My mother in law smokes in the house
Cheri - posted on 01/29/2010
OMG! My mother and father in law smokes in there house as well and we live with them. I have told them plently of times not to smoke around my 4 yr old and 2 yr old and they just dont care b.c its there house and they can do whatever they want. So what I do is I stay upstairs with my kids away from them. But anywayz, just tell her nicely that you dont want her to smoke in the house while your there visiting with her grandson.. And if she cant respect that then you can tell her nicely that you wont be coming over to visit with your son until she can respect you and smoke outside???? It wont hurt ya no? Im there right now and theres nothing I can do about it.
Tara - posted on 01/29/2010
My In-Laws are smokers too and the second I found out I was pregnant I made my husband tell them that when they came to our house they were not allowed to smoke because I didn't want to be around it. They figured out on their own that it bothered me and started going outside at their own house to smoke when we were there. They still do this now that my daughter is born. I took the chicken way out and made my husband tell them. If they love their grandson it shouldn't upset them and they should respect your wishes.
Ingrid - posted on 01/29/2010
I would say if you want to see your grandchild then you should go outside to smoke whe you are around my baby. I might actually get my husband to do it because it's him mother...that way there is no animosity between you and her.
Sherre - posted on 01/29/2010
The way I see it is, he's YOUR son. If you don't smoke around him, why would you allow someone else to? Some people are just selfish...why is it so damn hard to not smoke around a child? I saw two small children in the car with two adults, smoking and it made me so sad, knowing they were breathing that in! I hope you talk to your mother in law and ask her to respect your wishes. Good luck
Anna - posted on 01/29/2010
MINE TOO!!! But I dont leave my daughter with her, but it bothers me bc if shes smoking in the house while Im there knowing I dont like it, what would she do if I left her there? My hubby is also a smoker but stays away from the abay and never smokes in the car/house. So when we are both at my MIL's he tells her, lets go outside. Its ok if he does, but I can't, ya know? I'd ask your hubby to let her know that neither of you are ok with your child being around smoke and you would appreciate it if she would not smoke in the house while the baby is there. Yes, it is her house, but your baby's health should be the important issue. Good luck!!!
Sara - posted on 01/29/2010
I would be very honest. I am not sure the type of relationship you have with her and it might be better if you husband addresses the issue. I would absolutely express that when my child is there I do not want her around the smoke. If she refuses to stop I would stop allowing my child to go there (which sometimes might be unavoidable). Good Luck.
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