my 7 month old attachmnt

Taryn - posted on 11/19/2009

Both my girls (2.5 and 5) went through a period where they wouldn't let me leave the room. I read that it's a sign that they're realising that they're seperate individuals from you. At one stage with my eldest it was so bad (she was under a year) that she wouldn't even stay at her granny's house alone. Now I have to bribe her to come home, and start fielding questions about granny's sleeping and waking habits from 5:30am!
It wasn't as bad with Karli, because Anneka was always with her. But she is still very unsure of herself in new situatioins if Anneka isn't around.
To me the sleeping (or lack thereof) is a seperate issue, my lot have always slept badly. There's lots of tips you can get off the net. But if the one twin is waking the other I'd try let them fall asleep in seperate rooms (I have this problem now). Good luck!

Samantha - posted on 11/19/2009

I guess I'm the odd one out here, but I would never let my baby lie alone in a crib to cry himself to sleep.

This is a really great article about babies and sleep- http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T070200...

Danielle - posted on 11/19/2009

my daughter is still doing the same thing after six months and i know they reckon to let them cry but it has not worked for me u can try a few things like getting down to ur childs level and reasuring her its ok then walk away all u can do is try im still trying to stop my daughter crying and shes one!

LoriAnn - posted on 11/17/2009

thanks for all ur help...its great to hear so many stories just like mine. i am doing what all of u are saying so im glad to hear that....the cry at night is REALLY REALLY bad for about 20ish mins but then calms to a regular on and off cry....being they are twins sometimes they are good at distracting eachother they dont like when the other is sad...its cute tey babble to eachother and it sounds so encouragng lol....but good i do go back and forth sometimes i pick her up other times dont...and i can leave the house with no prob i say bye as i leave for work and they smile...but if walk out of a room even if i o say bye its the end of the world...ive heard it passes i dont mind it...being i have 2 i cannot spoil...its impossible because ic annot tend to both at once so at least i dont have to worry about that. but im glad theyve reached the stage at the right time...few months ago i notice it appearing a ltiny bit and the dr said theres no way they r too young...so at least they r in the age bracked for it...thank you so much for all ur stories im so glad you responded

Ashley - posted on 11/17/2009

Honestly, I believe this is just a phase! I just went through this with my son. He started, probably at 8 months, every time I walked out of the room, or just turned away from him he started crying. Throughout most of the day he would whine for me to pick him up. Now he's 10 months old, and it's not nearly as bad! I am soo relieved! He'll still fuss a little sometimes when he sees me walking away from him, but as long as I'm in his sight he's usually okay. I know it can be really frustrating at times, but just give it time. It will pass.

How long does she cry when you lay her down? When I lay my son in his crib he starts crying as well. But I'll walk out & crack the door behind me, & usually within just a couple minutes he's asleep. If she continues to cry more than just a few minutes, I would go in there, soothe her, lay her down, & walk out again. Good Luck!

Tricia - posted on 11/17/2009

My son is almost 10 months and just had a check up at his doctor yesterday and this subject came up...he told me to give him a teddy bear and his fav blanket to comfort him so you could try that but I understand what you are going though I can not go 5 feet from my son without him screeming...good luck

Anna - posted on 11/17/2009

Definitely tend to her. If you leave her to cry or ignore her, it just teaches her that she was right to worry about being separated from you.

Amber - posted on 11/17/2009

My son did that as well. Though it is normal for them to have attachment issues, you need to judge when to indulge them. You can't pick them up everytime they winge, but sometimes they do need the comfort of you picking them up.. When she next winges to be picked up, try distracting her with something else. A toy or something, but don't make a habit of food or tv cos they'll then start crying cos you're not giving them that. Even if you don't pick them up, try sitting down with them and play with them for a few minutes.

Eleisha - posted on 11/17/2009

COMPLETELY NORMAL. Babies still think they are a part of their mum till they are 7 months old, and this is when they realize they are in fact a separate person. During this time, they will fret and panic when out of sight, and will cling to you as much as possible. It should settle down in a few weeks... just persevere and give her lots of love.

Christi - posted on 11/16/2009

my son has started doing this, he is ten months old. i am a stay at home mom and in order for him to get over this stage a little faster, my husband and i go out two days a week and leave him with a family member. he whines a little bit but he is ok once he realizes that we will come back.

Misty - posted on 11/16/2009

I let mine cry and now she goes to bed at 8pm and gets up at 8am. She's 18 months now and we let her turn a cd on (we showed her how to push the button) now she tells us night night and love you. She goes to bed most nights without a fuss and if she does fuss then it's only for a few minutes. I think all babies have that stage where they think that when your not in sight you've gone for good. LOL Well good luck.

Renee - posted on 11/16/2009

It is a stage...my son did the exact same thing!! We had a living room attached to the kitchen, but I couldn't leave the livingroom and go into the kitchen without him having a complete melt down even though he could still see me. I would keep telling him "Mama's right here, you are fine." I would make sure he had toys to play with and take his attention before I would attempt to leave the room.
At night time I did the cry it out method. It is hard the first few nights and he screamed and cried for about an hour the first night and it got less and less after that. He now can wake up in the middle of the night, play in his crib and put himself back to sleep. They need to learn how to do this. I put him to bed with a night light on, soft baby classical music, and a few little stuffed toys in his crib. He is now 18mos old and I can still hear him wake up at 4am and play with some of his toys and "talking" to them then goes back to sleep. The more you keep going back into their room the more they learn that they can get what they want by crying. Now if it is a different type of cry...like they got their leg pinched between the crib rails...then go in check on them, and put them back to bed. Minimal talking, no lights on...It helps you be able to get back to sleep as well.

Lori - posted on 11/16/2009

crying it out sounds so hard but it teaches them that mommie cant always be there, my daughter is also 7 months but i had the same prob when she was about 4 months old, so what i did at night was put her in the crib with soft light music and she focused more n the misuc than what she did on me, but the only proble i have now is that when i walk out of any of the rooms in the house weathe she's playing or waht not she cries b.c she cant see me or see where im going, so all i do is tell her i'll be right back and she justs goes on and about playing.... so best of luck and hope i kinda helped somewhat.. lol