My 5 years loves to be goofy, weird, etc...I

Felicia - posted on 03/03/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




My 5 years loves to be goofy, weird, etc...I am trying to teach if where that kind of behavior is appropraite and where it is not. Any suggestions on how to help him understand?

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Nicole - posted on 03/03/2009




I definitely agree that it's probably just normal 5-year-old behavior. But I also think its a good idea to teach when it is and is not appropriate to act like that. Most of the time it's fine for kids to be silly. But especially around school age, they do need to learn a balance. And like you mentioned, simply igonring it doesn't always work. Kids in school aren't going to simply ignore a silly classmate until they calm down!  So it's good you're trying to teach him. I do think he's old enough where you can talk and reason with him to a point. And then when he's acting up, say at a resturant or in a store, if possible try to take him away from others for a few minutes. Sort of a "time-out" but you don't even need to phrase it like that. When others are responding to the silly behavior it'll egg him on. So if you can get him one-on-one it'd be easier to settle him down and explain what behavior is okay and what needs to be saved for later. I found that when my kids get wild, simply telling them stuff doesn't always work. But it's a lot more affective if you can settle them down for a minute, make eye contact and know you're really connecting with them. Hope that helps...and enjoy this silly phase, because believe it or won't last forever!

Becky - posted on 03/03/2009




Trust me, honey, it's because he's 5.  I have a 5-yr-old, too, and she's the same way.  They'll grow out of it - but don't try to force them out of it unless the behavior breaks your rules or rules that teachers, sitters, etc., set for him.  We've all heard the horror stories of small children in the grocery store line who say thing like, "That woman has a booger in her nose!"  Some of us have actually been the mother of the kid that said that.  =)  It's all part of your child learning that he has his own brain, and that it can do funny, silly things at times.  Very gently guide the behavior if it happens in a destructive manner, and, of course, discipline if he chooses not to follow your instructions.  Just remember that it's part of being a crazy little 5-yr-old, and that everyone that's ever parented one of those will not judge your kid's behavior.  They'll just laugh and think, "Wow, I remember when mine was that nutty, too!"  Good luck!

Felicia - posted on 03/03/2009




Thanks for all the input :) We do ignore him when he acts like that in public...but the problem is that nobody else is ignoring him and that is enough for him. He does love to be the center of attention so hopefully he will learn on his own.

Sarah - posted on 03/03/2009




i try to ignore behaviour i dont aprove of i find if i say no my daughter will keep doing it i try to re-direct her and priase her when shes playing nicely. but at home around the house i would just let your son express himself.if he's not in public he's not hurting or offending anyone and if you let him do the weird things in public he may start to feel "society's" pressure to engage in "normal" behaviour

Ann - posted on 03/03/2009




Our 5yr old does the same thing, we just try and ignore the silly behavior and most of the time he gets the picture. I think it is ok to let them act like that when they are with there mates as they always get a little hypo, but if you go out for dinner they need to know that they can not act like that, good luck :)

Leah - posted on 03/03/2009




I would ignore the behavior if he wouldn't listen to your reasoning. I would try it in a place that can handle a little bit of that kind of behavior like a resturant. Most children who are goofy in nature like to be center of attention. Pay attetion to him when he's behaving the way you want him to.

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