my son has been taken away from me for a silly bruise

Rhian - posted on 08/24/2009 ( 198 moms have responded )

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i noticed my son had a bruise on his ear tuesday morning and i asked the health visitor to come and check it out. following day i was orderd by the health visitor to take my son to hospital so my son could be looked at by the doctors. now a police investigation is going on as i have been accused of picking my child up by the ear!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i am now without my son as i am not allowed to see him unless supervised access. police investigation's are still going on! i dont know what to do or where to take this ??? any on help :'(

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Stephanie - posted on 08/24/2009

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Get a lawyer and document everything. Start writing lists of what could have happened, etc. You need to start collecting character witnesses that will stand up for you as a parent, not as a person!

How old if your son? The thing is, if he's over two, than they would have had a professional in to talk to him and he would hav had to accuse you for the bruise. Under two, they will look at the worst situation, and because the child can't speak for himself really at that age, they will assume.

Cross your fingers, pray and start gathering evidence, it's your only hope, and you will have to fight!

Katie - posted on 08/31/2009

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I knowhow u feel my 3 children were taken away from me for a stupid reason and i was only allowed 4 hour's a week of supervised contact and was in and out of court fighting it until last october when the court's decided that my children should be put up for adoption i have not seen my children since january and am not allowed to know where they are and i miss them every single day but have no hope of getting the right help to prove they have made the wrong decision i have missed my youngest sons birthday and i am about to miss out on his first day at school to along with all of the good things that i have missed out on i think us wronged mum's should get together and find a way to prove we have been severely wronged and get our children back :(

Joanie - posted on 08/31/2009

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thats insane I would try and get a second opinion talk to someone in a higher position or something!

Tina - posted on 08/31/2009

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I think this is insane! What gives them the right??? There has to be proff! I have 4 kids, and 3 of them are gilrs! they get more brusies than my 8yr old son does. my girls are rough, and they climb all over stuff. My 3yr old stays with brusies on her knees and legs. My 6 yr old was running around the house just a week ago playing with visiting cousins and she tripped and flew into the wall, she cut the side of her head open and I took her to the hospital, they said it was okay and that I really could of just cleaned it up myself, that it looked worse than it really was. I didnt have anyone in there questioning me about how she got hurt and what not! This is INSANE! I will keep you in my prayers & hope to GOD this all works out and you have your son back!

Nicole - posted on 08/29/2009

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Wow.. I cant even imagine what you must be feeling like right now. Its awhile after your post so hopefully things have gotten better since! That sounds pretty RIDICULOUS to me.. They should be out there taking children away from the real people that abuse their children.. Not for stupid crap like that! Ill say a prayer for you hunny and I hope it all works out for the best. If you did no wrong then they wont be able to find anything.. Good luck, xx

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Joanie - posted on 08/31/2009

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thats insane I would try and get a second opinion talk to someone in a higher position or something!

Sabrina - posted on 08/31/2009

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Omg, get a lawyer and pray to your Lord Jesus christ, I have been though stuff kind of like this , but my ex- husband tryed to do it to me, to take my kids away....because i spank when i correct my kids....he called dss....so they came in my home... but close case after two weeks i just follow what they said but i though is was not abuse unless the bruise has been there for 24 hours....Why would you take him to the doctor for a bruise ....how old is you son? If you did nothing wrong get a lawyer .. i'll be praying for you......

Bailey - posted on 08/31/2009

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That is insane!!! I have a 15 month old daughter that is always falling or tripping and she fell and smacked her head off of a chair. The place where she hit was right on her ear and she got a bruise on her ear too. I can only imagine what you are going through having your kid taken away! Everything will turn out okay!

Carrie - posted on 08/31/2009

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Every child is going to get bruises in their life. No one would have their kids if they were going to take them away for something so minor. Hang in there, I'm sure it will all work out for you.

Mel - posted on 08/31/2009

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Oh my goodness this sounds similar to what has just happened to me, So i can just tell you i know how you are feeling- Recently (Last wednesday ) I decided to get my 8 year old daughter a school councilor to help her with school work etc as she is going though Traumatic stuff with having her close nanny dying of cancer and flights to her dad every month. I consented to this councilor , Although 3-4 wks went by, not hearing any word in the progress out of the blue i get a phone call from the police mentioning " Hi its such and such from the police your kids ok but we need to see you we are on our way will u be home, saying yes- i pasted the house wondering what was going on. They turned up and started accusing my partner of hitting his step daughter saying it is only disipline, they then asked how they can get a hold of my partner, giving him my partners number - they then rang my partner (a carpet Cleaner) and arranged to meet at a clients house, once they got there they put my partner in the back of police car accusing him of hitting her and pointing fingers in his face etc. I never heard anything... I was in so much shock so i can amagine how you are feeling. Today Monday I had rang up the child protection agency and made an offical complaint about the police officer that came to interview myself and partner and had asked what compaints were in the records - You have a right to find out what happened and investigate further yourself - I would get legal advice being that the hospital has saw him and requested that he not be with you. Find out wether there has been any other complaints or worries previously to prove that you are unfit to look after your child.

Erica - posted on 08/31/2009

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Quoting Kristen:

i know it might seem as if DFCS only goes after the good people however I can assure everyone that they try to catch all the bad people as well. DFCS gets no bonus for taking children away, they take children out of the homes to protect them and that is it. Reuniting families is their number one mission, they will try everything to make a child's home acceptable for the child's return. Like someone said early, if the child is under 2 they take everything very serious because the child can not talk. They had to have probable cause to take your child away, sadly, in that line of work they have seen anything and everything you can imagine, because of this they tend to jump to conclusions (you might say). Something even sadder though, they are generally right. 


PSshhh idk where u are from but where i am at CPS is a worthless organization that does nothing to protect children. They jump to conclusions, or half ass thier job here. Anyhoo, if ur child is old enough to speak for himself and you didnt do anything wrong it will work out. I know my oldest use to smack his ear on door knobs as he was running by when he was younger and it would bruise up bad, he did this several times. If your child isnt old enough to speak for himself just stay calm and collected as possible and do as they ask, and hopefully they will see ur not harming your child.



I wish you the best of luck with your situation!

Erica - posted on 08/31/2009

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Quoting Kristen:

i know it might seem as if DFCS only goes after the good people however I can assure everyone that they try to catch all the bad people as well. DFCS gets no bonus for taking children away, they take children out of the homes to protect them and that is it. Reuniting families is their number one mission, they will try everything to make a child's home acceptable for the child's return. Like someone said early, if the child is under 2 they take everything very serious because the child can not talk. They had to have probable cause to take your child away, sadly, in that line of work they have seen anything and everything you can imagine, because of this they tend to jump to conclusions (you might say). Something even sadder though, they are generally right. 


PSshhh idk where u are from but where i am at CPS is a worthless organization that does nothing to protect children. They jump to conclusions, or half ass thier job here. Anyhoo, if ur child is old enough to speak for himself and you didnt do anything wrong it will work out. I know my oldest use to smack his ear on door knobs as he was running by when he was younger and it would bruise up bad, he did this several times. If your child isnt old enough to speak for himself just stay calm and collected as possible and do as they ask, and hopefully they will see ur not harming your child.



I wish you the best of luck with your situation!

Kathryn - posted on 08/31/2009

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I used to work for Children's services and so have seen many cases like yours. If you are innocent then you have nothing to worry about. Try and keep calm and focussed on proving your innocence and getting your little boy back. The services have to be overcautious to protect children who are indeed being abused. If a child had indeed been abused and the Services hadn't picked up on it or done anything about it then everyone would be quick to blame them for not taking action. I know it's stressful and you may feel like getting angry but like i said, best advice is keep calm and prove to them you are a good mother.

Sarah - posted on 08/30/2009

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My toddler has had briuses on her forehead & face ever since she's started walking. She's even been to her checkups with them & the doctor has never said anything about it. Doctors should know that little ones are clumsy & get bruises. Hopefully everything works out for you & your family.

Narelle - posted on 08/30/2009

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You need to get advice from Legal Aid for a start (they usually give out free legal advice just call to find out when and where) make sure you let them know about any problems your son has been having not matter how small (teething for example).



I would probably talk to Family and Children's services too.



An organisation like Relationships Australia would be good too as they can help you through this emotionally and none of what you say to them can be used in court (they are bound by confidentiality)

Sumner - posted on 08/30/2009

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i have been their girl let me tell u fight with all u have caz my oldest still lives with his g-ma caz the courts didnt want to hear from a young girl like me so whatever u do dont let them push u around nd def. dont let them tell u u did something u didnt do dont agree or argue a damn thing they will only use it against u u can look me up and i can talk to u more if u want sry to hear this happened to you i know the feeling i can help if u need it

Summar - posted on 08/30/2009

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Girl I know how you feel. When my son was 3 weeks old his real father broke his right leg. The state took him away from us and it me over two years to get custody him back. I am no longer with that jerk of course. The whole situation is terrible. I know its hard, but they are just trying to protect him. You just have to go through all the steps to prove your not guilty. i was arrested and spent a whole day in jail, and my ex to a plee batgain and is serving a 15 year sentence. Just hang in there girl, things will be ok.

Summar - posted on 08/30/2009

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Girl I know how you feel. When my son was 3 weeks old his real father broke his right leg. The state took him away from us and it me over two years to get custody him back. I am no longer with that jerk of course. The whole situation is terrible. I know its hard, but they are just trying to protect him. You just have to go through all the steps to prove your not guilty. i was arrested and spent a whole day in jail, and my ex to a plee batgain and is serving a 15 year sentence. Just hang in there girl, things will be ok.

Thereasa - posted on 08/30/2009

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Hmm sounds very very strange and not fair how old is your son? can he talk? kids are usaly so honest that he would be able to say who did it.

Alicia - posted on 08/30/2009

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I live in the UK and fully understand what a Health Visitor is.

I have a 3 year old who fell down the stairs at 18 months and broke his collarbone (he was a climber and used to climb over stairgates so we had to take them down, he was usually good at going down by himself but he tripped on his trousers) and then a few months later he wanted to chase a squirrel while playing at his nannys first floor flat and climbed out the window and fell on the floor below from the FIRST FLOOR! (I wasnt there though)
Luckily he did no damage this time but still took him to hospital to get checked out.

I was expecting to get a phone call from Social Services but no one said anything. I said to the receptionist at the hospital 'This makes us look like really bad parents now but I promise I do look after my child' her reply was 'I believe you, you can normally tell by looking at the parents and their behavior'.

I also have a 7 month old who is now walking around furniture and fell on his face on the edge of the tv unit and got a cut above his nose and a slight black eye. I didnt take him to the hospital as there is nothing they could of done.

But kids will be kids! Especially if you have early walkers and climbers like mine!!

Just keep ringing and pestering whoever is dealing with it, thats what i would do. Go down to the Health Visitors office and moan until you get a chance to tell your side of the story.

GOOD LUCK!! x x x

Bethani - posted on 08/30/2009

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wow that is just ridiculous! I kno how it feels to have CPS involved in your life it almost kills you....the best advice I can give is hang in there. Has child abuse actually been founded against you? Is there a NCO? You can appeal the abuse charges at least through CPS. Hopefully everything works out for you. Its hard when someone blames you for something you didnt do and the real bad guys are still out there hurting their kids.



Good luck.

Stacy - posted on 08/30/2009

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you need to get a lawyer and a child advocate. I dont know your past of anything but being a foster parent I can tell you that you should cooperate,do anything the dept of children and families asks of you,If you provide them with everything they need and do as they request,you should be fine,I can Imagine how sad u must be but every dark cloud has a silver lining.

Tina - posted on 08/30/2009

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oh thats soo heart breaking!! hang in there mama, you'll get your cutie back! :(

Christine - posted on 08/30/2009

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you need to get a lawyer asap that is the only way you will be able to get anywhere.

Krista - posted on 08/30/2009

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I had my son removed from me in 08. They thought I had neglected him. It was hell. If they really have no proof that you did it, then there's no reason why they should have taken him. The only thing I can say is you have to comply with what they want or they will nab you harder. I have went through all this before. Just do whatever they ask you to do.. and hopefully for you they return him after finding you innocent. I will pray for you though. I know how hard it is. My son was gone for a year.

Lauren - posted on 08/30/2009

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stay strong. They look down us a lot becasue we are young and think we cant handle children. If you did no wrong then I agree with Mandy Griffin... God will watch after you!

Catherine - posted on 08/30/2009

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My heart is breaking for you. I pray you and your baby are reunited soon.

Ashley - posted on 08/29/2009

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I work for the state of missouri. Whatever you do cooperate with them 100% that is the best chance to get him back. Chances ae they will find everything is ok. If you choose not to cooperate they will have more motive to keep him. I know its hard.

Angel - posted on 08/29/2009

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That is rediculous that they can take your son away from you! if I were you I would fight untill i had my baby back! good luck anyone trying to take my baby from me! it wouldnt happen! they would have to go to great lengths to even get close!!! and i would sue there pants off if they even tried!!! get a lawyer, and do EVERYTHING you can untill you get him back, and do not stpo for anything! he is your son! goodluck! and rememebr to fight!!

Dana - posted on 08/29/2009

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thats horrible.my son is 2 and has a bruise on his arm forehead and legs.hes just a very active little boy.when he falls,he just gets right back up and continues playing.sometimes i dont notice he got a boo boo till i give him his bath at night.he had a bruise on his ear too before.the cartlage on top of his ear from him falling onto something.he was fine though after lots of kisses.this happins when u have toddlers from what i hear.

Amanda - posted on 08/29/2009

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oh my gosh! they CAN'T do that! How old is your son? If he's active its most probable that he lost balance and hit his ear on something. There is no concrete proof that YOU did anything to him.

Deborah - posted on 08/29/2009

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i have had a child removed from my home because of heresay. the reports were later unfounded and the child has since been reunified. every state and county has different ordinances.

Deborah - posted on 08/29/2009

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Quoting Rhian:

my son has been taken away from me for a silly bruise

i noticed my son had a bruise on his ear tuesday morning and i asked the health visitor to come and check it out. following day i was orderd by the health visitor to take my son to hospital so my son could be looked at by the doctors. now a police investigation is going on as i have been accused of picking my child up by the ear!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i am now without my son as i am not allowed to see him unless supervised access. police investigation's are still going on! i dont know what to do or where to take this ??? any on help :'(


get a lawyer!!!!!!!! you can ask legal aid for assistance. also get copies of all of his medical records showing that he has been a normal healthy child. you can also get signed depositions from friends and family members stating what they have seen in regards to how u and your son are together. If you need someone to talk to about any of this please feel free to contact me at griffin0827@yahoo.com i have had my children removed from my home as well and can possibly help with the emotional part of all that you are going through as well as help explain some of the legal aspects. hope everything goes well. all of my prayers to you.

Lisa - posted on 08/29/2009

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Hey, honey. Another thing you should do is have as many people as you can making calls on your behalf, demanding to know why your child was taken etc. The more the better. When the system sees that there are so many people who find it odd your child was taken away, they will rethink the abuse theory. Just a thought. :) PLEASE let us know what is happening! I want to make sure you get your son back.

Lisa - posted on 08/29/2009

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Oh, honey!! Fight it! That is all I can say! If you fight for him it will show you care for him and the chances are slim that a mother who abuses her child will actually fight for the child when gone. I have been in the childcare business for 17 years and worked together with Social Services. I have a clean record and hundreds of great character references, all from people whose children I have cared for repeatedly. However, when my first son was born almost two years ago, my husband and I went through a nightmare of our son nearly being apprehended--because my breast milk didn't come in!



You need to get a lawyer, legal aid will help you for free, and first of all find out why your son was taken. You need to find the mistakes the police etc have made. You need to find out exactly why your son was taken and go from there. Kids get bruises all the time, (you should see my maniac of a son at 1 1/2!!), so there has to be a reason they believe you specifically picked your son up by the ear. Talk to your child's doctor/pediatrician, get a character reference form him/her. Your child's doctor will know about every bruise your child has had and will be able to prove you did not do what was said. Get as many character references you can--people who have been with you and your child often etc... Another thing to mention is, YOU called the health visitor and YOU took him to the hospital--for a bruise! Who would do that? Obviously a good parent. Fight, honey! DO NOT let these people step all over you. It is their tactic, to break you and get you to give in. You did nothing wrong and you need to let them know they have no control over you.



You are not the only person this has happened to. All too often I see families like you who are terrorized by the system while people who actually abuse their little ones on a regular basis get away with it. The system needs to change. The system is very abusive to parents and 9/10 times, the parents are so worn down they feel they have no choice but to give up. Don't! This is how the system gets away with it. Your baby is worthy of YOUR love and you need to show the system that.



Our prayers are with you, sweetheart. Good Luck!

Tina - posted on 08/29/2009

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I know this sounds drastic and it is but look how many times the system has fail the babies and babies die. Look on You Tube for The Brianna Lopez stort are Kelsey Briggs and even Summer Phelps. It happens God Bless hope everything works out.

Robin - posted on 08/29/2009

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Quoting Melanie:



Quoting Robin:

sorry I know I posted a few things already but I did have to add this, that one when a child has been subjected to abuse, and they can not speak for themselves, in a supervised visit they should be able to see how the child reacts to you, if they are afraid or excited to see you, and I read someones comment above, about the ear being cartilage, and that would have to be pretty hard to bruise, did it show up after leaving him in someone elses care? if so who was watching him when it showed up? maybe bring that to their attention.






There are a lot of 'should's in when it comes to Child Protective Services. I read through  more of the posts and I had to stop myself from commenting about several posts.






 






The thing is that some children get taken away when they shouldn't and some children stay with their parents when they shouldn't. Child Proctective Services are not perfect but the result of their mistakes are HUGE.






I live in the Buffalo area of New York and know of two cases where CPS failed the child. One case in this county were the child ran out into a busy street because his mom when to the next appartment over. She was into drugs and neglected her son. A family member of mine often would bring the child to our house just because he would take it upon himself to care for the child. This family member of mine called CPS several times and NOTHING. The child was finally removed when the father showed up and got custody.






The second case is a friend of mine in the next county over. Her daughter was taken from her and placed in the custody of her ex-sister-in-law and she has not been able to get her back. My friend is suffering from a lot of mental anguish from the whole thing and now has to see a dr because of depression. Her daughter was removed while in the hospital, basically the in-law came to pick the girl up, the hospital released the girl to someone that was not her mother and now the in-law will not give her back. The problem there is because of the divorce there has been a lot of bad things said but the truth is that the girl is only happy around (and only speaks to) her mother.






CPS screws up. It is different everywhere you go. It is sad when parents lose their children for a silly bruise and when children are not protected from parents that abuse them.






RHIAN, I hope that everything works out for you and they are quick about it. It is the worse feeling to lose your child to the system. Keep your hope up and stay strong for your little boy!






Oh I completely agree with you, like I mentioned, I grew up in a home where we almost didnt make it out alive, and NO ONE did ANYTHING,  but yet I know of so many who didnt do anything and get taken away, makes me so angry, I know that I should have been taken from my mom, but my dad didnt do anything wrong, and I wound up with really bad adoptive parents, who did stomache churning things to us! God help us all.

Melanie - posted on 08/29/2009

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Quoting Robin:

sorry I know I posted a few things already but I did have to add this, that one when a child has been subjected to abuse, and they can not speak for themselves, in a supervised visit they should be able to see how the child reacts to you, if they are afraid or excited to see you, and I read someones comment above, about the ear being cartilage, and that would have to be pretty hard to bruise, did it show up after leaving him in someone elses care? if so who was watching him when it showed up? maybe bring that to their attention.



There are a lot of 'should's in when it comes to Child Protective Services. I read through  more of the posts and I had to stop myself from commenting about several posts.



 



The thing is that some children get taken away when they shouldn't and some children stay with their parents when they shouldn't. Child Proctective Services are not perfect but the result of their mistakes are HUGE.



I live in the Buffalo area of New York and know of two cases where CPS failed the child. One case in this county were the child ran out into a busy street because his mom when to the next appartment over. She was into drugs and neglected her son. A family member of mine often would bring the child to our house just because he would take it upon himself to care for the child. This family member of mine called CPS several times and NOTHING. The child was finally removed when the father showed up and got custody.



The second case is a friend of mine in the next county over. Her daughter was taken from her and placed in the custody of her ex-sister-in-law and she has not been able to get her back. My friend is suffering from a lot of mental anguish from the whole thing and now has to see a dr because of depression. Her daughter was removed while in the hospital, basically the in-law came to pick the girl up, the hospital released the girl to someone that was not her mother and now the in-law will not give her back. The problem there is because of the divorce there has been a lot of bad things said but the truth is that the girl is only happy around (and only speaks to) her mother.



CPS screws up. It is different everywhere you go. It is sad when parents lose their children for a silly bruise and when children are not protected from parents that abuse them.



RHIAN, I hope that everything works out for you and they are quick about it. It is the worse feeling to lose your child to the system. Keep your hope up and stay strong for your little boy!

Robin - posted on 08/29/2009

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sorry I know I posted a few things already but I did have to add this, that one when a child has been subjected to abuse, and they can not speak for themselves, in a supervised visit they should be able to see how the child reacts to you, if they are afraid or excited to see you, and I read someones comment above, about the ear being cartilage, and that would have to be pretty hard to bruise, did it show up after leaving him in someone elses care? if so who was watching him when it showed up? maybe bring that to their attention.

Melanie - posted on 08/29/2009

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I have a friend that had her daughter taken away when she took her to the hospital, It is sad to know that things like this happen. Good luck and God bless!

Robin - posted on 08/29/2009

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Quoting carolyn :

has something happened in the past.. because why would they just take your child over one bruise, unless there was something that happend before.. im sorry that sucks I couldn't imaigine if someone took my daughter away, i would be fighting everyone in there.. it just wouldn'thappen.. i dare them to.. my daughter plays like a boy, and gets bruises and scraps all the time..



I had a friend whose husband was carrying their child up the stairs and he tripped and dropped the baby and both kids were immediately taken aways and it was the first time!

Robin - posted on 08/29/2009

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Quoting Malissa:

What I don't get is YOU are the one who wanted to get the bruise looked into right? So it makes perfect sense (to them) to blame you? I don't get it. I hope everything works out for you. That's just absolutely ludicrous.



Not that this is the case as I dont believe it is, but sometimes a parent who has abused their child takes them in to get treated out of guilt or for attention thinking that they will get away with it, and these are rare and extreme cases but it does happen.



I had a lot of things  happen and was taken to the hospital numerous times and NO ONE did anything, burns bruises broken bones, etc,

Robin - posted on 08/29/2009

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Quoting Natasha:

Something like this happened to my husband. He was going through a custody battle over his daughter from a previous relationship and it was very bitter. Finally, his ex found a small bruise on the child's bottom and immediately filed child abuse charges. In the six months it took to investigate, my husband and I went through hell, and weren't allowed to see the child (I don't want to use her name). We found out we were pregnant during that time and had a miscarriage. We again found out we were pregnant, and my husband decided he couldn't take it anymore. Charges were eventually dismissed, but he also gave away his parental rights. Social services and the police do not always help! Get a lawyer so you don't lose your child too.



That is horrible, Im not trying to sound mean but just in all honesty why did he not continue to fight, I was adopted in a really bad home and it took till I was I dont know 13 or 14 but he did get custody back and it was the best thing that could have happened, its his daughter, I know its tough believe me but he has to keep fighting for  her sake.

Robin - posted on 08/29/2009

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Im so sorry you are going through this I have seen it time and again, I personally did grow up in a really bad home and NO ONE did anything and then I see good parents having their kids taken away for no reason, how old is your son? can he tell them what happened?

Natasha - posted on 08/29/2009

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Something like this happened to my husband. He was going through a custody battle over his daughter from a previous relationship and it was very bitter. Finally, his ex found a small bruise on the child's bottom and immediately filed child abuse charges. In the six months it took to investigate, my husband and I went through hell, and weren't allowed to see the child (I don't want to use her name). We found out we were pregnant during that time and had a miscarriage. We again found out we were pregnant, and my husband decided he couldn't take it anymore. Charges were eventually dismissed, but he also gave away his parental rights. Social services and the police do not always help! Get a lawyer so you don't lose your child too.

Stephanie - posted on 08/29/2009

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I FEEL SO BAD FOR YOU STAY STRONG AND I HOPE EVERYTHING WORKS OUT FOR YOU AND YOUR SON!!!

Rebecca Lynn - posted on 08/29/2009

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That is so horrible, CAS always takes children from the good parents and leaves them with the child killers. The hospital reported me once because my son injured his foot and I had to go through this big investigation. Everything turned out ok. If you are innocent everything will work out for you in the end.

Cynthia - posted on 08/29/2009

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CPS around the country are taking harder and harder looks at moms. In my state two years ago two children being watched by CPS died. THey are crackin down. Heck, I'm a child care provider and was trained to react in situations, my children, my friends daughter and I were at the video store, after arguing with the clerk for several minutes about late fees, I just walked out, as we were comming out an older couple was comming in, my daughter burst out the door into the BUSY parking lot, followed by my friends daughter and my son, I threw out my hand and knocked her down on my son, and proceded to yell at my daughter threw the older couple just standing there. THe man had the gulls to tell me not to treat my child that way, and I told him to mind his own, all the while chasing my daughter to the car, the man followed me to my car swearing and screaming at me the whole way. I threatened to call my husband and his brothers and he backed down, as I was pulling out he got my license number and called the police on me.. They investigated me for nearly 3 months, before closing the case in the "unditermined" state. It was rediculous. I was trying to keep my children from running out in front of a car, but after the whole ordeal, it seemed easier to just let them get hit. Unless your child accused you I really feel theres nothing that can be done. You took the iniative to have him checked. Honestly, they are doing I believe more damage to your son, than anything.. Fight hard, really hard..

Lesley - posted on 08/29/2009

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Id get a lawyer on it. If its only a little brusie. My kids get them all the time!!

Makayla - posted on 08/28/2009

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Wow, I couldn't imagine the pain you are going through, but rest assured that they do this only because they are looking out for your son. If there was someone abusing him or its possible someone really did pick him up by the ear, wouldn't you want them to know. Parents are always first suspect, once you are cleared they will have the chance to find the truth and possible the perpetraitor. Which may be something you needed to know and were previously unaware of. Start your own investigation! Dr's don't say something like that without real concern and evidence... someone could have done this to your son! And if someone did... you should know!!! It's for his safety. I hope you get him back soon and good luck!

Carolyn - posted on 08/28/2009

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has something happened in the past.. because why would they just take your child over one bruise, unless there was something that happend before.. im sorry that sucks I couldn't imaigine if someone took my daughter away, i would be fighting everyone in there.. it just wouldn'thappen.. i dare them to.. my daughter plays like a boy, and gets bruises and scraps all the time..

Malissa - posted on 08/28/2009

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What I don't get is YOU are the one who wanted to get the bruise looked into right? So it makes perfect sense (to them) to blame you? I don't get it. I hope everything works out for you. That's just absolutely ludicrous.

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