My boyfriend's girl friend

Jessica - posted on 02/01/2009

The thing is, we don't live together... or I would say that I want to be there whenever they hang out. I have 2 kids (not with him) and he loves them to death! I think things will be fine, he doesnt go out much... We txt everyday.

Aleycia - posted on 02/01/2009

Your boyfriend may have the best intentions but if you don't trust her it's always going to bother you. You should sit down with your boyfriend and tell him how you feel but don't give him an ulitimatum. Have you hung out with the 2 of them together, if everytime he goes to hang out with her you're there she might get the hint that he has no interest in here like that.

Holly - posted on 02/01/2009

Talk to the girl face to face, if that dosent work, try going to places with you and your man and make it known hes yours, if there is something going on between them, he will be distant or she will act alot stranger than normal, make her the one who feels aquard,  and maybe she see shes has no chance, and just leave him alone

Billie Rae - posted on 02/01/2009

well jessica i personally think u should worry i had the same situation and i even let my friend move in cause she neede a place to stay for a awhile she started flirting and text him even when i was sitting on the couch with him and then it started to keep getting more and more hidden i trusted him completely but there is always that chance of them getting closer with each other needless to say she moved out very quickly once i figured out what she was up to . hope that helps a little

Jessica - posted on 02/01/2009

Thanks to all of you, you all had some good advice. The girl was around just for the weekend, my boyfriend spent the weekend with me.. That reassured me. I talked to him about it and he told me that I didnt have to worry because I'm the one he loves. Thanks again!!

Sarah - posted on 01/31/2009

I'd talk to him and no argument should come of it b/c he isn't into her. But I am a very jealous person by nature and my bf is the same way (jealous). So what I really want to tell you to do is let him know he won't be hanging out w/ her anymore. lol but that would probably cause an argument. However if she isn't nice to you that should be a problem for him too not just you, b/c you are the person he chose to be with and you should come before his friends whether they are guys or girls. good luck!

Ashley - posted on 01/30/2009

when i first got together with my fiance he had a friend that happened to be a girl and she always wanted to meet up for coffee and go to lunch and it bothered me so when i told him he stopped because he wanted to make me happy. i didn't care if they still hung out but i wanted to be involved too. just talk to him nothing bad can come of it.

Sarah - posted on 01/30/2009

Be really careful. Especially if she's not very nice to you or if she leaves the room when you show up or stuff like that. If she's a friend of his then she should be at least a little nice to you because you're the person he's chosen to be with. Not that I want to make you paranoid but, my best friend started hanging out with my ex husband and then she would leave when I came home from work. Needless to say, he is my ex husband and she is his live in girlfriend. If that kind of stuff is happening, don't put up with it for one minute. That was my mistake.

Emily - posted on 01/30/2009

I agree with Kimberly 100%. When my husband and I were dating we had this issue...I had guy friends and he had girl friends... we talked about it because we both had jealous feelings and we decided that the only time we would hang out with those people were as a couple. Now we don't even talk to half of those people...the only ones we talk to are the ones that are married. I find it is hard for people of the opposite sex to be just friends, but thats my opinion. Just talk to your man and tell him exactly how you feel! Best of Luck!!!

Dawn - posted on 01/30/2009

Dont worry to much but just be on your guard if she no's that shes getting to you she will try to cause problems between you both if you love and trust him then things between you should be ok think its a case of the green eyed monster as the saying goes on her part maybe you got the man she wants but his yours so try to keep it that way by playing it cool.

Kimberly - posted on 01/30/2009

If she doesn't even know you and she's chuckin' you attitude, then I'd say she might have a thing for him.  If she knows you and doesn't like you, she might just be being over-protective, especially if she's known him longer.  Bottom line is, she doesn't matter, and if her feelings do matter more to him than yours, then you two need to have a serious sit down, cause no guy should be blowin' off his girls feelings for a friend, no matter how close they are.  But you gotta be honest, calmly honest, with him about how you feel.  Good luck.

Brandis - posted on 01/30/2009

i wouldnt neccessarily be worried just watchful and cautious. let him know that you feel like she's stepping over the boundary a little bit for you. it seems to me like these 2 are just really good friends, and maybe the girlfriend is a lil jealous because they may not hang out as much as they use to because he's with you. just sit him down and tell him how you feel, tell him that she isnt very nice to you.

Lauren - posted on 01/30/2009

Be upfront about the situation. Tell him the truth. That it makes you uncomfortable. I think honestly is the key. Both of you need to be honest. If you are uneasy about it than I would say that you are. But don't over react or be hostile because you'll set yourself up for an argument. Hope that helps