My 6 1/2 month old is still not sleeping through the night. He has gotten lots better, but still wakes up after asleep for about 2 hours. I have the hardest time getting him back down. I will rock him and he will be dead asleep and as soon as I put him in his crib he flips on his back and starts crying again. I have been bringing him to bed with me. (I know that is not good!) When I put him in bed with me, he will put himself to sleep without even a wimper. How can I get him to do this in his bed? I try letting him cry, but feel terrible!

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Georgette Blocker - posted on 02/14/2009

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oh and what connie said about putting something around your baby that you were waring may work to it smells like you they know your sent i have a friend who did that with there baby and it worked really good ......good luck hun

Georgette Blocker - posted on 02/14/2009

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also hun he maybe having growing pain teething soon so they will fuss alot around this time thats normal but i do wanna add even tho it is hheart breaking but allowing your baby to cry it out for a few mintues isnt abuse in any kind of way i know i use to feel that way and i know other mothers may feel the same or that there abandoning there child or that letting your child cry it out a little bit is you being a bad mother thats not the case what so ever im not saying to icnore your child what so ever but letting them cry it out for a few dosnt hurt them my son is 16 months old and iv worked and worked with him on getting him to go to bed with out a fight like i said before i put in a tv for him and put elmo or somthing for him and if he crys now its only for a few seconds  and he is ok after that as heart breaking as it maybe to let them cry it out just for a few min. dosnt make you a bad mother what so ever its just what makes you feel better sweetie you will get threw it just try new things different stuff and see what is better for him it dosnt hurt to try things out and see what works for the both of you

Melissa - posted on 02/14/2009

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I have the same problem. I've tried to get my daughter to sleep in her crib since she was 3 months shes now 10 months. She now sleeps with us in bed because I was so tired of trying! She was sleeping well with us for a while but this past month she has started waking up every 2 hours again. I have started to read the no cry sleep solution so I'm hoping that will help. I refuse to let her cry it out.

Dorta - posted on 02/14/2009

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Hi I had the same problem.  But when I started my daughter on pablem i noticed that she would sleep for like 4 hours or more.  So i inturn fed her pablem at night thus making her fuller and would sleep way longer.  it made life easer on me.  Try it out and let me know if it worked for you. 



 

Connie - posted on 02/14/2009

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My daughter was like that too. I eventually ended up taking off the shirt I was wearing at the time and wrapping it around her. The smell and warmth of me helped her stay asleep. Good luck!

Analise - posted on 02/14/2009

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my son is the same, he's 17 months tho lol everything u said he's exactly the same! i think the only way is to let them cry it out but i cant do that right now as i live with my nan & grandad & bro, n he'd keep them awake all night prob if i tryed it lol so gonna wait until me n my husband get our own house, but if i was u, id start it now because i would if i could! the older they get the harder it is aswell. my son still has 3-4 bottles a night sometimes he has 2 n thats good for him :) he comes in bed with us 5-7am every morning as he will not go back in his cot n in bed with me n my husband he'll fall asleep straight away, im the same as u, i hate seeing my son cry, when i try n put him asleep in the day for a hour, sometimes he'll cry nasty n will not go to sleep so i just leave him stay awake i know its the wrong thing to do but i hate seeing my son cry, same as u :) the only way to get him to sleep in his cot all night is to use the hard way, letting him cry it out, i bet its heartbreaking n i aint looking forward to doing it with my son but thats the only way u'll get a decent's night sleep, some babies sleep right through from birth, its just the routine their put in, like me & you chose to rock them to sleep, my sons now 17 months & he will not go to sleep without being rocked unless hes really worn out from playing. i know that when i choose to have another child i wont rock them to sleep all the time because thats all they know how to get to sleep when u rock them to sleep from birth, good luck it'll be hard & heartbreaking to hear ur child cry but every mum i have spoke to who have done it, they always say its worth it in the end, take care xx

Georgette Blocker - posted on 02/14/2009

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does your son like to watch tv ? i know my son loved it from the time i first took him home some people think its bad but i put a little tv in his room and put a cartoon on elmo or something and he will watch it until he falls alseep he is 16 months old  now and i still do that with him he hardly ever fights me anymore only  when he is very very tired and i let him cry it out until he gets to the point ware he sounds like he is getting him self sick then i pick him up calm him down and try it again , it dosnt hurt them what so ever to let them cry it out a LITTLE  bit let them work it out a little and if he dosnt  calm down and you see that  he's getting worse then pick him up love on him calm him down and do it again ... its all up to you hun but my son did the same thing until i put the tv in his room and he loved it he loves elmo to so i put that on for him and he is out , you do what you feel is best try new things and see what works the best for you the tv thing may have worked for my kid but it dosnt mean it will for yours there all different ..good luck hun

Esther - posted on 02/14/2009

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Are you breastfeeding? I have the same problem. My son is about the same age, and will not fall asleep unless he falls asleep eating. We have been trying to put him to sleep awake, but is hard. He wakes up several times also.

Paulina - posted on 02/14/2009

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My daughter is 12 months old and until recently she's been doing the same thing!! But my daughter's problem was that she had enlarged adenoids which would block her airway at night, make her snore and wake herself up since she was 3 months. I used to also bring her to bed with us whenever she would wake up crying.



She got her adenoids out 2 weeks ago and she's been sleeping better ever since (naps too). So what I've done to get her back to crib at night is make sure she falls asleep and cover two baby pillows with a soft blanket and place her in the middle of the two pillows. I think this has fooled her to believe that she's being cuddled !!



I had also tried one of my shirts on a log pillow... sometimes it worked sometimes it didnt!!! Good luck!!!

Kathryn - posted on 02/14/2009

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oh my gosh this was the exact situation i was in....have you tried him on solids yet?? because formula doesnt fill them up as much, if you havent tried him on solids yet, try with just starting with dinner then it will fill him up more for the night time. my son is now 9 months....he still doesnt sleep thru the night, i have to give him a dream feed at about 10.30pm so he will sleep til about 7ish. but try to make sure he has a regular routine, if its all over the place then he will get confused. i have a book called save our sleep by tizzie hall. it is really good.



now i put my son down for a nap or bedtime, he will cry for a while, at bedtime its usually about an hour to an hour and a half. but he is ok, the crying has gotten less and the time he stays awake for is gettin less. this book is good cos it gives you a routine and it regulates feed times and sleeps so he will sleep longer at night time. oh and please dont let him get used to sleeping with you.......... i did this and it was the BIGGEST mistake i made. it took me so long to get him to sleep by himself and to get used to being alone, and it was so hard, he still doesnt like being alone that much. i know you feel terrible letting him cry so time howlong he is actually crying for, if you dont it seems like youve left him for so long but really its only been about 5 minutes.



but try this book if you can find it, it is great and explains all about it heaps.



good luck

Bonnie-Rose - posted on 02/14/2009

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I've had simular troubles with both my children who are 2 and 9 months. You need to try to get him to go to sleep in his cot otherwise when he wakes up he'll just want the last thing he had to get him to sleep, you. I didn't like leaving mine to cry either but it does mean the process will take longer. Try during the day playing with him in his cot so he gets used to it. The no cry sleep solution book has loads more tips (its mentioned in another reply). My eldest who was the worst for this eventually started sleeping through most nights at 1 then every night from 18mths, this was once we regulary got her to sleep in her cot. Good luck!

Allenia - posted on 02/14/2009

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We did the 10 min, 5 min, and 2.5 min thing... we started this at 6 months old. We would put him in his bed... tell him that we love him and that he needs to sleep in his own bed, give cuddle, lay him down and then leave the room (there was always soft music in the background). He would cry for the 10 mins then one of us would go back in console him (not take him out of the cot!!!) lay him back down and the leave. Waiting another 5 mins ...same thing again then the 2.5 mins ...until he was asleep. It was hard to hear him cry but in the end it only took a few days. Then we moved from the US to the UK and well we had to start that process all over again... at the age of 18 months old.

I always said that I would never let my child cry it out but I was exhausted!!! And thought it was worth a try. It is HARD but worth it in the end. Hope that helps.

Jenna - posted on 02/14/2009

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my 1st slept threw the night from 2 months but my 1 year old still has trouble sleeping threw the night and putting him in my bed was the only thing i could do but now he is just in a cot in my room so if he wakes he knows i am there and normaly settles back down bit if he doesnt after a little winging i just get him a drink and that is working out me at the moment but when he was 6 months he would like music on too. i got a singing teddy (baby tad i think its made by tomy and looks like a frog) he has a button that just plays tunes and flashes different colours to sooth the baby to sleep and goes on from 1 to 6 mins depending on how manny times u push the button and he also doubles up as a toy for them in the day time as it has a daytime button.

good luck

Erin - posted on 02/14/2009

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I know this is hard, but the crying won't go on more than 2 -3 days. Try to put your baby in bed when he/she is absolutely tired. He/She may cry for 10-15 minutes.The previous poster has a great point. Sometimes background sound will be helpful to lull the baby to sleep(light music, nature sounds cd??, womb sounds cd).Don't let the baby cry for more than 15 minutes, (which can feel like an eternity)! I'm a Mom of 3 , my first baby slept through the night at 6 weeks old. My second at 8 months old(he got hungry and wanted a bottle,but went right back to sleep) and my 3rd at 14 weeks old. They all definitely will pick there time , but they will also expect you to rock them , keep them in bed with you (forever!), and cry if you keep going back without waiting for a difference, and why shouldn't they! He/she knows you'll be back!!! Patience my friend!

Trisha-Lynne - posted on 02/13/2009

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Your kid might not be eating enough too. Because every two hours is a lot. The doctor told my sister that her boy was just really hungry even though he already ate a lot. So maybe he needs to eat more during the day so he will go down at night for a good amount of time. My sisters son is now not waking up every two hours and sleeping at night.

Getting him to sleep might be different. I now know with my kid its every two hours on the dot and she goes down for a nap. i don't let her stay up past two hours or she is over tired and gets really fussy. Her naps during the day are usually no longer then 45mins but she sleeps 9 to 10hrs at night.

Nicki - posted on 02/13/2009

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My oldest daughter slept through the night at 2 months old and would sleep for 12 hours at a time. The other secret I have is putting them on their belly to sleep once they can pick their head up and move it around on their own.

Nicki - posted on 02/13/2009

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As hard as it is you just have to let him cry it out. If you don't then you won't ever break him of this habit. They say to let them cry it out for 10 min (the longest 10 min of your life) and if they don't stop then go in and console them. It will probably only take a few days of this and he will be much better at getting himself to sleep. I am getting ready to have do this with my youngest because she does the same thing to me and I have to go back to work this Monday. Once you get through this you will be able to put him in his bed awake and he will fall asleep in no time. You also need to have a consistant bedtime routine. Ours is bath, read a book, then go to bed with our oldest (3 years) daughter. She goes down really easy and has since she was a couple months old. Good luck!!!!

Katie - posted on 02/13/2009

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i had a very similar issue with my first daughter... she would only sleep with me or on me which is how co-sleeping became part of our lives. we definitly started out as reactive co-sleepers, which sounds like your situation too, but after talking to friends with family beds and doing some reading on the benifits for nursing and bonding. i know having a family bed isn't for everyone but i also think it's important to listen to what your baby is telling you.

Stephanie - posted on 02/13/2009

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My younget daughter was also very difficult to put to sleep (still is) But the best thing I found was a humidifier the noice and also the moisture soothes her to sleep. We have good nights and bad nights, but it definatly was progress. I understand it is hard, but tough love, babies need to learn to sooth themselves at some point (within reason). Good Luck!

Sheena - posted on 02/13/2009

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I've always given them a bottle. I know they say that you're not supposed to prop bottles but I did. I would put my girls on their sides, so they couldn't choke, I'd put something behind them so they couldn't roll over, then I'd tuck a blanket right under their face so the milk couldn't roll into their ear, and give them the bottle. I wouldn't talk to them, touch them much, pick them up at all. They would eat a little bit of the bottle, it would fall out of their mouth, and they woudl be asleep. I know it's a little controversial, to do that, but it's worked for both of my girls and one is 4 one is 1. I hope this helped at least a little.

Stephanie - posted on 02/13/2009

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It also helped when I put a tshirt with my smell in his crib with him too!

Stephanie - posted on 02/13/2009

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I had the same exact problem with my son and felt like the most horrible mom in the world to just let him cry, but I also got tired of getting up 6 times and rocking him andhe would be sound asleep and the second I layed him down it was like BAM he was wide awake!! So with no other choice I let him cry it out and I too cried just listening to him, but after a couple nights of that, the problem was solved!!  It is so hard to listen to your child cry for you and not go in there, but they will stop eventually!

Jennifer - posted on 02/13/2009

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hi my daughter tiffany who is now 4 she used to be like that at that age and i used to put her in bed with me the only way i got her in her cot was by putting a bed pillow on the matress with the fitted sheet over the top so that they cant cover themselves and get it. i also put an item of clothing that i wore or something with my smell on next to her also i tried a dummy to even though i dint want to it was the only way to get some sleep due to being back at work hope this helps jennifer

Rachel - posted on 02/13/2009

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Hi Amy - what is your bedtime routine? When do you put him down to sleep? When people say that their babies sleep through the night, sometimes it just means that they can sleep 5-6 hours without waking.



My youngest is just 6 months now - it's a tough stage. They're teething and eating and going through growing pains! He's a lot crankier than normal! He's sleeping more during the day unfortunately - and he'll go down at 6:30-8 pm and wake up around 2-3 am for a bottle and then maybe up again at 5-6 am.



My 2nd child slept all night - 8-6 - at the age of 3 months, and only woke up during teething spells or with colds.




Right now, the baby is crying in his crib! He is over-tired and needs a nap, but he always argues against it. So, here are some things I do -



Bundle him up, or unwrap him



Play the mobil - or turn it off



Rock him or let him cry a little bit



I just keep cycling through until he falls asleep finally. Also, my husband helps - we take turns.



Try to keep your little gaffer occupied and busy before bedtime - lots of play and stimulation, then bathe him, wrap him up snug and feed him and then off to bed.



I was a single mom when I started out, and my first slept with me all the time. He is a lousy sleeper to this day - we couldn't break him of it until he was about 5. But you know what, I don't think there is anything wrong with that - you do what you have to, in order to get the rest that you and your baby need - and things will work themselves out in the end.



 

Lisa - posted on 02/13/2009

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My nephew when through the same thing. So his mother would put him in his crib and sit next to it with her arm in the crib rubbing his back, she did this for a few nights than kept moving further and further untill he realized she's always gonna be there. Maybe try humming so he can hear your voice to reasure him that you're there.

Jodie - posted on 02/13/2009

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have you tryed puttin something that you have worn that day into his cot with him so it has your smell on this worked well for me or lie next to him till he falls asleep and hold his hand so he knows your there but try not to rock him as he will need that every time he wakes even in the middle of the night good luckxxxx

Krista - posted on 02/13/2009

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I really liked the book "The No-Cry Sleep Solution" by Elizabeth Pantley. She gives tons of tips for babies all ages, and all are solutions that don't involve letting your baby cry it out. Lots of people will tell you there's nothing wrong with letting him cry, but if it makes you feel horrible (like I do!) don't do it! Try the book, and good luck!

Mhairi - posted on 02/13/2009

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have you tried letting him sleep in his swing, also not good but sometimes its the only way my little girl will stay asleep. she is teething now though, is he teething cuz that may be part of the cause too.

Desiree - posted on 02/13/2009

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Does he have any background noise in his room?? I've done different things with each kid. I had the projection toy that you hook to the crib. It's nice but you have to keep going in there to push the button. A fan puts white noise in the room. My youngest son though I put a radio in his room and he goes right to bed. Also if you have a consistent night time routine that helps too. Bath, book, bed.

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