My 19 month old won't go to sleep... Please Help!!!!!

Morgan - posted on 07/15/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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Just recently my 19 month old who was previously a great sleeper has suddenly started fighting to go to sleep. She used to go to bed around 830 to 9pm and take 2 naps a day on in the morning and one in the afternoon now it's a fight to get her to go to sleep. She will go to her room and get in her bed and stay there for awhile then she will get out and play for hours before going to bed which includes her banging on the walls and door. We constantly go in to tell her it is time for bed and put her back in bed but this just starts the whole process again, and she cries. And at nap time she just plays no napping. We have tried cutting out the morning nap and only having one in the afternoon but still no luck. Then cutting out both but no luck in her going to bed. Last night for example she asked to go to bed so I took her up, but at 12am she was still awake. I went in to her room got her changed her diaper let her come and cuddling in our bed until 1am then back to her bed, and she ended up crying for a few min then she settled down and eventually went to sleep. Is there anyone out there who this has happened to as well. Or anyone who might have some ideas as to why this is happening now and what I might try to help her go to sleep like she used to.

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Elisabete - posted on 01/08/2013

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my daughter is 19 months she has always been great to sleep through the night time. from a week ago it has been a nightmare goes to bed falls asleep and every night at 12, 1 or 2 wakes up screaming and from that point on no matter what we do she just doesn't stop . looks like their I'd no health issues as she seems to be normal daytime. bit even day maid wants anymore ? it is so frustrating don't know what to do anymore, feel helpless !

Kate - posted on 06/21/2013

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My little one has never slept through the night, but would wake once for a change and bottle so wasn't bad at all. Now he has no naps during the day, his 18mths old he goes to bed at 8pm and will sleep until 1am then wake and scream until 5am, I am in my first trimester of bub number 2, run my own business from home and he is in my care fulltime (no day care or baby sitters) as we live out of town. I am exhausted and so is my hubby. Bub wakes up at 7 every morning, you would think he would be exhausted also but he is full of beans and energetic as ever! He won't even take a cuddle or a bottle, he just wants to get out and play. Even when he has had neurofen for teeth he is up and about. We have tried controlled crying which ends myself and bub in tears although I have been persistent and haven't broken the routine, although I have no idea what to do as it isn't working and I am at my wits end. Any advice is appreciated Kate.

Sasha - posted on 06/06/2010

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I have a 2 yr old who does a lot of the same things as what everyone is describing. Every child has phases and seems to randomly repeat those phases several times at a young age..... The best advise I can give is to pick up on a more strict routine and stay consistent with it. For instance, I have my kids up and out of bed by 8:30am even though they usually wake up around 7am. I have them down for a nap by 10:30am at the latest and when my 2 yr old refuses to sleep I still leave her in her room for " quiet time" I usually make sure she is quiet and either laying down or sitting in her bed. Most of the time she gets so bored she falls asleep. I do naps like that 2 times a day and then I put my kids down for the night between 7:30pm to 8:30pm. They have an hour of "wind down time" in their beds and then they will finally go to sleep on their own. My two sons, 16 months and 6 months, are sleepwalkers on top of it. they usually are great about putting themselves back to sleep without assistance. But my husband and I have made it a point to consistently not go into their rooms unless they are down right screaming..... which in the end teaches them independence. There is also the possibility that your child might be suffering from the "don't want to miss a single thing" syndrome. Kids have a tendency to get excited about being able to run around and play all day that they refuse to stop. And even if that is the case the only thing to do about it is be strict and make it clear that bedtime and nap time are just that and they need to be followed. I hope this helps even just the smallest bit. Good Luck. :)

Louise - posted on 07/17/2009

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I have the same problem with my little man who is also 19 months. Problem is though if he doesn't have his afternoon nap he is incredibly grumpy later on and actually makes him worse for goig to bed at night as he's 'over-tired' and just won't settle. I have also noticed that even if he doesn't sleep at nap time but jus sits quietly it helps, either reading with him or watching his favourite programme on TV. I think it's because of his teeth as he seems to be having a lot come through at the moment! Hope you can get it sorted soon Morgan.

Morgan - posted on 07/15/2009

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Ya no nap and up till 12. And not that we didn't try to get her to nap she just wouldn't nap. She usually gets up between 830am and 9am. And down for a nap around 12-1 sometimes later. My 6 month old is a great sleeper down at 8pm til 9am nap at 12 for 3-3 1/2 hrs.

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Sonya - posted on 10/20/2013

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my son is 20 months and for the past year he has not gone to sleep at 7pm. I have the same routine every night, bath, music, bottle then bed. He is quiet for an hour or so and then starts singing, then bangin, then gets a bit louder and then cries a bit. he never screams and its as if he cant fall asleep. So we bring him in our room, put the ipad on and have some lullaby music for 15 mins and then return him to the cot. usually after that within 20 minutes he is asleep. This can be anywhere between 10 and 12am. He is very active all the time and rarely sits still. In the day now he is very grumpy as not sleeping enough and has his dummy in all the time. We are desperate for him to get back into a routine as its not making like very easy for the rest of us. I hahve tried cranial, taken him to a dr to get him checked over but nothing seems to work. he napsin the day for any time between 45 to 2 hours but this also makes no difference. please any advice would be good as now we are considering a sleep therapist to help??

Danielle - posted on 02/07/2011

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My son is currently going through the same ordeal. It is driving me and my husband to a breaking point. I work two jobs and can't sleep because the baby is up all night. Last night he was up till 5am! Yes thats right I said 5am. Nothing could get him to go to sleep. Not motrin, not warm bottle, not rocking, cuddling or leaving alone. It was screaming all night long. He's been super cranky the past few days and I know its teeth because he won't stop eating his fingers, but his not sleeping is getting out of control. We are about to pull our hair out.

Starting tomorrow we are going to try and set a schedule that is more strict. I'm hoping it helps.

Louise - posted on 01/25/2011

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@Dee N Stu Dixon: My little man is now 3 and is absolutely fine :o) I did put it down to teeth, and after a while he started to settle. In my opinion, it was also that he couldn't totally communicate what was wrong. As his speech quickly improved so did his sleeping pattern as he was able to tell me what was wrong. He sleeps brilliantly most of the time now. I ended up having to lie with my son in bed too until he dropped to sleep, which I know isn't ideal but when you're at the end of your tether you will do anything! To reassure you - it will get better, I just hope it is sooner rather than later for you :o)

Dee N Stu - posted on 01/25/2011

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I read your post and yes, I too have a clingy whingy 19 month old who will NOT go to sleep. Believe me I have tried but after 2 hrs of straight screaming I give up.Even at night I have to lay with him and I have NEVER had to do that before.
He was such a delightful little boy until the start of this month and put it down to teeth and desperately hope it will be over soon- I am so tired!!
I have found that taking him for a ride in the car sends him to sleep and I may get a half hour sleep out if him at home.
Hope it helps some and its good to know there are other mothers out there with the same (if not worse) problems.

Anna - posted on 06/06/2010

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I think I am replying just because I feel your pain! My son was such a trooper when it came to bedtime, he was even putting himself down if given some milk. All of a sudden he will take his milk and lay down and within 15 minutes he is crashing out of his bedroom door like we opened the floodgates! I am exhausted and so is my husband...Looking for answers just like everyone else and hoping this is just a phase. Let me know if anyone finds a cure? Haha! Good luck ladies ♥

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I had the same issues with my son.

I found that if I put him down for a nap mid-day to afternoon and get him up at 3pm, then bed at 8pm, it was much easier getting him to sleep.

I used to be up all hours of the night with my wee man.

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sounds like she is getting about the same amount of night sleep as mine, maybe you should start waking her up earlier in the morning? Perhaps if you start waking her up around 7, she'll be able to go down around 10? Just a thought, might be worth a few days experiment.

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so you didn't let her nap at all during the day and she was still up till midnight? I've heard of some children going through an insomnia type phase, but not that young.....



Its not unusual for their sleep patterns to change. What time exactly do you try to put her down for nap. What time does she get up in the morning? My girls are usually up by 6:30. Most of our naps are around 12-1, some days they don't nap, and some days my 18 month old falls asleep around 10 and I push the afternoon nap to 3 but then let her stay up a bit later.

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