Mum-inlaws

Carly - posted on 04/05/2010

You can say and do what ever you think when it comes to managing what your child does. She is your daughter and you should feel comfortable enough to say, "oh sorry, she's already had her dinner" Maybe she didnt think anything wrong of it, especially now you didn't say anything about it she prob thinks she was doing the right thing.

Amy - posted on 04/05/2010

If it's bothering you let her know. Is your 8 month old eating small bites of food yet?

My dad did the same thing with my son when he was that young, he even introduced new foods our son hadn't had (multiple in one meal!), and I told him and he did understand. After that we started feeding our son at the table with us, and looking back on it all I'm very confident that my dad feeding my son scraps from his meals helped make my son the good eater he is today. He's 2 and will eat anything, especially if it comes from my dad's plate.

I'm not saying that you should let her continue as that's totally your decision and if you do get along well she should understand. If your child hasn't had table scraps yet, just let her know to hold off until you've fed her more of that types of food.

Brandy - posted on 04/05/2010

When I am anywhere people ask me first if its ok to feed anything to my kids. They always have even with out me getting mad or upset about it. I dont think you are really overreacting I think that its just what everyone should do! Next time I would just mention that you do things your way and that next time she starts to feed her anything if she would just clear it with you first. I love my mother in law and I found out that I never got anything done because I was scared of hurting her feelings or offending her. But one day I actually came out and said what bothered me and how i go about things and surprisingly she didn't mind she changed what ever bothered me and told me that I don't ever have to worry about hurting anyones feelings when it comes to my kids that if something is being done with them that I didn't like its my right as their mother to say something. :) but I hope that everything goes good with you guys good luck!

Nicole - posted on 04/05/2010

personally i would say something if something that can start bad eating habits....i have faced the same thing my boyfriends aunt wanted to feed her and it was too close well to the last time i fed her . she took the bottle i had right out of the bag and gave it to her. i didnt say anything to be polite and then my baby that night could not sleep cause she had an upset tummy and had projectile vomit ...and it wasnt like i could feed her again cause that would come up too so i had a long night with a sick and hungry over fed baby...not fun....



what i did instead of saying somethign directly to his aunt i went to my boyfriend and told him our dauthger is not a bay doll no one in your family is allowed to feed her unless i hand them the bottle. so i do not go over with premade bottles and i leave bottles and formula in the car. and then i made an off remark if any one asks i would say its not feeding time yet. the way she is treated in my moms house and my boyfreinds houses i dont like cause she is one month they treat her like a play thing... people i found like babies and small children and often forget they are "small adults" ...they just dont have the expirence we do yet in life. i have a hard time saying things too so i have to plan ahead for when i go over to his families house...if she needs changed and fed i take her in out of her carrier in my arms so no one can come after her before those 2 things are done. ( mind you i do this cause his father will hold her for house we will make remarks she needs fed or changed and he wont give her back toi have either done she sat in a dirty diaper fr over 2 hours after we figured it was dirty and because he kept patting her bum he caused it to mush out of her diaper all up her back .) it bothers me that his dad treats her like a doll and wants nothgin but to hold her. ...ALL THE TIME and when i have her and she is fussy he comes after her... and there are times i would like nothing more then to scream BACK OFF. i do not think you have no right to say anythign but if you feel bad...make an attack plan maybe next time have her in a play pen in a room near by while you guys eat so your mum in law cant feed her? hope this helps.