My 2 yr old bites constantly.

Desaree - posted on 08/12/2009 ( 55 moms have responded )

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My 2 yr old bites constantly tried everything I know to do nothing helps. I tried time out, making her bite herself, lemon juice, pushing her lip on her teeth. Any suggestions?

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Kyla - posted on 08/15/2009

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I had the same problem and went to every option in the book; u heard of it I tried it!!! Then my daycare provider told me that I would lose childcare if I didn't get a handle on it.

I went to the doctor and dentist Everyone said it was just a faze that he would grow out of it but that wasn't good enough!

I took him to a child psychologist and was scared to death that I would be judged as a parent and my son would look like some carniverous animal... lol...

She came up with a behavior plan and was totally helpful! It sounds bad and is hard to stick to but it worked. 1st - Be consistant with the same punishment for any wrong doings. 2nd - Tell them NO (don't sugar-cote it by saying no thank you or that's not nice) say NO BITE! 3rd - put them into a highchair or somthing sturdy that they cant hurt themselves or get out of and turn around ignor their screaming! Try this for 20 seconds to start... 4th when you get them out of time out no explaining that what they did was not ok save that for later if they start to do it again and ask if they want to sit in the chair or whatever you use; they will pick up on the consistancy!!! 5th when they are done with their punishment simply say All Done and put them down no huggs or I'm sorry just walk away; if they come to you then hug away give them the attention they want!!! Hope this helps it worked for me! Good Luck! Be Strong!

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Evelyn - posted on 08/19/2009

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I hope I don't come off as mean, but I got my daughter to stop bitting by bitting her back. I know some moms say it's mean and cruel...but my daughter stopped immediatly and has never bit since. I hope you find what works best for you, but I recommend this method to get kids to stop bitting.

Jess - posted on 08/19/2009

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They like the sensation it gives them especially if they were born preemi. You can try purchasing a chewey tube or Nuk sell toothbrush looking things. My baby brother had the same problem and he drew blood on quite a few people. You can talk to your doc or like jade said, bite him back. I liked the chewey tubes though. Talk to kids on the move, thats where we got ours.

Monica - posted on 08/19/2009

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My son will be 2 in oct and he bites like crazy, my son also growls like a dog and then bites!!! mainly his sisters but sometimes he attacks me and his dad and I have no clue what to do I have everything.

Vicky - posted on 08/19/2009

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right m,y 4yr old started to bit at 18mths... i got so annoyed i bit him back ... not hard but was the shock that stopped him... however i have my partneers twin boys at 2 yrs olod they bite they do it so hard it sometimes draws blood..... now there mum is lazy and doesnt really do anything excedpt when social services have to get involved... my partner is too soft on his kids but tough on mine.... if it was me i would bite them back as naughy step is nt working.... any other advice is more than welcome... cos my youngest daughter is starting to pinch and bite... btw its not a phase its other kids who do it.... i know that cos the kids who do bite go to nursery with abiter ...

Betty - posted on 08/19/2009

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Arm everyone in the house with spray bottles and when she bites, spray her right in the face. She might think it's fun or she might hate it. Whatever you decide to do just remember to be consistent. The trick is to find something she hates and use it as punishment.
Also, get her some apples to bite because they leave teeth marks behind. Tell her she can only bite her food and show her how fun it is to bite off big chuncks of the apple. Make sure the apple has a thin skin on it. Galas have the best skin. Let her know that you think it's great that she can bite into the fruit like a grown up. She is might just be biting to show off her little chompers so just give her a way to do so safely. Maybe if she sees the damage her teeth can do that will prompt her to stop biting too. Good luck.

Jessica - posted on 08/18/2009

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and really? if your child hits, are you going to hit them to teach them to stop? Thats ridiculous. Dont bite your child. Thats only encouraging the behavior. Aside from teaching them with "fear". There are other more productive methods in dealing with bad behaviors.

Jessica - posted on 08/18/2009

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I work as a two year old teacher in a daycare, and as much as it sucks, because you feel so powerless against it, it IS age appropriate for them to bite. Doesnt make it right, its just they're way of expressing feelings, anger etc, since their communications skills arent fully developed yet. Just asses the situation, toddlers are so hands on, and active, just make sure you, or whoever is with her is keeping her busy busy busy!! They love to learn and explore, even with their teeth. So the more you keep them productive, the less oportunity they will have to become distracted and take matters into their own hands.



Sounds corny, but give her a teething ring, put it in the freezer so its "fun" for her to chew on.



And be consistant in how your dealing with her when she does bite so as she gets older she starts to learn. And yes she will eventually grow out of it. Have you ever met a grown child or adult who still bites when they're mad?? lol =P I would hope not!!

Paige - posted on 08/18/2009

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it sounds horrible, but just like your meant to do to dogs, if she bites you, nip her back.

Malissa - posted on 08/18/2009

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as an after thought humans r just animals in the grand scheme of things. think about what animals do when their young bites them....they give a nip back....DO IT!!

Malissa - posted on 08/18/2009

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kids bite mostly cuz they are testing out their new chompers, they wanna see hoe they work. i say bite your kid back, i did once she realized it hurts she stopped,,,,

Jamie - posted on 08/18/2009

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I agree with Tabitha, pop their mouth when they do it. If it takes more than once it won't take to many times. Nothing real hard just enough to let them know that what they are doing with their mouth is bad.

Tiffany - posted on 08/17/2009

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One of my twin girls used to bite her sister all the time. I was told by my grandmother to bite her back just enough to feel a pinch. My grandma did this with my aunt when she wa little. I had to do it on two seperate times and now it has been over a year since she has bitten anyone.

Casey - posted on 08/17/2009

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Sometimes it's important to find the cause when our little one started bitting it wasn't angry bitting it was a play thing. So we had no more raspberry's on bellies or anything like that. He already new about gentle hands so we did tickling more and games that he could imitate that were not going to get dangerous. Have a think about the cause before you try anything to drastic because she could just imitating play and not realising how rough she's are getting.

Amber - posted on 08/17/2009

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My daughter really didn't bite but when she gets mouthy I flick her on the mouth. Now I don't even have to. I just act like i am going to and she stops. Try it. It may take a couple times for her to get it.

Jennifer - posted on 08/17/2009

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this might sound mean but every time he bites, bite him back. my son use to bite and that is how i got him broke of it. that and lightly smacking him in the mouth. just enough to get his attention that, that is not accectpable.

Shakela - posted on 08/17/2009

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Well, lol..watever youre doing when she bites you is not painful enough..Sounds mean but you need to do something just as painful to her when she bites or either take the most favorite toy or something. A consequence for her biting you..something she want like when she does something you dont like!!

Amber - posted on 08/16/2009

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2 year olds bite partly because they dont have the language to vent their frustration. we had a really bad biter at daycare and we gave her a toy to bite whenever she was frustrated. it was one of those little blankies with the teether on one corner. we told her to bite the toy when she was feeling angry. it worked and we never had a bite from her after that. u could try that.

Jina - posted on 08/16/2009

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When my daughter started biting I bit her back. She cried but never bit anyone else again.

Kate CP - posted on 08/16/2009

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Rather than biting back, which I don't normally recommend cause it can confuse the kid, I would look at WHY he's biting. Is he frustrated and can't communicate (most common reason kids bite)? Is he exploring sensations and trying to see what it feels like to bite? Is he teething? If it's the first one then you need to give him the words he needs to communicate rather than using physical force. If its the other two options get some bitter apple spray (you can find it at a pet store and YES it's safe to use with babies) and spray the most commonly bitten parts of you. This stuff tastes absolutely awful and leaves a horrible taste in the mouth. Needless to say this usually keeps them from biting again.

If biting back is going to work for a child it usually will only work the first time you do it. If you're having to bite a kid back every time they bite you the method is obviously not working.

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My daughter started out being a biter and I broke her of it by biting her finger whenever she would bite her brother. A young child cannot empathize with someone else's feelings. They don't think about how the other person is feeling, but they sure know how they themselves feel. I had heard of biting them back years earlier, so I would tell my daughter to "Come here and let me show you how that feels". She finally started telling me "I don't wanna know how it feels" and I would tell her then don't bite your brother. It worked like a charm! She's 23 now and has a 3 yo. son and she did the same thing to break him and it worked just as well for him.

Mikila - posted on 08/16/2009

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Bite her back....if she bites u on the arm, u do the same....she will eventually stop if she realizes that shes hurting u and doesnt wana suffer the consequences.......

Amy - posted on 08/16/2009

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i dont think biting back works.. my daughter was worlds worst biter! haha... i tried that and it did no good she just thought it was a game! the first time she bit me at home i told her "NO biting is NOT okay!" and honestly she look at me and then leaned in and bit me again so i popped her mouth (not hard but hard enought that she knew better) and she never bit me again.. but then she started biting at her school so i started using time out.. or she has a bunny blanket that she is VERY attached to and i would take that from her whenever she bit and that really worked.. she would get soo upset when i would take it and eventually she learned that when she bit mommy took bunny.. and she stopped! it took a few weeks but it worked! so if your daughter has a fav toy then i suggest tryin to take that from her everytime she bites! you have to be consistent tho.. hope this helps.. let me know!!

Donese - posted on 08/16/2009

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I have heard of some parents using Sweet Breath to get their children to quit biting. I have been lucky so far my son doesn't bite but if or when he does this is what i will try.

Jessica - posted on 08/15/2009

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My little brother almost got kicked out of day care for biting. My mom tried lots of things, then my great grandma told my mom the next time my brother bites, bite him back on his cuticle. My brother did, my mom did, and my brother NEVER bit anyone again.

Crystal - posted on 08/15/2009

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My daughter went through that stage (I guess it's a stage) She would bite her brother all the time, so I would send her to time-out and not allow her to come out until she apologized and gave him a hug. It only took a few times in time-out before she stopped

Rhiannon - posted on 08/15/2009

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bite her back.

not too hard.

my daughter started this with me and finally (after everything else) i bit her back. it probably hurt her feeling more than anything, but she never did it again!

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It is a very common stage of development at this age. With my oldest we would give him biting time where he could sit down and bite something hard like a frozen teething ring and tell him that we only bite our food. This did not work with my youngest so we did eventually bite him back only hard enough to give him a little fright. He has never done it since!

Dallas - posted on 08/14/2009

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i heard biting them back.... but it seems to work from everyone thats done it.

Keri - posted on 08/14/2009

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My 3yr old use to do it at daycare. So I told the daycare provider to have who ever she bit bite her back.. Well the poor 5 yr old is the sweetest little boy cried when he had to bite her back.. But it fixed the problems she hasn't bitten anyone since then. I know it sounds mean and what we shouldn't do but it works and they get to learn that bitting hurts.

Heather - posted on 08/14/2009

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When my son started that I bit him on his finger back and that broke it in nothing flat. You don't have to bite hard or anything. They just have to know how it feels to someone else. I'm telling you it worked great!!

Breanne - posted on 08/14/2009

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When my brother was younger, he bit my mom once and she bit him back, not hard, but hard enough so he knew that it wasn't right and that it did hurt. He never did it again. You need to try and stop it though because she could start to bite other children also. If you do leave it and don't deal with it she could think it's okay and it could get worse. It won't stay with her for the rest of her life, but it can get worse. So just remember to always be consistent.



I worked in a daycare with toddlers and infants and i have seen so many children who go through this. What we would do is give them something else that they can bite on like a teething ring or something and say to them in a consistent fashion that it hurts when you bite so and so and it's not okay and explain, but not in a long way that their mouth is for food and not for biting others.

Stephanie - posted on 08/13/2009

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it's a stage a very bad stage but they do outgrow it, all i can say is stop it before it happens don't let her land a bite

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bite her back hard enough to make her realize it hurts and is not acceptable. (not hard enough to damage just enough to hurt for a child)

Hailey - posted on 08/13/2009

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id just bite her back not really hard but enough to let her know that was she does hurts i did it to my son once and he has never biten again i didnt mark him i just let him know that he hurt me

Vania - posted on 08/13/2009

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My son had this very same problem when he was little. He was a biter. One day he bit me sooo hard I wanted to cry. I bit him back to show him how it felt. Needless to say, he stopped biting from that day on.

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They all tell you not to bite your child back but what did your mom do or your grandmother they bit you back. My daughter bit me twice the first time I told her it hurt mommy and it was not nice did not work second time I bit her back like my grandma did to me and she has not ever bit again. If they see how it feels they won't be so quick to do it don't bite hard but hard enough for them to realize what they are doing

Jacquelyn - posted on 08/13/2009

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Bite her.....I know it sound cruel, but, if she knows how much it hurts, then she wont do it anymore!!! Dont bite too hard tho....lol....I hope tht helps, it did for my lil brother...

Jami - posted on 08/13/2009

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My daughte would bite, until I bit her back. Biting her back lets her know that if she does it, she is going to get it back in return. I honestly got to the point that I would tell her, "don't bite or I will bite you back." Also, I know that this sounds really mean, but my brother-in-law swears by it: flip her top lip. After a little while she stopped doing it. I hope that one of these works.

Shay - posted on 08/13/2009

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I know this might sound mean and cruel but it is the BEST way to teach your kiddo quickly not to bite. BITE THEM BACK right after they do it (as long as you do it right after they understand it) If you didn't see them bite or if it has been awhile after they bit someone then it wont work. But if you bite them back it only takes one or two times for them to get it! It is mean but it WORKS!!!

Angela - posted on 08/13/2009

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try biting her back not hard but hard enough she understand it hurts usually that will get them to stop.

Benessa - posted on 08/13/2009

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The advice is fitting....



This is going to sound like a cliché but they often go through this stage (ONLY IF YOU DON’T DISCOURAGE THEM FROM THE BEGINNING). With mine, i was just firm about the fact that it wasn't acceptable. (Definitely) yes, actually bite them back on their finger not hard... just enough to show them it really does hurt and then re-integrate that it's not acceptable

** Just be consistent and persistent. ***



Benessa Russell * silkysender@aol.com

Cindy - posted on 08/12/2009

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bite her back. (Or get her a dog chew toy). You have to spook her so make damn sure you raise your voice when she nips you.



My son bit my ass when I was putting a pumkin pie in the oven. He is in no hurry to do that again. I scared him so bad he ran away and cried.



Good luck.

Fiona - posted on 08/12/2009

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Get her to bite herself! It worked on my brother when he was two and I have been successful at stopping both my girls from biting by doing the samething!

Stephanie - posted on 08/12/2009

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For me I have seen a lot of people's children bit kids and the thing that I see the parents do is bit them back so they can see how it feels for them self.Good luck.

Rebecca - posted on 08/12/2009

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lol I had to bite my puppy when he wouldn't stop biting me, it hurt me so much to do it to him cause he was so cute, he just couldn't work out that it was hurting me! I'm hoping I don't have to do it to my kids, but if they bite I will bite back just to show them it hurts. If it doesn't work after doing it once I'll try something else. I don't think it encourages them to bite and as parents there will always be things that we're allowed to do that your children can't and shouldn't. I will always taught to do as I was told, regardless of how other people behaved around me, including my parents.

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