My boyfriend works very hard and when he gets home that's where he wants to be...home. I need to get out! and i'm sorry but the store to buy food is NOT me time. I haven't been out with him in about a year without our kids!!! The problem is,is that he would rether stay home and play X-Box. How do get him to see me?

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Sarah - posted on 02/25/2009

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If I didn't know better I'd swear you were talking about my husband. I've been a stay-at-home mom for 4 1/2 years now and in that 4 1/2 years my husband and I have had 1...yes I said 1 date night without our children. Getting him to go anywhere is like pulling teeth without medication. And getting him away from the X Box is even worse. As for "accidentially" damaging the X Box...I speak from experience he will just go buy another one and probably a more expensive one than before.

Amy - posted on 02/25/2009

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its nice to know that other people feel this way!!!...myhubby has the weekends off but he works two jobs during the week and is hardly ever home so weekends he wants to stay in and "tinker around", but im in the house all week and cant wait to get fresh air on weekends, we bicker about this subject every weekend!!....my way of getting him out is: if he wants me to stay in the house all weekend too, i will sit on the computer and shop till we are broke lol...this works for me!

Timmi - posted on 02/24/2009

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Oh and I love how guys think grocery shopping is me time. I don't even get to go to the store by myself I always have our daughter, so I don't know what he's talking about

Timmi - posted on 02/24/2009

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My husband used to be obsessed with games! It really pissed me off. I told him, since the internet is in my name, I'll cancel it in a heartbeat if you don't give me the time of day! He's much better, I let him play around for an hour after he gets home before I start to bug him.

Lawana - posted on 02/24/2009

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I think working on communication and balance would help. I know it took us awhile to get out on dates again after having the boys. If you have family around you could get them to babysit so the two of you can get some time alone. Or if family isn't close enough maybe you could trade babysitting with another family. You don't have to spend alot of money but time together as a couple should be a priority. Good luck!! ;-)

Danielle - posted on 02/24/2009

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Morgan,



I broke my husbands xbox by leaving it on all day long and it just burnt it up... then i had to send it back to microsoft to have it fixed he was without his precious xbox for 3 weeks!! It was the best three weeks of my life! LOL!



But if you don't want to be mean like that just simply tell him honey we need more WE time for ME! if he dosn't understand that I'd just sell the thing to a middle schooler for 100 dollars!



((LoL))

Julie - posted on 02/24/2009

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Or you could just "accidentally" poor a bottle over the XBOX and kill it... and tell him the baby was learning to use a sippy cup! LMAO!!!!!!!!!!! hahahahaha too funny!

Julie - posted on 02/24/2009

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Quoting Morgan:

My boyfriend works very hard and when he gets home that's where he wants to be...home. I need to get out! and i'm sorry but the store to buy food is NOT me time. I haven't been out with him in about a year without our kids!!! The problem is,is that he would rether stay home and play X-Box. How do get him to see me?



I am right there with you sister! That is very common with guys. I got so depressed/anxiety I turned to Zoloft and now he sees. I would just go out without him and he'll see then that it is necessary when he realizes how much you cannot accomplish when you have to constantly attend to a baby! It is sometimes hard to put yourself first but ultimately you will  be a more emotionally stable and better mother if you are taken care of...remember that always. As long as your baby is safe, happy and healthy! Good Luck! If you ever need to talk to someone you can always message me. I have a baby girl of 9mos. and right now I am not working to take care of her...so I really do understand.



God Bless! Julie

Angel - posted on 02/24/2009

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Morgan, we are pretty much in the same boat. My husband is only off one day during the week and sundays. I can get him out usually one of the days (with the kids of course) and the other day he pretty much spends on the xbox. Our littlest is 3 months now. I have suggested getting a sitter so we can go out on a date, but he is hesitant to have anyone he DOESN'T know personally watch our kids. We recently moved away from close friends and family who helped. BUT, for you....if your guy is anything like my husband (stubborn as a bull) you have to lay down the law. Set guidelines on the xbox (time limit & contingencies). If you want to play today then we are going out on Friday. He needs to see that you are serious about getting out just the two of you. Good luck!

Cara - posted on 02/24/2009

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If I were you I would leave the kids at home with your boyfriend and go out by yourself. Tell your boyfriend that you need to go out and have some me time, and if he wants to stay home then he can but he has to watch the kids. Maybe being alone with the kids will make him understand that you work hard all day taking care of the kids, and how important it is for you to get out and have some alone time. Just because taking care of kids doesn't have any monetary gain doesn't mean that it is not an extremely challenging job. And you deserve a break too. Your boyfriend gets to be out in the world with other adults while you are at home with the kids.

Cara - posted on 02/24/2009

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If I were you I would leave the kids at home with your boyfriend and go out by yourself. Tell your boyfriend that you need to go out and have some me time, and if he wants to stay home then he can but he has to watch the kids. Maybe being alone with the kids will make him understand that you work hard all day taking care of the kids, and how important it is for you to get out and have some alone time. Just because taking care of kids doesn't have any monetary gain doesn't mean that it is not an extremely challenging job. And you deserve a break too. Your boyfriend gets to be out in the world with other adults while you are at home with the kids.

Diane - posted on 02/24/2009

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i say something shoud "accidently" happen to that x-box, an accidental water spilliage perhaps lol just kidding, that little peice of machinery does seem to have the power to make us feel inadequate though :(

how about if you went ahead and booked something like a meal for the 2 of you and arrange some childcare, surly if he saw how much effort you had gone to for a nice night for you both he would want to go out? :)

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