Reta - posted on 12/12/2011 ( 53 moms have responded )
I need serious help!!! It all started about a year ago when my son was just a small baby. My Mother-in-Law was sharing information about him that I was not comfortable with so I asked my husband what he wanted me to do about it and he asked that I let him talk to her, which I did. When it still went on for months I sent her a very nice message (we live 5,000 miles away) letting her know that I know she loves my son but I would appreciate it if she would talk to me before sharing our personal information. As soon as I sent it, my husband (who had never said anything to her about my concerns) and his sister came flying at me telling me how horrible I was and that I need to get over myself.
Recently my Mother-in-Law came to visit and she was spending all of her time on the computer (which we do not allow in our house so I did not want my son exposed to) so I asked her to spend some time with her family since we are very far apart and she doesn't always get the opportunity to do so and that was the straw that broke the camel's back!!! She got up and started screaming at me!!! My husband asked her to come back and talk which she did and stated that she was so angry because I didn't use the right words to talk to her and it was inappropriate. For that I apologized and told her that it was done and we needed to move on. We had a long talk and at the end my husband asked if there was anything else to which we both responded no. The next day my Sister-in-Law sent me a message stating what a terrible person I was and that I ruin everyone's life that I come into contact with and that I ruined her mother's visit with her son and grandson. I got very angry and upset, once my son went to bed that night I asked her about it and she started screaming at me again.
It has been 3 weeks since she was here to visit and it's still really bothering me and I cry on a daily basis about it. I can't say anyting to either of them about it because that just makes me feel worse and accomplishes nothing because they do no wrong. My husband has tried talking to them but neither of them care. These are people that I will need to interact with on upcoming events and visits so I need to learn how to make the closure myself so I'm looking for any advice that anyone has for me.
I should probably say that she did visit us when my son was 3-5 weeks old and played on the computer the whole time then too and I expressed how much I disliked it to my husband then and said to her that the next time it would be appreciated if she didn't spend all of her time on the computer.
Those are just a few of the incidents that have risen lately and I really need help on how to handle this.