My boyfriend cheated on me again, what do I do?

Jenisha - posted on 05/01/2012

No it doesn't sound like you can trust him at all.You've found proof that he's cheating what are you waiting for. Obviously he's not sorry at all.So dont believe him atall.

Liz - posted on 05/01/2012

you poor thing! this man totally doesnt deserve you. as hard as it you need to be strong and leave. youve given him a chance and to be honest that is so low he would even think about other women when you have just given birth to his son. you totally deserve better

Sarahjane - posted on 05/01/2012

leave him its will only make u lose the plot if u stay with his dumbass the proof is there what else do u need to catch him in bed with her come on u cant just stay for ur child sake and tbh u dont trust him ur lucky u found out now rather then later so kick his ass out and start fresh with ur child just think in a couple of years time he will be hating the fact he treated u like a mug x

Maja - posted on 04/30/2012

Just cuz you ahve a child together does not mean u have to stay with him. If he keeps doing suspicious things I would just leave him. Once he realizes what he lost he will be back, if he doesnt care then F**k him, he dont deserve u anyway.

Jessica - posted on 04/30/2012

You can't trust a guy after he cheated or even lied. My FH haven't cheated on me but he have lied numerous of ties. First he told me his girl best friend was just a friend then later to find out he dated the girl. Then when he told me he was going to stop all communication 2 days later he was speaking to her and she even texted him when I had his phone. I got into an argument with her. Then he told me he was going to talk to his sister to stop bringing his ex around that didn't happened. 2 weeks before I gave birth his ex was in the house and he covered for his sister so I wouldn't get mad. When I confronted him to tell me the truth he didn't.Then when we offically moved in alone together I find out his ex slept over his parents house. When I confronted him no lie 15 times he changed the story. First he didn't know she was there then the next he sa a baby bag and so on. When I got into an argument with his mom and sister he told me he was going to defend me but he hasn't. On my son's bday his bitch ass sister text him wishing my son a happy bday but she don't care about him and he knows I don't want her around my son and he texted her back saying thank you instead of telling her why she wishing a happy bday. here was she through all the yrs . She was making pretend being a fake aunt to his ex gf daughter which she has not a drop of blood of my FH. He didn't even defend me.

So with that I don't trust him. Still with the lying I can't seem to get over it. He knows if he lies to me one more time he's out the door. He haven't lied to me for 3 yrs but the defending part he is not doing well.

Tina - posted on 04/30/2012

I know how hard this must be for you. No one could blame you for walking away. You're not failing your son either. I know sometimes we feel like that when a relationship doesn't work but you're not the one cheating. He clearly doesn't realise just how important you and your son are so he doesn't deserve you. Your son doesn't need to learn this. This isn't how you treat a woman.

I'm sorry but you can never get that trust back. And if he didn't have anything to hide he wouldn't be locking his phone. Infact if he wanted to prove he was trustworthy he would cut all contact with woman that you're concerned about and let you have all passwords and access to his accounts. I'm sorry but he's a jerk and not even worth worrying about. All that energy is wasted on him.

Vicky - posted on 04/30/2012

I think once someone has cheated you can never go back. It's always on your mind. It's not something you can just forget and put behind you. I'm having the same problem myself. My bf kept txting and meeting up with someone about 2 years ago. He was always shifty with his phone. Although I could never proof anything as he always deleted his messages, it caused major problems. It caused a massive row. We put it behind us but my doubts are always there. Recently he has started txting another woman and I really don't know what to do. Yes I have male friends who I txt, but I don't deleted my messages, I don't take my phone to the toilet, or when I go for a shower. And the most annoying thing about it is he checks MY phone! He says he doesn't but there's way of knowing he has, it's never left on the menu I leave it on. I don't have the proof you have with your bf, but if I did, he would be straight out the door.

Janice - posted on 04/30/2012

Sarah this guy is a piece of shit. If he cared about you he would not be fooling around with other women. He is a serial cheater and you need to get rid of him. He can not be trusted. There is zero reason for him to be talking/texting with other girls in the middle of the night.

Lakisha - posted on 04/30/2012

Are you serious that your really asking this dumb question? Of course he's cheating, how much more proof do you need. Either stay or leave but just know he's cheating.

Marissa - posted on 04/29/2012

leave his ass. that'll teach him. plus you dont want no stds from the girls he's trying to hook up with. your child is more important than his cheating butt. you can always get him for child support.

Samantha - posted on 04/29/2012

A healthy peaceful functioning family requires complete trust between the two consenting adults who found that family. He doesn't even sound like he's really sorry. He has a problem, and it will only get worse unless he chooses to do something about it. If it was me I would GET OUT of that relationship. It doesn't mean a person can't change, but it does mean that you won't be allowing him to walk all over you. Even if you think you can put up with it for years, do you want your son to learn that's how a man treats a woman?

Rosa - posted on 04/29/2012

What doesn't kill you really makes you stronger,Don't trust him once a cheater always a cheater. we have to take care of our selves and our kids so my best advise to you is God has something greater for you not this loser.

Jessica - posted on 04/29/2012

From the msg you just wrote he is a cheater even more disgusting writing on FB when you were in the hospital. He is cheating no doubt about that, If a guy comes home after hours in my head you're cheating. My FH never came home at 430AM. The only day he comes home late is on Thurs because he is working He calls me when he is done and heading to the office to pick up his car. If I found textes from girls I would go off on him. I did saw like 3 times text from his co worker nothing sexual but she called him baby and honey. I did show up to his job with my son and confronted her showing her my son. Saying that he has a family at home and calling someone else's bf honey or baby is disrespectful and she should stop that. If I see another text from her like that then I will show her who the hell I am. Never again she did that and in fact none of the girls that work in the office would speak to him Only 2 but because I'm friends with them.

One time he told me that he would go to DD to get coffee and this lady would give it to him for free. When he came home one night he came home with a laptop supposedly that lady gave him the laptop so he can fix it. I got pissed and told him to give it back to her. That she should go back to where she bought it or call a tech and pay. He doesn't fix compt for free.

Besides those incidents my FH never came home late and I could see his phone whenever I want.Based on what you are saying seems it's bothering you but you're not taking action. If my FH came home late and he's not even working late shift and not even call telling me why he's coming home late. You bet your ass you staying outside for the night. Go back where you came from. If I catch my FH ever cheating while he's out doing his thing I would be packing his bags and changing my locks so he's ass out. That will teach him not to cheat and he just lost his family. Think things through girl. You also don't want to look like a fool.

Jasmine - posted on 04/29/2012

Hmm, the fact that he was sexting just hours after you gave birth is really telling. That's supposed to be the time where you both can bond with the baby and he should have been by your side practically waiting on you hand and foot after you went through the pain and exertion of delivering the baby you both made together. Also it's extremely disrespectful of him to be out at 3am while you're probably at home getting up with the baby in the middle of the night. He needs to man up and be a father to his son, he is off to a bad start already and this is not the example you want your son growing up to see. Sorry if that comes across as harsh

Norrita - posted on 04/29/2012

Leave him he will not change! I know from experience the father of my son cheated multiple times and got another person pregnant we were due a month apart. Screw him u are better off! You can find someone better who treats you well and loves your son too!

Melinda - posted on 04/26/2012

I think deep down u know the answer,I know u love him but u can do bad by yourself!! you don't need him for that. If u can't have peace of mind with the one you love leave him. If u stay all he
Gonna do is keep cheating and the more u bust him doing it the more you hurt and the lower yourself esteem goes. More u put n him the more scorn you'll be n when Mr. right comes along he will be paying for what Mr. wrong did to you because u will be determine not to be hurt again do ur self a favor dumb the zero pray for God to send u a hero n let Mr. zero realize what he lost. ;-)

Dazz-Erae - posted on 04/26/2012

Rachel's right! Let his ass go keep of moving!

Rachel - posted on 04/26/2012

Pregnancy is the most common time to cheat. But doesnt even seem to be trying to hide it well. Which means he either thinks youre too stupid to doubt him, or he doesnt care. What it boils down to, is that you cannot have any sort of relationship with a liar. They can't grow, they can only pretend. And they can't give or receive love, because the lies get in the way. Maybe someday he'll learn honesty, but you aren't doing him any favours by staying and living his lie with him. Time to go. Yes, you are numb. I know the feeling. It's when you stop being surprised. You dont expect better treatment anymore. There isn't enough to stay here for, hun.

Stifler's - posted on 04/24/2012

Get rid of him. You obviously don't trust him if you're asking this and you've found proof that he's cheating what are you waiting for.

Sarah - posted on 04/24/2012

Not worth your time or your heartbreak. You were carrying his child, and all he could think about was what whore would be wetting his dick next. There is no desire there on his part for commitment. The locked phone is a classic sign of a cheater - I was once was a cheater myself, and when I knew I was sexting ppl I didnt want my exbf to see, I would lock it and be twitchy an jumpy whenever they were around.
His heart will never be in it. If you truely love someone you wont have a back up plan or someone you think is super duper cute that you talk to regularily. It isnt loving to leave tempation lying around for yourself or your partner. Its called RESPECT.

If you dont have Respect, or Trust you have nothing.

He was dumb enough to lose your trust, and the consequence is: he lost your respect. That now leaves you needing to snoop to find his dirt. You have confirmed he is a dirty lying sack of shit, light him on fire and leave his ass on some other hoes doorstep. Clearly there are some sluts who think he is hot shit, throw him at them. Im sure they will come out singed just like you.

Talking with my exs and my mans exHoe, Each and every single one, when they are tired of a relationship will/does go and cheat. It seems to be peoples nature to fuck like insects (everything and anything) and think its ok and no one will get hurt.

There is no hope for humanity. Get a cat and find a fuck buddy, and invest in a good dildo. I believe that would be the simplest and possibly happiest life.....

Julie - posted on 04/24/2012

Of course he's cheating. Throw him to the kerb before you catch something and/or his philandering messes your baby's life up too.

Natalie - posted on 04/24/2012

get out now! Sleeze

America3437 - posted on 04/24/2012

I lived this for 10 yrs! Get out now or your in for alot of heartache and tears. Your child is the most important thing in your life (or should be) so do what is best for you and your child! Only you know if this is how you want to live your life but honey take it from me...you are putting your self out there to have him walk all over you. I would damn sure be talkin to this girl he textin to find out why she textin my guy!!! He could change but are you willing to wait for tha cause life is flyin by!!!







ETA...If my husband EVER walked in at 430am he would find his keys no longer worked!

Dazz-Erae - posted on 04/24/2012

If he cared about you guys he wouldn't have done it! Don't let your kids see you doan! He is not worth it! You can do better! Don't let him see you sweat!

Janna - posted on 04/24/2012

Sara Reese is right- it really doesn't get us anywhere. We can try, and try, and try, but no matter what we do, they're still going to do what they want to do.

You can only give him so many chances until you have enough. Stop giving them the opportunity to keep doing what they're doing!



Put your foot down and say, "I've had enough! If you insist on keeping this up, then leave!" Men are so certain that we are unable to stand up for ourselves! They have us thinking that they are the "be all, end all," that we won't ever find someone else. Ya know what?! There are plenty of good men out there that are waiting for good hearted women. There comes a time when we have to realize that we DON'T NEED THEM! We are stronger than what they give us credit for and we have to show them that!

Was it easy for me? Absolutely not, but I am a much stronger person because of it.



I am single, and I choose to stay that way. I'm a single mother of 2 children. My son's father was more interested in drugs and alcohol to worry about his own family. When we tried to work on things, he was cheating on me, which led to me contracting HPV. I didn't know that he was cheating until his daughter's mother told me that he was sleeping around with other women... Besides us two. She ended up contracting HPV also.

It got to the point with him that I ended up having to file harassment charges on him. Now he hasn't seen our son in over 2 years... and it doesn't matter. My child is better without all that drama and heartache. ♥

Jamial - posted on 04/24/2012

That is because you deserve better and deep down inside you know this. It doesn't hurt as much because you are going through a repeating cycle with him and are now losing love for him. That is a good thing though. Now is the time you think about you and your son and the past, present, and future. Look at the big picture, the whole picture. You want to be someone your son can look up to not look down at and see you balled up crying or sad. You need to call on your support group (family, friends, co-workers, neighbors whom you have grown close to, etc.) and get on your FEET! For yourself and your son!!

Onyay - posted on 04/24/2012

Leave his ass u can u better if he did it one time he will do it again and tell the same lie

Crystal - posted on 04/24/2012

He's not to be trusted. When I was youn I went through a relationship like this. The guy never changed, and I put up with it for 2 years. I finally felt I deserved better and left. It's hard but it's best for you AND baby! When baby is older you don't want him or her thinking it's ok to treat others like that or to be treated like that!

Yurena - posted on 04/24/2012

Love, you caught him cheating a couple of times (yes, any sexual stuff with other person is cheating). He is not sorry and gives you excuses. Do you need anything else, like coming home and finding him in your bed with someone else? Get a STD check and for your sake and your child move on, you don't deserve a scummy man making your life difficult at a time you should be enjoying parenthood and getting emotional support. Good luck, xxx.

Anna - posted on 04/24/2012

You need to give him an ultimatum, in my book: either clean up his act and be completely open with you, or get out of your life. Raising one child child is stressful enough; you don't need to be babysitting and disciplining another who should know enough to act like a grown man. I know were I you, that ultimatum would be his last chance. Life's too short to live miserably with people you can't trust.

Jamial - posted on 04/23/2012

I agree you should leave him because as the child gets older you don't want to him to see mommy hurting and sad. He will be upset and sad too and it will be tough but lots of single mothers make it alone. I am a single mother myself, have been since my son was 6 months, and I am going to school and working part-time (and looking for another) with a 3 year old toddler. You can do it, but you have to be strong fro your child. You are his role-model because chances are this cheating bastard probably wont be a good father because it is obvious he only thinks about himself!

Sarah - posted on 04/23/2012

Hes not worth your time in the least! Im sure youre thinking with a new baby its going to be tough to not have your childs father right by your side but believe me, it will be soooo much easier! Im so sorry that you have to deal with such a jerk but u will be happier in the end.

Janna - posted on 04/23/2012

Been there, done that. You don't need that stress and neither does your baby. If he's doing that now, it's not going to change. (Experience.)
Leave him. It's not easy and it is painful, but you have to do what is best for both you and the baby.

Jessica - posted on 04/23/2012

No matter if you have a child together or not, please leave him. He's not worth your time & has no right.obviously he's not sorry at all. Thats the honest truth.

Sara - posted on 04/23/2012

Been there and still going through it my husband is doing the same thing I have done what you have done and it gets me nowhere

Sam - posted on 04/23/2012

Don't stay...you deserve better. I would run! I understand there is a child involved but just remember this "If momma ain't happy....ain't nobody happy!" Good Luck!

Bonnie - posted on 04/23/2012

No it doesn't sound like you can trust him at all. You caught him before, he apologized, but went right back to his ways again. Maybe he thinks you will just keep letting it go. I think you should seriously think about how much you want to be with this guy. I know you just had a baby with him, but definitely don't try to stay with him because of the baby. He sounds like he will keep doing this to you. Maybe he needs a little scare. Tell him you want things to be over and tell him why. See how he reacts then.