im a stay at home mom. so i could even imagine at 16 when there is really no patiences

Ashae - posted on 02/21/2010

I wanted to cry when I seen how she was treating her child. I feel they didnt ask tobe here so you should treat them the best that you can even more. sometimes i wish i could be the same party girl i used to be but then my baby looks up at me and she smiles and i remember why im no thst person anymore. I think the best way to be a mother is to really enjoy motherhod and not to look at it like i HAVE to take care of this person but i WANT to take care of this person. i think it doesnt just happen at 16 but it depends on the lifestyle and influences that the mother has in her life.

Amanda - posted on 02/21/2010

@ Megan Proctor I'm right there with you on all this those girls did have a choice and I also strongly believe it's very very VERY wrong to abort a baby unless it's a life or death situation for the child or the mother.

@Janessa your comments and word choice make me wonder if your actually an adult or a child. Adults don't used words like "knocked up" that's high school lingo. Also, from what i can tell no one was attacking you for your beliefs but for how you worded/said stuff. Honestly, i hope you have a daughter who gets accidentally pregnant when she's a teen weither it's because you were irresponsible and didn't tell her the consequences, she snuck out and did it because you were to much of a hard ass, because a condom accidentally broke, or lord forbid and i never wish this on anyone she's raped... I'd love to be a fly on the wall to see what actions you do and the decisions you make for your child who will never know how to take responsibility for their actions. *shrugs* to each there own i guess. I just know i'd be understanding and supportive of my daughter if she ever gets in that situation but i want my children to grow up knowing that even if they make bad mistakes i still love them and will support them through it... granted i won't do it all for them and won't watch their kids 24/7 so they can go to parties etc. but they will learn from their mistake and learn how to adapt and go with it.

Carrie - posted on 02/21/2010

Macie on last season was a great teen mom. I think they just want so show girls how hard it is to discourage them from having sex so young. I think its actually a very good show. Yes, some of the girls are horriable moms and its heartbreaking to see. But others really step up and are good moms,

Britney - posted on 02/21/2010

I agree with you to. Maci put her baby before anything else and that how it should be when you become a mother...I felt really bad for her thow because she was with that asshole of a boyfriend.I would never let my husband talk to me like he talked to her nore would he try. you just don't treat the mother of your child like that.

Britney - posted on 02/21/2010

I agree I watched the same episode. I felt so bad for that baby. I just don"t understand how she can do nothing and be ok with it. I have 2 wonderful kids a boy 3 years old and a gril that just turend 7 month and I would never treat them like she treated her baby. atleast he has his Grandma.

Megan - posted on 02/21/2010

It's so sad how people can use others, and especially sad when they neglect their own children.

Beatriz - posted on 02/21/2010

i couldn't stand watching it, i just wanted to strangle her and grab her cute little baby. i didn't really her get mentality at all, i guess she though after baby is out it was all back to normal is just sad. i hope that baby is doing better.

Megan - posted on 02/21/2010

Another point Janessa,

I think the way you chose to speak your views is what is offending people...

Myself being a rape victim as well - still doesn't give a "good" reason for killing a baby. I think adoption is a better choice....yes, I saw what you posted before how bad it is for people to live there without being adopted...blah, blah...some of those people turn out to be very successful, happy people...

Love the choice word "knocked up" sounds like you lead a very positive, educated life...

I'm not saying change your beliefs and what you believe, but it sounds like you have a depressive outlook on life in general...maybe you should just try to "tweak" that a little? Just saying... I wouldn't want you to think I was attacking you too.

Dorothy - posted on 02/21/2010

i agree with a lot of the posts on here the 1st episode was messed up!. but like with the 1st season they had differant girls who handled it a lot differantly. some embrassed mother hood like they were ment to do it and others just kinda shruged it off.. like farrah from the 1st season she kept ditching the baby at home with her parents but she learned from her mistakes and by the end of it she ended up staying at home more and putting her daughter first. being a young mom im sure is hard. i wouldn't quite know i had my son few months before i turned 24 he's 8 months old now and ya its been hard but i wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. i think she'll learn. but maybe thats just the part of me that tries to find the good in everyone

Megan - posted on 02/21/2010

Janessa...



Please don't worry about offending me, I don't expect you to worry about something so minuscule as offense when you believe in murder...



Not meant to be in this world and not giving a child the change to be a part of this world are two very separate things that you cannot mix. Abortion is a selfish excuse to be irresponsible and have a fall back plan. Its murder...no and, if, or buts about it. I feel as though if you are going to be adult enough to make the decision to have sex, you take the risk of getting pregnant, and if you do - take care of your responsibility as an adult...not a child and give up because a a decision you made knowing the possible results.



So, are you trying to say if your 17 year old got pregnant and was living at home you would force them to get an abortion against their will because your selfish and couldn't help her for a few months until she was 18?



Wow...we need more moms like you...teach their kids the easy way out...Great job!

Amanda - posted on 02/21/2010

Stacia, Most teens are not educated about what can happen if you have sex unprotected this is because either A) the parents don't talk to them about it B) the parents our right say it's wrong therefore them being teens they are going to try it; or C) because of their parents their schools aren't allowed to educate them because of the "abstinence movement" which honestly i think is stupid. I would have rather had my parents teach and tell me about sex and the consequences other than going off the small amount i learned in school. If they would have i may have made better choices.

Amanda - posted on 02/21/2010

If you've never watched it you have no right to say what it is or what it isn't! You don't see how these teens grow and mature and the choices they make....

Stacia - posted on 02/21/2010

Ummm Jaquie C. Your comment "they don't want to have kids it just happens" are you nuts. Then protect yourself! Your fully aware of what can happen at sixteen!

Stacia - posted on 02/21/2010

I totally agree with you, that show makes me sick! I got pregnant at 16 and had my son at 17, I am now 28. I never acted like such scum as they do. If you choose to raise your baby then grow up!

Nikki - posted on 02/21/2010

I don't think that they want to turn young girls 'off' babies, I think its more or less for them to make sure they realize the decisions that they're about to make, and to think twice. I just recently became a mom, and saw that show a while back, and if you watch a full season, it shows how the young moms actually do grow, and yea, they have a lot of growing up to do themselves, but its the huge adjustment that every mom has to make. Its not about us anymore and it just takes them a little longer to realize it... at least that's what I've come to take from seeing the show. At the beginning I was right there with you, with the whole " WOW! You so SHOULDN'T be a mom type reaction", but I changed my mind after a few more episodes, but some teen mommies, I still didn't really care for, but just prayed for 'em.

Tearron - posted on 02/21/2010

oh i saw it to shes needs to grow up

Janessa - posted on 02/21/2010

Yoland

Laura H "Janessa you scare me with your cold disrespect for life. "





Sarah O " janessa, how could you say that? they have a choice to keep tht baby bc its THEIR baby. it is wrong to try and make your kid abort it!"



I cannot believe i am being attack for my views on this how i feel if that was my daughter. I am not going to change my views period. Maybe if that happens to in the future you all that are bitching can step up and look after those teens that are knocked up and spend your money. This post supposed to be about peoples views and not judging someone and there views all i got was bitching and attacking on my views sinced. I did not judge any of you for being mother under the age of 18 but why judge others on there views.So i feel like i do not want to be part of this group anymore because i am sick of people attacking my views.

Laura - posted on 02/21/2010

Just because they are teen parents DOES NOT mean they are bad parents. I had my daughter at sixteen,and she wasn't one of those "bottle propped blah blah blah" babies. I'm sure YOU would assume so though,because of how young I was. NOT ALL GRANDPARENTS RAISE TEEN'S BABIES!!! Mine sure as heck didn't. I raised my daughter on my own (with her dad of course) with her grandma helping with her WHILE. I. WORKED. Yea,I worked. I held a job. one that I worked 40 hours a week plus at. Not all teen moms are bad moms. Get that out of yur head,it's not right that you think that way. I watched the show "teen mom" and they seemed to do well with it.

Amanda - posted on 02/21/2010

Thank you Jacquie... that's why i suggested watching the whole session plus the full first session of Teen Mom.....

Jacquie - posted on 02/21/2010

i was sixteen when i had my lil girl . they dont want to have kids it just happends . and if you watch the whole show it does show them toughing it out

Jacquie - posted on 02/21/2010

i was sixteen when i had my lil girl . they dont want to have kids it just happends . and if you watch the whole show it does show them toughing it out

Amanda - posted on 02/21/2010

Macy was a good mom but so was Caytlen and the brunnete...Granteed yes Caytlen put her child up for adoption but that was because she and her boyfriend knew they couldn't raise a child at that point of time and with their family structure didn't want to raise a child around that. So, i give her props. The brunnete basically ended up having to do it all on her own with not much help.
Nicole, I can totally understand how you feel though i didn't even get to be a 21 year old. I conceived my daughter 4 days before i turned 21 though i didn't know i was pregnant till i was 13 1/2 weeks along.

Danielle - posted on 02/21/2010

i so agree with you. i think the only good mom on teen mom was that girl on last seasons. i think her name was macy!!!

Nicole - posted on 02/20/2010

i had watched season one online and then finally today watched the first episode of this season (2)...yes its moms like that that are not really moms. being a mother is about making the sacrifices it takes to be responsible to raise your child properly and to the best of your ability. i do agree not all young moms are bad and not all older moms are good. i know quite a few bad old and young moms and some good moms that are young.



today though i was irritated by a comment made by a friend of my boyfriends niece. she is 14 and said she was jealous i was pregnant, she wants a baby. i was like umm no you dont...fact is i dont really know the friend. but i know his niece well enough to say you are only good as your company and i really dont think a self absorbed emo princess with a new bf every week and poor grades that cant stay off of out of school suspensions makes good company or would be what it would take to care for a child.



sadly the 2 of them tried using this show as a way to justify the friends feelings about having a child...im 22 and having my first....and it took my mentality time to adjust from the time i found out to now and im due in a week. i can tell you my first thought and feelings weren't of excitement...more like my life as a 21 yr old is over...time to be an adult now. i dont think a 14 yr old can handle that. especially those two.



if you love children but really should not have your own...go be a babysitter or work for a day care. be a person that is willing to care for a child in a public facility. more day cares need people that care more about the children then the paycheck. who knows it could also make you realize you can not handle children either...

Kala Ann - posted on 02/20/2010

I see a lot of people are saying teen girls should watch this i disagree...they make there lives look simple and easy how about showing the real deal or show teen mom's on welfare with no help not going to school and having there parents not taking control or there babies...It's telling young COUPLES that it's OK to have babies young because your mom and dad will be there to support you not saying it's a bad thing but how is anyone going to be able to treat a teen mother like adult when mommy or daddy is the parent...And as for the women that says she will fores her daughter to abort well i can clearly see your going to have problems when your daughter is too scared to tell you things that go on in her life because your attitude is get rid of it fast instead of " lets deal with it" because for real if you have a 14 year old or and teen that is having a baby well i guess you didn't explain the birds and the bee's and you depended on the school education to explain it.. like here is a hit don't let your daughter sleep in the same room as her boyfriend educate sex if you have to over and over again...

Amanda - posted on 02/20/2010

Did you watch the first session? There was only one girl that was irresponsible in that session. And even she came to by the end of the session. You got to remember these girls are young and don't know what they are getting into. Also, they glamorize and dramatize the immaturity and such to make a point to other teens. To in a way scare them into doing the right thing and being safe. Again, watch the episodes from the first session and the show Teen mom.... Macie, Caytlin, and ohhh i can't remember the brunette's name but they were all very responsible good mom's who did/do what's right for their baby's. Farrah was the the one that at first tried to balance being a teen and being a mom by the end she learned that you can't be both. Then she really stepped up on Teen Mom.

Michelle - posted on 02/20/2010

I completely understand your frustration with that particular mother and all those others that treat their children that way. As a teen mother myself, I remember having gone through some of the same situations most have gone through. Those are mistakes that I had to make and learn from. Lucky for my sake and the sake of my child, I learned that lesson real quickly and became the type of mother that my precious child deserved. Although, it is so frustrating to watch these girls throw their fit & expect their parents to take care of their babies...let's just hope for the kids' sake that they too learn from their mistakes and grow up before any damage is done to the child.

Ashlie - posted on 02/20/2010

and the thing that gets me so angry is when they walk around and say well im a teenager still i need a life too. its like what dont you get you just brought a innocent child into this life. you can have a life still but its now going to have to be with your chil also ya know. i just dont get mothers sometimes. and yes thank god for grandmas and the so many ppl that take on that mommy role when the mother dosent want to be it. but you know what mindi is right step back a little and let them take care of ther responsibility if the child is in danger then step in/

Mindi - posted on 02/20/2010

i was so angry when i watch the season two opener of teen mom. she gives moms a bad name. she took her child to a party. wtf? if i were her mom i'd quit helping so much with her baby and make her be the mother. it made me really sad to see her son not be cared for properly by her. she needs to get it in her head that she gave up her teen party life when she got pregnant. if she didn't want to give up the social life she had then she shouldn't have been having sex. she needs to be smacked.

Ashlie - posted on 02/20/2010

i so agree. i watched all last season and that had its ups and downs. When i watched the new one i was so mad upset and disgusted with that so called mother/teen. Im a young mother too ( 21 ) first time mother and couldnt imagine acting like that. i cant wait till the reunion when Dr.Drew tears into her!

Luz - posted on 02/20/2010

I am also a fan of the show. I loved Maci and Catelyn in season one. They were definately very responsible and mature for their age. Putting aside their needs to give their child what was best. Maci took care of her responsilbilty and gave up "being a normal teenager" and Catelyn knew that her environment wasn't one where she could raise a baby, instead she gave baby Carly a chance at a good life. I think that in season 2, mtv is trying to show that not everyone can handle such a responsibilty and that it is harder then they think. Maybe by showing teens both aspects, it will help some teens realize that they should wait before having sex because the end result can be a life long responsilbility. One that they may or may not be ready and able to handle. I was 18 when I had my twin girls and I am thankful that I was able to take care of my girls while working full time and going to nursing school. I think that there's no right or wrong way to convey teen pregnancy. MTV is showing it how it really is. Sometimes you have teens that can hanle it, sometimes they know they can't and give the baby up for adoption and sometimes they have the baby just because they got pregnant and find out they can't handle it and are not ready to "give up being a teen."

Becky - posted on 02/20/2010

I watched the new episode today and I was getting so mad! Like, yelling at the screen mad! I'm 20 years old and pregnant with my first... That girl, Janelle? She makes young moms look bad. I mean what is she? 15?

Monika - posted on 02/20/2010

these girls do make me so angry;maybe they show the not so positive side so that way young girls dont look at the show and think "oh cool, i wanna have a baby it doesnt look hard to handle." they show the REAL stuff so other girls see that it is a HUGE responsibility.and i agree with Tiffany,last seasons girls were for the most part good moms and handled it well.so it isnt all negativity and who knows these girls from this season could really turn things around and step up to their roles as PARENTS...

Nichole - posted on 02/20/2010

I love the show!! I dislike Janelle but I think that she has some growing to do and IF she does then she will appreciate her mother ten times over! I was pregnant at 15 and had my daughter at 16. I worked my butt off!! It is not glamorous but I wouldn't change it for anything. I had support from my mother, she let me live with her and watched my daughter sometimes when I worked. I also finished high school and college. I am one of the rare teen moms that ended up working things out with my babies dad and we are now married and have two girls and a boy! I think MTV is doing a good job portraying different walks of life as far as teen moms go... they have adoption, single moms, moms "trying to work it out", and they also have the screw offs. My daughter is now almost eleven and they are learning about sex at school and my only regret is that she has to deal with the "other" kids about her parents being so young. She knows that we were not supposed to do what we did and we have explained that but we also explained that we would never take it back for anything. Teen pregnancy is becoming more and more popular and I think that MTV is taking a step in showing the reality of the teens decision. How come no one is yelling about that movie the teen pact or whatever its called where the girls actually planned their pregnancies?

DeShannon - posted on 02/20/2010

Hi there!
I took a quick gander at the show, and was totally turned off with teen mothers acting so immaturely, considering all the successfully couples with great careers,marriages, and solid family roots that are unable to conceive- life is so not fair. I can not comment on the show, because I find the concept ridiculous and a media money making profit for mainstream americans.

Tah - posted on 02/20/2010

i think they are showing the truth. It was the first episode, that girl is obviously selfish and not a good mother, but i'm sure they will have good young mothers to come. Maci on the episode to me was the best mother because she had no intention on letting anyone mistreat bentley, not even his dad. She was about her business, like me when i had my son at 16. i got pregnat the first time i had sex, had my son, went to work when was 4 months and haven't stopped since and he is 13. I put myself through 3 schools and am in school again while working and my son thanks me all the time for everything because he has watched me struggle. He is understanding why i made some decisions i had to make and i encourage him to do his best. Yes i am married now with 3 children but he remembers. Some of these chicks are disrespectful, the problem is, look at how they treat their parents, cussing and whatnot, I am 29 and i would never, my mom would have my tail on her wall...that is very surprising to me....a 16 year old not knowing how to be a mother, not such a surprise..

Lucinda - posted on 02/20/2010

I actually really like this series, but like others, I was angry with the girl in the new season. However, I love that MTV decided to show both sides of the spectrum: the mothers that just cannot step up to the plate, and the ones that have and will for their children. Last season, I could really see my younger self in Maci. She was dedicated and put her son before everything and anything else. In the finale, it even pained her to think that he deserved more because of Ryan (the boyfriend). That broke my heart. I loved all of the girls from first season, mostly because I could relate to their situation. Even Farrah eventually grew up, so I hope that this girl from Season 2 decides to change for the best of her boy.

Ericka - posted on 02/20/2010

I totally agree. I mean young moms can be good moms. That show is making it seem like all teen moms are horrible and don't care about there kids. All I can say is that girl needs to grow up and realize what is important. HER BABY

Cat - posted on 02/20/2010

Well, I agree and disagree. That girl was a wing nut no doubt! In the first season however there were some more responsible girls including a couple that gave their daughter up. I am a little sadden that they can find enough girls to create an entire season. Also what an easy way to get on TV. i think the show is sort of a bad influence.

Sarah - posted on 02/20/2010

janessa, how could you say that? they have a choice to keep tht baby bc its THEIR baby. it is wrong to try and make your kid abort it!

Laura Zoey - posted on 02/20/2010

Janessa you scare me with your cold disrespect for life.

Sarah - posted on 02/20/2010

I totally agree...i just watched the new one and i was just disqusted...i felt the same way you did...i accually wanted to cry...i cannot stand to see that ...

Kathryn - posted on 02/20/2010

I sometimes watch the show, however i haven't yet watch the new season. I don't think that MTV is trying to glamorize teen pregnancy or bad moms. They are trying to be realist and let young girls see hey yeah you can be a wonderful mom and 16 or whatever age, but at those ages the world is not on your side and things are harder. Some people are bad "dead beat" mom no matter what age they are. I have seen plenty of 25 year olds who are horrible mothers, but that makes it no more right. The show is just trying to teach young girls the responsibility of parenting and show them that it is even harder at a young age.

Ashley - posted on 02/20/2010

I'm a fan of the show but I do agree about that Jenelle chick on that episode. If you don't want to be a mom keep your legs shut! It's sad how some girls think that a baby is an accessory. And I also agree with what Tiffany said about the first season. It's not all teen moms that are that way, but some of them need their heads smacked off!

Lauren - posted on 02/20/2010

I think the show portrays both sides girls who can't deal with it and girls who do really well with it. I feel it is very true to life in that dealing with a baby at any age is stressful and it really takes a sense of maturity no matter what age you are to take care of a baby. I saw the first episode from this season and I really think she is a prime example of someone who is just too immature to have a child, but people like Maci show the other side who take on the responsibility and go to school to make something of themselves and struggle through it.....honestly I don't think Janelle would have had much of a future even if she didn't have a kid because she was pretty much a partier and already seemed to be heading down the wrong path.

Yolande - posted on 02/20/2010

Janessa there are exeptions to the rule. I fell pregnant at 16 with a guy i knew for 3 months. My parents tried to force me to abort, I didnt. Now i am happily married, completed school, earning a good income and providing for my family. Life wouldnt be the same without my two kids



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February 18, 5:54 am I really like the show and maci was my favorite from seasom 1. Anyways if my daughter got pregnant under the age of 18 i would make her get an abortion the parents always have to support or rise another person. I do not understand how it is the teens choice to keep the baby there have no job not finished school and no money. I would never let my child keep there baby if there are under 18 and living under my roof.Reply Was this post ...?Helpful Nice Funny Encouraging Flag as inappropriate Are you sure? Yes | No

Yolande - posted on 02/20/2010

Like Sunny I was a young mom too. Fell pregnant at 16 had baby by 17 - finished my matric 2 months after baby was born. Happily married to the father and has since had another child (16month difference) who is now 8 months. Both of us work full time to support them and it works for us. I think young moms that keep their babies should be esponsible and act like a parent not a child



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February 17, 8:14 am

hey like rhiannon im from australia and dont get that show but i have heard alot about it on this site. I was a teen mum (17) and my partner and i have been together for 7 years are still very much in love and dont live off welfare or anything like that! Id love to see something on tv that shows young women and their partners that it can be done and how to make it work for everyone, dont just push them to the side with the expectation that they are just going to mess everyones life up anyway... sigh.. there r great young couples out there but shows like that just give us a bad name..